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peanutmuse · February 2014

Let's do this. I am in a perfect UO mood this morning ... Although I do hope to get another 2 hrs of sleep, so maybe the crankies will go away after that.

peanutmuse · February 2014

I think it is super rude to post a question here and not thank everyone for their input. I don't mean you have to acknowledge every person individually. Just a general thank you message is fine. I just can't stand when I see a whole bunch of people take the time to respond to a question and then the OP responds to only one or two people directly and only thanks them personally. Even if you decided the help or advice of others didn't work for you, at least fucking acknowledge that people took the time and effort to try to help. For crissakes.

slmille4 · February 2014

It drives me nuts on Facebook how everyone thinks every photo is real and shares it. I just saw one that claimed a baby was buried alive for four weeks

peanutmuse · February 2014

FYI, there isn't a specific post lately that made me think of this. I've just seen it around here occasionally and it always irks me. I am hoping that the reason lately is just because everyone is so busy and tired and that it won't always be like that. But unfortunately it was happening a lot before too. So I don't have high hopes.

ChuggingWater · February 2014

EFF. It is early and I can't think of a damn thing.

peanutmuse · February 2014

ChuggingWater said:
EFF. It is early and I can't think of a damn thing.

At first I read this as Exclusively Formula feeding, and I thought hellz yeah, @ChuggingWater is bringing her A game today.

Then I realized you meant the letter F. Damn lack of sleep, ha.

mrsjenni · February 2014

peanutmuse said:

ChuggingWater said:
EFF. It is early and I can't think of a damn thing.
At first I read this as Exclusively Formula feeding, and I thought hellz yeah, @ChuggingWater is bringing her A game today.

Then I realized you meant the letter F. Damn lack of sleep, ha.

Ditto.

And I've got nothing yet either.

valigrl21 · February 2014

peanutmuse said:

EFF. It is early and I can't think of a damn thing.
At first I read this as Exclusively Formula feeding, and I thought hellz yeah, @ChuggingWater is bringing her A game today. Then I realized you meant the letter F. Damn lack of sleep, ha.

I read it that way too.

Roses87 · February 2014

I think some people get way too detailed in the birth stories and they are way too long. We don't need to know every detail. Normally on the long ones I read a little of the beginning and the end.

sugarland726 · February 2014

I hate the phrase "I quit breastfeeding." Why does it have to be worded that way? Why not, "We switched" or "We decided to end our breastfeeding relationship?" I quit just implies that the mom gave up which is frequently not the whole story. It was not a decision made lightly.

*I assume this will not actually be unpopular.

ChuggingWater · February 2014

peanutmuse said:

ChuggingWater said:
EFF. It is early and I can't think of a damn thing.
At first I read this as Exclusively Formula feeding, and I thought hellz yeah, @ChuggingWater is bringing her A game today.

Then I realized you meant the letter F. Damn lack of sleep, ha.

Ha. Oh, yes. I meant like EFF as in f*ck.

I say EFF a lot in my head.

I have no a game to bring today. It has been sucked out of me.

ChuggingWater · February 2014

Oh. Okay.

I think it is odd when children get to be about three and have never been away from their mother overnight at least once.

RedSaffron · February 2014

I think celebrating a monthsary for your relationship is weird. I have a fb friend who announces his monthsary with his fiancee every month, this month is their 31st month being together.

gina0485 · February 2014

Not sure if this one's been done as I have been MIA the last month thanks to baby but I don't like to watch the Olympics. Frankly, I just don't care.

[Deleted User] · February 2014

I think it's ok to sleep with your child in the same bed to get some sleep, as long as the parent is comfortable with it. DS sleeps for 4/5 hour stretches next to me but will wake up every hour on his own bed. DH is not allowed to sleep in our bed bc he's a deep sleeper. This is the only way this house has any peace. Go ahead, flame me away on dangers of cosleeping. I also realize I'm creating a little monster

jwp325 · February 2014

@chuggingwater, I totally agree. I know someone who this past fall for the first time went away with just her husband for their anniversary. Her kids are 15 & 12. She has been on a couple other overnights but prefers to go on trips with her kids even for an anniversary.

@RedSaffron also agree. Dated a guy who wanted to celebrate every month. At first it was cute but then got old especially since he wanted to go out for nice dinners but made me feel guilty that he spent all this money. I thought it would stop once we hit a year but no he wanted to know where I wanted to go for our 13 month anniversary.

I don't really think I have an UO today. My brain isn't working yet.

Lena122 · February 2014

One reason I was excited to have a girl is because of the adorable clothes and accessories. Now I think it's just ridiculous to dress a baby in dresses and frills and that the bows the size of baby's head are absurd. I'd rather just dress DD in DS's hand me downs.

litzo27 · February 2014

I prefer to have art on my walls vs. dozens of family pictures. A couple great shots of the boys? Sure. Ten posed wedding/baby/holiday photos - nope.

slmille4 · February 2014

@lena122. I know. I have all these outfits for LO now that she fits in 3 months but it's so much easier to keep her in sleep and plays all day long.

peanutmuse · February 2014

ChuggingWater said:
Oh. Okay.

I think it is odd when children get to be about three and have never been away from their mother overnight at least once.

@ChuggingWater -- I have a "friend" whose child is 8 and just had her first overnight (with her aunt, and only because the parents got into a knock down drag out fight that resulted in the cops showing up). This woman is one of those absolutely terrible mothers who thinks she's the best mother ever. In addition to this, her daughter also still poops her pants in public on the reg. The child has serious emotional issues and her mother does things like punishes her by making her wear pull-ups to dance class. The whole thing makes me sick. So yeah, I associate a parent not being able to spend a night away from their child with some serious issues resulting in damage to the child.

worleygirl · February 2014

This is random but I see no point in making the bed daily. Mine only gets done if we are having visitors or the housekeeper does it. It makes MIL crazy, like its a crime against humanity. DH and I agreed long ago it wasn't worth the hassle.

peanutmuse · February 2014

tarajeannette said:
I'm going to get real meta on this post. And let me preface by saying, I don't find this to be a problem, it's just more of an observation.

It is rare that I see a truly UO posted here. This is more of a validation for opinion post. Which is fine too.

I think this is true lately, but it wasn't always this way and it will swing back. People just don't have time to make it what it used to be. Plus, when new people join, truly UOs will likely show up.

However, sometimes what seems like a benign opinion can turn into something else. @ChuggingWater's opinion has the potential to do that, especially if there is some crazy person here who thinks that not allowing her child a night (or more) away is actually a good thing.

See what I did there.

peanutmuse · February 2014

worleygirl said:
This is random but I see no point in making the bed daily. Mine only gets done if we are having visitors or the housekeeper does it. It makes MIL crazy, like its a crime against humanity. DH and I agreed long ago it wasn't worth the hassle.

I am a daily bed maker and it gives me anxiety to see and/or get into an unmade bed. It's part of a routine I started to avoid chronic insomnia 19 years ago, though.

sehudson821 · February 2014

I hate "selfies" on Facebook. I don't give a damn what your hair and or make up looks like every day of the week. I think it just makes people look really vain. "Hey look at me and tell me I'm pretty!" Ugh, stop it.

Save your selfies for snapchat.

monkeybutt61612 · February 2014

worleygirl said:
This is random but I see no point in making the bed daily. Mine only gets done if we are having visitors or the housekeeper does it. It makes MIL crazy, like its a crime against humanity. DH and I agreed long ago it wasn't worth the hassle.

Along this line, I see no point in really cleaning the house unless people are coming over. My husband and I basically live in a frat house. We're trying to be better at life though

kiki1978 · February 2014

I think there are way too many mothers out there who push their agenda on you. I really don't care how you BF your baby for a year, how you put them in their crib from day one, how you cloth diapered, etc… We will be doing what works best for us and our DS. Thanks for sharing, not!

mrspharmd · February 2014

Kvochka said:
I think it's ok to sleep with your child in the same bed to get some sleep, as long as the parent is comfortable with it. DS sleeps for 4/5 hour stretches next to me but will wake up every hour on his own bed. DH is not allowed to sleep in our bed bc he's a deep sleeper. This is the only way this house has any peace. Go ahead, flame me away on dangers of cosleeping. I also realize I'm creating a little monster

This is me exactly. And I read somewhere you don't create bad habits right now, that begins around 4 months. Just do what you have to for sleep! And as long as you are being safe, bed sharing isn't harmful. (Maybe that's my UO?). I did a lot of googling and it's actually more common to bed share than I realized, especially in other countries.

sehudson821 · February 2014

I have another, and this one might really get me flamed but that's what this is for, right?

I think it's disturbing that so much effort is made to memorialize and honor celebrities who overdose. I'm not saying they shouldn't have funerals etc, but sometimes things are just above and beyond.

slmille4 · February 2014

@sehudson821. I agree, I don't feel as sad for people who did it to themselves as those who died of a heart attack, etc. I do feel bad but, it feels different.
I will say for some reason Corey monteith's death hit me really hard, maybe just cause he was someone I really enjoyed from a show I loved, plus I was pregnant.

valigrl21 · February 2014

litzo27 said:
I prefer to have art on my walls vs. dozens of family pictures. A couple great shots of the boys? Sure. Ten posed wedding/baby/holiday photos - nope.

You would hate our house then! Our walls are covered with our photos. I love my pictures and want to be reminded of all the great memories I have accumulated.

RingOfFire11 · February 2014

ChuggingWater said:

Oh. Okay. I think it is odd when children get to be about three and have never been away from their mother overnight at least once.

I'll bite. DD1 just spent her first night(s) away from me when I gave birth to DD2 last month. She's 2.5yo and I don't think that's odd. I really haven't had a reason to leave her with anyone overnight until then. I imagine we'll do it more in the future once the littlest gets bigger. I definitely don't feel it's better for her to be with me only or anything though. We just don't do overnights often unless on vacation (which is rare), even before she was born. However, I do look forward to a Mommy/Daddy only vacation though.

jwp325 · February 2014

peanutmuse said:

Oh. Okay. I think it is odd when children get to be about three and have never been away from their mother overnight at least once.
@ChuggingWater -- I have a "friend" whose child is 8 and just had her first overnight (with her aunt, and only because the parents got into a knock down drag out fight that resulted in the cops showing up). This woman is one of those absolutely terrible mothers who thinks she's the best mother ever. In addition to this, her daughter also still poops her pants in public on the reg. The child has serious emotional issues and her mother does things like punishes her by making her wear pull-ups to dance class. The whole thing makes me sick. So yeah, I associate a parent not being able to spend a night away from their child with some serious issues resulting in damage to the child.

This! Also not being able to spend a night alone in general. DH's ex/baby mama gets very needy when stepdaughter isn't with her. We've overheard her say things like mommy is so lonely and wishes you were here to make her feel better or try to use this stupid stuffed animal as emotional blackmail to make the child want to be with her and not with us since the animal is not "allowed" by mommy to come to Chicago. In addition, when her husband goes out of town or is out playing cards, she makes stepdaughter sleep in the same bed as her because she can't sleep alone. If stepdaughter is with us and the husband is away, the mom sleeps with the stuffed animal.

DH has said that he suspects that she got pregnant so that someone would always love her and she wouldn't be alone. I can see where that thought process comes from since whenever she was single, she tried to get DH to come back to her. She also got a dog after breaking up with a boyfriend and then when she started dating her now husband, the dog went away.

We both have concerns about what this example will do for DH's daughter. She already has some attachment and independence issues. Granted she's only 7, but we can see the start of what could become a serious problem as she gets older.

Maybe that's my opinion today which may or may not be unpopular. I don't think people should have their happiness depend on others and having people in their lives. Everyone should rely on themselves to be happy. I think it's way healthier that way.

KEfam5 · February 2014

I think it is silly to reply to a post that is a simple question if there are more than 10 answers already. For example, the SSN post. If I had been the first to read it I might have answered it but I don't get the point of 35 people all saying, "Oh, about 3 weeks." Obviously, if you're a SSS and have some amazing story or insight into that particular question then your answer might be helpful but I think answering just to answer is beating a dead horse.

xanadu94 · February 2014

I really miss my job and I am going through withdrawal. Of course I love being home with my daughter but I just felt so self-fulfilled working and I am looking forward to seeing all my other "kids" again (I am a teacher). It also doesn't help that I feel like my substitute isn't doing as good of a job as she should be doing. I will also freely admit I have control issues when it comes to how I like things done in my classroom.

ccip82 · February 2014

This might be an UO, and maybe because of my circumstances I see things a bit differently...But it really isn't a huge deal traveling or flying with kids. It does take a bit of prep work and organization and yes there will be times when your kid might have a melt down mid flight, but it is over in most cases a couple of hours.

I also cannot stand people who make an issue of kids/babies on an airplane. We need to get from point A to B too for fucks sake. Do not roll your eyes at me the second I sit down with my kid in the seat behind you...

jwp325 · February 2014

@xanadu94 in your boat although I think my sub is doing a decent job. A few of my students email me and it seems like things are going ok. The ones who email are the extremely honest ones. I also have control issues and miss my other kids. As much as I love being home and that long term my schedule allows for me to have time with DD and any other kids we have, I know I am not full time SAHM material. I will happily be a SAHM on days off, winter and spring break and over the summer though.

ccip82 · February 2014

In regards to leaving your LO(s) overnight, I am counting down the days when I can leave DS and DD with our babysitter. I want to wait until DS is at least a couple months old and is not up so often for feedings.

jwp325 · February 2014

ccip82 said:

This might be an UO, and maybe because of my circumstances I see things a bit differently...But it really isn't a huge deal traveling or flying with kids. It does take a bit of prep work and organization and yes there will be times when your kid might have a melt down mid flight, but it is over in most cases a couple of hours.

I also cannot stand people who make an issue of kids/babies on an airplane. We need to get from point A to B too for fucks sake. Do not roll your eyes at me the second I sit down with my kid in the seat behind you...

I've only flown with an older child but I agree. My stepdaughter is a seasoned flyer and awesome on the flights between her two homes. She's been doing it since she was two. DH says it's way easier now but mostly because she can entertain herself more and doesn't get as antsy. She can also use the bathroom by herself which is a plus.

Now if a kid is out of control (not a meltdown just poorly behaved) and the parents don't do a damn thing about it, that's a different story. I feel that way in general though not just on planes.

sugarland726 · February 2014

RedSaffron said:

I think celebrating a monthsary for your relationship is weird. I have a fb friend who announces his monthsary with his fiancee every month, this month is their 31st month being together.

Pampers still sends me monthly emails for DD. I got "Your Preschooler - Month 43" this month. Are you fucking kidding me??

sugarland726 · February 2014

gina0485 said:

Not sure if this one's been done as I have been MIA the last month thanks to baby but I don't like to watch the Olympics. Frankly, I just don't care.

Spin off:

Summer Olympics > Winter Olympics.

peanutmuse · February 2014

sugarland726 said:

gina0485 said:

Not sure if this one's been done as I have been MIA the last month thanks to baby but I don't like to watch the Olympics. Frankly, I just don't care.

Spin off:
Summer Olympics > Winter Olympics.

Truth.

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