I don't have a strong opinion either way on reveal parties, but I don't really agree that no body cares about your baby's sex but you. I always get excited to hear about other people's baby. Maybe not strangers, but coworkers, friends, family. Plus if they didn't care why the heck is that always the first question out of people's mouths. Op if your family and you want one, I say go for it.
I hate "gender reveal" parties... I think they are just ridiculous. Like do people really need the validation to have everyone give up one of their weekend days and buy them presents? I'm not saying you are being that way but for people who throw themselves these parties I totally judge.
I love throwing parties and having excuses for them. We didn't do a sex reveal party (even though I had amazingly awesome ideas not from Pinterest) for a bunch of reasons, like... people usually feel strange getting drunk around me now, not that many people even know I'm pregnant, etc.
That being said, I think they're HORRIBLY AWish if you already know the sex (which you won't), and/or are having gifts. I am old school, but anybody who throws a party for themselves with gifts being involved is just wrong.
I don't have a strong opinion either way on reveal parties, but I don't really agree that no body cares about your baby's sex but you. I always get excited to hear about other people's baby. Maybe not strangers, but coworkers, friends, family. Plus if they didn't care why the heck is that always the first question out of people's mouths. Op if your family and you want one, I say go for it.
They're asking to be polite and make conversation because.....
I hate "gender reveal" parties... I think they are just ridiculous. Like do people really need the validation to have everyone give up one of their weekend days and buy them presents? I'm not saying you are being that way but for people who throw themselves these parties I totally judge.
I've never heard of these being used as a gift-giving opportunity. The three in my more immediate circle were just a small-ish dinner party hosted by the parents themselves and they did the cake. It was a nice family (and a few close friends who were really involved) event where they chatted about the baby, the family's excitement, and about how everyone was doing. I don't know about other people, but even as introverted as I am, I still enjoy seeing my family, and this was an opportunity for people to spend time together for a happy occasion. My family really only meets up for funerals, so if we were finding out the sex, I can't say I wouldn't consider something like this. Now, a gift-grab, I'll side-eye. But I really can't see the problem with something so positive bringing people together.
A side note- while I'm totally in the camp of using the correct verbiage, i.e., you find out the sex now, gender comes later, calling it a sex-reveal party just doesn't work. I don't get lashy about someone calling it a gender reveal party to avoid Grandma showing up wearing leather and bearing a whip.
DH and I will be having a reveal party, my SIL is throwing it for us and we are only inviting family. My family gets together regularly and everyone is very excited to find out what we are having. My sis, who is a videographer is also showing a video she made for us with my niece and nephew... We will be calling it a gender reveal as I agree with @sxymamakat that a sex reveal party is a no go for my grandma who once told my cousin that she was leaving her 4th of July event because she didn't want to be a part of their "beer party."
I don't have a strong opinion either way on reveal parties, but I don't really agree that no body cares about your baby's sex but you. I always get excited to hear about other people's baby. Maybe not strangers, but coworkers, friends, family. Plus if they didn't care why the heck is that always the first question out of people's mouths. Op if your family and you want one, I say go for it.
They're asking to be polite and make conversation because.....
Haha I get you there, but some people are as interested and excited as you. Some don't care and are being polite. I truly think my family is more excited to find out the sex than I am. That being said I wouldn't hold a party for people who wouldn't care. But for the OP it sounds like her family wants to have something like this.
We arent finding out what the baby is until its born and I can promise you there are people that care about the sex more than we do. My aunts were arguing like crazy over what it is and my mom (seriously) tried to talk me into having the ultrasound technician send just her a message about it. I think with the right set of invitees something like this would go over just fine (but the idea of getting gifts is just bizarre to me. Dont you do a reveal so people can buy you specific boy/girl things at the shower?)
I have never heard of a "gender/sex reveal party being a gift-giving event. I personally love the idea! I plan to have one with my immediate family, we will eat dinner and cut a cake with colored frosting, nothing big. I see it as a time to get together to celebrate the coming baby! A family dinner with an exciting ending :-) It helps me to avoid the "you told his mom first" and allows you tell everyone at the same time. Plus I think it will make a good photo opportunity to add pictures to the baby book so LO can see how excited everyone was waiting for his or her arrival.
I don't have a strong opinion either way on reveal parties, but I don't really agree that no body cares about your baby's sex but you. I always get excited to hear about other people's baby. Maybe not strangers, but coworkers, friends, family. Plus if they didn't care why the heck is that always the first question out of people's mouths. Op if your family and you want one, I say go for it.
They're asking to be polite and make conversation because.....
Haha I get you there, but some people are as interested and excited as you. Some don't care and are being polite. I truly think my family is more excited to find out the sex than I am. That being said I wouldn't hold a party for people who wouldn't care. But for the OP it sounds like her family wants to have something like this.
I truly couldn't give a shit about the sex of my baby. My family is driving me nuts. if they could have managed a way to get me to an elective place early they would have. But they know that even if they offered to pay i wouldn't do it because i just don't care.
Most people do not care about the sex of your baby. But occasionally you get freaking crazy people that do.
@Stacigirl413...kudos to you for taking the criticism in stride! Although I'm a teeeny bit sad you didn't go all BSC and provide us with more entertainment :-)
I went to a "baby party" gone awry. The mom to be didn't get the color cake she wanted and you can fill in the blank...
I booked an elective ultrasound and my whole family comes to find out together. It's low key, but it's fun for the grandparents to see the ultrasound because they didn't have them done when we were born.
Go ahead and flame me. Reveals AND elective ultrasounds!
We're doing the reveal as part of our shower (planned by a friend, but she was the one that suggested the idea). SO and I don't care either way, but our moms and other family members are driving us crazy. So we get our fun of waiting a little while longer while they get to make the big deal out of it they want to.. I consider it a win-win.
I think that's a really cute idea especially if you don't care about getting gender neutral stuff.
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I considered doing a gender Reveal party thing but I just have the time for it and I dont want to wait to tell people. I think I'll just text and facebook, whatever i can to tell everyone I know like right after the U/S. LOL
Re: Gender Reveal Party
That being said, I think they're HORRIBLY AWish if you already know the sex (which you won't), and/or are having gifts. I am old school, but anybody who throws a party for themselves with gifts being involved is just wrong.
They're asking to be polite and make conversation because.....
They're asking to be polite and make conversation because.....
Haha I get you there, but some people are as interested and excited as you. Some don't care and are being polite. I truly think my family is more excited to find out the sex than I am. That being said I wouldn't hold a party for people who wouldn't care. But for the OP it sounds like her family wants to have something like this.
I booked an elective ultrasound and my whole family comes to find out together. It's low key, but it's fun for the grandparents to see the ultrasound because they didn't have them done when we were born.
Go ahead and flame me. Reveals AND elective ultrasounds!
JK