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Gamera3000
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How did you and BD meet?
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And how would your old self react if you could tell her where you are now?
For me: My ex that I live with and I were 17 or 18 (were 37 now) and we stopped by the post office to get our mail. BD was hanging around in the post office parking lot. He and my ex are childhood friends. My impressions were that he seemed a little loopy and that he had an "awesome" self inflicted tattoo on his arm which made me jealous.
If I learned then that he would be my BD nearly 20 years later I would have never believed it. I would have been horrified. But not surprised at his deadbeat behavior at all.
For me: My ex that I live with and I were 17 or 18 (were 37 now) and we stopped by the post office to get our mail. BD was hanging around in the post office parking lot. He and my ex are childhood friends. My impressions were that he seemed a little loopy and that he had an "awesome" self inflicted tattoo on his arm which made me jealous.
If I learned then that he would be my BD nearly 20 years later I would have never believed it. I would have been horrified. But not surprised at his deadbeat behavior at all.
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Re: How did you and BD meet?
Instead of doing the shopping that we needed to do him and his friends decided we should go swimming. While we were at the lake swimming, which i cant do. I cant even float. Xh pulled me out into the water where i couldnt reach the bottom then left me there. Bd came to my rescue. I was super attractes to bd because he was large and muscular unlike my xh who was skinny and scrawny.
Looking back, id be shocked to know id be a single mother to his kid id be more okay with it then id like to admit since i hated xh.
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I thought he was a huge tool bag. I had to go to work at my other job where i worked later over nights after my friends tattoo and he kept trying to convince me to blow off work to go to a party with him.
When he left the shop and the artist i worked for told me if i ever dated that tool it would be a major down grade from my last relationship
I read once that women are more likely to conceive with men who are a good genetic match for them, no matter how the relationship is. And that theres a lot of physical stuff like really liking how they smell. I'm BIG into hygiene and BD definitely is not but both of us seem to really like they way the other smells.
My ex on the other hand, smells like a jelly doughnut and somehow that's always bothered me. He says I smell like birdseed. Sigh.
Bd and bf on the other hand smell fantastic to me. But i am kinda sad that bf no longer smells like cigareyte smoke hes always smelled like cigarette smoke. Dont get me wrong im glad he quite smoking and im so proudof him cause he was a smoker for a decade but i still miss the smell.
Bd was my best friend, while i no longer like him and am no longer friends with him i will always care for him on some level because hes bentleys dad.
DD2 I met BD at work (I'm seeing a trend lol) ran into him at the bar one night we ended up hooking up because my on/off bf just moved away and I was upset. Ended up starting to date BD to get over that guy.
I don't know what I would tell myself....probably with DD1 BD to leave the first time he hit me and with DD2 BD rebounds are not a good thing! But I probably wouldn't listen to myself I'm sure I would had gone nothing bad is going to happen.
I'd tell her to run the frick away and don't even bother. I'm grateful to have my daughter but would rather a sperm donor probably than him bc of his mental/emotional instability.