Intimacy

teachermommy2014 · January 2014

Since finding out we were pregnant, I am currently 10 weeks, we have not been very intimate at all. I have little to no desire. Friends have said the 2nd trimester is better, but I am just feeling in a slump...anyone else???

dogperson11 · January 2014

Oh yeah. I'm 10 w 2 d and I think we've only had sex 3 times since I got my BFP (at 4 weeks). I keep telling my husband that it'll get better when I feel better.

Jennicillin · January 2014

This is our 3rd baby, every time the entire first tri and even a couple weeks into the second I can't stand being touched at all. Saying I'm not in the mood doesn't cover it, I don't want to be touched at all. It bounces back eventually

haliebabyx3 · January 2014

Definitely. We have had sex one time. And that was just last week. I just haven't been in the mood. Although last week was good. It was definitely rare lol. I have seen where it gets better later on. Just don't want to feel like I'm gonna throw up on DH while in the middle of sex.

teachermommy2014 · January 2014

thanks ladies! I also do not want to be touched at all...usually like to cuddle, but it is getting uncomfortable to have his hands/legs/arms on top of me. Need to go buy a body pillow ASAP!

happylady07 · January 2014

It took me getting pregnant for my sex drive to come back to what it once was... I have been at maybe 75% tops since we had our first. It's like a switch was flipped the second I was pregnant! I have admittedly had minimal pregnancy yuck feeling though, I can see how that would totally kill any desire to do the deed. Once you feel better, pregnant sex is pretty awesome IMHO though, something to hopefully look forward to!

Raclla · January 2014

We keep passing colds back and forth. Runny noses aren't sexy.

BlckRoses · January 2014

We've had sex twice since the BFP. I've only been in the mood 3 times, but once was right before work, and we don't really have time to have sex before work. DH is a trooper, though, he's very understanding. I do still enjoy cuddles, so at least that's something. I'm just so tired all the time, it's hard to have energy for it.

salsy2012 · January 2014

Yeah, we've only had sex 2 times since the BFP. Just no drive...

And I agree with @ScrappyLika - the title of this thread is KILLING ME.

*insert overly dramatic GIF*

salsy2012 · January 2014

Raclla said:

We keep passing colds back and forth. Runny noses aren't sexy.

FALSE.

Saxec89 · January 2014

I am NEVER in the mood now. But I feel bad and give in 1-2 times a week. Still not good

Valancyy · January 2014

We haven't had sex since conception! I was sick with a cold, then MS hit. I'm starting to feel better now, so maybe soon we can have sex again.

However...I have NO desire at all during pregnancy. Once I get into 2nd tri it starts getting uncomfortable. It doesn't hurt, it just does not feel good, almost like I'm being irritated down there. I'm chalking it up to hormones since it always goes away after pregnancy.

MAtoMEbride · January 2014

So glad I'm not alone on this. My poor husband!

FrodaBaggins · January 2014

NOT in the mood lately but I was early on. I think it'll come back around, though - just based on how much better I already have started feeling now that first tri is winding down!

Russiandea12 · January 2014

My hubby and I have probably had been intimite 6-7 times since finding out we were pregnant. Its hard to find the energy. He is very understanding when I'm tired or sick. So I try to be in the mood when I'm feeling okay. With my son, I felt much better in the second trimester. Much more like myself and more interested in sex.

Rannndi · January 2014

We weren't AS often, but still pretty regular. However, last night I had some bleeding after (wiped right up and didn't bleed more), but I'm pretty sure that freaked my husband out. I could see this becoming less regular now!

Raclla · January 2014

salsy2012 said:

Raclla said:

We keep passing colds back and forth. Runny noses aren't sexy.

FALSE.

This is exactly what I look like now. Fail.

MkL1526 · January 2014

Same here. No drive. I think we've had sex 5-6 times since finding out. I have no energy and I still have some pretty nasty m/s. :-S

OutdoorGirl10 · January 2014

Ok, maybe because I'm PAIF but dr said no sex for us for a while. Early on I was all about it but couldn't due to dr's orders. Now I just don't care if I do. Hoping that'll change in second tri but DH is a little weirded out by some things so I'm not sure if he'll want to.

MeganEMcG5 · January 2014

We've gotten busy 3 times since BFP. Every time has been very uncomfortable, especially after we're done. I'm talking BURNING all up in my vajay. It sucks, because I actually feel more of a desire this pregnancy than I did with DS. Not sure what is causing the discomfort, except maybe swelling? Ugh...

Jentech84 · January 2014

I think we've had sex 4 or 5 times since the BFP. I had severe bronchitis for two weeks coupled with m/s and just general laziness and lack of caring. When we have had sex however, I've been the one to start it off because I need him NOW.
He wishes it was more frequent but meh. He's gotten one bj the past couple months - and it's killing him lol.

ungraceful13 · January 2014

We didn't have sex prior to my dr appt finding out I have a SCH and am now not allowed to have sex. With DD I did find myself way more into it in the 2nd trimester.

haliebabyx3 · January 2014

Jentech84 said:
I think we've had sex 4 or 5 times since the BFP. I had severe bronchitis for two weeks coupled with m/s and just general laziness and lack of caring. When we have had sex however, I've been the one to start it off because I need him NOW.
He wishes it was more frequent but meh. He's gotten one bj the past couple months - and it's killing him lol.

The thought of giving a blow job makes me gag. I can't even brush my teeth without gagging now. He's asked for a blow job and I just have to laugh and walk off. I've even told him he has a hand that works fine because he always asks at the most horrible times.

*bumping from my phone today.

Tiffanyjill0219 · January 2014

Same, we had bleeding after too and it scared us a lot. We called the ob and she said its common and as long as there is no cramping should be ok. Going for an ultrasound tomorrow. Very, very scary- we had no idea this can happen. Killed the mood and desire a bit...

ashlou21 · January 2014

I am having the same issues, that and my husband seems a little freaked out to have sex I think... But I just hit 13 weeks and am getting my sex drive back so we will see. Glad to know we aren't the only ones in a slump!

IvyMagic828 · January 2014

I'm never really in the mood these days, but I don't feel sick so it's not like I have that as an excuse. I usually go ahead with it 1-2x/week (basically just weekends) to try to keep hubby happy. Of course, he seems to be more interested lately since my chest just seems to keep expanding... Hopefully I'll become more interested later on but I wouldn't count on it!

abirdd9 · January 2014

I've wanted it a lot, but ultimately decide I'm too tired to deal with it. When sex does happen it's amazing. Between being tired and work and keeping up with the housework and taking care of a toddler who sleeps with us sex only happens about once a week or week and a half.

4PrivetDrive · January 2014

We've had sex once since our BFP. Constant nausea makes me feel terrible and I don't want to be touched at all.
I would rather sleep. Hands down.

sarahinthecity10 · January 2014

We haven't done it since the BFP.....it's been 8 weeks! I had started to feel better and then nausea kicked back in. It's the worst at night and then on the weekends when DS naps I just want to nap too (when that used to be sexy time). Oh well.........

iuplori · January 2014

If intimacy means holding my hair back while I'm crouched over the toilet, we are gettin it on morning and night..... That's about as much as he gets to touch me for now. He tries to hug me but my nose is his armpit height which also makes me want to vomit.

smusgrove92 · January 2014

I cant stand the smell of any ones breath right now , not even my own! So if we do have sex I make sure Im not facing him haha And Im constantly holding my breath if anyone talks to me too close.

schnookee · January 2014

What's sex? I couldn't even imagine right now. I love kissing and I couldn't even do that right now. I'd definitely gag.

Twiggster · January 2014

Once since BFP. No energy and some early bleeding also played into it. I just don't feel very sexy... I'm bloated, gassy, and always in my PJs when I'm home. Hoping that with the 2nd tri I have more energy and can get into it more. Glad to know I'm not alone!

Welltc01 · January 2014

I DONT MIND HAVING SEX. BUT I CONSTANTLY DRIVE HEAVE AFTERWARDS? LOL WEIRD, AND SO NOT ATTRACTIVE

Adam-n-Emily · January 2014

Minus the fact I've had the flu the past week I have tried to do the deed at least 1-2x a week. Physical affection is DH love language and mine is Gifts of Serivce. So I figure since he is doing all the housework right now due to my exhaustion and m/s. The least I can do is give him 10-15min. of my time.

Welltc01 · January 2014

I DONT MIND HAVING SEX. BUT I CONSTANTLY DRIVE HEAVE AFTERWARDS? LOL WEIRD, AND SO NOT ATTRACTIVE

GreyAquaLimePeach&White · January 2014

That was me for sure up til week 10. Couldn't even think about it. 11 weeks and this week, I'm all about it and the one pursuing him. Opposite of what is typical for us.

TiffaniMay · January 2014

I feel like a born again virgin.

Sometimes I'd like to, but just like my last pregnancy, DH gets weirded out and won't touch me. I might as well look like Mama June in that gif because I won't be getting any for a while!

loulou182 · January 2014

ScrappyLika said:
None. DH tried, I freaked out.

But, seeing this word spelled wrong the title is driving me craaazy. **Intimacy** if possible to change it!

LMAO. Read your post again. It doesn't make sense.

salsy2012 · January 2014

loulou182 said:

None. DH tried, I freaked out.

But, seeing this word spelled wrong the title is driving me craaazy. **Intimacy** if possible to change it!
LMAO. Read your post again. It doesn't make sense.

No, it makes sense. The OP had the title of the thread spelled all sorts of wrong at first.

It looks like OP took @ScrappyLika 's advice to heart and changed it. Thank GOD.