FFFC - Will the REAL FFFC please stand up? Please stand up? Please stand up?

Rocknroll64 · February 2014

My confession:

I have never hated sex more than I do right now. H was away all week and I should have wanted it bad last night but I just can't stand it. I feel really really guilty because now we hardly have sex any more and it's all on my end. H says he understands but man, I feel so bad for him. I can't imagine being turned down as much as I turn him down these days. I give him BJs but honestly, I hate doing that too now. I just want my mojo back. Ugh.

RedInLove · February 2014

CamrynnsMommy said:

By "good" I just meant I actually have one.

FFFC: After all the Edible Arrangement talk on here I bought and sent myself an Edible Arrangement.

FFFC2: I may have pointed a FB acquaintance of mine to TB in hopes of her spewing her drama on here (read: it's twins for baby daddy #3, this would be kid 3 & 4 for both of them, so 6 kids total.) or asking a dumb question just for my own amusement.

I extra big puffy heart you today, @CamrynnsMommy!

@spacepotatoes, I have a brooch on my plain black wool winter coat of a snowflake. I've had it for years, and get tons of compliments on it. It's all clearstones, a bit bigger than a half dollar, and sparkles like crazy. I've been asked more than once if it's a family heirloom, to which I reply it is. HA! I bought it at Kohl's easily 10 years ago for probably a few bucks!

@whse13kittens, sometimes you have to do what is best for you and not someone else. I hope your meeting with your brother goes great!!

dp1320 · February 2014

kramja01 said:

Not sure this is a confession, per se, but the ring thread got me thinking--I rarely wear my engagement ring. There is nothing wrong with it--it is a pretty standard princess-cut stone with pave diamonds on the side--but I just don't wear it. I do wear my wedding band on weekdays--it 4mm hammered silver band that is very simple. DH has a matching 6mm band and he loves his. We got them both on Etsy for $50! DH hated all the "real" rings he tried on at jewelers because they were "too heavy" and this one is super light. I often think I should buy him a couple extra since he hunts and fishes and has almost lost his ring a number of times.

My other confession: my parents are taking us to Dinosaur BBQ in Rochester after my 3d/4d ultrasound tomorrow. I am sitting at my desk salivating over the menu instead of doing work.

I lived in Albany for 1.5 years and loooove me some Dinosaur BBQ! Enjoy!!

momthatlifts · February 2014

@typeset I got married at our court house for $30 that my dad happily paid for (you know cause its tradition that the brides parents pay for the wedding) . My whole family was there and the "chapel" was set up so tacky. Had a valentines day banner and a random heart stuck to the wall with a thumb tack. I need to find a picture

cbrust · February 2014

DH went into work late this morning because of the snow-last night I told him I'd get up with him and have breakfast. (I never see him in the mornings because he usually leaves really early). His alarm went off at 9, and I heard it but I was so comfy and warm and still sleepy that I faked sleep so I wouldn't have to get up.

I, too, can't get on board with sex lately. I just don't feel sexy in the slightest and I'm running out of excuses for DH. I feel bad for the guy, but hey. I'm growing a baby over here.

sisterjanet · February 2014

I've got a confession today. Let me get my asbestos suit just in case.

Before people posted threads using the r-word to mean things like dumb, I already knew that it was bad, but I had no idea it was that bad. My uncle has Downs, so I usually think of the r-word as a term belonging to an older generation to actually describe people with developmental delay. That's what my mom and grandma mean when they describe the lady who helped my uncle learn to read, write, and cook by saying she works with retarded people. It used to be the medical word and that's how they use it. I was actually a bit relieved when @kitchencolors posted on one of the other threads that the right term now is 'intellectual disability' because I've heard a lot of options that sound reasonable but had no idea if they were good and wasn't sure who to ask/how to ask without sounding like a jackass.

(Not meaning that as a defense of the yahoos. As I said, I already knew that it's not ok to use when you're being scornful, and I know it hasn't been the medical term for a good long while. I just hadn't realized it was that level of offensive I guess.)

Another, more frivolous confession is that having a library science degree makes me feel extra dumb when I can't find information on my own. I prefer to ask people so sometimes I blank on how to find stuff. sadface.

firebelle26 · February 2014

I never, I mean never, answer my work phone unless it's my boss. (We have caller ID on every phone in the office.) The lady I took over for always has bill collectors calling her old extension (now mine), so if anyone ever says anything I'll just say it was one of her bill collectors calling again. Email me if you want to get a hold of me! Don't care anymore!

ErikaLynn75 · February 2014

My FFFC: I think my husband is disgusting at the moment. It doesn't help that we both have a cold so there's a lot of coughing/ sniffling / phlegm in our house at the moment. But he admitted that his cough has more to do with smoking when he was with his friends last weekend, and not so much an illness. Even though his smoking never bothered me that much, I am suddenly absolutely repulsed by it because he always said he would stop when I got pregnant, and he hasn't yet.

So now every time he coughs I want to smack him. And why does he breathe so loud? And how did I never noticed how the cigarette smell lingers in his clothes/beard? And the snoring? Totes blaming that on the cigarettes too. The rational side of me knows I'm overreacting, but the pregnant hormonal side of me doesn't want him within 5 feet of me until he quits smoking.

sheriot · February 2014

FFFC: I fake orgasms all the time now. Because H never wants to have sex, but he knows I do. So when we actually do have sex, I feel like he's throwing me a bone (har har har) and I just can't get there. I had no idea I'd be such a sexually frustrated pregnant lady. Uncool.

sopsongbird · February 2014

I'm with @ErikaLynn75 on my FFFC

It seems like every thing DH does recently pisses me off. His snoring especially. He has (undiagnosed) sleep apnea and it's freaking me out! Plus, he doesn't shower regularly, doesn't clean up around the small area that we are living in, and I'm just tired of the laziness!! I know I have my moments, but DANG!!! You are 34 years old, ACT LIKE IT!

*rant over*

lauralou3x3 · February 2014

My brain is not functioning enough to think of one today. Bummer.

pistolpackinmomma · February 2014

I think the Olympic outfits are hideous. I am annoyed that regular tv shows are interrupted by the games. I just don't care.

bumpuser10194737 · February 2014

I went to the gym this morning and then came home and promptly devoured enough Twizzlers and Cadbury chocolate to completely negate the calories I burned.

That's all I've got.

Edit: autocorrect fail

ErikaLynn75 · February 2014

I have another one:

I've always heard that you tend to crave the things your body needs. The past week or so I'm totally craving milk/dairy. The thing is, I don't really like to drink milk. So I'm using my craving as an excuse to make/eat a lot of cookies, because that's kind of the only time I like to drink milk. Since Tuesday evening, I have consumed enough cookies to get me through almost an entire gallon of milk. Baby needs it!

sisterjanet · February 2014

sheriot said:

FFFC: I fake orgasms all the time now. Because H never wants to have sex, but he knows I do. So when we actually do have sex, I feel like he's throwing me a bone (har har har) and I just can't get there. I had no idea I'd be such a sexually frustrated pregnant lady. Uncool.

I'm not faking orgasms, but I'm not getting there either. I was trying to explain to DH how sex feels different in ways that don't make sense even to me and it's my parts. (I thought things would be shallower from the baby smooshing everything in his path but it actually feels like a damn ballroom in there. grumble.) It was a strange conversation, but it helped some.

RachelCA29 · February 2014

ErikaLynn75 said:

I have another one:

I've always heard that you tend to crave the things your body needs. The past week or so I'm totally craving milk/dairy. The thing is, I don't really like to drink milk. So I'm using my craving as an excuse to make/eat a lot of cookies, because that's kind of the only time I like to drink milk. Since Tuesday evening, I have consumed enough cookies to get me through almost an entire gallon of milk. Baby needs it!

I've heard that too. When I first got pregnant I was craving salad (Caesar specifically) and raw veggies all the time. And I completely lost my sweet tooth. I'm a big milk drinker anyway, so I just upped my milk to a ridiculous amount.

But now, while maintaining my love of milk, I am only craving sweets lately (perfect timing to do my GD test, huh). And I don't think my body "needed" 5 two-bite brownies yesterday ... A few of us girls from my office did a coffee run this morning and it took all my mental strength not to order 2 doughnuts (a maple dip and a chocolate dip). But maybe this baby is just super Canadian already and needs his maple quota for the week

IBackBevo · February 2014

@sisterjanet - I personally do not think the term retarded is inappropriate when used as a medical term. Retarded is still a term used in the medical field. Any time it is used it simply means delayed. My son was growth retarded. He had a diagnosis if intrauterine growth retardation. Intellectual disability was only changed in the DSM-V in 2013 and the MR term is still used in all of the icd-10 medical billing codes. So if a medical professional uses the term "retarded" in a medical setting, they aren't ignorant or being offensive. That, however, is VERY different and doesn't excuse the use of people using "retarded" in an offensive manner to mean something negative. Just like someone identifying themselves as gay is one thing, but saying, "Ugh, that is sooooo gay!" to refer to something being bad is offensive. CiaraSolei's attempt to say that she was somehow using it in the non - offensive manner was clearly absurd.

pistolpackinmomma · February 2014

ErikaLynn75 said:
I have another one:

I've always heard that you tend to crave the things your body needs. The past week or so I'm totally craving milk/dairy. The thing is, I don't really like to drink milk. So I'm using my craving as an excuse to make/eat a lot of cookies, because that's kind of the only time I like to drink milk. Since Tuesday evening, I have consumed enough cookies to get me through almost an entire gallon of milk. Baby needs it!

My MIL hates yogurt but when pregnant with DH she craved it all the time. She would gag as she ate it but she couldn't quit because she had to have it. With DS, I ate ranch and hot wings (oddly not together) like they were going out if style. Everything from veggies to saltines were dipped in ranch. The hotter the wings the better. Before him I never ate wings or ranch either one. It was weird.

awc1986 · February 2014

pistolpackinmomma said:
I think the Olympic outfits are hideous. I am annoyed that regular tv shows are interrupted by the games. I just don't care.

Try not caring when you live in London during the 2012 Olympics. Oh what's that? You want a seat on the train to work? No chance. The place was awash with volunteers wearing their purple shirts and beige slacks. I did get to see the Olympic torch though when it went past my workplace. It also went down my street, but I didn't live there yet

sopsongbird · February 2014

RachelCA29 said:

ErikaLynn75 said:

I have another one:

I've always heard that you tend to crave the things your body needs. The past week or so I'm totally craving milk/dairy. The thing is, I don't really like to drink milk. So I'm using my craving as an excuse to make/eat a lot of cookies, because that's kind of the only time I like to drink milk. Since Tuesday evening, I have consumed enough cookies to get me through almost an entire gallon of milk. Baby needs it!

I've heard that too. When I first got pregnant I was craving salad (Caesar specifically) and raw veggies all the time. And I completely lost my sweet tooth. I'm a big milk drinker anyway, so I just upped my milk to a ridiculous amount.

:snip:

These...still loving the vinegary stuff tho!

Rocknroll64 · February 2014

sisterjanet said:

sheriot said:

FFFC: I fake orgasms all the time now. Because H never wants to have sex, but he knows I do. So when we actually do have sex, I feel like he's throwing me a bone (har har har) and I just can't get there. I had no idea I'd be such a sexually frustrated pregnant lady. Uncool.

I'm not faking orgasms, but I'm not getting there either. I was trying to explain to DH how sex feels different in ways that don't make sense even to me and it's my parts. (I thought things would be shallower from the baby smooshing everything in his path but it actually feels like a damn ballroom in there. grumble.) It was a strange conversation, but it helped some.

Yup...I just can't get there. Sex feels so different these days and not in a good way.

JessElam · February 2014

sheriot said:

FFFC: I fake orgasms all the time now. Because H never wants to have sex, but he knows I do. So when we actually do have sex, I feel like he's throwing me a bone (har har har) and I just can't get there. I had no idea I'd be such a sexually frustrated pregnant lady. Uncool.

My husband and I have sex like every two or three weeks and sometimes longer. Not that often but it's pretty great when we do. When we were TTC, I was having the most intense and crazy orgasms. Now, no matter how close I feel to getting there, I just can't reach big "O" while having sex. I don't fake it at all and my husband, bless him, will get his jollies off then whip out the hitachi or another toy and take care of me the rest of the way until I do. I'm more frustrated with myself that I can't orgasm now no matter how much I enjoy the moment. Sucks...

Kaylee524 · February 2014

The other day I started craving cupcakes - it was cold and snowy and DH didn't want to go get any, so he found a boxed cake mix in the cupboard and suggested I make that. Instead, I waited for him to go out of town for a few days, bought half a dozen cupcakes on my way home from work, and ate them ALL by myself in two days.

Rocknroll64 · February 2014

You know I love you ladies but to the ones who are dissing the Olympics....really? It happens once every 4 years and you can't even get a tad bit excited about it? There's something about people trying to achieve their lifelong dreams that makes me excited/happy.

I just don't get it, people hate weddings and the Olympics? What's next? Summer vacations?

Empireceo · February 2014

I've had sex once since my BFP. Also, I usually tell people my engagement ring is a family heirloom. I have no clue why I prefer that version to the truth, which is DH loves all things Art Deco, and found an amazing one on the internet.

busterbeagle · February 2014

I have to wok really hard to not let motherhood consume me/become my sole identity. It's especially hard right now because I'm taking a break from school and I'm completely disconnected from it/my career path right now. I know it's not healthy but it's somewhat blissful and I would kind of like to just revel in it while I can.

serdaht · February 2014

I had a tofu and cucumber salad for lunch...and now I am counting down the hours until after my GD test this afternoon when I can hit the burger king drive through and then CVS for some gummy hearts

Kaylee524 · February 2014

Rocknroll64 said:

You know I love you ladies but to the ones who are dissing the Olympics....really? It happens once every 4 years and you can't even get a tad bit excited about it? There's something about people trying to achieve their lifelong dreams that makes me excited/happy.

I just don't get it, people hate weddings and the Olympics? What's next? Summer vacations?

I hate summer vacations. *Insert embarrassed emoticon* I don't like being too warm, so if DH and I are going on vacation by ourselves we normally go in the spring, fall, or winter, and we go somewhere besides the beach. The only times I've been to the beach are family vacations when that's where everyone else wanted to go. Both my SIL and BIL went on cruises to the Bahamas for their honeymoons, and that sounded awful to me. We went to a cabin in the mountains where it was cool.

awc1986 · February 2014

Rocknroll64 said:
You know I love you ladies but to the ones who are dissing the Olympics....really? It happens once every 4 years and you can't even get a tad bit excited about it? There's something about people trying to achieve their lifelong dreams that makes me excited/happy.

I just don't get it, people hate weddings and the Olympics? What's next? Summer vacations?

Once you've been struggling to get to work and back for several weeks and you can't even get tickets to see any of the games in your hometown because the ticket people fucked up the ordering process, the fun wears off quite quickly.

Then your mayor gets stuck on a zip line in a suit and its the most hilarious thing you've ever seen. Google Boris Johnson zip line. It's worth it.,

sopsongbird · February 2014

:snip:
I hate summer vacations. *Insert embarrassed emoticon* I don't like being too warm, so if DH and I are going on vacation by ourselves we normally go in the spring, fall, or winter, and we go somewhere besides the beach. The only times I've been to the beach are family vacations when that's where everyone else wanted to go. Both my SIL and BIL went on cruises to the Bahamas for their honeymoons, and that sounded awful to me. We went to a cabin in the mountains where it was cool.

I hate the beach...more trouble than it's worth. Give me a pool any day!

madelined633 · February 2014

That is honestly have no idea what fffc stands for, but based on reading them in the past, context clues tell me One of the F's must stand for Friday, and the C must be something about confessions???

Also, I deliberately did not eat some bananas I had and let then get brown(ish) so I could make banana bread. Delicious carbs vs actual fruit... Hmmm :-)

kat8805 · February 2014

I honestly have no idea exactly how old my dad is. My SD, sure, his 50th bday was shortly before our wedding, 5 years ago this June. My dad? I can't remember! I know it was a big deal. I know both him and my SM are a few years older than my mom, who will be 50 this May. It's like a never ending trivia game when I think about it.

I have an unhealthy like of GSN. Old lady at heart here.

I don't know if I'm more sad, or mad when I see obese parents with obese children. I feel like being obese yourself is one thing, it's a personal choice then (I'm obese, I get it), but when your entire family is obese (and I'm not talking a little pudgy, I mean your kid couldn't fit in the Play Land even if they wanted to), that's just wrong. My kid is her father. She will eat anything under that sun. Well almost anything, we still have our bad days when she is difficult to feed simply because she is distracted or being difficult in general, but this kid asked for a salad for dinner last night. She wanted everything on it, onions, green peppers, tomatoes, carrots, cheese, etc. and she ate it all up. We've been pretty strict about juice and unnecessary calories, like condiments. And DD is active on her own. But I just hate seeing kids, with too many electronics, eating McD's all day every day, who can't see their own feet.

I can't.

Kaylee524 · February 2014

@madelined633 It stands for Flame-Free Friday Confessions.

madelined633 · February 2014

Kaylee524 said:
@madelined633 It stands for Flame-Free Friday Confessions.

Yes!!! I guessed correctly! Thank you :-)

oscarwao · February 2014

My FFFC is that I cringe when people "upgrade" their wedding/engagement band - I don't get it. Like, you don't want to wear the band with which your husband proposed to you? I'd rather wear something with significance than have a bigger diamond. I suppose if I desperately wanted to have a bigger rock I would save up for some diamond studs or something.

Rocknroll64 · February 2014

Kaylee524 said:

Rocknroll64 said:

You know I love you ladies but to the ones who are dissing the Olympics....really? It happens once every 4 years and you can't even get a tad bit excited about it? There's something about people trying to achieve their lifelong dreams that makes me excited/happy.

I just don't get it, people hate weddings and the Olympics? What's next? Summer vacations?

I hate summer vacations. *Insert embarrassed emoticon* I don't like being too warm, so if DH and I are going on vacation by ourselves we normally go in the spring, fall, or winter, and we go somewhere besides the beach. The only times I've been to the beach are family vacations when that's where everyone else wanted to go. Both my SIL and BIL went on cruises to the Bahamas for their honeymoons, and that sounded awful to me. We went to a cabin in the mountains where it was cool.

I was kinda just picking something that people generally like to prove a point. But I hear ya, I love me a ski vacation in the heart of the winter. Hell, I got married at a ski resort.

RedInLove · February 2014

@sisterjanetsaid:

I've got a confession today. Let me get my asbestos suit just in case.

Before people posted threads using the r-word to mean things like dumb, I already knew that it was bad, but I had no idea it was that bad. My uncle has Downs, so I usually think of the r-word as a term belonging to an older generation to actually describe people with developmental delay. That's what my mom and grandma mean when they describe the lady who helped my uncle learn to read, write, and cook by saying she works with retarded people. It used to be the medical word and that's how they use it. I was actually a bit relieved when @kitchencolors posted on one of the other threads that the right term now is 'intellectual disability' because I've heard a lot of options that sound reasonable but had no idea if they were good and wasn't sure who to ask/how to ask without sounding like a jackass.

(Not meaning that as a defense of the yahoos. As I said, I already knew that it's not ok to use when you're being scornful, and I know it hasn't been the medical term for a good long while. I just hadn't realized it was that level of offensive I guess.)

Another, more frivolous confession is that having a library science degree makes me feel extra dumb when I can't find information on my own. I prefer to ask people so sometimes I blank on how to find stuff. sadface.

Your comment about the r-word is not flame worthy! The word, at one time, was widely acceptable in the public. With time, the negative way these terms have been used has led us to choose other language. I used to work in Medicaid, and at the time we used the term "consumers" to collectively refer to the group of individuals we provided services to - 'We have three new consumers joining our services this month', for example. Now, I believe they're using the term "participants" as the descriptive.

Think of the organization The Arc: ARC used to stand for Association for Retarded Children, then it was the Association for Retarded Citizens. They no longer use it as an acronym, they are just The Arc. Was their intention in the name or their mission ever negative? Of course not! But times have changed, and your generational experience really is a perfect example of that, IMO. You also grew up with your uncle, where like you said the word was used and you all understood it not to be used negatively but rather in the case of your uncle it was a part of his life and therefore would have been addressed or uttered in your family far more frequently.

sisterjanet · February 2014

Rocknroll64 said:

You know I love you ladies but to the ones who are dissing the Olympics....really? It happens once every 4 years and you can't even get a tad bit excited about it? There's something about people trying to achieve their lifelong dreams that makes me excited/happy.

I just don't get it, people hate weddings and the Olympics? What's next? Summer vacations?

Get off my lawn!

I don't get NBC, so no Olympics for me.

And I work evenings, so I would probably not get to see the figure skating anyway.

Lauren1102 · February 2014

I really like the FB look back videos and have watched almost every single one that has been posted. I think it was a really sweet idea.

Kaylee524 · February 2014

kimberlykl2009 said:

My FFFC is that I cringe when people "upgrade" their wedding/engagement band - I don't get it. Like, you don't want to wear the band with which your husband proposed to you? I'd rather wear something with significance than have a bigger diamond. I suppose if I desperately wanted to have a bigger rock I would save up for some diamond studs or something.

This sometimes bugs me too, but I get it in certain situations. When we bought my wedding band, DH had all intentions of buying one later that would match my engagement ring. We got married at 20 and 21 right out of college, and we didn't have the money for him to buy the rings he wanted to buy, so my original wedding band is the tiniest, least expensive white gold band you can buy. It's actually what I'm wearing now instead of my engagement ring and the new band he bought me for our third anniversary, since they don't fit anymore. I love my little engagement ring though - I wouldn't let him upgrade it even if he wanted to.

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