Has anyone else not told?

notacleverusername · February 2014

I'm 14 weeks yesterday and I haven't told hardly anyone. My three close friends know but no family, not my Mom (who wont be happy anyway an announcement is pointless) not my MIL, SIL, none of them. I have a brand new coworker who happens to be pregnant by one less month than me and has already told our team at work. She's new so they aren't being very nice to her anyway (they don't like her and they think it's ridiculous she started a new job and then announced she's pregnant FYI my coworkers majorly suck. I work for an ACT team that works with the severely mentally ill in their homes, most of my coworkers are more difficult to deal with than my clients I don't want them to know there will be so much shit talking about me) my boss who really likes me and praises me often goes on rants about pregnancy and why people would willingly chose to have a second child. It's so awkward. She's very clique-y so I feel like it will be an automatic out for me and my job already is tough. Is it going to be so weird when I finally tell people and I'm like 8 months pregnant? haha- Can I hide it much longer? I told the first time around right at 12/13 weeks so now I'm just trying to decide how long is too long to wait? I also deleted and blocked all my family and many friends on facebook so I can't take the easy way out and just post it to them. I feel so weird telling people I'm pregnant. Maybe because my family is bizarre and dysfunctional- I don't know! Help. When do I finally say something?! Eeeks.

BeachM · February 2014

I was going to go public last week after the NT scan but it was rescheduled due to snow. So now the plan is to go public after the scan on Thursday.

I don't know that there's any rule but I guess you'll have to decide to just tell them or wait for them to ask you when it becomes very obvious that you're pregnant.

Wil08 · February 2014

I'm not fully out, but am telling my team at work tomorrow. Ironically, I also have a new co-worker who is a month ahead of me.

I don't enjoy telling people because I don't like being the center of attention, etc.

Maybe just email a photo or mail a card? If I were 14 weeks my family would start to wonder why I hadn't told them sooner. At the end of the day it's your decision.

jgilesslp · February 2014

I just told my boss...they are figuring budget and I felt I needed to tell. We therefore also told my boys so they have been sharing with random people

Otherwise I am just letting the news spread.....I don't like to be the center of attention and am fairly private. I will tell my site supervisors on Tuesday when I see them.

Raclla · February 2014

Work, family and two super close friends know. My entire circle of friends have no clue. That's the largest group. I'm thinking of not saying anything until I run into them. We've already been out with a few of them and no one knew or asked.
I don't feel like answering questions and making it a big deal.

bumpuser10179393 · February 2014

I'm with ninthgirl. The only people that know are the ones that knew about our miscarriage. I'm also not looking forward to telling people because I don't like being the center of attention. We are gong to visit family in Iowa to tell them in person. I'll be almost 15 weeks. We don't plan on telling anybody else until after our trip.

heart_of_virginia · February 2014

I haven't told anyone yet, only H knows. I'd prefer to not tell anyone at all, but we'd get a lot of offended family members if we did that. So we're telling everyone next week. We find out the sex on Feb. 13 and will make the announcement on Valentine's Day to family and friends, via text and Facebook to avoid the extra attention. Im really excited for next week because H and I are having a nice little getaway without the kids, but im not looking forward to hearing everyone's opinions about us having another baby so close in age to DS.

Familyhugs922 · February 2014

I tell people in person but not out on fb yet....Good luck with the work situation.

SaranJonathan · February 2014

I have told a few close people but not work yet.

bamanichole · February 2014

Only me and DH know right now. We have the nt scan Thursday and will probably tell family and close friends Valentines weekend if everything looks good. I told DH the other night that we just needed to wait and tell when we find out what we are having. But I know our family is going to freak that we waited till 14 weeks to tell lol!

schnookee · February 2014

I've told my family and close friends but that's it. Haven't said anything on fb yet and I don't think I will until after the 20 week scan. I'm not into announcements so however it comes out, it comes out. I guess I'm a little evil because there are a few people that I can't wait for them to find out through fb instead of from one of us telling them. One of them is my SIL. My husband doesn't talk to her much. She is truly an evil, horrible person. So I'm pretty happy to be able to piss her off by not telling her and having her see it on fb.

BG09 · February 2014

I've told family and close friends, but haven't told my boss/co-workers yet or Facebook. I will probably tell someone at work this week and just let the news spread on it's own, and I'm planning to do a Facebook announcement when I'm just about 14 weeks.

ungraceful13 · February 2014

My parents know (they will be our support if I have a mc) and 2 daycare workers know bc they are having to lift DD for me due to my SCH restrictions. We will start telling others in person if all goes well tomorrow at the NT scan. If we announce on fb at all it will be after we know the sex.

tinkerbell019 · February 2014

A few of our close friends and coworkers know, as I've had to miss work and been sick. However, we will not make a full out announcement to all family & friends until sometime next week - after next appt (tomorrow) and NT Scan (on Friday)

MandMLeona · February 2014

I'm still not out. I'm 12 weeks. We're considering sending Valentine's Day cards to announce to family. Since my bleeding this weekend, I'm now a bit nervous about it.

I won't tell work until April.

HungryRunner76 · February 2014

Only my husband and one of my bosses know. My work knew about how we were struggling to conceive and although both have been sympathetic, I'm close to one and he just happened to ask me after one of our appointments when I was on cloud nine so I spilled the details.

We had a rocky start anyways so we're just being cautious. We have our first appointment at the OB Wednesday so I will likely tell the rest of my office after I get back from that and we are planning on telling our SIL and BIL this weekend, then our parents. We probably won't announce to friends for another week or two and then a FB announcement probably won't happen until the end of this month.

tarynkim · February 2014

We've told our parents and siblings so far. I'm also 14 weeks. I absolutely dread telling people! I have terrible anxiety about it and the thought of everyone talking about it makes me want to crawl under a rock:( My MIL doesn't help much. She's angry because she hasn't been able to Instagram her own announcement X_X

Robinischo · February 2014

I'm 14 weeks, and we've only told a few close friends and my bosses (because of spotting issues where I left work early). His parents may know because I skipped out on Thanksgiving because I was spotting (and freaking out), and he told his mom about that, but I don't think they've discussed it much since. My parents don't know yet, and I have no idea when or how I'm going to tell them.

A couple we're friends with just announced yesterday, and they are 2 weeks behind us. We found out about our loss at 13 weeks so I've been really anxious this whole time about the pregnancy in general and especially about telling people. I'm debating making a cute slideshow with some announcement type pictures at the end to post on FB on Valentine's Day, but I may just make it and send it to friends and family rather than announcing on FB. I'd kind of rather out myself on FB than have someone else end up doing it though. It's getting hard to hide the blump/bump so I'm sure anyone who sees me is starting to wonder.

AngelKT · February 2014

The parents know, the siblings know, my best friend knows. The end. Not really planning some BIG announcement. People will notice the belly soon enough and then they will know.

Welltc01 · February 2014

I feel like the odd ball. We were out to our parents and grandparents hours after the postive test (3.5 weeks) lol. And a few close friends. Then at 9 1/2 weeks went public completely, Facebook included. I don't mind if people know at all. I don't believe in jinxing that if I tell before 12 weeks something will happen. I would also in the event something happened for everyone to hear from me and not just rumor (I heard she was pregnant and lost it ) type deal but no one really knows the truth. Sooo with that we came out immediately after our second ultrasound that dated good and heartbeat was perfect. To excited not to share.

+RBL+ · February 2014

My mom is the only person that knows other than my husband and me. We only told her because she planned a family vacation in August and I thought she might want to reschedule (I was wrong). If it wasn't for the vacation I wouldn't have told her yet.

I will tell my manager at work after my next appointment. Mostly so they can plan for me being out.

I don't feel like listening to the same questions a million times so I likely won't tell the rest of my family until they ask or it's really obvious. I know they only ask the same silly questions because they care, but shouldn't they know how annoying it is? They all have their own children.

Carolina Blue Skies · February 2014

I am waiting to tell work until about 18 weeks (if I can hide it - I am a FTM & tall, so hoping the bump isn't hard to hide). My boss is weird about pregnancy & it makes the most sense to me to wait.

I've told all my close friends as of this past week (when I was 13 weeks), and I am working on a few more. We won't do a FB announcement (but that's mainly due to my distaste for them due to my battle with infertility).

Feelingblessed80 · February 2014

I told my mom, SIL, BIL and was planning on telling my entire family at a party this weekend but due to the weather scare I won't be seeing them now. So pissed!

Feelingblessed80 · February 2014

Oh and I'm 13w tomorrow already had my NT

Feelingblessed80 · February 2014

Oh and I'm 13w tomorrow already had my NT

mhbraymer · February 2014

I'm 13 weeks and we have only told a few friends. Our families will not be excited since our son just turned 1 yesterday. I'm not looking forward to telling them either.

tamarar5 · February 2014

I told everyone, even my dd by our fb announcement. I hasn't planned on coming out until the end of February but I was just super excited and didn't want to wait.

I get not wanting to share yet though. Good luck!

lance&emily · February 2014

I'm 13 weeks and have told my sister and select friends. Work I'll tell when I feel like the time is right (aka, can't hide it anymore). I haven't told my parents yet bc I know my dad will just sit there silently, and my mom will have a negative reaction. My sister said she acted disappointed with a 3 pregnancies that she announced, and even moped around acting depressed with the last one! I want her to be happy for me. Since that's not gonna happen, I keep putting off telling her.

Russiandea12 · February 2014

We have told family & close friends and the select few who either figured it out or ourtright asked & didnt want to lie. Everything looked good and my 10 week u/s. I have an apt tuesday and will be 14 weeks, 2nd trimester. As long as everything looks good we will start telling everyone, but will probably wait to go facebook offical untill the 20 week antamony u/s, so we can announce girl or boy.

SABRUS2011 · February 2014

I'm not telling until we have our gender ultrasound at 15 weeks! 16 more days. I had two miscarriages last year so I have waited a lot longer this time and this is my 4th baby! I normally spill the day I get two pink lines. Maybe 10 people know!

MandMLeona · February 2014

I feel like my hand is being forced for work. Unless the weather prevents it, my boss is travelling up to do my review in person. I can't imagine sitting discussing plans for the year without telling him. I hate that he'll hear before any family, but I can't see a way around it. I won't hear the heartbeat until the 10th. He's coming up the 13th. All family live out of town, so we have to wait until the weekend to see them.

luckysvn · February 2014

I'm 12 weeks and haven't announced to everyone yet. I did start a new job and had to tell my boss at 8 weeks (due to xrays) but she is very supportive. we told my parents after the second us and my in-laws this past week. My nt will be Valentine's day and we plan on mailing out announcements after that but I don't feel the need to share on Facebook.

jenkeale · February 2014

We have only announced to family. It sucked telling his family bc they were negative and think it's awful we got pregnant before our wedding (even though we've been together for years and have been planning the wedding for a year now). I haven't told others bc I want people to be excited about our wedding and avoid more negative reactions.

MollyHooper · February 2014

Only family and a few friends know right now. I am putting off writing anything on FB as there are a few vocal people on there who will be pretty judgmental about it.
But I'm not really hiding anything either and if anyone asks I'll just tell them.

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