January 2014 Moms

Monday bitchfest

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Re: Monday bitchfest

  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    edited February 2014
    My MIL has always pissed me off, since the moment I met her. To put it simply, I just do not like the woman. Our personalities clash. But now I am starting to feel like (a) I never want to be around her but (b) there is no way in hell that I'd ever let her near the baby without me there.

    Yesterday she told me that she hates the breast flow bottle that we use because it's harder than a normal bottle. This is the second time she has fed him and the second time sage has complained about it. Yet she asked to feed him. Next time she asks, I'm going to tell her she's only allowed to do it if she doesn't complain about it. Oh and I'm so sorry that looking out for B's best interest inconveniences you for 10 minutes.

    I know this is minor, I just can't stand the woman and everything she does makes my skin crawl. I would seriously be happy if I never had to see her again. I am very very nice to her, but it's all 100% insincere, and I hate to feel that way. :(
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  • Wow, @sugarland726. That was a really crappy thing for him to say. I'm sorry.
  • @peanutmuse

    I do not know what it is about MILs, but having children seems to exacerbate the MIL v. DIL tensions. The exact thing happened between my MIL and I. Prior to DD she got on my nerves every once in a while, however after DD was born it was a 1000x worse. 

    @sugarland726 hugs mama, I want to throat punch DH for you :(

    My vent:

    DD is sick so I was up with a toddler and infant last night. DH needed his sleep for work....Also he told me he "feels" like he is getting sick too so I think I will soon have two sick babies and an infant to take care of. 

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  • DH: are you going to make that beef stew for dinner tonight?

    Me: I guess I can. I'll start prepping it now.

    DH: why it only needs 8 hours in the crockpot? The recipe said it's only ten minutes prep.

    Me: it takes more than ten minutes to brown the meat, cut the vegetables, thaw the frozen vegetables, and measure out the seasonings.

    DH: that's no big deal, you just have to sear the meat

    Me: and do the other stuff provided DD doesn't wake up which she will in a hour and a half or so. It's not as easy as you think for me to do stuff.

    Sigh...I know DH is aware that I don't sit on my ass eating bon bons every day but seriously. Also why, yet again, an I being asked to cook something that he suggested to have for dinner and he found the recipe? Let's just have beef stew over the weekend and you can do everything and see if it takes you ten minutes like the recipe says.
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  • @ccip82 I totally agree with your MIL comment.

    My gripe? Earthquakes. What. The. H*ll. we had a 4.2 then aftershocks and then a few more. I felt it about 8 times through the night. This just started in the last 6 months in my area and it's very unnerving and scary.
     
  • My DH is getting under my skin! My rant is a lot like @sugarland762 . My H just doesn't understand how much work a newborn is and discredits everything I do. I'm up with DS overnight and all day, even when he isn't at work. He hardly contributes at all and if he does he complains or wants praise for it. He told me to calm down cause I'm not super mom and I'm not the only one that takes care of him. EXCUSE ME my mom helps more than you! I just can't even stand being near him right now especially because I have a newborn that screams 24/7!
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  • I'm sorry ladies that our SO & MILs are complete ________. SO and I got into an argument that I feel DD is getting rashes on her cheek because his whole family is touching and kissing her there. It then turns into a "you're working and I'm staying home" fight, which he tells me to find a job and he'll stay home and watch DD w/o complaining. Ha. He wouldn't last an hour without calling for mommy..
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  • Add me to the list of rants about DH. Yes, he works an odd shift, leaving around 2 in the afternoon and getting home anywhere between 1 am to as late as 5 am. Yes, I get that he sleeps in later because of that. But he seems to think that I somehow a magically able to sleep all night so it should be no big deal for me to be up at the crack of dawn with all the kids while he snores away.

    No DH, I don't in fact get to sleep all night! Did you forget about the older ones who get out of bed 16 million times to go to the bathroom, get a drink of water, tell me something of VITAL importance (yeah right), etc. Do you remember that you have a 21 month old who has been fighting sleep like the devil lately and makes bedtime such a 'fun' challenge? Oh, and remember that 2 1/2 week old newborn we have? Yeah, well, she nurses. A LOT. On those sore breasts that you still try to grope even though I've asked you a gazillion times not to touch because it hurts.

    Oh wait. You aren't here 5 to 6 evenings a week. So maybe you really DO forget. Perhaps you envision a household where your children are magically behaved, bedtime is easy, DD nurses once or twice a day and sleeps like an angel the rest of the time...I sit on the couch and do nothing but sleep and relax since it must be a magical fairy godmother that comes in to do the laundry, the dishes, all the cooking and cleaning, etc.

    Get your effing head out of your a** DH, and realize how much I do, and why I am exhausted...and why my sleep should be just as, if not MORE so, immportant as yours!!!

    Oh, and I must agree with the PP with MIL woes...mine can be a royal pain as well (but she's a whole nother rant in herself)...I could cheerfully throat punch my DH and MIL right now....ugh...feeling VERY stabby today.....
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  • DH, stop getting offended and think I'm calling you a bad father whenever I bring up u wanting to add another baby to the mix so soon. You get frustrated when the animals need attention when u just want to relax what do u think will happen when we have a two year old and a baby? That is not implying you will ignore our children I'm just pointing out relaxation time will be cut even more.
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  • Ugh I forgot one! Dd needs physical therapy twice a day and at least an hour after eating (really fun when she cluster feeds at night). Basically it's like trying to burp all around her torso/lungs and takes 20 minutes if she cooperates. DH is my technical stuff guru, I really hoped he would take the lead on it...so far he's done it once. And complained about me wanting him to do it all the time. He finally said last night he doesn't feel confident doing it... well dear, it's not going away and it's a lot of pressure on me to be the only one who can do it... I already do her meds all day it'd be nice to know you've got my back when I need a break.

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  • ksonneksonne member
    edited February 2014
    Mine is work related. I had to go in for work twice last week for mandatory meetings. I will use that time as time at work and not have it count as FMLA. Yes we are down two other PAs so everyone has to take more call. And yes, it will delay my return to work. But IDGAF.

    Edit: I guess mine is an FFC too, but I don't understand why I'm required to come to meetings. Just send me an email, I'm on leave.
  • MindyBadger1MindyBadger1 member
    edited February 2014
    Yesterday my stepmother kissed J on the lips goodbye. Um, oh hell no. 1. Its flu season 2. You were just sick 3. You have herpes.

    My entire family was there so I didn't say anything. But we will be having a conversation in person next week.

    I feel violated.

    Eta I put hand sanitizer on his lips :((
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  • Work tomorrow enough said
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  • @sugarland that's just aweful. What an insensitive a**. The guys are clueless about what it takes to care for our LO's.

    My rant:
    Dear A,
    You are cute and warm and I love snuggling with you but I can not hold you all day just so you can sleep. Nor can I wear you and still get everything done. You little body gets in the way and I don't want to hurt you.
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  • @peanutmuse, if my brain had been working better, I'm sure I could have come up with that response. I'm tempted to make the stupid stew anyway and time the prep. I agree though, he had some extra time before leaving for work, he could have seared the meat or chopped something. He does cook dinner a couple times a week and takes care of DD when she's gassy in the evenings and on weekends so I get a break. He also holds her in the middle of the night while i go to the bathroom before feeding her. He just doesn't always think before opening his mouth but that was a problem before we had a baby together.
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  • DH spent about 6 hours playing computer games with his friends yesterday, and several more on Saturday, only leaving his study when it was his turn to change a diaper. At one point yesterday, I asked him to sit with DD because it was 11 AM and I hadn't gotten to eat breakfast yet, but she was in her swing wide awake not napping. He told me to let him know if she started crying and he would come get her. So I got to eat another meal standing up. I didn't even bother to ask him if he could take her so I could eat lunch and ate a lunch which consisted of a chewy bar and a banana. 

    Later yesterday evening, when he HAD to take her so I could pump, he said, "I feel like I haven't helped you enough this weekend,' in a tone and facial expression which I know means "I feel guilty, please tell me I'm wrong to make me feel better!" I just stayed completely silent. 

    I am just so sick of having to ask for flucking permission to take a shower, eat a meal when it's hot, or go to the bathroom long enough to take a shit all because he can't stand it when she's crying for food and I can't immediately feed her, when he gets to do whatever he wants and cuddle DD when it's convenient for him. 

    I'm also just really sad, because DD was super smiley and awake yesterday, which he doesn't get to see much in the evenings during the week, so he could have spent some great quality time with her, but decided to spend it on the internet with his friends instead.

    This part is more of an FFFC, but the cat pooped on the floor DH's study this morning because he's forgotten how to use the door on his litterbox (another long story, also DH's fault). I just sprayed air freshner in there and lit a candle out here and am leaving that treat for DH to address when he gets home. Gross? Yup. Worth it? Definitely.

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  • @marbee1214

    I don't remember feeling this sad leaving DS1.

    Then again I was depressed, he was difficult, and in a shitty toxic relationship.
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  • Work tomorrow enough said
    Boooo. :(
  • slmille4 said:
    DH, stop getting offended and think I'm calling you a bad father whenever I bring up u wanting to add another baby to the mix so soon. You get frustrated when the animals need attention when u just want to relax what do u think will happen when we have a two year old and a baby? That is not implying you will ignore our children I'm just pointing out relaxation time will be cut even more.
    @slmille4, perhaps you need to really put your foot down and make him do more. I've said it before and others have mentioned it as well. I really don't mean to be mean to you, I promise -- but the more you write about him, the angrier I get for you.
  • @peanutmuse Like I said I bitch about him on his bad days and I think the problem is I assume he doesn't want to help with baby but he's been better about being more vocal about it, in the middle of night he'll now ask if it's a shift he can take and telling me it's ok to take my time in the shower. In the first few weeks I think I assumed he didn't want to help as much because I didn't know what he could help with. But he does pretty much all the housework and errand running. I think I give him more flack than I should some days, mainly on days he does something to piss me off.
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  • slmille4 said:
    @peanutmuse Like I said I bitch about him on his bad days and I think the problem is I assume he doesn't want to help with baby but he's been better about being more vocal about it, in the middle of night he'll now ask if it's a shift he can take and telling me it's ok to take my time in the shower. In the first few weeks I think I assumed he didn't want to help as much because I didn't know what he could help with. But he does pretty much all the housework and errand running. I think I give him more flack than I should some days, mainly on days he does something to piss me off.
    The things you tell us about him conflict with this picture that you paint. And while I understand complaining about our husbands even when things are for the most part ok, I just can't help but notice repeated instances of him being an asshat to you. I just worry about you.

  • @chuggingwater BIG hugs for tomorrow.
  • I was really hoping to have a good last week with DD before going back to work but she apparently has another thought. My usually sweet, happy baby in the morning has been a fussy, needy mess today. I don't think I have sat down for 4 hours because when I do, she cries. Maybe she's trying to make me look forward to going back to work.....
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  • Work tomorrow enough said

    This is my last week off. Lie to me about how easy/awesome it is. Hugs.

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  • Today is my first full day of taking care of both LOs without help while DH is at work annnd I have a migraine. 

    H and I are both sleep deprived - him less so as he has been sleeping on the couch on work nights. He came in to wake me up this morning to take care of DD so he could get another hour of sleep. When I asked him to get her so I could rest because of the headache, his reply was, "I wish we could afford a live-in nanny so there was someone I could rely on." If I hear one more comment about how he "does everything" around the house my head might explode.
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  • @ccip82 I totally agree with your MIL comment.

    My gripe? Earthquakes. What. The. H*ll. we had a 4.2 then aftershocks and then a few more. I felt it about 8 times through the night. This just started in the last 6 months in my area and it's very unnerving and scary.

    Are you in NC/SC area? I felt it the other night while feeding Mason in the middle of the night. My first thought upon seeing my mirror shaking was damn, I must be exhausted! Earthquake didn't even occur to me!
  • DH, why is it that you can't do one night feeding without waking me up? It isn't cute! You are gone all day and I would just like a couple of hours to myself so I can keep my sanity. DS, it is not funny that on daddy's nights you sleep. Why can't you do that for your mommy?
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  • Dear Mother Nature,
    SNOW, mother f*ing snow, and now ice and sleet, go away.  Please.  The forecast keeps taunting me with 50 degree days later this week but seeing that the wind chill is currently 5, I don't believe it.  You've already overachieved this season by beating the record amount of snow fall, so let's call it a day and move on to spring, ok?

    Oh and if you can get us to and from the airport today in one piece to drop off my sister, that'd be swell.

    Sincerely,
    Mom who desperately needs to take her kid on errands without fearing she's giving him frostbite

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  • megngregk said:

    I've got nothing after reading this. I just want to kick a lot of your Hs in their balls.

    QFT.

  • slmille4 said:
    @peanutmuse Like I said I bitch about him on his bad days and I think the problem is I assume he doesn't want to help with baby but he's been better about being more vocal about it, in the middle of night he'll now ask if it's a shift he can take and telling me it's ok to take my time in the shower. In the first few weeks I think I assumed he didn't want to help as much because I didn't know what he could help with. But he does pretty much all the housework and errand running. I think I give him more flack than I should some days, mainly on days he does something to piss me off.
    @slmille4 Is everyday a bad day for him?  because you constantly bitch and put up with way too much shit from him.


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  • cowscrub said:
    @chuggingwater BIG hugs for tomorrow.
    Thanks @cowscrub

    @marbee1214  soooo not chocolate!  
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  • My parents are crazy after Kaleb was born. No I will not go sit in my freezing basement after my husband comess home a from work and I'm napping before my night time feeding shufts start. So that you can "Skype" with my sleeping baby. I'll send you pictures its the sane thing, but when I feel like it quit asking.
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    Hubs McGhee I get that you gotta work to bring home the bacon. As I do love the bacon. But please for the live of God, if you are gonna say " I'm tired cause I heard you two up at" such and such time please offer to take the feeding or the diaper change. Maybe I'll tell you no. But offering would be nice.

    Also dear left boob. That's too much milk staaaaahp it.
  • @redsaffron the rash on cheeks could be heat related. Don't you live in Hawaii? I was born and raised there and had the same issue. It's also the humidity.
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  • MIL and GMIL- why would you hint to me / ask me for printed pics of my LOs. They are all online. You can easily download them and get them printed yourself. You can do it just as easily as I can. Well... I guess it's not too much to ask except for that you give me a deadline! You want them in 2 days when you leave for your cruise so you will have printed pics to show all the strangers you meet. I just don't get why this is my job?

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  • LO why have we gone from minimal sleeping at night to none at all?? As much as I love Friends marathons, being up from 1 am to 7 am is just ridiculous.
    Oh DH, it's been a month now, getting up with her ONE night is not unheard of.... And you wonder why you no longer get BJs. Until you can do at least one feeding on the weekend, I'm not putting out. AT ALL.
  • @ccip82 I totally agree with your MIL comment.

    My gripe? Earthquakes. What. The. H*ll. we had a 4.2 then aftershocks and then a few more. I felt it about 8 times through the night. This just started in the last 6 months in my area and it's very unnerving and scary.

    Are you in NC/SC area? I felt it the other night while feeding Mason in the middle of the night. My first thought upon seeing my mirror shaking was damn, I must be exhausted! Earthquake didn't even occur to me!
    I'm in central OK. So creepy!

     
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