Would this worry you?

TobieRose · February 2014

My general philosophy about baby weight/milestones is not to worry until the doctor tells me to--especially with two when there's so much temptation to compare. But the twins' next appointment is a month away ... they are three months and the smaller one still doesn't lift his head during tummy time. He also is a bit "floppier" than his brother when you hold him, if that makes sense. He seems to kick and wave his arms okay when he's on his back, and he had gained *just* enough weight at his 2 month appointment not to cause concern, but I'm starting to worry just a bit. They were born at 38 weeks so not premature.

Is this something I should be concerned about? Or am I just borrowing more stress than need in my life?? I worry about him needing physical therapy or something.

LucyRicardo3 · February 2014

I know it's so hard not to compare, regardless of their ages.

FWIW, one of my girls did not really lift her head during tummy time until she was 3.5-4 months old; she was also a late crawler, walker, and talker. But always finished her bottle or cleaned her plate first. I would have expected her smaller sister to be the one delayed just because of their size differences.

They were 34w5d, so a little earlier than your pair.

I am no means a medical professional, and from what you've described, it seems like he is just a little delayed. I don't think I would start calling the dr just yet. Maybe give it a couple of weeks. It's strange how sometimes one of mine has seemed to be stuck at a stage, not hitting a milestone, and then a few weeks later, he/she hits 3 milestones at once.

But definitely bring it up at your appointment, even if he starts to catch up by then. Depending on where you live, you may qualify for a type of Early Intervention based on their ages and not necessarily income..

We moved from WV to GA over a year ago, and a few months back I shared my concerns with my ped about the girls' possible speech delays. Ped gave me a referral for the state's program to be evaluated by their therapists and helped me get on the schedule for the eval.
The girls tested a different speech levels, confirming my suspicions of delays.They will remain in the program until their 3rd birthdays when they will have to be re-evaluated to see if they need further therapy. They have already improved drastically in their abilities to communicate and has helped with their frustration-fed tantrums.

TheDairyQueenx3 · February 2014

Mine are the same age ( 3 months exactly today). They were born at 34 weeks but this is exactly how my boys are. One is doing well he can roll from belly to back and he can lift his head at a 90* angle where as the other hardly lifts his head at all and can't even begin to roll. I wouldn't be too concerned as they will develop in their own unique ways and at different paces. It's super hard not to compare but someone once said "would you be concerned about him/her if they were a singleton" if you wouldn't worry yet if that were the case you probably are still on track with one just ahead a little bit.

Ylvelill · February 2014

You can always do exercises with your little one to help him catch up. Encourage him to use his muscles and give him more tummy time. It is amazing how much you can help your kiddos along yourself by focusing on their area of struggles

Ylvelill · February 2014

Found this today and thought of your baby.

https://occupational-therapy.advanceweb.com/Archives/Article-Archives/Why-Tummy-Time-Matters.aspx

Stephanie2167 · February 2014

My pedi said to me at my girls 2 month appointment, "How can you not compare? You have your own study lying right next to her." This was regarding my bigger girl not focusing well and only occasionally cooing and smiling. She recommended I get her eyes checked early.

THEN, I swear it was the next day, she started focusing and smiling and cooing. It was like she knew we were talking about her and she didn't like it. But, she was also my unhappy baby and we started her on Zantac that night. I think she was just uncomfortable which made it hard for her to focus. She also hadn't pooped in a few days. I mean honestly, can you focus much when you have a constant belly ache?

I think its important to bring up any concerns you have and to work on those things with them often. With Harper's focusing, I direct her eyes at me all the time to make her focus on me more. She'd rather stare at the TV and any lights.

Good luck!

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