Is there something we can do for SchoolPsychSteph

Puka99 · January 2014

I haven't been on this board for very long but I do know you are a great group of girls. And I do know what it feels like to lose a baby (we lost our last pregnancy at 18w). It was/is one of the worst experiences for me. I'm sure other mom's who've been in a similar situation would agree.

I don't know if it's a collection to get her something to remember her angel or just sending a bunch of cards or what, but I didn't know if that's something we could all do.

MrsP419 · January 2014

Two things I remember from my time on the bump were:

-a bump-wide (or board-wide: whatever is more appropriate) moment of silence. An hour was agreed on and during that hour, no one posted. There was also a badge or something we could put in our siggy's for the day.

-Someone took a collection for a tree or a memorial stone or something. I think that would be harder to arrange if a bumpie wanted to maintain anonymity…but the thought was nice.

jshrop · January 2014

I'm in for whatever. Let us know

robbinrl · January 2014

jshrop said:
I'm in for whatever. Let us know

Me too.

Luna C · January 2014

I would also be interested. My heart is breaking for her -- I just can't even imagine.

deepoceanmama · January 2014

I'm in for whatever anyone decides. Let me know what I can do.

abastian00 · January 2014

I'm also in to participate in whatever is agreed upon!

lellymine · January 2014

Me too

ElTrain5 · January 2014

I'm in.

flerlgirl · January 2014

Maybe an hour of silence for Steph as well as all of our June 14ers who have suffered losses?

Puka99 · January 2014

JuneMom3 said:

I'm in, but I would like to just remind everyone that whatever is decided needs to keep Steph's wishes in mind. I have reached out to her but don't expect a response. If anyone is friends with her maybe on FB and could ask her what she would be comfortable with, I think that is best. Otherwise an hour of silence is a great idea.

Totally agree. I was thinking even just sending cards/gift cards for places that are by her that she can order food from/get food from. I just remember being numb and not being able to take care of my kids or myself so the food gift cards were a blessing.

If anyone is friends with her, please let me know. I definitely don't want to overstep my bounds.

colllydon · January 2014

I'm in

curlylocks3 · January 2014

joules235 said:

Im in. I don't see the drive bys/trolls actually adhering to the hour of silence though.

Perhaps we could also add in that anything posted during that hour, unless an emergency, be completely disregarded by the rest of us even after the hour is up? It won't stop them from posting, but it gives them far less significance/traction.

jshrop · January 2014

joules235 said:
Im in. I don't see the drive bys/trolls actually adhering to the hour of silence though.

I don't think that matters as much as the core people who care about her are silent. Trolls and drive us will find themselves lonely until everyone gets back

flerlgirl · January 2014

We can pin the announcement to the top for the day and hopefully people will notice that. At least we can try. Someone with access to the blog can post a list of our losses so we can remember them all.

diagonalley · January 2014

Is there a way to "freeze" the board by the mods? Otherwise I think an announcement at the top would do, as well as not acknowledging any posts made. I am down for whatever the board decides to do.

b48kate · January 2014

I'm also in...

mrs_drc_rn · January 2014

I'm in. And agree with PPs about not acknowledging those who don't honor the moment of silence.

jacksoha · January 2014

I'm in for whatever. I really wish we could send her a bunch of cards but I completely understand if she wants to remain anonymous.
Otherwise, I really like the hour of silence.

ahopkins0419 · January 2014

Im also in for whatever

nunzchucks · January 2014

MommyP710 said:

Is there a way to "freeze" the board by the mods? Otherwise I think an announcement at the top would do, as well as not acknowledging any posts made. I am down for whatever the board decides to do.

We can pin an announcement, but not freeze comments board wide.

MrsP419 · January 2014

joules235 said:

Im in. I don't see the drive bys/trolls actually adhering to the hour of silence though.

It is not always trolls, though. Often just people who just aren't aware of what we are doing (or forget, even if they have good intentions). I think the best way to handle that is to schedule the hour several days in advance, post a couple reminders, and have the signature badge available before the actual hour as an additional passive reminder. I agree with also acknowledging that it is for any June '14 mama who has suffered a loss.

ETA: clarity

MrsP419 · January 2014

If you have another board that you are active on (or that you know Steph was active on), you can suggest other members join the hour…when I participated in one several years ago, a bumpie suddenly lost her toddler, and it was quite widespread across the whole community. Obviously people are suffering devastating losses of all kinds in this community and we need to be sensitive to that, but if there are others who are active on a board with Steph, maybe it would not be inappropriate to give the heads up. That would need to be someone else's call, though. I would not know where that would be, because I stick to my BMB and the multiples board.

hubbs173 · January 2014

I'm in for the hour of silence. My only question is if you pin an announcement will I see it on mobile?? Or will it be a thread?

Lindsleigh77 · January 2014

Count me in. Just so devastating for her

my heart hurts

colllydon · January 2014

emotionlotion said:
I may be way over thinking, but if we do a sticky can we write out what hour it will be in all time zones? That way people won't accidentally post if they are confused about the hour.

Edited for wording

Wow. I thought I was the only crazy planner person around. Small lady crush on you for thinking of this.

puttyeast · January 2014

I'm in. The hour of silence sounds wonderful.

babygabe614 · January 2014

I'm in

Shineoncrazy · January 2014

So glad to see this; I'm definitely in with whatever in decided!

arekeweg · January 2014

I'm in too!

JulieSmiles · January 2014

I'm in! I like the hour of silence idea for her.

kibean · January 2014

I'm in also. I think the hour of silence is a great idea.

bebemac · January 2014

Good idea! I'm in, too.

nunzchucks · January 2014

hubbs173 said:
I'm in for the hour of silence. My only question is if you pin an announcement will I see it on mobile?? Or will it be a thread?

It will look similar to the newbie welcome post.

tbmadeamistake · January 2014

Count me in for the hour of silence. I agree with @Junemom3 that we would be wise to not overstep our bounds. If it were me, as well meaning as it was meant, getting a gift from a bunch of ladies who were all still pregnant when I wasn't would hurt, at least this soon.

zolastele · January 2014

Absolutely in for hour of silence.

Cherylwang · January 2014

I'm in for whatever everyone decides. Did she or someone post something for her. My heart breaks for her. So so sad. I didn't see what happened. Has anyone heard from SNLT I haven't seen her on her and I wasnt sure if I missed a post from her.

bebemac · January 2014

@Cherylwang Check the Friday appointment thread from last week. I'm on mobile, or I would link for you.

hubbs173 · January 2014

LilNunz1 said:

hubbs173 said:
I'm in for the hour of silence. My only question is if you pin an announcement will I see it on mobile?? Or will it be a thread?

It will look similar to the newbie welcome post.

Ok thank you!

kks4471 · January 2014

I'm in for an hour of silence, for her and anyone else who had a loss recently. I agree with making a sticky for it, maybe saying the date and time in the title of the sticky.

yayksimp · January 2014

I'm mostly a lurker here, and don't post as often as most of you. But seeing the same names and reading about the pregnancies of the same group of women for this many weeks makes it increasingly more heartrending when something like this happens. Even if I don't post much, I feel like I know many of you. So whatever you guys decide to do, there are definitely people who you don't think of as the "core" of this forum who will want to participate... so I vote for badges or something to make sure we're all aware. Even semi-lurkers like me.

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