Let's discuss an offboard.

telicious2 · January 2014

sourpatchkids said:

rea1687 said:

Can it be a picture of your SN written on a piece of paper? With maybe the back of your LO or LO's hands/feet next to your SN?

We could do that. With the person and their kid facing the other way or just their hands?

And with the individualized password?

CNJ4EVA · January 2014

I was thinking more for people whose SN's are already known and established.......
NM, any of us could be a bearded old man (reg or not), I see the problem now.

Edited to add everything after NM

emmy236 · January 2014

I think with LOs hands or feet is a good idea

sourpatchkids · January 2014

Yeah you are right...anyone could be stealing pics right now..those that post little and "more established" posters. But those that are stealing pics aren't going to be able to find one of a person and their kids with their hands or them turned the other way or looking forward with a paper with their sn in the picture.

It may seem like a lot but it's worth it to establish some privacy.

TundraGirl · January 2014

KateRN08 said:
Couldn't anyone be stealing pics from a blog or google. I don't see how you guys are going to verify that anyone is legit. I could have stole my display pic... I didn't but I could have.

Agreed. After reading/responding to this, I think I'll just stay with TB and watch what I post. If I want to open up more to someone, I can always PM them. I don't want to send a pic and find out I sent it to one of my student's parents or worse.

So all of my rambling just leads me back to the fact that I'll hang out here with my tree on the tundra avatar and cling to my anonymity. If that means some of you don't want to play with me, I get it.

sourpatchkids · January 2014

Btw, I'm still fine with not doing one at all or just doing one for those that want to try it out.

sourpatchkids · January 2014

rea1687 said:

rea1687 said:

Can it be a picture of your SN written on a piece of paper? With maybe the back of your LO or LO's hands/feet next to your SN?

We could do that. With the person and their kid facing the other way or just their hands?
And with the individualized password?

I think the SN would work fine - great idea, btw!

lizziebooper · January 2014

Unfortunately I don't think there is any easy answer to making this work. Hopefully something works or we can all just stay here and just be more cautious of what we post.

sourpatchkids · January 2014

So some are still not comfortable holding a sign with your sn and your lo's hands in the picture? So just your hands, the paper and your lo's hands in the picture, nothing else...?

Schell2013 · January 2014

The picture thing won't work. I have never posted a pic of myself and my profile pic is of my horse. I have posted only 1 pic of LO too and don't have any pictures of LO in my siggy cause I can't get my siggy thing to work. How about @sourpatchkids just gets everyone to PM her and she replies with a password. Then when we go to the new forum we use our SN and password she gave us. No pictures required.

RoxZ32 · January 2014

I may be interested in a separate group thing but I'm a little iffy right now. I'm not trying to be a bitch (really I'm not) but OP (sourpatchkids) I don't feel like I "know" you well enough to feel comfortable sending you any pic at all. I apologize if you post more often than I realize though. Once you guys figure out the details though, I may be down for it.

CNJ4EVA · January 2014

Thanks for trying @sourpatchkids.

Bottom line is there is no 100% secure online forum. All we can do is attempt to do something MORE secure than TB for those that have concerns.

However, that idea doesn't seem to be doable either.

Really a no win I guess.

Edited to finish post

ordinary1 · January 2014

I wouldn't mind am off board group but I am not really active on here and don't post pics of me and have once or twice of Annabelle so doing that wouldn't help verify me.

sourpatchkids · January 2014

I posted way more when I was pregnant with N...not so much any more as I have the two off boards and I feel much safer posting there rather than here. I'd hoped to get to know you ladies better on an off board, but I'm coming to realize too much crap has gone on here. Some people don't feel safe posting pics to verify, the others don't feel safe if someone doesn't post the pics, it's a cycle. We aren't going to get anywhere.

At least I tried, right?

Cgoode517 · January 2014

I know I'm in the minority here but I'm still a fan of the private Facebook page. Yes, you would know my name but my profile is set to private so unless I added you as a friend, you wouldn't know any info about me. Private groups are not searchable and posts only show up in the group (your friends don't see that you posted or commented).

sourpatchkids · January 2014

And also, ya'll are kind of freaking me out not even wanting to post pics of you and your child's hands. I don't know what all went down here, but it had to have been bad...off to remove pics from siggy...

TundraGirl · January 2014

sourpatchkids said:
And also, ya'll are kind of freaking me out not even wanting to post pics of you and your child's hands. I don't know what all went down here, but it had to have been bad...off to remove pics from siggy...

I guess that doesn't freak me out- this is a board that allows anonymity if people want it. I am not trying to be harsh, but asking people to give that up in order to join an off-board and expecting them to be fine with it doesn't sit well with me. That is just MY feeling.

That being said, if there are some people that want to join an off-board, great. There were/are some people that seemed fine with the whole pic thing. That is up to them. Just don't be surprised if some of us don't do so. Either way, it's our choice. Not wanting to join an off-board isn't anything against you personally.

Why not do a poll to find out who's in and who's out? If there's enough for you to want to start the board, great. If not, at least you'll know.

surpriseaddition · January 2014

I agree, I don't see the big deal of a photo of your hands and your LOs hands, with your SN and the password that was PM from the person setting it up. I basically never post pics, but I don't see the issue with a photo like that. I have posted a pic with my family's feet before, etc. With those steps, you'd know it was a woman (by her hands) with a baby around the right age, and having the password that was PM would ensure it was the real person associated with that username, since only they would know the password if I t's PM. This new group would also use SN so it would be just as anonymous as here...but without anyone who wants to just lurking around. Will it cut out a crazy who does have an LO our age, or someone so nuts they'll go to that measure to stay in the group...no. But right know, prison inmates can look at our messages if they want to. Why do we only focus on the bearded old men?

D&S724 · January 2014

I'd be interested in a private group, but I'd still pop in here.

I must have missed the most recent breach of security on here, so I'm going to look through recent posts now to get caught up on who the crazy one is.

1and1is3 · January 2014

I like posting here because it's easy to go back and forth between this board and the ttgp board. If the off board is just as easy to get to then I'm good with it.
I agree with some sort of picture with your holding your screen name. Heck you could even hold a giant piece of paper with your screen name over your face...

surpriseaddition · January 2014

Check out Be Careful post.

RoxZ32 · January 2014

I'm not concerned about bearded men in the basement or the inmate lurkers. The person who attempted trouble is a mom with a child and joined in our conversations. We can't just let everyone in all willy nilly because they show 2 set of hands - they must be a poster that is recognized. I'm only bringing this up because of all the strange men talk where in reality that's not where the danger lies.

caden1206 · January 2014

It seems like you all have a good thing going on here. Just be careful what you share and you should be good. Honestly, if I had to do it all over again I would have never joined the spin off group because the TB offers everything you really need if you want to connect with women going through the same thing. I think that if another spin off is created even more valuable members will be lost from this board. Just my two cents.

Schell2013 · January 2014

I also like having the app on my phone I don't think I would bother logging in as much if I had to go to a website and stuff.

mommatotwo2 · January 2014

Schell2013 said:
I also like having the app on my phone I don't think I would bother logging in as much if I had to go to a website and stuff.

how do I get the app?

Schell2013 · January 2014

mommatotwo2 said:

Schell2013 said:
I also like having the app on my phone I don't think I would bother logging in as much if I had to go to a website and stuff.
how do I get the app?

If you have an I phone it's just called the bump, it's free and you login and your bmb is there.

caden1206 · January 2014

Is there one for android phones? I have looked and haven't been able to find one. Maybe I am not searching well enough and somebody can help.

mommatotwo2 · January 2014

caden1206 said:
Is there one for android phones? I have looked and haven't been able to find one. Maybe I am not searching well enough and somebody can help.

Yeah I have an android too, so that must be the issue, thanks though, Schell.

1and1is3 · January 2014

mishy2006 said:
I used the bump app when I had a droid. Granted that was over a year ago. I found it when randomly searching for pregnancy apps.

Yes there is a bump app for Android.
Edit: That didn't work like I thought it would.... See below for link to app

1and1is3 · January 2014

mishy2006 said:
I used the bump app when I had a droid. Granted that was over a year ago. I found it when randomly searching for pregnancy apps.

Yes there is a bump app for Android. Here ya go

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.xogrp.thebump

TundraGirl · January 2014

1and1is3 said:

mishy2006 said:
I used the bump app when I had a droid. Granted that was over a year ago. I found it when randomly searching for pregnancy apps.
Yes there is a bump app for Android. Here ya go https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.xogrp.thebump

When I clicked on it, it's just a pregnancy calendar.

mommatotwo2 · January 2014

TundraGirl said:

1and1is3 said:

mishy2006 said:
I used the bump app when I had a droid. Granted that was over a year ago. I found it when randomly searching for pregnancy apps.
Yes there is a bump app for Android. Here ya go https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.xogrp.thebump
When I clicked on it, it's just a pregnancy calendar.

me too

huzzahuzza · January 2014

Did you download it? It's advertised as a calendar but you can get to the forums from the ap

TundraGirl · January 2014

huzzahuzza said:
Did you download it? It's advertised as a calendar but you can get to the forums from the ap

It worked! Thank you. :-)

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