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May 2014 Moms
Gia62
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Need to vent...just want to cry!
Gia62
member
My significant other has gotten multiple massages...I've been experiencing pain and would LOVE one. I've mentioned it. Even asked him for a small rub but noooo way would that be ok.
Long story short, he had a massage today...didn't schedule a couples one. Hadn't known it was going to be a TWO HOUR massage so once I finally heard from him at 7*30ish I txted his sister 'just heard from him...said he had a 2hr massage. Blah.'
But of course I accidentally sent it to him and he instantly txted back assuming I was accusing him or something and that I don't trust him!
Oh my gosh...I'm in such an awful mood. He said he doesn't know when he will be home because he's hurt that I don't trust him? Wtf. I just don't want to fight. Am I over reacting? I'm not sure what to do.
Sorry for the random rant...I needed to get it out. So frustrated.
Long story short, he had a massage today...didn't schedule a couples one. Hadn't known it was going to be a TWO HOUR massage so once I finally heard from him at 7*30ish I txted his sister 'just heard from him...said he had a 2hr massage. Blah.'
But of course I accidentally sent it to him and he instantly txted back assuming I was accusing him or something and that I don't trust him!
Oh my gosh...I'm in such an awful mood. He said he doesn't know when he will be home because he's hurt that I don't trust him? Wtf. I just don't want to fight. Am I over reacting? I'm not sure what to do.
Sorry for the random rant...I needed to get it out. So frustrated.
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Re: Need to vent...just want to cry!
I would tell him not to come home until he pulls his head out of his ass and realizes that he's not the only one who might be needing pampering during YOUR pregnancy. I cannot believe how inconsiderate that is of him to do that!
If my DH pulled stuff like that, he'd be outside having to make an igloo to stay in because I sure as hell wouldn't be having him near me until he made up for it and apologized.
I don't mean to sound so depressed! I just needed to express this situation. I'm glad I've not done anything wrong ! I just am so confused as to why he took my txt so wrong! Aaahhhhhh
OP I am sorry you have to deal with this. Hope you get to the bottom of it and here's hoping this is all part of an elaborate V-Day plan.
I was not really thinking too much but since he blew up at me for accidentally sending a txt to him and not his sister and taking it soooo wrong now I'm just confused. He's not been home. Said he's at casino...and sent me a txt saying not to worry because he's not cheating? Aaahh I'm so hormonal and so not needing this =\
Thanks for the responses. I need help I guess sorting this out. I have a rough time standing up for myself to him.
An elaborate Vday would be amazing. It's been awhile since I've been treated to something.
I mean he supports me and loves me...but selfish if that's what you want to call it.
I agree.. Not a good feeling. Especially when hormonal and a million things go through your head.
At least I dint feel alone tonight. Cuddled with my pup and baby is awake
Thank you but it's not your fault! But thank you. I appreciate the sensitivity. I'm glad I've got some support here
You need to think long and hard about you feel you and your baby deserve. The behavior can only continue if you allow it..... Although I know that is somethig a lot easier said then done.
Sorry if this comes across as hard or insensitive.. I feel bad for you.. And many of my other girlfriends.... I sometimes don't understand girls and why they let certain things happen.. Or don't see things for the way they really are (this May not apply to u..)
The puppy always helps!!! I love having my pup to snuggle when DH pisses me off
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
Happy Endings
If I were you I would book a massage and flip him off.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Sounds like either there's something fishy going on or your SO needs to do some major growing up fast before Your LO gets here!
Either way, I recommend sitting down and hashing it out before it gets too out of control.
Andplusalso---why do you allow this behavior?
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TTC Baby B since 10/2012
BFP#1 12/27/12 II TWIN GIRLS II D&C 2/15/13 TRAP sequence
Clomid + TI + Acupuncture x 2 cycles
BFP#2 9/5/13 II EDD 5/16/14 II Beckett Ryan born May 10, 2014
Don't let this shit happen to you! Stand up for yourself for God's sake.
I hope that you and your BF spoke about his behavior and how it impacts you. Thinking of you and the difficult conversation that likely followed when he got home. Big hugs!
BFP #1 - 3/23/13 // EDD - 11/27/13 // M/MC - 5/3/13 // D&C - 5/4/13
BFP #2 - 8/26/13 // EDD - 5/10/14 // Born 5/18/14
With no update, I'm left to worry about her... but I'm a worrywart.
Sorry you're going through this OP
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
But agree with everyone.
Again thank you for the support and care and thoughts on the situation! Really I do. It means a lot. I've not got many people to talk to but figured you ladies where the perfect people to talk with.