Where will baby be sleeping?

TheMrs820 · February 2014

DH & I have been discussing where this little guy will be sleeping once he is born.

We can't decide if we are going to have him in our room for a bit in a bassinet or PNP, or put him in his own room right away.

Both of my nieces have been in their own rooms from day one & have done well. I have been doing some research, but haven't really found much useful information.

Was hoping STMs & FTM could share their experience, knowledge, and opinions.

MNOpea · February 2014

Baby will be in our room for at least the first 6 months. There is research that suggests this can help reduce SIDS,and it just makes nursing in the middle of the night WAY easier. With DS he was in our room 100% of the the night until 5 months, then spent the first sleep cycle (until he woke up to nurse) in his room, then came back to our room, we did that for awhile and then slowly increased the amount of time he slept in his room.

kibean · February 2014

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12235054/planned-sleeping-arrangements

zipscheer07 · February 2014

Im going to be honest and will probably be judged by this. I am SUPER nervous about the whole SIDS and have read that up to a year within parents room help to lower the risks because they arent falling into a deep sleep due to us moving in the bed. She is in her PNP at night but we do put her in her crib for naps and does just fine. She doesnt seem to matter where she is. I just feel more comfortable with her next to me as I still wake up multiple times a night to make sure she is breathing! It really depends on your level of comfort!

TheMrs820 · February 2014

@kibean: for some reason my phone won't open the link. Where did you pull this from?

kibean · February 2014

@themrs820 if you use the search function (I am not mobile but it should be at the bottom of the thread, I think) and look for sleeping arrangements, it was like the second or third one down. It was from this board on 1/20 I believe.

HeyAmberNicole · February 2014

I'm going to do what I did with my first son.

At night he was next to me in a PNP type thing (some nights it was the bouncer....oops) so that feedings were easier and I didn't have to walk across the house to get him. Naps were in his crib.

That's what we're doing for this little guy! However, I forsee the baby taking naps in my arms or daddy's arms too. It's probably a bad habit, but it's so hard to set the cuteness down!

ETA: Baby will be in our room til he only wakes once or twice a night or sleeps through it. Hopefully he'll be like his brother and sleep through the night at a few weeks old!

lucreciac · February 2014

We had our first in a bassinet in our room for about 8 weeks. We moved him to his crib after that and he's let much better (so did we!) I'm guessing we will do the same this time.

EmbracingChange · February 2014

In my bed right between us.

Abenedict2011 · February 2014

FTM here but my plan is naps in the crib, nights in bassinet or easier feelings until I feel comfortable enough I leave baby in his/her room all night. Definitely a personal choice.

k2k2tog · February 2014

In a crib, in our room. Assuming baby, dogs, and DH and I can sleep.

Pepper6 · February 2014

For STMs, which would you recommend: a rock & play sleeper which is inclined or a regular bassinet/crib which is flat? We have to get something narrower because our bedroom won't really fit a PnP.

TheMrs820 · February 2014

kibean said:
@themrs820 if you use the search function (I am not mobile but it should be at the bottom of the thread, I think) and look for sleeping arrangements, it was like the second or third one down. It
was from this board on 1/20 I
believe.

Thanks! I had gone through 14 pages before I finally just posted. I found the search...which I didn't even realize was there on mobile!

JelloBean1 · February 2014

In a crib, in our room. Assuming baby, dogs, and DH and I can sleep.

We plan on the same...the crib I'm thinking of buying isn't that big, so we should be able to fit it in our room. We only have one dog though

LegalLadyBug · February 2014

We set up the crib last night on our room. Not sure if we'll stuck with that or get out the pnp. We'll probably stick with the crib since we are going to cosleep the twins together for awhile and the crib has more room than the pnp. Eventually DHs office will be moved to a different part of the house and the twins will get that room. We're going to hold off on that though and just keep them in our room for awhile.

k2k2tog · February 2014

JelloBean1 said:

In a crib, in our room. Assuming baby, dogs, and DH and I can sleep.
We plan on the same...the crib I'm thinking of buying isn't that big, so we should be able to fit it in our room. We only have one dog though

Our two occasionally decide to have a play-fest in the middle of the night if they get woken up, so I worry a little bit that DH won't be able to sleep well enough during late night feedings, and he's the one who will have to get up for work the next morning... Flexibility on this decision will be key!

lest12 · February 2014

I don't know. DH comes home at midnight, and as careful as he is, it is usually enough to wake me up at night. I had originally thought baby would sleep in a bassinet in our room for a few months, than switch to his crib in his room... then I thought DH coming home late would screw all of our sleep schedules up.

Now after reading that keeping the baby in the room for 6-months lowers the risk of SIDS, I really don't know what to do. There isn't really room for a crib/PNP in our bedroom...

Uptowngirl2009 · February 2014

My mom saved my cradle from when I was little so we will probably start with baby in there for the first few weeks beside our bed. I want to move him/her to the crib ASAP!

coffee89 · February 2014

In a PnP or bassinet in our room until we move when the baby is 1-2 weeks old.

Once we get to the new place probably in our room for a little bit longer. Once we understand our LO's sleep schedule and DH returns to work we'll make the transition to a crib in the nursery. We are playing it by ear for the most part.

ncbelle · February 2014

We bedshare. Co-sleeping (having baby in the same room) is recommended in the early months as a SIDS precaution - it's also easier IMO

Really I would suggest just rolling with what feels right to you and don't worry about what everyone else says is right!

Cherylwang · February 2014

I kept my first 2 in my room in a bassinet for the first 4 months. After that they went into their cribs with a video monitor on. Since this is my third and will share a room with her sister I think the baby will stay with me a little longer so that they are not waking each other in the middle of the night too much. I want the new baby to fully sleep through the night before I move her in with her sister.

Dmertz03 · February 2014

My son had acid reflux disease and spent his first 6 months sleeping in a bouncie seat in our room. As a precaution were repeated with our daughter, even though she never ended up having it. We'll probably repeat with this one, 6 months in bouncie seat, then crib in his room.

katekat8721 · February 2014

We're keeping the babies in our room for awhile at first. Planning on 3 months but we'll have to see how it goes. We thought we'd leave one crib in their room and one crib in our room, but after shuffling things around there's no space in our room. We're either going to do a cosleeper, a pack n play, or rock n plays.

CynthiaO85 · February 2014

FTM so I offer no experience, but I am planning on having baby sleep 3 months in bassinet in our bed room, then moving her to crib in her room.

MrsBHM · February 2014

FTM, but our plan is to have him sleep in a pack & play in our room until we decide to transition to the crib.

pcourtade · February 2014

She'll be in a bassinet until she outgrows it, then we'll make te transition to her crib in her room.

That's what we did for our son and it worked out well.

Mia081081 · February 2014

Pack N Play in our room for 2 weeks. That's how long it took me to get fully comfortable breastfeeding.

Then baby will go in the crib in DD's room. We did that with DD and she slept in her room since then. Since we only have 2 bedrooms, baby and toddler will be sharing.

Everyone sleeps better in their own rooms, and I can take baby out to living room to nurse since I'll be on leave and DH should get his sleep for work. I'm pretty sure DD will sleep through just about anything.

owlcup · February 2014

We'll co-sleep and bedshare for the first few months. It makes night nursing soooo much easier.

jc51206 · February 2014

We had an unusual living space with our first, so he napped and slept in a pack n play in the living room until he was almost 7 months old, then we finally had the brainstorm (duh!) to move our bed into the living room area and let him have the bedroom. Can't say he did better or worse, but it worked out much better for us, since we didn't have to be super quiet every night by 7pm when he was sleeping.

Now with our new house, it's a fairly long distance between our room and the LOs, so we are thinking of setting up PNP in our room for naps and even sleeping for the first few weeks, and transitioning to crib once he's better at sleeping through (his room borders our 3 year old's room).

We'll just do what's comfortable and go from there, though, really!

becomingmommyagain · February 2014

My MIL is coming from France in July and will stay for 6 weeks so I'll be setting up the crib in our room until she's gone so that she can use the nursery while she's here. During the day LO will nap in the PnP downstairs which will hopefully get him used to sleeping in multiple places.

MIL was actually a little miffed that I was going to keep him in our room and not the nursery with her. I'm grateful that she's coming and will help extend the time before we have to put him in day care til he's closer to 3 months old...but I'm looking forward to every sleepless night snuggling baby.

becomingmommyagain · February 2014

Uptowngirl2009 said:

My mom saved my cradle from when I was little so we will probably start with baby in there for the first few weeks beside our bed. I want to move him/her to the crib ASAP!

A close family friend made hand made cradles for my mom & her sister when they were pregnant. These things are made of solid cherry wood and are beautifully crafted. I've begged my mother to part with it and let just one of her 11 grand children have it but she refuses. She insists that it stay at her house so that the grand babies use it there....
That's so sweet that your mom is giving you yours for LO! I'm jealous!

supgabs · February 2014

We are going to sidecar the crib to the bed. I want the benefits of bed sharing but I am paranoid and feel better if baby has his own space.

purplegem11 · February 2014

DD will sleep in her own room from day 1 just as we did with DS.

MollySm · February 2014

With my first I felt the same way you did. I was unsure which way to go. In the end we prepared for both. We borrowed a cosleeper from a friend and set her room up. Once we got home from the hospital I realized I was much too nervous to sleep very much, and I did much better with her in my room. I slept better being able to roll over and check that she was sleeping. She stayed in our room for 2 months, and we moved her when it was clear that she was being woken by our nighttime movements in bed and wasn't getting the kind of sleep she needed.

Alternatively I know people who brought home their newborn and couldn't get any sleep because of all the little noises baby was making in his sleep. So they switched to his room the 3rd night.

So if possible I would set yourself up for both possibilities, and see how it goes.

MollySm · February 2014

@Pepper6 - I would use something flat (we loved the Arm's Reach cosleeper). I know many people love the RNP, but I have heard lots of horror stories about having a difficult time transitioning to flat sleep in a crib. I am a fan of replicating the sleep environment you'd like them to be in long term unless there is a big problem (like bad reflux) and you need to find a solution that works for that. I find that minimizing the number of transitions baby has to make is usually much easier on them.

MSUMands · February 2014

With my son, our pedi recommended strongly that he stay in our room in a bassinet for 6 months. That was the plan, but at 5 months, we were all three zombies. 2-3 hours of sleep per night, constantly getting woken up by each other... we needed distance.

At 5 months we tried him in his own crib, and my DH and I moved upstairs to our guest room to sleep next to his room for feedings. This was better, but still not great.

At 5.5 months, we put him in his room with the radio on and us in our room. We all three slept through the night from the first night of doing that! My baby was like a new kid! Rested and ready to play and learn the next day, instead of half-coma like me and DH.

This time, I think we will try LO up in her room much sooner, possibly as early as a month, 2 months. We waited way too long!!

cMichelle0423 · February 2014

We co-sleep with out son now (who's about to be a year old in a couple weeks). I don't entirely regret co-sleeping, but I do regret not moving him into his own bed sooner. With this baby, we don't plan to co-sleep (except maybe occasionally). We'll most likely have baby#2 in our room for a while but sleeping in his or her own bed.

kks4471 · February 2014

Planning on using the PNP bassinet next to our bed for the first 3 months, and then transitioning to the crib in his room next door.

emfoxc · February 2014

For those doing the PNP by the bed - are you using the newborn napper feature that some of them have? Or do you just use the elevated crib height in the PNP with a better mattress? After one off-hand comment from a friend about the napper/changer combo tops being unsafe (with no real context behind it), now I'm wondering what most people do. I'm leaning toward just the mattress (cheaper than a PNP with the added features), but want to register for the right item.

chloephoebecali · February 2014

Arms reach mini cosleeper. We transitioned my two with no problem sometime between three and four months. The loud grunting and sounds wear on me after a while and make me sleep terribly.

flerlgirl · February 2014

I'm going to try to BF so she'll be in our room in a bassinet/RnP for a few months. When she is STTN/a little older she will share a room with DS.

edited bc I forgot words

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