I don't know what enjoying my pregnancy means. From roughly 6 weeks on (the start of hellish food aversions, all day sickness, smells) I can't really remember a day where I haven't felt sick or tired, usually both. At 22 weeks most folks can't see I'm pregnant yet and only I can feel the baby move. Is it the attention people love? I'm a performer so I'm really only into that on stage/camera. I'm excited to have a baby soon but am baffled by the idea of loving being pregnant.
I'm tired of people treating like I'm fragile just because I happen to be currently gestating new life. While I can't lie and say that I didn't mind someone giving me an entire school bus bench seat when I was stuck on the road in Atlanta during the last storm, having a neighbor come up to me to chastise me for shoveling snow this morning irritated me. Yes, I'm listening to my body and not doing more than I can handle, but DH had been shoveling out our cars for an hour and a half and started to feel unwell. I felt bad that I wasn't doing much, so I took over for a bit. I appreciate the concern, but I'm fine.
And four years ago, the last time we got major snow, and I was pregnant with M, I also shoveled snow. I count it as my gym time for today.
I think Facebook's time is expired. I had it for about 2 years when it first came out and found myself getting so sick of other people's engagement ring pictures, ultrasounds, and who-gives-a-fuck hourly updates, yet it was like a train wreck and I couldn't peel my eyes away. Two hours later, my evening was wasted on shit that my brain could've easily done without. The only reason my H uses it is to spy on scumbags (he's a private investigator) and some people are so dumb, they have their info displayed publicly.
On the same note of FB, sometimes I really think people should have to pass some sort of ethics test in order to be eligible for a cell phone. Nothing bothers me more than being at a grocery store and hearing about someone's personal life while I'm trying to buy my Fruity Pebbles. Also, when I was waiting tables in college, I would get so pissed when people would give me the "one minute" symbol with their hand as I approached their table. Fuck off and point to the menu, I've got other customers and bills to pay!
Maybe I belong in the 80's in general- way better music and actual face to face interactions with ppl.
And my last UO, where the hell is skyangelmommy ... I'm starting to miss her...
I hear you on the FB thing! I deactivated my account after I found out I was pregnant. DH's family has a habit of announcing things "for" us on there. I was also sick of people pretending their lives were so perfect when I knew truthfully that they were full of shit. It's been 5 months without it and I don't miss it one bit. It's nice to know that the only people that know what is going on in my life are the people I want to know.
I'm getting tired of getting the look from people when I'm not overly gushy and "omg I'm sooooo excited," when I'm asked about my pregnancy. My honest opinion when people ask is: it's boring. I mean it's true. Nothing is happening. I'm not complaining-a boring pregnancy is a good one to have! But I always get the look. Then they ask if I'm feeling movement and I say "yeah, and it's really weird!" Again, cue the weird look. Sorry, just not that bubbly and overly-excited type of person. Am I supposed to be different since I'm pregnant??
I hate it when I see babies with propped bottles. It's a huge pet peeve. You can't hold your kid for 10 minutes while they eat & bond? It's important time that you'll never get back. Just bein' judgemental...
@LoHerrim It's also incredibly dangerous, as it poses a choking hazard. Not to mention, who the EFF wants to eat with a blanket on their neck? I teach infant/child safety and this is something I adamantly caution against.
I despise those shopping cart seat cover things for your kid. We have one new in the package that we've never used for DS. I'm not afraid of germs for my kid. I'm not going to send him to a hospital or garbage dump to wander around aimlessly, but I also don't think it's bad for him to be exposed to some germs before kindergarten.
@MSUMands I have to use a cart cover here. It is well over 100 degrees here in the summer so there is a risk of burn. I am pro-germs though!
I (finally) tracked this thing down after all the hype on this board... I threw it out after 4 sips it tasted like toothpaste. So disappointed...let the booing begin!
My uo is that I don't think it is necessary to link every horrible thing that happens to pregnant women and their babies in the world on this board. It only adds to the anxiety many of us are having.
So I almost broke down and bought DD some pharmaceutical cold medicine today just to break up the chest congestion. I didn't end up buying it because (UO) why the hell is every cold medicine a concoction of 50 different things? Also I see no point in a medicine that contains both a cough expectorant and a cough suppressant. Am I missing something or is it not stupid to give one medicine that both increases the cough and suppresses it?!
There is a medicine for colds sold at Walmart, I can't remember the name of it but its all natural. I'll see if I can find it online and send you a link.
@whoberry that is just not cool. My DH is uncircumcised and it didn't stop me from jumping his bones lol. I also didn't have my son circumcised because I personally think that dad and son should match, call me crazy haha. I also don't really think its necessary in any way and semi-barbaric so why bother. Flame away lol.
No snark intended, I just don't understand this reasoning. Why does it matter if they match?
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
@whoberry that is just not cool. My DH is uncircumcised and it didn't stop me from jumping his bones lol. I also didn't have my son circumcised because I personally think that dad and son should match, call me crazy haha. I also don't really think its necessary in any way and semi-barbaric so why bother. Flame away lol.
No snark intended, I just don't understand this reasoning. Why does it matter if they match?
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
@whoberry that is just not cool. My DH is uncircumcised and it didn't stop me from jumping his bones lol. I also didn't have my son circumcised because I personally think that dad and son should match, call me crazy haha. I also don't really think its necessary in any way and semi-barbaric so why bother. Flame away lol.
No snark intended, I just don't understand this reasoning. Why does it matter if they match?
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
I agree, and also, who gets upset cause their peen doesn't match their dads? That's weird/creepy. I mean I don't judge either way, but I don't think that's a legitimate argument.
@whoberry that is just not cool. My DH is uncircumcised and it didn't stop me from jumping his bones lol. I also didn't have my son circumcised because I personally think that dad and son should match, call me crazy haha. I also don't really think its necessary in any way and semi-barbaric so why bother. Flame away lol.
No snark intended, I just don't understand this reasoning. Why does it matter if they match?
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
I just said it crossed my mind, and we would deal. Not that it was an earth-shattering thing, or even that big of a concern.
But we can always totally blow it out of proportion, too.
@whoberry that is just not cool. My DH is uncircumcised and it didn't stop me from jumping his bones lol. I also didn't have my son circumcised because I personally think that dad and son should match, call me crazy haha. I also don't really think its necessary in any way and semi-barbaric so why bother. Flame away lol.
No snark intended, I just don't understand this reasoning. Why does it matter if they match?
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
I agree, and also, who gets upset cause their peen doesn't match their dads? That's weird/creepy. I mean I don't judge either way, but I don't think that's a legitimate argument.
It kind of sounds judgey when you call it weird/creepy. Not arguing, just pointing that out.
I didn't see either of my parents naked after an age at which I have memory. Did everyone else have more naked families?
Eta: not judging; just curious. I know mine were prudes.
I have one memory of seeing my dad naked, I was like two and all I remember is that he was in the bath. My mom and I still see each other naked (if one of us is in the shower and the other needs to pee/wadh her hands/whatever. We had a very open family, though, maybe because she's a nurse.
I'll bite, if that was a serious question. I remember seeing my mother naked until a certain point - we were both women and it would lead to conversations about the my body as a learning thing. Not past a certain age though. DH's family was actually much more comfortable nude than we were.
I didn't see either of my parents naked after an age at which I have memory. Did everyone else have more naked families?
Eta: not judging; just curious. I know mine were prudes.
I have one memory of seeing my dad naked, I was like two and all I remember is that he was in the bath. My mom and I still see each other naked (if one of us is in the shower and the other needs to pee/wadh her hands/whatever. We had a very open family, though, maybe because she's a nurse.
--- My family is really rural religious. My mom sews a "modesty panel" into anything with a v-neck. I'm all about body positivity and plan to breastfeedi anywhere, but I'm uncomfortable with doing it in front of them.
H's family is way open. I once found his parents' sex pics. Awkward and awful.
My foster parents were very private and I'm the same way. Our kids have never seen us without clothing and luckily they've never walked in on our bedroom time.
And I've started a naked debate lol sweet. Didn't mean to but why the heck not ( pats own back )To be honest I never really thought about it until I had my son, never mattered either way to me, pros and cons to each but in the end it probably has more to do with why bother with it if my DH is uncircumcised. Seems painful for baby and kind of unnecessary in my case. Hubby didn't want too and I don't have a penis so he knows best in that area. Seeing as I didn't have a preference either way why not have DH make the call and have them be the same or match I guess.
Just, for the record, I don't think appearance is a reason enough to circumsize or not, (like I said, dh isn't, son will be), but I do think it's something that DH and I might have to be aware of when/if son asks. Young kids are curious and it should be handled in a sensitive way, was kind of my real point.
On that note, I will resume running around my house naked and showing everyone my private parts.
@joules235 I hope I answered you above. That was not the only reasoning but part of it and I wish I had a more concrete answer. Bottom line why inflict pain on LO if I didn't have to in my personal situation. I can understand others wanting to that's just how I felt at the time given my hubby's stronger feelings
I've heard three times today, "Isn't it great that you're having another boy? You can reuse Ry's stuff!!" He's four. We weren't supposed to be able to conceive this one, it came out of nowhere. Why would I have anything left from Ry? What I didn't get rid of before we moved clear across the country, I donated to the preschool.
I've heard three times today, "Isn't it great that you're having another boy? You can reuse Ry's stuff!!" He's four. We weren't supposed to be able to conceive this one, it came out of nowhere. Why would I have anything left from Ry? What I didn't get rid of before we moved clear across the country, I donated to the preschool.
well if it was a girl they'd be like "oh a girl, aren't you glad you're going to have one of each!?" there is no win-win. people are annoying.
Oh we've already been through that. We have a six year old daughter and four year old son. I was once told "now you're complete and don't need anymore" by my mother and "now you'll get the full parenting experience like a real mom" from ex-mil. So, for you one and done people you're not "real" moms. I'll bet you weren't aware!
I've heard three times today, "Isn't it great that you're having another boy? You can reuse Ry's stuff!!" He's four. We weren't supposed to be able to conceive this one, it came out of nowhere. Why would I have anything left from Ry? What I didn't get rid of before we moved clear across the country, I donated to the preschool.
well if it was a girl they'd be like "oh a girl, aren't you glad you're going to have one of each!?" there is no win-win. people are annoying.
Oh we've already been through that. We have a six year old daughter and four year old son. I was once told "now you're complete and don't need anymore" by my mother and "now you'll get the full parenting experience like a real mom" from ex-mil. So, for you one and done people you're not "real" moms. I'll bet you weren't aware!
This stuff pisses me off. I'll have to tell my mom I'm sorry that she didn't get the full parenting experience because she only had me. She must feel so empty...
I've heard three times today, "Isn't it great that you're having another boy? You can reuse Ry's stuff!!" He's four. We weren't supposed to be able to conceive this one, it came out of nowhere. Why would I have anything left from Ry? What I didn't get rid of before we moved clear across the country, I donated to the preschool.
well if it was a girl they'd be like "oh a girl, aren't you glad you're going to have one of each!?" there is no win-win. people are annoying.
Oh we've already been through that. We have a six year old daughter and four year old son. I was once told "now you're complete and don't need anymore" by my mother and "now you'll get the full parenting experience like a real mom" from ex-mil. So, for you one and done people you're not "real" moms. I'll bet you weren't aware!
Hahaha!! It's all good, I don't really consider myself a "real mom" anyway... More like some chick who is over her head and scared out if her mind. Those real moms are the ones who can hold their babies AND get the slushie at the same time
June '14 September Siggy challenge- Favorite things about fall
Re: UO
I think most, if not all food from a crockpot is gross. I've never had or made something that wasn't just a blob of mush.
No UO's for me.
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with. DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it. As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
I agree, and also, who gets upset cause their peen doesn't match their dads? That's weird/creepy. I mean I don't judge either way, but I don't think that's a legitimate argument.
@joules235 - my only thought ( and I'm not speaking for the PP) is that it might be confusing for a young boy if he looks 'different' than Dad. But, it can obviously be dealt with.
DH is uncircumcised (and also gets plenty *eyeroll* to those comments) but our son will be circumcised. So it crossed my mind too but we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
As far as the circumcision convo goes, DH feels strongly about it and I respect his opinion and experiences enough to agree. I didn't feel strongly one way or another beforehand, to be honest.
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I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
I just said it crossed my mind, and we would deal. Not that it was an earth-shattering thing, or even that big of a concern.
But we can always totally blow it out of proportion, too.
I have her to meet a woman whose vagina/labia look like her mothers, and no one cares. We tell girls, "All bodies are different," and everyone gets it.
Many of my friends adopted kids from different races, so their bodies, features, and hair look very different.
I just can't imagine a boy not being able to understand that minor difference. Kids don't care.
I agree, and also, who gets upset cause their peen doesn't match their dads? That's weird/creepy. I mean I don't judge either way, but I don't think that's a legitimate argument.
It kind of sounds judgey when you call it weird/creepy. Not arguing, just pointing that out.
Eta: not judging; just curious. I know mine were prudes.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
Before your edit, it seemed a little facetious, yea.
My family is really rural religious. My mom sews a "modesty panel" into anything with a v-neck. I'm all about body positivity and plan to breastfeedi anywhere, but I'm uncomfortable with doing it in front of them.
H's family is way open. I once found his parents' sex pics. Awkward and awful.
This stuff pisses me off. I'll have to tell my mom I'm sorry that she didn't get the full parenting experience because she only had me. She must feel so empty...
Hahaha!! It's all good, I don't really consider myself a "real mom" anyway... More like some chick who is over her head and scared out if her mind. Those real moms are the ones who can hold their babies AND get the slushie at the same time
I second that 100%. I actually want a slurpee right now lol.