March 2013 Moms
RibbitGrl930
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Anyone else still waiting on first steps?
RibbitGrl930
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Jake is showing absolutely no desire to stand or walk right now, and it hit me in the gut because my friend's daughter, who is a month younger, took her first unassisted steps today, and it seems like there's a new post on here every day it seems of another mother announcing her baby began walking. Also, he's one of the oldest babies in his DC room, but, besides the two newest additions who are weeks old, he's the only one not standing up or walking yet. And every time we go to church or I talk to a coworker we haven't seen in awhile, they ask if he's walking yet. And i feel like a failure by saying no.
On one level, I know parents should never compare their babies to other babies...but I can't help but feel like I've failed him on some level because he doesn't even seem to want to try. He's just over a month from being considered developmentally delayed, and I'm nervous because I'm not sure we can afford the PT his ped is going to order if it gets to that point. There's also a part of me that is mad at him for not wanting to stand or walk while babies we know who are his age or younger seem to have no problem with it...and then I feel like a terrible mother for putting any fault onto him at all.
In my head, I know I'm overreacting and thinking the wrong way. "Just be patient, he'll walk when he's ready."...but I'm growing tired of "being patient" while all the babies around us seem to be cruising along in their development. The mothers of the babies in his daycare class didn't have to wait this long for their babies to be ready. Neither did my friend. So why do I?
Thanks for letting me vent. I just needed to get that out.
On one level, I know parents should never compare their babies to other babies...but I can't help but feel like I've failed him on some level because he doesn't even seem to want to try. He's just over a month from being considered developmentally delayed, and I'm nervous because I'm not sure we can afford the PT his ped is going to order if it gets to that point. There's also a part of me that is mad at him for not wanting to stand or walk while babies we know who are his age or younger seem to have no problem with it...and then I feel like a terrible mother for putting any fault onto him at all.
In my head, I know I'm overreacting and thinking the wrong way. "Just be patient, he'll walk when he's ready."...but I'm growing tired of "being patient" while all the babies around us seem to be cruising along in their development. The mothers of the babies in his daycare class didn't have to wait this long for their babies to be ready. Neither did my friend. So why do I?
Thanks for letting me vent. I just needed to get that out.
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Re: Anyone else still waiting on first steps?
One small adjustment was made and the next day he walked. No therapy, no check up.
Babies get all squished trying to escape the womb. Maybe worth looking into.
In terms of gross motor development, yes, my doc says they consider the label after 1 year if he is not even trying to stand. As for crawling, not traditional crawling, but he does scoot on his belly. He also has low muscle tone.
I also know in my head that I should not wish away his non-walking period....but I'm more worried that something is wrong with him, or that I'm failing him in some way. I'd chase him all over the house to know that's not the case. I coukd really use the exercise anyways.
Yes, we have stood him up behind the coffee table and rested his upper body on it to get him to stand assisted. He even has this push toy that my husband has stood him against and tried to move him along.
Developmental milestone timing tends to run in families, so maybe drs should start comparing babies development to that of their own family members and their local socioeconomic groups instead of mass data collecting across the country and the world??? LOL Seriously, babies develop differently in so many ways.
I understand that you are stressed about this, I would be to. I have very competitive parents and grandparents who raised me to take that kind of comparing seriously and to beat myself up over any tiny thing that might make me feel like I wasn't doing enough. I have had to pull the reigns in a lot as far as that goes and to chill out about it. After all, I do not want to pass on that burdensome perfectionist attitude to my child.
Worrying isn't going to solve anyone's problems. Talk to your pedi about your concerns, ask for some pointers and make a point of doing your own PT daily at home if you and your pedi feel that there will be good in doing so.