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Shortened cervix?

coromblecoromble member
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I have a dear friend that has struggled with fertility challenges.  Long story short, she was able to conceive through IVF.  She was pregnant with twins, but then they discovered that she had a shortened cervix and she lost both of the twins at around 20 weeks :(  It was obviously devastating for her and her husband.  They just discovered that one of the placenta's had an infection, which may have come about because of the shortened cervix.  

So here are my questions…has anyone ever dealt with this?  I had never heard of it before.  Do you know if she will be able to carry other children?  I know they have one embryo left and she would really like to try again.  I just wondered if that is possible or if the shortened cervix means that she can't carry a pregnancy to full term.  

While I'm asking these questions…do you have any advice for me as I talk with her and try to encourage her?  It's difficult because I have an 18 month old and I just found out that I am pregnant again.  I know that I will have to tell her, but I just feel awful about it.  I just don't want to cause her more pain…

Thank you.
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Re: Shortened cervix?

  • BankerBSNBankerBSN member
    In situations like this she would most likely be a candidate for a cerclage.  That is when the literally place a stitch in the cervix to keep it closed.  It is normally done between 12-16 weeks.  I am sure her Doctor will bring this up at her follow up visit.

    My best advice is to keep an open ear and be a shoulder to cry on.  Also give her space if she needs it.

    I wish your friend the best.

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  • MrsZ816MrsZ816 member
    I'm so sorry your friend is dealing with this, you are so kind to seek advice in dealing with her. I dealt with a late loss after ivf last year (actually exactly one year ago today) due to cervical issues. I have been told that I will have a cerclage and possible bed rest in future pregnancies. Of course there are no guarantees but those are normally successful and sometimes progesterone shots weekly are also added. As far as what your friend needs, everyone is different so just try to read her cues or ask her or her husband. I would wait to tell her for a few weeks but definitely tell her privately so she can react however she needs to. I know pregnancy announcements sting for me and it isn't that I am not happy for others, I am just sad for me.
    Married 8/2009, TTC since 4/2010
    ME: 30, DOR- Low amh, normal fsh/afc DH: 30, morphology issue
    IVF #1- BFN
    IVF #2- BFP!!! Beautiful baby girl became an angel on 2/6/13 at 17.5 weeks due to PPROM/IC
    IVF #3- New RE... February March 2014! 8r/6m/6f. Transferred one and have one frostie! BFP! EDD 12/7/14
    **PAIF/SAIF welcome    **

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  • coromblecoromble member
    MrsZ816 said:
    I'm so sorry your friend is dealing with this, you are so kind to seek advice in dealing with her. I dealt with a late loss after ivf last year (actually exactly one year ago today) due to cervical issues. I have been told that I will have a cerclage and possible bed rest in future pregnancies. Of course there are no guarantees but those are normally successful and sometimes progesterone shots weekly are also added. As far as what your friend needs, everyone is different so just try to read her cues or ask her or her husband. I would wait to tell her for a few weeks but definitely tell her privately so she can react however she needs to. I know pregnancy announcements sting for me and it isn't that I am not happy for others, I am just sad for me.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story with me and for your advice.  I am so, so sorry for your loss.  We lost my nephew at 7 months and it was devastating for our family, so while I don't know exactly what you've been through, I have been through the loss of a little one and know how painful it is.  I pray that your next pregnancy will be a healthy one and that you will be blessed with a baby!  
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  • MrsZ816MrsZ816 member
    coromble said:
    MrsZ816 said:
    I'm so sorry your friend is dealing with this, you are so kind to seek advice in dealing with her. I dealt with a late loss after ivf last year (actually exactly one year ago today) due to cervical issues. I have been told that I will have a cerclage and possible bed rest in future pregnancies. Of course there are no guarantees but those are normally successful and sometimes progesterone shots weekly are also added. As far as what your friend needs, everyone is different so just try to read her cues or ask her or her husband. I would wait to tell her for a few weeks but definitely tell her privately so she can react however she needs to. I know pregnancy announcements sting for me and it isn't that I am not happy for others, I am just sad for me.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story with me and for your advice.  I am so, so sorry for your loss.  We lost my nephew at 7 months and it was devastating for our family, so while I don't know exactly what you've been through, I have been through the loss of a little one and know how painful it is.  I pray that your next pregnancy will be a healthy one and that you will be blessed with a baby!  

    Thanks!
    Married 8/2009, TTC since 4/2010
    ME: 30, DOR- Low amh, normal fsh/afc DH: 30, morphology issue
    IVF #1- BFN
    IVF #2- BFP!!! Beautiful baby girl became an angel on 2/6/13 at 17.5 weeks due to PPROM/IC
    IVF #3- New RE... February March 2014! 8r/6m/6f. Transferred one and have one frostie! BFP! EDD 12/7/14
    **PAIF/SAIF welcome    **

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  • Emily771Emily771 member
    i don't know much about this problem but know that the lenght plays an important role while carring a baby. your friend should find the reason for this illness and if nothing could be done then she can try surrogacy.
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