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How are you handling family during labor/delivery

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  • pineconeypineconey member
    We aren't telling people when I go into labor. Problem solved for us! :)

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  • PaddysGirl8PaddysGirl8 member
    I don't mind if my parents or bro and SIL stop in when in labor and the leave but no one will be there when Ipits time to get her out other than DH. My mom will be on call if necessary. I want alone time with DH and baby when she first arrives. I think the hospital gives us that time and then takes baby to the nursary. It's not until after that can others see her. I do not want my hospital room to be a zoo. That's my fear.

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  • rbrouillardrbrouillard member
    Dixon813 said:

    csmily51 said:

    We are going to let DH family (parents) come to the hospital while I'm in labor, but when it's time to push, etc, they are going to have to go to the waiting room/come back in a few hours.  I want it to just be DH and I with our little girl for a while.  My parents live out of state.  We will call my Dad & let him know, he will drive, its 8.5 hrs, and then my Mom is coming about a week after DD will be born.  


    QUESTION: Is it rude to tell BIL & SIL to not bring their 3 kiddos to the hospital?  I don't want to be rude, but they are germy little cesspools...they are ALWAYS SICK etc.? Or make them put hand sanitizer on and be done with it?  They will bring the kiddos unless told not to, and then it will be an issue...
    I don't think it's rude at all! You can always say it's hospital policy to not allow children under _____ near newborns.

    Most hospitals don't allow kids in if not a sibling in my experience. But if not then yeah tell thm they aren't allowed

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  • fourthnlastfourthnlast member
    rbrouillard said:
    We are going to let DH family (parents) come to the hospital while I'm in labor, but when it's time to push, etc, they are going to have to go to the waiting room/come back in a few hours.  I want it to just be DH and I with our little girl for a while.  My parents live out of state.  We will call my Dad & let him know, he will drive, its 8.5 hrs, and then my Mom is coming about a week after DD will be born.  

    QUESTION: Is it rude to tell BIL & SIL to not bring their 3 kiddos to the hospital?  I don't want to be rude, but they are germy little cesspools...they are ALWAYS SICK etc.? Or make them put hand sanitizer on and be done with it?  They will bring the kiddos unless told not to, and then it will be an issue...
    I don't think it's rude at all! You can always say it's hospital policy to not allow children under _____ near newborns.
    Most hospitals don't allow kids in if not a sibling in my experience. But if not then yeah tell thm they aren't allowed
    Unless you are a sibling, the hospital I deliver at will not let children in under 13.
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  • patunia7321patunia7321 member
    I'm fully expecting an entourage in the waiting room and if they choose to be there I really don't care how long they have to wait. If they want to sit there for hours so be it, that wouldn't make me feel anxious or pressured. Our families are over the top, but they know their place, no one would whine/complain/try to get into the room until they were specifically invited. Everyone lives within a 20 min drive to the hospital so coming and going isn't a big deal.

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  • HNRomanceHNRomance member
    csmily51 said:
    We are going to let DH family (parents) come to the hospital while I'm in labor, but when it's time to push, etc, they are going to have to go to the waiting room/come back in a few hours.  I want it to just be DH and I with our little girl for a while.  My parents live out of state.  We will call my Dad & let him know, he will drive, its 8.5 hrs, and then my Mom is coming about a week after DD will be born.  

    QUESTION: Is it rude to tell BIL & SIL to not bring their 3 kiddos to the hospital?  I don't want to be rude, but they are germy little cesspools...they are ALWAYS SICK etc.? Or make them put hand sanitizer on and be done with it?  They will bring the kiddos unless told not to, and then it will be an issue...
    no it's not rude. You don't need to have three little kids there. I kinda feel like the only little kids that should get to meet a newborn at the hospital would be a sibling....
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  • HNRomanceHNRomance member
    My DH and I have argued about this multiple times but I don't want anyone even coming to the hospital at all. I need his focus and I don't want to be distracted or have him distracted by who is or isn't out there waiting. When we are home and comfy again then we will call to let grandparents come visit. It is REALLY important for me to have us bond as a threesome and get time to recover a little bit myself since this is our first baby. I only agreed to a hospital birth to begin with because DH was so intensely uncomfortable with home birth so he finally agreed to not having anyone there.
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