Any random thoughts today?

melody921 · February 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

@stasi Yes, I would say so. My friend made a comment equating the motivation of being a good person with being Christian (which I'm not). I don't think she meant it to be hurtful, but I've been thinking about it since then.

I think people who feel a strong attachment to their faith, use that as their reasoning for why they act a certain way. I don't think it means a non-religious person can't also be a good person. And she probably didn't mean it that way, but is just stuck in her own experiences.

MississippiCatfish · February 2014

Ed's been asleep for 3 hours and it's the longest nap he's EVER taken. This is amazing.

Stasi · February 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

@stasi Yes, I would say so. My friend made a comment equating the motivation of being a good person with being Christian (which I'm not). I don't think she meant it to be hurtful, but I've been thinking about it since then.

@mroxy0628 Oh that just stinks, big big hugs to you!! I'm sure she didn't mean it as a personal attack, but I can see how that would hurt your feelings. My DH and his family are atheists and have been forever (well, 2 generations back now). When my BIL met his wife's extremely Catholic family, they asked him what actually stopped him from murdering and stealing from people if he didn't believe in God. It just illustrates how ridiculous that line of thinking is.

There are wonderful virtues to Christianity and religion in general, but that doesn't mean that someone who isn't religious is without these virtues, they just obtain them from other places...that's all.

Stasi · February 2014

cheeseandrice said:

I miss going to church. Which is weird, because I haven't gone in years. I think it's more the lack of community that makes me miss it.

Me too. I just haven't gone since I moved away from home, because it doesn't feel like a community to me when I know no one and go alone...I would love to find a church and actually take the time to get to know people there and make it my own.

MississippiCatfish · February 2014

IForgotMyLogIn said:
DS has started say "Peas" which is possibly "Please" but also could be "Cheese" - I have no idea half the time.

Isn't it awesome. I love that no one else has a clue that "boododo" means bulldozer and "I oooo" means I love you. I feel like an official mom for knowing his secret language:)

Stasi · February 2014

BunkinMama said:

@Stasi is so pretty!

Oh jeez. You're too kind @bunkinmama

BeebopandBuddy · February 2014

harti09 said:
I got to Skype with DH last night. It was the first time we've seen him in a while. The kids don't recognize him, or really know who he is. It breaks his heart. He knew it'd be like this, but I still feel like he holds onto a hope that they'll respond differently.

I talk about him all the time. The kids know of a "daddy", but they don't associate the word with much more than a picture. DH looks completely different right now too - full beard, long hair. The kids aren't capable of putting it all together.

DH is nervous to see them in person. He's afraid they won't like him. It was a really depressing Skype session.

That must be so hard. I'm sorry. I'm sure they will get acquainted with him quickly and it'll be ok.

melody921 · February 2014

I'm sorry @harti09, that's hard. I'm sure they'll feel an attachment quickly once they see him. It's hard at that age to really get it.

willy_gert · February 2014

Harti, I am so sorry that you guys are having to deal with that! I can't imagine what it is like for all of you! HUGS!!!!

Kissty · February 2014

@harti09 I hate to hear this. (I haven't been around in a while) When is he coming home? I'm sure once he is there things will fall into place just.

pharmer78 · February 2014

@willy_gert Cruz had his tubes put in on Tuesday and it was a breeze. They took him back for the surgery and literally 7 minutes later the doctor was finished and in the waiting room telling me how well he did. Cruz was a little grumpy afterwards until he had something to eat, then was back to his crazy self. I'm sure Luci will do wonderfully!

@BeebopandBuddy I can totally relate to how you felt after your daughter's comment. Sometimes I think I'm not strong enough to be a parent, because damn, my kid can really hurt my feelings!

pharmer78 · February 2014

harti09 said:

Kissty said:

@harti09 I hate to hear this. (I haven't been around in a while) When is he coming home? I'm sure once he is there things will fall into place just.
We don't exactly know. Unfortunately the return date is open ended to an extent. We're hoping he'll be home before mid summer.

I can't imagine how difficult this must be for all of you.

My BIL is in the service and there is always a bit of an adjustment when he returns (he has 3 young boys), but in what seems like a blink of an eye, the family falls right back into place.

Holly_1007 · February 2014

Just wanted to send you a hug @harti09. That sounds so heartbreaking and disappointing. I hope that heis home soon and the kids adjusts well. Thank you and your family for your sacrifice.

watercolor5 · February 2014

@harti09 When I deployed they used to tell parents to not put pressure on themselves to take their role in the family immediately and just kind of watch how things are running like a fly on the wall for a week or two. Before he knows it he'll feel at home and have an awesome relationship with his kids, but it's ok if that takes time. Sorry you're going through the double separation of you and your DH and your kids and their Daddy- you've already been so strong.

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Stasi · February 2014

Hugs for you @harti09 I bet when he's home they warm up to him faster than you'd imagine!

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