Has LO made you change your mind about having more kids?

PinkPuffyHeart2 · February 2014

Um yeah, one thing I don't look forward to if I am ever pregnant again is people calling me fat to my face. At my baby shower my sweet 85 year old grandmother came in and said "hi fatty!"........

PinkPuffyHeart2 · February 2014

Also, @funkyphoenix reminded me another reason I might be one and done is my darn wrists! Tenosynovitis can bite me. I can't open a new jar of jelly!

Lizzybizzy80 · February 2014

@ChicagoChic82 I definitely remember about your nephew. That was my first post on this board and I was happy/relieved to hear about him and how well he's doing.

I am having a huge slice of cake when B turns one. I've read that the chances for serious stuff drop after one if nothing has happened. We've still talked about going for two, I just need to keep the worrying in check (not super easy for me).

tantdylf · February 2014

He has only made me want more :P

megaroo64 · February 2014

I always wanted more than one. I am one of five and h is one of three so I figured we woul have at least three. And b did not change my mind. Granted, I didn't think it would be in such rapid succession, but every time I panic about being pregnant again (which is always) I remind myself that we wanted this.

CoffeeBeanFiend91 · February 2014

I'm torn. I had a rough pregnancy and DD can be a hellion. But it makes me sad that we're almost through the first year and it's giving me baby fever

SilverEF · February 2014

I'm late as well. We have always said 2 and are sticking with it. We argue if they should be 2 or 3 years apart. I say 3 DH says 2. Hubby doesn't get home during the week til after mister is sleeping so I'm basically alone. I don't think I can handle another one so fast.

LiLi23 · February 2014

Late to the game here, but I definitely had baby amnesia, if that makes sense. I conveniently forgot everything about being pregnant and early infant days/nights when I got pregnant the second time. Now that R is closer to his first birthday than the day he was born, it's getting easier. But, a few months ago I completely wrote off having more. Now? Now I could see myself having a third. Which will make H happy bc he wanted 4 (??!!??). I would like to wait a bit longer in between (my kids are 23 months apart), but H is dead set on trying to keep that age gap. I'm not. I'm not even entertaining the idea, though, until after R turns one. We shall see...

WasNotWas · February 2014

I'm happy with 2. I originally wanted 4...but then I stopped doing crack

It's hard to say "no" more because I have like 10 more baby making years left in me. We will wait until at least one is in real school because we couldn't afford 3 in daycare. There is also something reassuring about knowing that we are done, like I can move on to the next stage of my life.

Going from 1 to 2 has been very stressful and overwhelming, but someone told me that the best gift I could give Bradley was a sibling, so I tried to keep that in mind when my pregnancy kicked my ass.

Cricket81 · February 2014

Yes and no. If money (and my age) was not a factor, I would love 3 or 4. As it is, I absolutely want 2. The tricky part is that I'm already 32 and would like to have my second one quickly, but we live in an apartment that just doesn't have room for a second baby and I just don't know how we are ever going to afford a house.
I also had a really scary delivery and that makes me nervous. I don't know if I would try to deliver vaginally again or if I would just want to schedule a c section. Both options make me feel nauseous just thinking about it.

momofcatan · February 2014

@lizzybizzy80 Big hugs. Can you and DH do genetic testing to find out what the likelihood of HD is? (Genetic testing is very common in my community for Tay-Sachs screening)

numbersgirl08 · February 2014

I always wanted 3 but then I hated being pregnant, recovery from a third degree tear was a b, and the newborn stage broke me down. But now I am loving being a mom to N. I think getting to 6 mos was a turning point for me. So I'm back to wanting 3. I figure I can withstnd anything for a year (9 mos pregnant + recovery/newborn stage) for the joy I feel now.

BC&LM · February 2014

Maybe. I had always wanted two kids, but I am pretty darn happy with my little family of three. I could now see myself being content with just LO, which I never imagined before. So now I'm undecided about having a second, whereas before I wasn't.

kelseypie · February 2014

We had always said 2, then when I was pregnant I kept thinking, "We're only going to get to do this one more time?". Even after a really traumatic delivery and having a HORRIBLE sleeper, I'm dying to TTC again and want 2 more. I just love the excitement of being pregnant, and I'm even looking forward to delivering another baby. Dafuq is wrong with me?

DH isn't ready for another one quite yet, and realistically I know it would be extremely difficult, but I still want to. We'll probably start trying again this summer (hopefully!). After #2 I want to wait a few years and then have ::sniff:: the last baby.

BC&LM · February 2014

ChicagoChic82 said:

Good post! I wanted 4 kids before I knew a THING about what anything entailed (what an idiot!), and dh agreed to 2. After a shit storm induction and unwanted c section, awful, soul crushing baby blues and anxiety, I don't think I can do it again. He has straight up said he wants more kids, and that scares me. If we have another, it'll have to be when we have more $$ and can have some help because I can't go thru those baby blues alone again. On a related note- for people who had unplanned c sections: have you discussed VBAC with your ob? Mine said she would only let me try if I lost a lot of weight. Has anyone else's OB mentioned that?? On one hand I don't want to go thru labor again, but on the other I don't want to go thru c section recovery. Guess what, DH?? That means no kid!!

@ChicagoChic82 I had to have an unplanned C section because I had preeclampsia and my induction failed. I did ask my OB about a VBAC at the time, and she said if I didn't have preeclampsia for my next pregnancy and made it to 39-40 weeks, a VBAC might be a possibility. She said if my failed induction had been at full term, she would be more inclined to advise against any future inductions and just have another C section, but that because mine was at 36 weeks, there was a huge chance of it failing to begin with because my body wasn't ready.

ilovemarfa · February 2014

Two and through here. After ds1 I didn't want another child. He was very high needs (still is at 3) and had terrible reflux and in general was just a miserable baby. He needed to be held 24/7 and it took a lot out of me. Once he got closer to 1 and became more independent and more happy (I think the reflux made him miserable so once he outgrew it he was happy) we began to reconsider our plans for just 1. I felt bad not giving him a sibling so we just decided to go for it and I got pregnant that first month of trying. Ds2 is a different baby and is very happy and doesn't need to be held all of the time but I can imagine having another like ds1 and that turns me off of having another.

Lizzybizzy80 · February 2014

@araziza thank you!!! We've looked at the percentages from a John Hopkins study and the chances should be pretty small, maybe a few percent v. 1/5000 in gen pop. I'm not sure if there is a specific test for HD gene yet but that is something we could look into.

Edited bc math is hard

ColieAnn31 · February 2014

I have a very rough pregnancy but I would do it all again in a heart beat. Both of us only want 2 kids but if our second is another boy then I'd be willing to try for a girl. But knowing my luck I'd end up with 3 boys! SO is set on only 2 kids even if they are both boys. We won't be TTC for a long while. We need to get ourselves in a better financial situation before we start trying.

NicoleReed0324 · February 2014

For a long time I was super terrified of having a second baby. I didn't even want to risk sleeping with my husband because I was so scared of being pregnant again. But I feel like in getting the hang of being a mommy. But when I think back to those infant days that seemed so impossible at the time... Now is def harder and more work! So that makes me think it would be easier the second time around and not so scary. We are so lucky because we have so much help. Both of our parents, my brother, and his sister live within 5 minutes and LOVE spending time with us and MJ. I can't imagine not having that support system. That makes it easy to want more babies!

That said, it won't be soon. I would like to start trying when MJ is 2.

GalLaura · February 2014

DH only wanted one but since we had LO he wants 6. Lol. Too bad for him because I'll be 40 next month. I always wanted 2 or 3 but given my age it will just be 2. I wish I had more time so I could space then out a bit more. I'll probably have to start trying this June -sept and I'm not really ready yet.

I just want my body back for a little bit. I haven't had caffeine or alcohol since I found out I was pregnant. Does that sound horrible?

cynthia2007 · February 2014

DH and I have always agreed to two so we are going to try for another one at some point. I'm an only child and would have loved to have siblings so two and we'll be happy. We originally wanted them to be very close in age but now we've been pushing back which I'm totally ok with. Love LO to death but she's a handful for sure. I need her to getto the point where she sleeps through the night every night before we get into another baby and more sleepness nights.

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