Ftm's: what is something that you didn't quite prepare for having a newborn?

Re: Ftm's: what is something that you didn't quite prepare for having a newborn?

• BaabyCakee member

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  Ditto on this! Except I have way more than one sitch. It's a massacre down there.
  
  Edit: Tried to reply to @goldenB post. Didn't work.
  
  I didn't realize how time consuming breastfeeding would be and how time just gets away from me. I sit down to feed her and hour goes by then an hour later I need to feed her again. Then I look at the time on my phone and it's 5 o'clock already and I haven't done anything but be a milk machine.

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• ac1259 member

  February 2014

  @BrittNR- I understand how you feel with a sort of disconnect. I think that gets better as you get more sleep and baby starts coming into their personality more...I felt the same way with my older one but as she's gotten bigger and more interactive that goes away...when my new LO was in the NICU and I couldn't hold her I told DH that they really needed to bring me DD1, I needed to hold her. She is seriously like stress relief for me now...so it does get better!

  
  
  
  
  

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• Summer889 member

  February 2014

  I had a difficult time feeling connected with my baby while pregnant, and I would have anxiety attacks all the time because I didn't think I'd be a good mother.  So I was shocked when already in the hospital, it felt so natural to be caring for a newborn!  Not that it's always easy or that I always feel like I know what I'm doing.  But I do feel confident holding him, caring for him, and trusting my own instincts.

  
  

  Breastfeeding is another story...  I expected it to be challenging but didn't think I'd still be having searing pain with most feedings 2 weeks in.  I'm determined to stick it out, but golly gee wizz my poor boobies.

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• gina0485 member

  February 2014

  How hard BFing was and how important it was to me. I hysterically cried daily for a week straight when my son struggled to latch. I fought through the pain but didn't want to give up even though I knew in my heart that it was best. I honestly felt like a piece of me was ripped off when we decided to stop but at the same time a huge weight came off my shoulders. I am EPing now and I wasn't prepared to so that - I am also finding that to be a challenge but I'm doing well with it and so is Austin.
  
  One other thing I didn't expect in a good way -- how much closer DH and I are. I love that man on a whole new level.

  Baby Boy #2
  Due Date 11/10/16

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