What's causing you anxiety/ worry/ fear

aLsMay24 · January 2014

I have 2 large worries. First - one of these contractions bits is going to turn into actual labor and I'm not sure how I would handle a preemie and the NICU with a husband who works 80ish hours a week, a 2 year old and closest family being 2 hours away and they all work.

Second- how DS is going to handle 2.0. The tantrums have become increasingly worse and for little to no reason and he listens to less than zero things I ask or tell him to do. I know it's just going to get worse when 2.0 gets here and takes even more of my time.

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Babybeachbum · January 2014

I'm worried about being a single parent. SO and I haven't been getting along since before I got pregnant and were talking about breaking up but neither one of us could walk away. It hasn't gotten any better.
He just bought a house and wouldn't put my name on it in case we break up. Now that we're moving into the house I'm thinking about whether I should move in and unpack, shop for curtains and things like that or ask my parents if I can stay with them until I figure things out.
Baby furniture hasn't been delivered yet and I haven't had my baby shower yet. I know my mom is spending a lot of time and money planning my surprise shower. I don't know how to tell her that we aren't getting along. Do I still have a shower with both families there? If we break up how do we decide who gets what baby items?
I can't sleep and worry about things all the time. I also worry about financial things and L and D, breast feeding, etc
Oh how I wish I could drink a bottle of wine right now...

recline84 · January 2014

Mostly I'm worried about my other kids. My oldest starts school, how am I going to prepare her this spring/summer while caring for a newborn? Then of course, school drop-off and pick-up with a toddler and a little baby...I'm afraid I'll start drinking before noon dealing with that! Then a big worry is my 2 yo. That I've babied for her whole life since she was "supposed to be" our last. I really want to make the transition as easy as possible on her. And then...will I ever sleep again???

saisongbird · January 2014

I have 2.

1) That I will never sleep again. I know how my body reacts to lack of sleep, and I worry about my ability to care for a baby or even be a decent human being if I don't get some sleep.

2) Interviewing for jobs. Interview season for music teachers begins RIGHT AFTER my EDD, and only really goes until July. I don't want to buy new clothes for this. I don't know if I can even DEAL with interviewing with a newborn.

bingbongsmama · January 2014

I worry about her being healthy. Had my DD ripped away from me right after delivery and sent to the NICU. I don't want to go through it again. I desperately want to have my baby close to me after delivery and have those first precious days to bond, snuggle and breastfed without baby attached to beeping monitors and some nicu nurse telling me when I can/can't hold, nurse, bathe my own child.

Missfunball · January 2014

**Loss mentioned***

I don't want DH to be more worried but I wish he was as proactive about impending baby arrival as he is about his job. We have a month and he does stuff when I hound/remind him....but nothing on his own. He wants his mom out here but hasn't even talked about it with her and now its a month away. Some days get so frustrating because I feel the only one burdened with the upkeep in the house, paying attention to bills (IE not paying credit card bills minimum for no reason) and now baby stuff that I just want to leave so he can figure out how to do it on his own (but never would) I just wish there was a way to light a fire under his ass.

I'm the worry wort in the family...I really worry about something going wrong at delivery. Most of the pregnancy is fine, even with the possibility of pre-e and my gallbladder not behaving....and Sharkie is strong, definitely enough to wind me with his flais. but I have that looming fear.....I think its because last Feb 14th I was admitted to the hospital diagnosed with a tubal rupture and Feb 15th was the surgery for my ectopic....maybe once i get passed that I'll calm down.

Oh and not being a good mom...I don't want to suck at this. I also worry I'll get a highly emotional child and have zero idea of how to handle it (I work through my emotions with logic)

bingbongsmama · January 2014

ring_pop said:
I'm most worried about who will take care of DS when I have to go to the hospital, and how he'll do if H and I both have to spend the night away. If I go during the day, we're good, but I'm worried about what happens if we have to go in the middle of the night.

This too. We have a sitter lined up for my c/s diring the day but if I went into labor unexpectedly DH would have to stay with DD and miss the delivery. We would both hate that

Excitedmum35 · January 2014

OMG where do I start? I'm medicated for anxiety so it certainly takes the edge off, but I find I'm stressing about EVERYTHING!!
It was 42 degrees here yesterday and I swear we nearly melted and the sue con got the temp down to 31 degrees inside. I worry about our house being too hot for a baby! I worry that it's supposed to be 36 degrees on Sunday for my baby shower. What is we all melt?
I've also been worrying about everything to do with my baby shower. So much so that a friend text me to let me know she couldn't make it and I was find with that but sent her a text back saying how stressed I was about it and she thought I was mad at her
For not bring able to go. Minor things but I am a bit mental cos my lovely friend who is organising it is leaving everything til the last minute.

katykatykaty · January 2014

Due to recent board activity, I'd like to add placental abruption to my list of things I'm now worried about.

ndpoole · January 2014

***Copied from new discussion I started without seeing this one***

So I've been having scary dreams about giving birth and something going horribly wrong. I know two people over the last month and a half that carried to "term" and still lost their babies because the cord wrapped around their neck. I would think that this would not be an issue these days because they can monitor heart rates etc!

Anyway, I was in L&D on Friday being monitored for contractions and I was told again that I have a very long cord. I asked the attending what the stats are with long cords; for example, is there an increase in C/S performed? She said no, but I'm still very nervous given the recent losses that two people I know went through. I have a doc appt with my MFM and OB tomorrow to ask additional questions, but I wanted to know if any of my fellow bumpees were ever "diagnosed" with a long cord and if so, what type of birth did you have.

Thanks in advance!

LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · January 2014

I'm terribly afraid of getting a really bad tear. Also, on another note, having to have a c-section would be devastating news. I'm not afraid of the procedure or any thing like that. I'm in nursing school, set to graduate May 2015. But if I have to have a C-section, I automatically have to drop out of school this semester. (School rules, have to take 6 weeks off after any surgery....and I couldn't make up
6 weeks of class. So they automatically drop you). Not a super big deal in the grand scheme of things, but I would get set back, AND when I start back I would be with a whole new
class instead of the class that's become my second family.

scrumpfy · January 2014

I'm mostly worried about dealing with a new baby and DD. She's. ....uh, temperamental. High needs. Whatever you want to call it. I'm scared.
I'm also scared I'm going to be one of those ladies that delivers in a parking lot or on the side of the highway. My last delivery was fast. What if this one is faster, will I even make it to the hospital?

Miliska · January 2014

ceh789 said:
That MH will expect me to care for the house/baby 24/7 PLUS working half time, despite everything we've already talked about. Not being able to BF or having it be terribly painful. The baby will hate me. The baby will have colic and I'll go insane. The baby won't hate me and will be attached to me every minute of the day forever. The baby will have special needs and I won't be able to deal with it.

Aaaaaaaaaall of this. :-S

esav2012 · January 2014

1. That we don't have enough money saved. We saved but then had to do some emergency home repairs and medical issue with our dog all around Christmas so we went through most it quickly. I'm doing taxes ASAP. We usually get money back so I hope that will cover durring maturnity leave. My husband is alway so positive saying we always make it work. Which is nice and annoying at the same time. I wish I could just not worry like him. But he's right we usually do!

2. Just being ready in general. I'm also a little concerned about timing and breast feeding when I go back to work. But I'm sure that will work it's self out

DTNZ4Ever · January 2014

I'm anxious about something horrible happening to me and leaving DS 1&2 and DH behind. It terrifies me. I was worried about this last time with DS1 but it's way worse this time since DS1 will be 5 in March. It scares me.

Hays0770 · January 2014

I worry about sub plans. (I'm a teacher)

And now since my shower... I worry about not having enough clothes. Having a girl I was expecting bagillions of outfits given to me and therefore refrained from shopping myself. I got some, but nowhere near what people told me would happen. People were great and bought a variety of sizes, but now I have 15 zero-3 monthonesies/sleepers. I guess I have convinced my entirely rational-laundry-hating-pregnant brain that stores will stop selling baby clothes if I don't buy them now.

Paranoid... Maybe. Stressed... 100%

Zriseon3 · January 2014

The usual labor worries. The epidural scares me a lot. Worried that the baby won't be healthy or that for some reason I won't survive. Things like that. More than anything, its the unknown. As a FTM I have no idea what to expect. Been eating a lot of dates to hopefully make labor easier and shorter. We will see. I'm sure there will be all new worries once she's home.

LolaBelle11 · January 2014

CactusGirl said:

That we won't know what to so with dd and MH will have to stay outside with her and I'll be delivering on my own

hire a doula! The doula can either stay with you while you give birth or assist with your DD! They are very versatile.

sebullows · January 2014

Mine is having to leave LO after 8 weeks to go back to work. He's going to stay with mil and she's a crazy control freak. I am dreading it already.

AKPuffin · January 2014

Holy crap where do I even start?

1. I'm afraid I'm going to be a terrible parent and resent LO due to lack of sleep and pain from delivery and breastfeeding. What if we don't bond? I don't feel like I've bonded with her yet because I've been miserable the entire pregnancy.

2. Apparently I'm worried about diapers. I woke up from a dream last night where there wasn't a single diaper in our house and I had to send H out to find some. We plan on cloth diapering and will be renting from Earth Crunchy Mama for a month or two until we decide which brand/s we like. So we don't have diapers yet. Should I go buy some sposies? If so which brand?

3. Our carseat isn't here yet and neither are the pajamas, tank tops and nursing bras I bought for after she arrives. We're military living overseas and I don't know if I have the patience to wait for my orders to show up.

4. We're going to be parents. WHAT!?!

benevolentforce · January 2014

Totally irrational, and I feel guilty even saying it out loud, but I'm afraid of bleeding out from birth complications. This stems from a scary situation experienced by a friend where they didn't notice she was bleeding internally until it was on the very edge of being too late. Terrifying. I try to shake it by telling my DH to watch both baby and I closely, and also by reminding myself it's a one in a million type of issue.

lalaith50 · January 2014

The biggest thing I'm worried about isn't actually baby related, it's taxes-related! (And getting this done before the baby comes!)

I was a contractor for a company that closed over the summer, and the owner mentioned to me when he hired me that the previous year it had taken him forever to get 1099's out (like, illegally late,) so with that background information, added to the fact that I don't ever see him now that the company is closed... I *think* I still have his home phone number, but I am NOT looking forward to tracking him down and begging for my 1099 if I don't get it in the next week or two. :-(

And I could just add this income to my generic self-employed income, but then what if he does later submit a 1099, that's going to be a huge hassle!

Zriseon3 · January 2014

benevolentforce said:
Totally irrational, and I feel guilty even saying it out loud, but I'm afraid of bleeding out from birth complications. This stems from a scary situation experienced by a friend where they didn't notice she was bleeding internally until it was on the very edge of being too late. Terrifying. I try to shake it by telling my DH to watch both baby and I closely, and also by reminding myself it's a one in a million type of issue.

I have the same fear. I worry my daughter will grow up without her mom. I don't think its irrational. But I still worry more about losing her than I do about myself.

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