UO-Thursday!

tealowl · February 2014

Salsera29 said:

BPaws said:

Salsera29 said:

ghostof5letters said:

Salsera29 said:

Oh I thought of another one...this is kind of a confession, but I think it's also going to be unpopular. If we have a boy I'm totally going to encourage him to play hockey or football because those are the sports I wouldn't mind sitting through 5 times a week or getting up at 6 on a Saturday to go to. He can start little...like 5? Then if he doesn't like it we won't push him to continue.

He's gonna take dance classes too while he's too young to think that boys don't do that. :-)

Ice Hockey is the biggest time suck out of all the childhood sports. It's also the most expensive, but oh my gawd the time traveling and games and practices...ugh.

I do agree with you about it being one of the best to watch though.
Oh yeah I know (sort of). My brother played for 13 years. And besides the money and travel, God do they STINK. I used to just walk past the laundry room of my parent's house and want to keel over from the stench. It was like something died in his skates and then was left out in the sun. But so much fun :-)

S/O has played hockey since grade school. He is GOOD at it. He still plays in small adult leagues.

If we have a girl, I hope she wants to play hockey, because he wants a hockey kid so bad.
As a former player and coach, I can say girls can be just as much fun to watch as boys!
You guys are going to kill me now...it would make me SO NERVOUS to have a girl playing with boys. Maybe not when they're little, but as soon as the boys are bigger and stronger...no no no. I used to have mini heart attacks every time my brother took a hard hit. I could not handle my daughter getting slammed against the boards by a boy. Just no.

Girls are tougher than you think. My girlfriends who played softball were brutal. I still can't get some of their injuries out of my head. Some were tiny and tough, others were big and tough!

Salsera29 · February 2014

ghostof5letters said:

I hope to keep my child busy as shit through high school. Dabble in everything they possibly can in order to identify things they are passionate about.

It's a bonus that most of this will keep them active and off drugs (statistically speaking).

Absolutely.

Skeemer · February 2014

jessa8907 said:

bunkgirl said:

PenelopeSnuz77 said:

I think waiting until marriage to have sex is a huge risk. Chemistry is a huge factor in marriage longevity.

We waited. But it wasn't like DH had the plague, we had plenty of contact...just not sex. We had no worries about our sexual chemistry. We've been married for 8 years so I think we'll make it.

We didn't wait but I think there are many, many, many things you can do with a partner without having sex to determine whether or not you have sexual chemistry.

We waited & we're both glad we did. As a pp said it isn't the only way to know there is chemistry. It's nearly been six years of marriage & when his booty calls I answer!

katnipeverclean · February 2014

TallMomma29 said:

TurtleMonsters said:

I agree with those UO's

I hate name posts. More over, I hate middle name posts. If I opened them, I just want to post a name that rhymed ridiculously.

I don't really get the impulse to ask complete strangers on the Internet for name suggestions. Every single person will like different names and have different preferences. And what are you going to tell your kid? "We ultimately named you this because a stranger on the Internet suggested it and I thought it was cute?" But to each their own ;-).

Well in my case I just asked because we were getting no where on a middle name! You never know what someone might throw out there that might be perfect!

cakebatter27 · February 2014

SuperTinkerham said:
I'm tired of the chevron zig zag pattern. It's way over done and going to be out of style very soon (I hope). I'm sick of it on Pinterest.

Gasp! I love it! I actually like regular stripes better. The nursery is in a slanted ceiling room and DH is having a fit because I want a striped wall!

ghostof5letters · February 2014

The Canadians are cracking me up today.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=effb2JYiKXM

Skeemer · February 2014

My UO - If homeschooled kids are socially awkward & uneducated it is the parents fault.

While homeschooling has grown by tremendous leaps & bounds in the past years, I hate hearing that homeschooled kids are generally socially awkward & uneducated. It's not the kid's fault that the parents did not enter them into group activites, sports, social events & etc & instead chose to keep them holed up in a bubble. It's also not the kid's fault that their parents didn't make them freakin' do their work.

Kids will do whatever they can get away with & if you're not a strong, dedicated parent making sure their work gets done then send your child to another school source. I have seen great success & terrible results from homeschooling. The difference has always been in the parents.

tealowl · February 2014

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

cookieinva · February 2014

Ok ao on extra-curriculars, I din't have a pre-set idea of how many I will make or allow my kid to do. We'll see what he wants to do when we get there. Right now he does karate through preschool, so during preschool time, and swim lessons, both his choice. If he wants to do lots of activities and can handle it I will not stop him.

Sometimes when I take DS out he is in dirty clothes. Why? Well those are times when I pick him up from preschool and we go do something without going home and changing his clothes first. Guess what? They get pretty filthy at preschool. I don't send him in that way but I don't have time change him every time we have to go somewhere. He's a kid. He gets dirty. I am ok with that.

My UO is that I am not all that into the Winter Games but I do like curling.

Skeemer · February 2014

SarahVol131 said:
Well in my case I just asked because we were getting no where on a middle name! You never know what someone might throw out there that might be perfect!

Someone on the BNB gave us the perfect middle name for a girl. Turns out I'd always liked the name but never considered pairing it with the first name we chose.

TugboatSheila · February 2014

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.

susanskowera · February 2014

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

I think this is a great approach! I'm the type of person when you tell them not to do something, I'd like to know why I'm not supposed to do it. I think hearing and seeing these things lets children make their own opinions on stuff. A lot of things I was told to not do when I was little, I ended up trying, because I was curious. The things I was told not to do and shown why it was a bad idea, I generally stayed away from. Seeing things and hearing about them first hand makes things more real.

susanskowera · February 2014

I'm not really into Valentines Day. I'd rather my husband bring me flowers or take me out to dinner on a random, unexpected night of the week rather then have him feel he's 'expected' to do these things on Feb 14th of every year. I just don't get all the hype about it.

I hate Shamrock Shakes. Like, loathe entirely.

alygoo615 · February 2014

Alfredo sauce is an abomination.
:O if I could curse you in Italian I would! Alfredo sauce is my life! ETA: my grandmother (Italian immigrant) would lose her mind if she saw that lol

Alfredo sauce is too much. Most marinara sauce is too much. When you mix the two together- HOLY CRAP. I go to CiCi's (all you can eat pizza/salad/pasta) just so that I can mix all of the sauce together.

ghostof5letters · February 2014

**Ducks for cover**

Ha! I was trying to find a GIF for "ducks for cover" and this is all I got.

PenelopeSnuz77 · February 2014

Salsera29 said:

BPaws said:

Salsera29 said:

ghostof5letters said:

Salsera29 said:

Oh I thought of another one...this is kind of a confession, but I think it's also going to be unpopular. If we have a boy I'm totally going to encourage him to play hockey or football because those are the sports I wouldn't mind sitting through 5 times a week or getting up at 6 on a Saturday to go to. He can start little...like 5? Then if he doesn't like it we won't push him to continue.

He's gonna take dance classes too while he's too young to think that boys don't do that. :-)

Ice Hockey is the biggest time suck out of all the childhood sports. It's also the most expensive, but oh my gawd the time traveling and games and practices...ugh.

I do agree with you about it being one of the best to watch though.
Oh yeah I know (sort of). My brother played for 13 years. And besides the money and travel, God do they STINK. I used to just walk past the laundry room of my parent's house and want to keel over from the stench. It was like something died in his skates and then was left out in the sun. But so much fun :-)

S/O has played hockey since grade school. He is GOOD at it. He still plays in small adult leagues.

If we have a girl, I hope she wants to play hockey, because he wants a hockey kid so bad.
As a former player and coach, I can say girls can be just as much fun to watch as boys!

You guys are going to kill me now...it would make me SO NERVOUS to have a girl playing with boys. Maybe not when they're little, but as soon as the boys are bigger and stronger...no no no. I used to have mini heart attacks every time my brother took a hard hit. I could not handle my daughter getting slammed against the boards by a boy. Just no.

This was me!! I played in a (99%) boys hockey league for four years until I was 14. I played defense and actually got away with more checking because I was a girl.

In the end, sweaty hockey helmet hair gave way to my cheerleading uniform. They were starting to interfere with each other and I loved competitive cheerleading more.

alygoo615 · February 2014

Oh I thought of another one...this is kind of a confession, but I think it's also going to be unpopular. If we have a boy I'm totally going to encourage him to play hockey or football because those are the sports I wouldn't mind sitting through 5 times a week or getting up at 6 on a Saturday to go to. He can start little...like 5? Then if he doesn't like it we won't push him to continue.

He's gonna take dance classes too while he's too young to think that boys don't do that. :-)

I'll one up you and make myself sound like an incompetent mom... my husband wants J in baseball (he played his whole life) but we both agree that if it isn't for him, we'll find something else. Before I realized they were the same season, I wanted him to play lacrosse. For no other reason than because the Lax boys were always the popular and well-liked kids. They all had good grades, were nice, and they went to good colleges. How's that for ridiculous.

jensavicci · February 2014

JP27 said:

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.
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Ok this is sort of a confession but it piggybacks your comment.

When it comes to teaching my kids about sex, I pretend I've got stuff under control but in reality, I'm scared to death to talk about it. I mean, I know I have to talk to them and I really want to because, I'll be damned if some other kids talk to them about it before DW and I do but, it's just so weird for me knowing that one day, my kids will be sexually active. It freaks me out actually. I just don't want them to abuse it and I don't want them getting hurt. Most of all, I want them to have respect for their bodies. I want to be firm with them about it but I don't want to scare them away. I also want to be calm and easy about it but I don't want them to not take me seriously. I'm just freaked the eff out!

ghostof5letters · February 2014

jensavicci said:

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.
--------------------------------- Ok this is sort of a confession but it piggybacks your comment. When it comes to teaching my kids about sex, I pretend I've got stuff under control but in reality, I'm scared to death to talk about it. I mean, I know I have to talk to them and I really want to because, I'll be damned if some other kids talk to them about it before DW and I do but, it's just so weird for me knowing that one day, my kids will be sexually active. It freaks me out actually. I just don't want them to abuse it and I don't want them getting hurt. Most of all, I want them to have respect for their bodies. I want to be firm with them about it but I don't want to scare them away. I also want to be calm and easy about it but I don't want them to not take me seriously. I'm just freaked the eff out!

I'm more scared of periods than sex talk with my daughters.

mrscurlygurl · February 2014

cakebatter27 said:

Mines going off what I was barbecued yesterday for.... I think it's fantastic when you look super pregnant already. I like big bumps and I cannot lie.

hahaha...barbecued. Love you cake!

Jesse835235 · February 2014

My UO -- I hate weight gain posts. You generally have what the posters' body types are like, so how can you make a comparison to yourself? "Oh Jane Doe and I are both 18 weeks along and have gained 20 pounds, so I feel better about myself." Who knows if Jane Doe was underweight and Sally Sue was overweight? I just don't understand the purpose.

ghostof5letters · February 2014

@ghostof5letters That gif is the best thing I've seen all day.

I may use it every time I say something flammable.

Big+Lil · February 2014

I don't believe in homework, especially busy work. I think kids should spend their evenings with positive family time, scouts, church, sports or other outside interests. I think all kids should read nightly.

Kids learn more about themselves and others, increase their confidence and have more positivity about school when involved in their community.

When you think about your childhood, no one has awesome memories about spelling worksheets or doing lame subject and predicate underlining.

ghostof5letters · February 2014

Big+Lil said:

I don't believe in homework, especially busy work. I think kids should spend their evenings with positive family time, scouts, church, sports or other outside interests. I think all kids should read nightly.

Kids learn more about themselves and others, increase their confidence and have more positivity about school when involved in their community.

When you think about your childhood, no one has awesome memories about spelling worksheets or doing lame subject and predicate underlining.

*high five* I'm anti homework too!

Seriously, I was looking at a pre-school for my 2.5 year old and they said they sent home one worksheet of homework every night. That was the end of the discussion for me. No way was I going to select them.

Big+Lil · February 2014

ghostof5letters said:

Big+Lil said:

I don't believe in homework, especially busy work. I think kids should spend their evenings with positive family time, scouts, church, sports or other outside interests. I think all kids should read nightly.

Kids learn more about themselves and others, increase their confidence and have more positivity about school when involved in their community.

When you think about your childhood, no one has awesome memories about spelling worksheets or doing lame subject and predicate underlining.

*high five* I'm anti homework too!

Seriously, I was looking at a pre-school for my 2.5 year old and they said they sent home one worksheet of homework every night. That was the end of the discussion for me. No way was I going to select them.

I forgot the good part, I taught upper elementary for over 10 years.

No preschooler needs a worksheet, dumbasses.

jensavicci · February 2014

ghostof5letters said:

jensavicci said:

JP27 said:

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.
---------------------------------

Ok this is sort of a confession but it piggybacks your comment.

When it comes to teaching my kids about sex, I pretend I've got stuff under control but in reality, I'm scared to death to talk about it. I mean, I know I have to talk to them and I really want to because, I'll be damned if some other kids talk to them about it before DW and I do but, it's just so weird for me knowing that one day, my kids will be sexually active. It freaks me out actually. I just don't want them to abuse it and I don't want them getting hurt. Most of all, I want them to have respect for their bodies. I want to be firm with them about it but I don't want to scare them away. I also want to be calm and easy about it but I don't want them to not take me seriously. I'm just freaked the eff out!

I'm more scared of periods than sex talk with my daughters.
------------------

Why? Although in the end they're both connected. It's the circle of life. But more like the cycle of life....

TurtleMonsters · February 2014

ghostof5letters said:

Big+Lil said:

I don't believe in homework, especially busy work. I think kids should spend their evenings with positive family time, scouts, church, sports or other outside interests. I think all kids should read nightly.

Kids learn more about themselves and others, increase their confidence and have more positivity about school when involved in their community.

When you think about your childhood, no one has awesome memories about spelling worksheets or doing lame subject and predicate underlining.

*high five* I'm anti homework too!

Seriously, I was looking at a pre-school for my 2.5 year old and they said they sent home one worksheet of homework every night. That was the end of the discussion for me. No way was I going to select them.

Agree...though I have read just a little on the reverse home work (and I think this is how it works)- older children read new over info they will be learning about the next day. I think that is far more effective. Then if they don't get it doesn't matter, teacher will TEACH it the next day and at least they'll have had an intro to the concepts and vocabulary, then get to practice under teacher supervision.

ghostof5letters · February 2014

jensavicci said:

jensavicci said:

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.
--------------------------------- Ok this is sort of a confession but it piggybacks your comment. When it comes to teaching my kids about sex, I pretend I've got stuff under control but in reality, I'm scared to death to talk about it. I mean, I know I have to talk to them and I really want to because, I'll be damned if some other kids talk to them about it before DW and I do but, it's just so weird for me knowing that one day, my kids will be sexually active. It freaks me out actually. I just don't want them to abuse it and I don't want them getting hurt. Most of all, I want them to have respect for their bodies. I want to be firm with them about it but I don't want to scare them away. I also want to be calm and easy about it but I don't want them to not take me seriously. I'm just freaked the eff out!

I'm more scared of periods than sex talk with my daughters.
------------------ Why? Although in the end they're both connected. It's the circle of life. But more like the cycle of life....

Personal phobia. I'm weird.

AutumnBonfire · February 2014

People who don't like alfredo sauce and Shamrock Shakes have broken taste buds.

DH wants DS to play football because he did. I can't think of anything more horrible than football. I think it is the most boring thing on earth. Plus, and I'm basing this opinion solely on my high school experience, football players are obnoxious as are their mothers.

I'm all for sex before marriage, but I really don't care what others choose to do. There is more to marriage than sex and a relationship can certainly be developed without it.

My UO: I hate the stupid names for recipes on the internet (mostly Pinterest), like "crack" whatever, "better than sex," "orgasm in a bowl," "slutty" whatever. Shit like that. It just sounds stupid and juvenile. Plus it does not actually describe the food. I ate a pie someone made called "better than sex pie." It was chocolate pudding in a graham cracker crust with whipped cream on top. That is not really an amazing recipe. It was not better than sex (well, maybe sex with some people).

TugboatSheila · February 2014

jensavicci said:

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.
--------------------------------- Ok this is sort of a confession but it piggybacks your comment. When it comes to teaching my kids about sex, I pretend I've got stuff under control but in reality, I'm scared to death to talk about it. I mean, I know I have to talk to them and I really want to because, I'll be damned if some other kids talk to them about it before DW and I do but, it's just so weird for me knowing that one day, my kids will be sexually active. It freaks me out actually. I just don't want them to abuse it and I don't want them getting hurt. Most of all, I want them to have respect for their bodies. I want to be firm with them about it but I don't want to scare them away. I also want to be calm and easy about it but I don't want them to not take me seriously. I'm just freaked the eff out!

Oh I completely understand, but I really don't want it to be weird or taboo. I want them to know what to do, how to be respectful of themselves and others and how to be safe. I want their first time to be with someone they genuinely have feelings for and NOT DO the things I did. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend because he was cheating on me and I thought well, maybe if I had sex with him... horrible horrible no good decision made in an unhealthy relationship based on self esteem issues. And sex was a guilty, not-to-be-talked-about topic in my house so I just want my kids to have a healthy view.

Even though I feel this way I totally have some of the same fears you do. Because it's a BFD!

katnipeverclean · February 2014

AutumnBonfire said:

People who don't like alfredo sauce and Shamrock Shakes have broken taste buds.
DH wants DS to play football because he did. I can't think of anything more horrible than football. I think it is the most boring thing on earth. Plus, and I'm basing this opinion solely on my high school experience, football players are obnoxious as are their mothers.
I'm all for sex before marriage, but I really don't care what others choose to do. There is more to marriage than sex and a relationship can certainly be developed without it.
My UO: I hate the stupid names for recipes on the internet (mostly Pinterest), like "crack" whatever, "better than sex," "orgasm in a bowl," "slutty" whatever. Shit like that. It just sounds stupid and juvenile. Plus it does not actually describe the food. I ate a pie someone made called "better than sex pie." It was chocolate pudding in a graham cracker crust with whipped cream on top. That is not really an amazing recipe. It was not better than sex (well, maybe sex with some people).

Hey now! That's my mother and my brother there!

Just joshin with you, I knew plenty of obnoxious football players and their mothers!

ashcross · February 2014

UO-Completely over the Winter Olympics. I might even boycott watching it. Everything I read about the Winter Olympics in Russia is negative. Homophobic hate crimes, mis-treatment of dogs and other animals, on & on.

ksuRN09 · February 2014

jensavicci said:

JP27 said:

tealowl said:

Ok, I have a UO - I have a different approach when talking to my kid (soon to be kids) about drugs. I won't be a hypocrite about it. I've done drugs (although I wasn't a frequent partaker, but I did them), so I feel telling DD about my experiences with drugs and cigarettes and alcohol will help her make future decisions about them. I can't stop her from them. I hope she never smokes cigarettes or does hard drugs, but I'm not as concerned about mild marijuana and alcohol use when she's a teen or young adult.

She sees me drink responsibly at home, so we've talked about that. We've talked about how marijuana helps sick people and that it's legal in some places, just not IL (yet).

She doesn't know what I've done YET, but she will. She doesn't know that I have many friends that smoke pot daily (and are sucessful, make more than me, have children, etc.), but she will soon.

That doesn't mean I'm going to be the 'cool mom' and let teens drink at my house, but she's obviously going to be in situations where she needs to make good decisions.

This is how I feel about sex. I still, to this day, have never even heard my parents say the word "sex", and I'm a married woman with a baby on the way. I want my kids to be prepared and if our school system teaches abstinence only education you better believe I'll be telling them a more well-rounded approach at home. I want them to respect themselves and their partners, I want them to know how to handle sex and be safe. It's like you said, I can't stop them from doing it but I can certainly educate them so they can make smart decisions.

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Ok this is sort of a confession but it piggybacks your comment.

When it comes to teaching my kids about sex, I pretend I've got stuff under control but in reality, I'm scared to death to talk about it. I mean, I know I have to talk to them and I really want to because, I'll be damned if some other kids talk to them about it before DW and I do but, it's just so weird for me knowing that one day, my kids will be sexually active. It freaks me out actually. I just don't want them to abuse it and I don't want them getting hurt. Most of all, I want them to have respect for their bodies. I want to be firm with them about it but I don't want to scare them away. I also want to be calm and easy about it but I don't want them to not take me seriously. I'm just freaked the eff out!

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I was just about to write something exactly like this! I totally agree that my kids need to be informed so they make good decisions but when it comes to actually having that conversation, I'm scared to death. I can't even imagine HOW to have that conversation. I think it probably has something to do with the fact that my parents never talked to us about sex, drugs, or alcohol. It was just a "Don't do it" comment and that was it. I still cringe when talking about anything awkward with my parents. I don't want it to be like that with my kids. If they have a question about something like that, I would much rather they ask me than anyone else.

AutumnBonfire · February 2014

Big+Lil said:

I don't believe in homework, especially busy work. I think kids should spend their evenings with positive family time, scouts, church, sports or other outside interests. I think all kids should read nightly.

Kids learn more about themselves and others, increase their confidence and have more positivity about school when involved in their community.

When you think about your childhood, no one has awesome memories about spelling worksheets or doing lame subject and predicate underlining.

Excessive homework can be a problem, but kids need to practice the skills and review the information they learned during the school day. For kids who retain what they learned after hearing it once, its busy work, but a lot of kids aren't like that. I've sat in a lot of meetings where parents complain their kids are failing and then complain about homework and support their kids not completing it. I've also seen students (high school age) who are failing a class because they get 0's for homework, but get grades in the 90's on tests. Part of me wants to slap the students for being lazy and part of me wants to slap the teachers for failing kids who clearly grasp the ideas taught. Homework and studying is part of school and the educational process.

Big+Lil · February 2014

Kids shouldn't have homework for content they haven't mastered. It serves no purpose.

I taught 33+ students in an extremely low socioeconomic area with over 60% ELL. Giving them busy work to do wasn't going to cut the mustard.

ghostof5letters · February 2014

AutumnBonfire said:

Big+Lil said:

I don't believe in homework, especially busy work. I think kids should spend their evenings with positive family time, scouts, church, sports or other outside interests. I think all kids should read nightly.

Kids learn more about themselves and others, increase their confidence and have more positivity about school when involved in their community.

When you think about your childhood, no one has awesome memories about spelling worksheets or doing lame subject and predicate underlining.

Excessive homework can be a problem, but kids need to practice the skills and review the information they learned during the school day. For kids who retain what they learned after hearing it once, its busy work, but a lot of kids aren't like that. I've sat in a lot of meetings where parents complain their kids are failing and then complain about homework and support their kids not completing it. I've also seen students (high school age) who are failing a class because they get 0's for homework, but get grades in the 90's on tests. Part of me wants to slap the students for being lazy and part of me wants to slap the teachers for failing kids who clearly grasp the ideas taught. Homework and studying is part of school and the educational process.

I've always hated homework, and the above example is 100% my life in high school. I may go postal if my child who is testing wonderfully is failing over homework. Seriously, apeshit.

iris427 · February 2014

My daughter has been asking a lot of questions about boys vs. girls, how the baby got in my tummy, how we will know whether it's a sister or brother, how the baby will come out, etc. I felt awkward answering them but I really want to be a good source of information for her and not make it sound like a big secretive thing.

So I went out and bought this book. We read it together and it eliminated all of the "Um...uh" awkwardness of trying to think of what to say. It had good age-appropriate information and illustrations. And it touches on things like cesarean birth, conceiving through IF treatments, different types of families (including with same sex parents), etc. So I really like it and my new parenting plan is to buy a book every time we have to answer awkward questions haha.

chrinikki1 · February 2014

jessa8907 said:

SuperTinkerham said:

I'm tired of the chevron zig zag pattern. It's way over done and going to be out of style very soon (I hope). I'm sick of it on Pinterest.

Also I hate people that treat Facebook like Pinterest. I don't care about the Oreo cake or whatever you're never going to make.

Amen. This is one of my pet peeves. JUST GET A PINTEREST!! It's so much easier to find things on than scrolling through your Facebook timeline.

Totally Agree!! ...AND people who post once on Instagram then a second time on Facebook of the exact same thing... So ANNOYING!! Or 1000 pictures of ur car. My car was at this parking lot, my car was then parked next to this hot car, oh, let me be standing next to my car parked in the garage.... All double posted on Instagram and FB. Ffffff!!! We get it- u'r obsessed w ur car. We're not so shut the F up.

And don't get ur feelings hurt when I delete ur ass (shot out to DH's boss!)

yurmom · February 2014

milestrellas said:
I kind of miss the "Join our FB group" ladies that like to pop in every once in a while. I saved some awesome gifs to use for their next thread and I'm sad I haven't had a chance to use them.

Definitely...it was interesting to see who they'd send in the line of fire next.

Skeemer · February 2014

chrinikki1 said:

Totally Agree!! ...AND people who post once on Instagram then a second time on Facebook of the exact same thing... So ANNOYING!! Or 1000 pictures of ur car. My car was at this parking lot, my car was then parked next to this hot car, oh, let me be standing next to my car parked in the garage.... All double posted on Instagram and FB. Ffffff!!! We get it- u'r obsessed w ur car. We're not so shut the F up. And don't get ur feelings hurt when I delete ur ass (shot out to DH's boss!)

Also the 304 pictures of kids that are in the same location, the same outfit, the same chair but the kid's head is tilted slightly right in this one. In pic #2, the child has a slight smirk. In pic #3, the child glanced to the left. In pic #4, the child glanced to the right. *sigh* There's no need to unload your whole camera onto FB. ~X(

ETA: No one thinks a picture of your food at a restaraunt looks as delicious as you do. It looks like a giant glob to the rest of us.

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