WWS12D: Cheating

Re: WWS12D: Cheating

• Kissty member

  January 2014

  Ok getting caught up since work took me away...If he were to get another woman pregnant...GONE I'm out. Total deal breaker for me.

  If the "other woman" did not know he had a family, I'd be pisssed but couldn't hold it against her.  But after knowing about us if she didn't back off I'd go BSC on her azz.

   

  

   

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• AKB090609 member

  January 2014

  Personally I wouldn't give a shit about the person my DH cheated with. That woman owes me nothing, if she knew or not that he was married my beef would be with DH. I had parents who were divorced long before I was born and still fought like crazy. My schools had rules about keeping them apart it was so bad (like throwing chairs at windows during conferences, 4 year old in foster care/group home, bad). I will not do that to my child, I will not let her feel like she has to choose sides. If I can't be with her dad to ensure that she can love him, then that is what I will do.

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• tinyhumantoe member

  January 2014

  I haven't read this thread because I am going to bed in 5, 4, 3...
  
  I used to think I would be out like trout, no doubt about it. Buhbye, fuck you, and so on.
  
  I think now I am more humble, and I acknowledge that I have no clue how I would react. It is different after a kid, not because I HAVE a kid, but because of where this whole experience had taken my relationship (deeper roots, deeper love, both of us being at our best and absolute worst).... I think I would go through the steps to work through it. It would either work or quiet the hatred/settle some hurt before we would move on.
  
  I have no clue what I would do, I just know I would go through the motions to be confident in my decisions and have no regrets.

  
  
  
  

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• Bluebird2318 member

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  It's really hard to say... I could probably forgive, and possibly trust him again depending upon the circumstances (less likely to trust him if it was long-term and I found out on my own)... However, I have a feeling that I wouldn't be able to see him the same way or be intimate with him the same way. It's not that I would be unwilling to try to repair the marriage, but I question how successful the attempt would be. I feel like the marriage would deteriorate just because I wouldn't be able to love him naturally the way I do now. 

  
  

  ETA: I can't even comprehend the horror of the situation if he got the other woman pregnant, even if we split as a result. The idea of that baby being referred to as my children's brother or sister would be outrageous to me. 

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