What's causing you anxiety/ worry/ fear

BethRN1987 · January 2014

Some if us have outside babies most are getting pretty close! That being said what is the thing you find yourself worrying over the most? Locally or illogical ?

BethRN1987 · January 2014

Mine is finding time to pump at work. Nursing doesn't allow me to just take a break when I need to pump so I keep trying to organize how I will try to run my day to pump when I need to.

tsmith312 · January 2014

I've been really excited about having this LO the whole time , but now since I have a little less then 8 weeks until my EDD. I'm really starting to worry in general, I'm not BFing so I will be formula feeding how will I know what kind of formula to use ? When she gets a little older how will I know how much to give her ? When she wakes up in the middle of the night will I know what she needs ? I worry constantly if we will be good parents and raise her the best we can . Its a stressful thing in general , I'm a worrier anyways haha .

theluckiest9 · January 2014

I worry about L&D and something going wrong, adjusting to such a huge change and being a good parent. Everyone says "oh it'll come naturally" but what if it doesn't?

Derek2014Leslie · January 2014

I've been up since 4 this morning worrying about how I'm going to pay bills. I don't have any paid maternity leave.

farmrose · January 2014

I'm anxious about when this baby is going to make his or her appearance. My DH is in grad school and doesn't have a super flexible schedule. My EDD is in the middle of his spring break, which would be great if he/she came a few days early and he has the whole week with us without missing his classes. It's kinda silly to worry over it because I know he/she will come when they are good and ready but a girl can hope right?

wearebirds · January 2014

Currently I'm stressing about having everything done before she arrives. DH is a big ole procrastinator so I've been having to stay on top of him.

I'm also nervous about delivery...scared to need a csection or be induced....even though I haven't had any complications thus far.

tsmith312 · January 2014

Derek2014Leslie said:

I've been up since 4 this morning worrying about how I'm going to pay bills. I don't have any paid maternity leave.

THIS also !!!!

myfriendscallmemeg · January 2014

I haven't had any BH contractions... Making me a little antsy that my uterus isn't going to know/be strong enough to contract a baby out.
I know this isn't how it works, but I can't help but worry...

novelblessings · January 2014

I'm nervous about when LO will decide to arrive. Will I be at work and have to try and make it home or will I be lucky and already be at home? Also if she comes early will I have everything together?!

I'm also nervous about leave. I don't want to return to my job and I want to try and find something part time, in town. I'm hoping something will work out. Plus with this crappy weather I've been loosing precious vacation days that I would have had to use on leave.

VanessaBee · January 2014

I worry that I don't worry enough! I read everyone else's worries and think "oh my god, why didn't I think of that / why am I not worried more about that?!" Sigh.

ChristineRich06 · January 2014

I'm afraid she is going to be huge. Dd1 was 7lb 10oz at 41 weeks. DD2 was 8lb9oz on her due date. I'm afraid even if I go a week early that she is going to be 10lbs

matitice · January 2014

I'm worried about work. I seriously don't want to return to my job after LO comes but we really don't have that option at this point. My benefits are better & until we pay our debt off we need all of my income. DH would like me to only work part-time (at a less stressful job) once that happens I just want it to happen sooner than it will.

Also my boss is freaking out about my leave time. I've trained someone to do my work while I'm gone & we've even got a temp to help cover but she still is having meltdowns over it at least once a week. I love the woman dearly but man, calm down already!

ProudMommy030614 · January 2014

I am worried about how I am going to keep 3 boys and H from destroying my house! There can only be so much testosterone in one place :-SS

aubreylv · January 2014

I worry about moving when she two months old. We are military and have no idea where we are even moving to yet but know we are leaving Korea by May 10th. I need to find us a home, me a job, a caregiver for the baby. It's all very overwhelming.

jazzyexpo · January 2014

I'm worried about how dd is going to react to this big change and if I can deal with a newborn and toddler. I know I can, but more how will I handle it mentally.

amdecker1016 · January 2014

I do not need this child to come today or tomorrow. I've been having super intense BH on and off since last night. The roads are closed due to ice do to get to the hospital would be difficult/not impossible just nerve wracking!

For a while i had an irrational fear that she would come and i wouldn't have a car seat. I have one now.

Now i am just worried that i won't be able to birth her huge head. I don't want to go through labor, dilate, and then have to have a cs.

angelsnight · January 2014

Oh there are so many. Nursing for one, that's the big one right now. I'm worried about how messy our house is....not so much the common areas but our bedroom needs a major de-cluttering, as does the basement and I just don't know if I have the energy to do it before the baby comes. Today I worried about what to wear when I come back to work (dumb I know)....will I be back in my regular clothes by then (which I can't say I had a ton of that I liked) or still maternity clothes??

But overall, just, am I ready for this? I'm almost 35, so I guess if I am not, I never will be but still. I'm so used to friend's kids and neices and nephews that are cute, but not my worry. They go home at the end of the day, but this LO will be ours forever, everyday. I have an overwhleming feeling of "the point of no return". I mean obviously we passed that a lot time ago, like when we got pregnant, and I love this LO and I want her so bad, but I'm pretty freaked out about it all.

kelley72 · January 2014

Logical worries include finances and handling (emotionally) going back to work and (physically) demands of pumping. Maybe a little illogical worrying I will not go into labor early enough and the increased risks bc of my age of placental failure and stillborn..

CactusGirl · January 2014

My water breaking and me being super far from the hospital! (It's a two hour drive).

linzerd · January 2014

Pretty much just having a baby and any and everything involved with it.

peachy0709 · January 2014

MOSTLY I'm stressed about the fact that they are entrusting me with an actual newborn to care for. Surprisingly, childbirth, while scary and stressful, does not stress me out nearly as much as those first few nights when we bring her home. Oh, and the concept of a milk supply also gives me anxiety.

ETA: better grammar. The more pregnant I get, the more tired I get and my typing skills are seriously waning.

KariB509 · January 2014

I'm really worried I'm going to go into labor before March. I'll be 38 weeks at the beginning of March and for some reason I'm so worried I'm not going to make it. Irrational.

bumpuser9058414 · January 2014

Maternity leave. I get "6 weeks" short term disability, which I have to take sick/vacation time for the first week, then I get 70% of my pay for 5 weeks. I then can take any time I have, which is barely two weeks. So I'll only get paid for about 7-8 weeks of my 12 weeks. Also I have to pay my company my insurance premiums at about $400 a month, so I'll be paying them to be out for the last month. It sucks and I'm terrified of how we'll make do. I'm going to have to request a forbearance on my student loans. I could take only 8 weeks but then I'd have two in daycare at once and miss out on time with my baby. Maternity leave in this country is the worst.

ring_pop · January 2014

I'm most worried about who will take care of DS when I have to go to the hospital, and how he'll do if H and I both have to spend the night away. If I go during the day, we're good, but I'm worried about what happens if we have to go in the middle of the night.

CactusGirl · January 2014

That we won't know what to so with dd and MH will have to stay outside with her and I'll be delivering on my own

BoogieMonster629 · January 2014

Going from a family of 3 to a family of 4. How will DD react to the baby? How will I handle a baby and a toddler?

mfarmer0811 · January 2014

I'm nervous about quite a bit, but number one is breast feedin, and then giving him a bath!! Babies are so slippery when wet...what if I drop him?!

bumpuser9058414 · January 2014

@ring_pop and @cactusgirl I have those worries as well. There are so many what if's that it's making it hard to plan. If it's the middle of the night I have one friend on standby, but what if she doesn't hear her phone? My mom can get DD but she also wants to be there for the birth. I didn't have to worry about this last time.

babylimas · January 2014

Haha, isn't mine obvious by my posts? Anything and everything that isn't particularly significant. I tend to focus on the random things as opposed to thinking about the real worries after he is born.

lnvane00 · January 2014

I'm worried about not going back to work and losing my insurance and how we will be able to afford the baby on husbands insurance. I have no idea how this works and how people do this. I'm so afraid our baby will not have insurance and how are we going to pay for pedi visits if we dont have insurance. And I will have no insurance since I wont be working and how is that going to effect me. Bah!

Husband will be the financial provider and I feel bad that all of the weight of the bills and financial responsibility will be on his shoulders. I really feel bad about this.

I worry that my milk supply will not come in and I wont be able to breastfeed baby. I do not want to give him formula at all.

I still have not decided what diapers I wanna use and that is freaking me out! I dont want to use Pampers or Huggies or any of that crap. I have researched cloth diapers but dont think that is something I could do. But I want something that is enviromentally friendly and doesnt cost and arm and a leg. So confused.

MayKay12 · January 2014

I have just started freaking out about the sleepless nights and constant nursing ahead. I'm not ready!!! I feel like I finally started sleeping again after having dd and ds. What was I thinking having a third so soon!?

lnvane00 · January 2014

WisconsinCheese12 said:

@lnvane00 I am very worried about dh being the sole $ provider also, I just know how stressed out it makes him and I want him to enjoy his time at home with lo and I and not be so stressed ;( Is it crazy that I am stressed about dh being stressed???!?

No because I am worried about it too.

But yea, I seriously feel bad about him having to go to a stupid job everyday while I am home taking care of our baby and him being worried about how we are going to afford groceries on top of bills on top of diapers on top of a million other things. But he has said himself that he doesn’t want me to go back to work because he doesn’t want the baby in daycare. And I honestly could not just go back to work and leave my new baby to be taken care of by strangers and then barely make enough money to pay for the daycare anyway. I'd pretty much just be working to never see my baby with no money left over.

So you are not alone in your worries. I just have to keep telling myself that Everything Happens for a Reason and it will ALL WORK OUT!

Kristen61607 · January 2014

PTL and VBAC complications....that's about it

katykatykaty · January 2014

@invane00 Have you looked into how much getting your own insurance would cost? Maybe you would qualify for an inexpensive plan under the ACA? I'm pretty sure baby would definitely qualify for a preventative care plan. You should check into it now to get answers so you won't have to worry about the unknown.

ceh789 · January 2014

So many worries...

Pre-E and/or dying in L&D. That I actually will never be comfortable ever again or get a decent night of sleep (which is what I've been feeling like for a few weeks now). PPD. Going down to 1.5 incomes with the .5 being a job I haven't found yet. That MH will expect me to care for the house/baby 24/7 PLUS working half time, despite everything we've already talked about. Not being able to BF or having it be terribly painful. The baby will hate me. The baby will have colic and I'll go insane. The baby won't hate me and will be attached to me every minute of the day forever. The baby will have special needs and I won't be able to deal with it.

katykatykaty · January 2014

I'm mostly worried about Caroline adjusting to having a baby brother. I'm also worried about my mental state the first few weeks... I had bad baby blues last time, and I don't want Caroline to see me crying and feeling sad this time. I'm very worried about how I'm going to handle sleep deprivation with a toddler. I'm worried LO won't be a good nurser, and I'll have to worry about breastfeeding. And I'm worried about not being able to pick up Caroline for 6 weeks after I have the baby. I still carry her around a lot, so it's going to be a big adjustment.

Whew. That felt good!

Jens222 · January 2014

I'm more worried about my SO. He freaks under pressure. A year ago we got a very scary phone call that my gram wasn't going to make it (she's fine), he jumped out of bed and got in the car to go to the hospital. He never got dressed, it was freezing outside. I hope I'm with him when it's time to go so I can keep him calm. I do not want him in the hospital bed next to me for driving like a crazy person to get to the hospital. If he wakes up when I get up to pee he asks me if everything is ok or if it's time.

BrideNamedMeg · January 2014

I'm a little worried about how things will work being outnumbered by the kids. One kid was a piece of cake, two kids took some slight adjustments but was overall very easy. Now with this one there will be more of them than there are parents....DD is pretty independent, but has some rough moments here and there. I don't know how it will work if everyone needs attention at the same time!

I think DS will adjust okay to the new baby, I'm a little more worried about DD since she's older, and worried that she'll be disappointed if that baby's a boy because she wants a sister so much.

jennybean80 · January 2014

How much NICU time we'll have. How DS will deal with adding two siblings to the family. Paying for 3 kids in daycare. BFing twins. Possible c/section and not being able to pick up Declan for 6 weeks. And on, and on…

mrsdahamm · January 2014

DH and I have managed to completely avoid deciding who will take care of baby when I go back to work. We always had this great plan in our heads that he would be doing real estate and could stay home with baby and we could just have friends/family watch LO for short periods when he shows a house. Well all that has fallen through for now. He's currently driving 2 hours each way for work, and has missed several days the past two weeks because of the weather. I just don't see how he can continue that on the little sleep we'll get with a newborn. I just worry he'll have to take a local job that pays less and we'll need to send LO to daycare and we haven't even looked at any.

Also, the logistics of breastfeeding at work, everything about going back to work, and how our 3 dogs will react since they've been asshats the past few weeks. And that our house will be too dirty for baby. I think I could go on thinking of things all day.

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