i'm bored. entertain me! who will be TTC soon after this baby(ies) is born?

Themaritimemama · February 2014

We're done now... DH is getting snipped after this LO makes her arrival. We've had 3 in five years and that's close enough for us!

Mamamonzo · February 2014

We want at least 2. I want 3, my sister and I were 7 years apart and still at 27 and 20 we have a hard time connecting. I look at her as more of a child and tend to side with my parents instead of being the cool older sister. I would never buy her alcohol or anything like that. She claims I sucked as a sister while she was in HS lol. I want kids close in age but not too close. We'll aim for 2 and I may have to beg for the third.

yellowjellybeans · February 2014

Ah, tough to gauge. I joke around with DH and tell him I want to have one right away to get it over with. This is my first at 34, so I definitely would like to have the second within 2 years. The pregnancy itself hasn't been bad, so that's not a deterrent. It's the lack of knowledge of what being a parent to a newborn/toddler will be l like that will truly determine our abilities to multi-task.

It may require a move closer to our families abroad in order to not spend a ton on child care. We shall seeeeee.

olenkapdx · February 2014

Ugh...I am going to be almost 39 when this kid gets here. SO wants to have two (and I do too, but, hey the first one isn't even here yet!...let's maybe see how that goes). It will mean going back to the RE and IVF again, most likely. Thinking about it makes me want a stiff drink. I guess I will settle for a nap instead.

arichlife · February 2014

I would like to start trying in Aug-November (when baby is 6-9 months). I'd probably say 9-12 months but I turn 25 this coming August so if I get pregnant with #2 by November, I can deliver before I turn 26 and get kicked off my parents insurance. I'm sure that sounds bad but I want to try soon for another one anyway and I figure if it will save money to do it a couple months sooner then I might as well!
I really do want to try again soon. I have had a really easy pregnancy (pretty much no morning sickness) and also because we struggle with infertility (took us 20 months to get this LO) I have enjoyed this pregnancy so much and so if being pregnant isn't too hard on me then I'd love to have my kids be close in age and also be done having kids sooner rather than later. But that whole infertility thing really throws a wrench in planning when to get pregnant so while I say I'd like to do it again soon, it isn't really up to me! And on top of that I'm sure I will feel differently when I haven't slept more than a couple hours at a time for a month or more because I have a newborn baby. And then there is the money issue too. I am hoping/planning to be a SAHM with this LO but that will certainly make our budget tight and even though DH has a raise coming up this summer it's not going to double his salary and completely make up for the difference in me working full time now vs not working much at all once baby comes.
So while ideally I'd love to try again soon there are a lot of factors that are out of my control that influence that, namely our infertility struggle. Not having control of anything sure makes it hard to plan! Haha

avidkeo · February 2014

DH is already talking about trying again right away, I'm unsure. I kinda want to see how this goes first! Definitely want 2 children if we are lucky enough, but not enough to plan on Irish twins!!!

I always thought a good age gap was about 2 years......

reginahcampbell · February 2014

This is our one and done pregnancy. DH is getting a vasectomy after baby arrives. We're thinking of adopting in a few years, but we shall see.

snmetz7 · February 2014

we want one more and want them relatively close in age so we can just be done with it (is that horrible?) I think we will wait about 9m to a year to TTC again after this LO though.

pineconey · February 2014

Hopefully TTC starting next Jan-March- somewhere in there. And however long it takes is just fine with me, I'm not dillusional enough to think we will achieve pregnancy on the first month of trying.

sarahbeth27 · February 2014

Reading some of these responses is like deja vu. After DS, we wanted an 18mo-2 year age gap. It took us 6 months to get KU then we lost that baby at 12 weeks. Then another 7 months to get KU this time. We are now looking at 2y9m age gap. And I'm really excited about it.... but we are done. TTC and m/c was far too emotionally difficult for me. I never want to go through with it again.

TTC was such a mind fluck for me. It was certainly a reminder that you truly cannot plan life.

Lindsay808 · February 2014

I would probably do it again in a year or so. But dh wants to wait several years, which is better financially. But he mainly wants to wait because I made his life a living hell during 1st tri...oops.

RebeccaY1 · February 2014

We'll be trying again in January.

RocksInTheWater · February 2014

DH and I do plan on having more kids but haven't talked specific timing yet. I am 35 and he is 38 so I know we won't be able to wait too long. I'd love to have 3 kids in the end (well, 4 if I'm being totally honest) but our ages and finances might make that difficult. I'll be lucky to convince DH to have 3 so I know 4 is out of the question. We both come from big families and I have a hard time imagining only having 2 kids.

Relish1025 · February 2014

Want another, but won't TTC for at least 3-5 years from now. I come from a family where my siblings and I are 6-7 years apart, and while I think that's a little too far apart, SO and I both prefer having this LO preschool/kindergarten age before we have another. Plus, we both want to finish school and get a little more economically stable before the next one.

misskristina21 · February 2014

We are done after this one. My tubes are being tied during my RCS. That being said, a friend of mine is 20 weeks along, after having hers tied. So I guess if someone has a higher plan then so be it. But we are not going to actively try. DD will be 3 1/2 when this baby comes.

We are looking into fostering in a few years though.

baileymama3 · February 2014

My husband would love to start TTC 3 months after-- but there is no effing way that this body is doing ANYTHING preg related for a while.

I figure I will do low-dose birth control during bfing (and after) and then when ready, we will try. I am nervous to wait 4 years and then start again though because although this time was "easy"---nothing is guaranteed and I have lots of friends who had a really hard time with their second.

I also want us to adopt and that's a whole different ballgame. I am very thankful I am starting this journey at 29...I feel a little less pressure than I would a few years down the road.

and @KatieGummow, I cant wait to hear if your hubby will be ready to start again after the boys make their appearance, or if he is like, "pump the brakes, I was kidding!" (and mine too--- he will be like, "oh wow, this is hard!")

babybarnes87 · February 2014

I'm thinking DH and I will start considering TTC when LO hits 18 months or so. We will be happy with just one more after this first baby.

katiedidthat · February 2014

We are, conditionally. If this baby is another boy, we will definitely try again for the 18 month age gap and TTC in late fall. If this baby is a girl, however, we might be waiting a little while. Ideally we'd like to have 4 kids with 18 months gaps and 6 years between the oldest/youngest (so basically Oct 2012, Apr 2014, Oct 2016, Apr 2018) but we're being realistic and might stop at 2 if its a girl.

MadBloom · February 2014

I'm 27 and a FTM. The goal is to have 3 eventually. Ideally we'd have all three before I'm 30 so that's pretty back to back! We might have two and then see what's up. I want to make sure my body bounces back and I am back to a healthy weight before getting pregnant again as well. I guess we'll see!
I'm also really hoping to take a big step forward in my career in the next 2 years so that will play into it as well. Only time will tell!

patunia7321 · February 2014

I love the 5ish yr age gap, but that isn't in the cards for us since we are getting a late start. As long as this one goes as planned we will start ttc in July/August of next year to hopefully perfectly time our 2nd babe with the end of the school year much like this one. Fx.

Roufi · February 2014

We would like 2 or 3 (starting to lean towards 3 even though I never thought I would) and both agree that we would like a couple years to enjoy our little man before switching up the family dynamic again. Plus, despite this being so far a very easy pregnancy, I am lookibg forward to having my body to myself again for a while. Add to that that it will depend on where we are financially, career-wise, etc and I think we will start trying again when LO is about 2.

Jennpjc414 · February 2014

I'm a ftm, so we definitely want another one. I think we will wait at least 2 years before ttc- the thought of paying for daycare with two kids is frightening!

homediva · February 2014

We are on the fence! I would go for a third right away but DH may need done convincing! We tried to have our first two close together but they will be more than 2.5 years apart as I could not get pregnant while nursing!

Erikahenderson1 · February 2014

I want more kids after this (first) and I would like for them to be close in age but I NEVER want to be pregnant againnnn :O

Rfox831 · February 2014

Umm ya. He is getting snipped ASAP after this baby boy greets us! Girl and a boy and we are DONE!

rockstarlaw · February 2014

I'm 36. I tried for 18 months to get pregnant with my first husband and thankfully, it didn't work. Now I am having my first with the most wonderful man, but he makes virtually nothing (nor will he ever, but he has a fulfilling job he loves - so fine) and I'm the breadwinner. I need to figure out if I'm going to stay at my current position or look elsewhere. I would like another child eventually, and I wouldn't want them to be too far apart in age (I don't have all of that much more time, and I'd like to retire at some point!) but I'm going to see how I deal with this first one. Pregnancy has been blessedly easy for me, but I'm not sure how I'll fare with sleepless nights!

bacorrea · February 2014

I'm not sure. I've had a really hard pregnancy. I've said several times out of frustration that I'm never doing this again. DH deploys right after this LO comes so we definitely won't be trying within the next year or so.

SummerLeah · February 2014

I'm conflicted. This is our first LO, and DH really wants two kids. I'm not opposed to the idea of two in theory, but would prefer to wait longer so I have time to adjust. We've been childless for so long, my career is very demanding, and I can't help but feel that I still want some semblance of my old life, too (traveling, etc.). I worry that having another will be so much more difficult. I'm also thinking about the cost of two children in day care at the same time - ouch! But, time is not on our side (I'm 37, DH 39) so if we are going to do it, it will need to be soon.

TallaB · February 2014

We've already started trying (Miracles happen, right??).

We hope to knock baby #2 off the list within 2 years.

cloudninemom2be · February 2014

Yep. I can talk for both myself and my husband when I say we would love to be blessed with two children, and would love to start trying for number two within a year of having our first.

JessieAlbin · February 2014

No way, Jose. We are one and done. DH and I have had several discussions about birth control, the stigma of only childhood, finances, the health of our marriage, etc... And pretty much agree that we will very happily have a complete family of three. We are waiting on the vasectomy for a little while on the off chance that we decide after meeting this little guy we just can't live without another baby, but barring a serious change of heart from both of us, getting snipped is in his future.

CalinAZ · February 2014

I think we'll probably start trying around a year, but maybe sooner. We'd like them 3 years apart, but it took over a year the first time, so I'd rather start on the early side. 2 year gap would also be fine.

We're hoping for 2 kids, though I may want 3 - we'll see how it goes

kseccomb17 · February 2014

misskristina21 said:
We are done after this one. My tubes are being tied during my RCS. That being said, a friend of mine is 20 weeks along, after having hers tied. So I guess if someone has a higher plan then so be it. But we are not going to actively try. DD will be 3 1/2 when this baby comes.

We are looking into fostering in a few years though.

My MIL had DH's little brother 10 years after her tubes were tied!

irisheyez7 · February 2014

We always talked about wanting 2, but I would like to see how this one goes first before setting anything in stone. If we do, I think I like the 2 year age gap. I do kinda want to try for my little man though.
I don't want more than 2 though, I would like to just be "one on one" on defense, rather than having to play zone ;-)

missybeeWed28212 · February 2014

WE'RE DONE!! Two boys and a girl is perfect for us. Lol My boys are 19 months apart and between my second child and new baby they'll be 20 months apart. All of them will be close in age which is what I wanted. I'm getting my tubes tide after baby girl is out during my c-section. My DH is also planning on getting a vasectomy.
However I will miss hearing baby's heartbeat, feeling movements, and going to ultrasounds appt. but won't miss anything else.

BiggerinRealLife · February 2014

We want about a three year age difference, so we'll probably start trying again when this one's about a year and a half. It took us awhile to get this one conceived.

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