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sheriot · January 2014

My H is snoring because no sex, I have ridiculous hip pain, and brushing my teeth made me want to vomit.

Hugh Jackman is delicious. Thank you.

/tips hat and hopes to dream about him instead of Miley Cyrus.

pistolpackinmomma · January 2014

ErBear1010 said:

aimee223 said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

aimee223 said:
I had a check up with my OB today. I'm up 6 pounds total from my pre-preg weight. And I've been eating like a pig. No one seems to want to hear that around here, but I'm pretty proud of it, so don't mind if I do a little dance \:D/

(ETA: just so I'm not misunderstood, I'm not trying to compare and i don't think I'm better than anyone who's gained more weight. i just started out really fat.)
I'm failing to find a confession in there. I think you misunderstood the purpose of this thread.

around these parts where ladies have been a little sensitive lately, i think "I've only gained 6 pounds and I'm proud of it" is a confession, but if it's not?

Wait..what?

I dunno. I still don't see anything more than a brag.

gypsymystic · January 2014

K... so there is another old HS friend of mine on FB whom recently had a baby boy. He is under 2 weeks old and she keeps posting pics of her and/or baby sleeping precariously on the sofa, adult beds etc. To each her own but sleeping babies on furniture and adult beds especially so young is terrifying to me- on account of the fact my sister's SIL had twins and one of them smothered in bed at 6 months 2 days old, she slid between the mattress/bed and the wall with blankets and pillow on top of her while on vacation. My sister's MIL and SIL would do this frequently and thought it would be fine- and they feel so guilty they now tell everyone it was SIDs. Anyways I guess it's hormones but I am sooo trying my damndest to hold back from interjecting and informing her of the danger because basically I know she would take it offensively, I am fairly certain most people don't want any kind of advice like that. Better for me to bite my tongue, which is difficult because I have a tendency to blurt out my feelings/opinion sometimes.

Mamazon2014 · January 2014

yvanehtnioj said:
I have like 3 inches of roots. I get used to get my hair highlighted so it's not like a skunk stripe but definitely enough to make some people wonder why the hell I'm so lazy.

I've got close to 5 inches of natural growth going on right now. Any longer and I may actually be able to pull off the ombré look. I want to dye my hair so badly but I just can't justify spending the money on myself when there are things I still need to buy for LO.

Oh and now a slightly scandalous confession:

I did the deed with DH tonight! It's been over a month and I really missed it.
But because of how long it's been, it
Didn't last as I had hoped so after DH went to bed, I may or may not have taken care of some things on my own... O:-)

pistolpackinmomma · January 2014

Azlebella said:
K... so there is another old HS friend of mine on FB whom recently had a baby boy. He is under 2 weeks old and she keeps posting pics of her and/or baby sleeping precariously on the sofa, adult beds etc. To each her own but sleeping babies on furniture and adult beds especially so young is terrifying to me- on account of the fact my sister's SIL had twins and one of them smothered in bed at 6 months 2 days old, she slid between the mattress/bed and the wall with blankets and pillow on top of her while on vacation. My sister's MIL and SIL would do this frequently and thought it would be fine- and they feel so guilty they now tell everyone it was SIDs. Anyways I guess it's hormones but I am sooo trying my damndest to hold back from interjecting and informing her of the danger because basically I know she would take it offensively, I am fairly certain most people don't want any kind of advice like that. Better for me to bite my tongue, which is difficult because I have a tendency to blurt out my feelings/opinion sometimes.

I'm going to assume if someone is taking a picture then these are supervised naps.

spacepotatoes · January 2014

@kat8805 Hugh Jackman is the only reason I manage to muster up any enthusiasm for Reel Steel or the Wolverine movies. All about the eye candy.

Have you seen Kate & Leopold? It's pathetic (so maybe this is my belated FFFC) but I like to fantasize that the real HJ treats his women just like that. That body + the Leopold thing...YES PLEASE.

Would it be too much to ask for a sex dream involving that this weekend?

lavendergiraffes · January 2014

@reneewhite90 dually noted!!! I saw your post, I hope everything is okay.

GoodToBeGeib · January 2014

danabsd said:

Being TG is getting way harder this time than it was last time. I was packing up all of Beb's 6 month clothes to store last night and thinking IF I knew I wouldn't I have to make room for these 0-6 month socks, I could just keep them out... I've been doing this with a lot of things... if I knew, then... Most of them are just as dumb as the socks.
I know I want that moment again and I really do love not knowing but dammit I want to know what kind of my squishy baby i'm getting!

I'm having the same problem. I really want to be TG again and we are, but.... it's driving me nuts not knowing. I'm finding myself buying cute little girl things "just in case". It's not good for my bank account.

pistolpackinmomma · January 2014

GoodToBeGeib said:

danabsd said:

Being TG is getting way harder this time than it was last time. I was packing up all of Beb's 6 month clothes to store last night and thinking IF I knew I wouldn't I have to make room for these 0-6 month socks, I could just keep them out... I've been doing this with a lot of things... if I knew, then... Most of them are just as dumb as the socks.
I know I want that moment again and I really do love not knowing but dammit I want to know what kind of my squishy baby i'm getting!

I'm having the same problem. I really want to be TG again and we are, but.... it's driving me nuts not knowing. I'm finding myself buying cute little girl things "just in case". It's not good for my bank account.

I'm trying to clean out the nursery which happens to be where I tossed all of DS's clothes as he outgrew them. I told DH that it would be nice knowing if we really needed to keep all of them but I'm still refusing to cave. I want to be TG but I want to know if I need boy or girl clothes!! Lol

Xath · January 2014

danabsd GoodToBeGeib @pistolpackinmomma

I don't judge the Team Green thing, but I'm curious what the draw is? The people I know who I've asked say they want to be surprised. When my H and I discussed it, we figure we're still going to be surprised no matter when we find out; finding out sooner just gives us more time to plan.

Not trying to snark or judge; just genuinely curious why you guys choose to wait if you find it frustrating?

gypsymystic · January 2014

pistolpackinmomma said:

K... so there is another old HS friend of mine on FB whom recently had a baby boy. He is under 2 weeks old and she keeps posting pics of her and/or baby sleeping precariously on the sofa, adult beds etc. To each her own but sleeping babies on furniture and adult beds especially so young is terrifying to me- on account of the fact my sister's SIL had twins and one of them smothered in bed at 6 months 2 days old, she slid between the mattress/bed and the wall with blankets and pillow on top of her while on vacation. My sister's MIL and SIL would do this frequently and thought it would be fine- and they feel so guilty they now tell everyone it was SIDs. Anyways I guess it's hormones but I am sooo trying my damndest to hold back from interjecting and informing her of the danger because basically I know she would take it offensively, I am fairly certain most people don't want any kind of advice like that. Better for me to bite my tongue, which is difficult because I have a tendency to blurt out my feelings/opinion sometimes.
I'm going to assume if someone is taking a picture then these are supervised naps.

I am guessing so too, I would just hope she isn't super comfortable leaving baby alone like that. I am against co-sleeping in general though, just as rule for myself. I don't intend to tell anyone else how to do it. My mom co-slept all of us I am just too paranoid and will personally choose not to. I did however, forget to mention my sister's MIL was sleeping on an air mattress a few feet away when this happened. SIL did not get into bed with her that night, as she had fallen asleep in the other room.

pistolpackinmomma · January 2014

Azlebella said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

Azlebella said:
K... so there is another old HS friend of mine on FB whom recently had a baby boy. He is under 2 weeks old and she keeps posting pics of her and/or baby sleeping precariously on the sofa, adult beds etc. To each her own but sleeping babies on furniture and adult beds especially so young is terrifying to me- on account of the fact my sister's SIL had twins and one of them smothered in bed at 6 months 2 days old, she slid between the mattress/bed and the wall with blankets and pillow on top of her while on vacation. My sister's MIL and SIL would do this frequently and thought it would be fine- and they feel so guilty they now tell everyone it was SIDs. Anyways I guess it's hormones but I am sooo trying my damndest to hold back from interjecting and informing her of the danger because basically I know she would take it offensively, I am fairly certain most people don't want any kind of advice like that. Better for me to bite my tongue, which is difficult because I have a tendency to blurt out my feelings/opinion sometimes.
I'm going to assume if someone is taking a picture then these are supervised naps.

I am guessing so too, I would just hope she isn't super comfortable leaving baby alone like that. I am against co-sleeping in general though, just as rule for myself. I don't intend to tell anyone else how to do it. My mom co-slept all of us I am just too paranoid and will personally choose not to. I did however, forget to mention my sister's MIL was sleeping on an air mattress a few feet away when this happened. SIL did not get into bed with her that night, as she had fallen asleep in the other room.

I'm guessing you mean bed sharing. Co-sleeping is actually recommended and supposed to help prevent SIDS. Also, never say never.

pistolpackinmomma · January 2014

gertiebarden said:
danabsd GoodToBeGeib @pistolpackinmomma

I don't judge the Team Green thing, but I'm curious what the draw is? The people I know who I've asked say they want to be surprised. When my H and I discussed it, we figure we're still going to be surprised no matter when we find out; finding out sooner just gives us more time to plan.

Not trying to snark or judge; just genuinely curious why you guys choose to wait if you find it frustrating?

Part of my reasoning is illogical. We were TG drop outs with DS. I couldn't help it I just had to know when I saw his nose on the u/s. After we found out we were teased for caving but I really didn't care. I had all of these plans for him. I wasn't going to find out what we were having (we did), I was going to go all natural no epi (I ended up with a c/s), I was going to EBF (ended up giving formula in the hospital because my kid is a pig and eventually switched to special formula for his MSPI), wasn't going to do cereal/purées (pedi recommended cereal at 6 weeks because he was eating 10 oz and screaming for more due to reflux, then we tried purées to make sure he had something solid to try to fix extreme spit up issues) and all sorts of things. Oh and we weren't ever going to bed share, then he went through teething, a few big milestones and extreme constipation (to the point of a trip to the ER) and he would not sleep unless with me. I am very grateful for DS and love him to pieces but the irrational side of me feels like because I caved on the first "plan" that was why all the rest went to hell.

Secondly, it is fun not knowing. I feel strongly that it is a girl. And selfishly, I don't want everyone buying me so much pink that I don't get to shop for any of the fun tiny sizes and have clothes I actually want for her. With DS, I didn't get to do any newborn shopping (FWP I know) and I want that this time. But I also want to (hoping for a VBAC) hear DH tell me if we have another son or that we have a daughter. I have always wanted that moment of hearing those words come from DH's mouth.

GoodToBeGeib · January 2014

gertiebarden said:

danabsd GoodToBeGeib @pistolpackinmomma

I don't judge the Team Green thing, but I'm curious what the draw is? The people I know who I've asked say they want to be surprised. When my H and I discussed it, we figure we're still going to be surprised no matter when we find out; finding out sooner just gives us more time to plan.

Not trying to snark or judge; just genuinely curious why you guys choose to wait if you find it frustrating?

hmmmm.... I'll try to explain, but I don't know if i'll do a good job putting it into words. A big part of it was the "surprise". I do agree it's a surprise no matter when you find out, but for me the big surprise was waiting until I had the baby to see who it was in there! With DS it was easy to be team green. We were having a baby and it'd all be new no matter whether it was a girl or boy. As an added bonus I liked not knowing so that I wouldn't get a bunch of clothes for my baby shower. Also (this sounds selfish and I don't know if it'll make sense to others, but....) there is something about others knowing what I'm having and/or the baby's name before it's born that bothers me. It's like when people I'm not close to touch my belly or act like the pregnancy has anything to do with them. It really bothers me. This is my baby and DH's baby, no one else's. I feel like people having "inside information" invades my privacy or something! (See I told you it probably wouldn't make sense, but it does to me)

This time we knew we'd be team green again, but I've found it surprisingly much more difficult. I think it's because we already have a son. Part of me thinks we could prepare him better if we knew what we were having so we could say "she/he", "your sister/brother", and maybe even start using a name. And because we already have a son I'm feeling up in the air about whether or not we'll need to purchase all new clothes, etc. We have gender neutral "stuff" so it'd just be clothes. The first go 'round we knew we'd need clothes either way, but this time I'm not sure. I guess my annoyance this time really comes down to a materialistic need to know so I can shop!

All in all I love the wondering and waiting...

pistolpackinmomma · January 2014

GoodToBeGeib said:

gertiebarden said:

danabsd GoodToBeGeib @pistolpackinmomma

I don't judge the Team Green thing, but I'm curious what the draw is? The people I know who I've asked say they want to be surprised. When my H and I discussed it, we figure we're still going to be surprised no matter when we find out; finding out sooner just gives us more time to plan.

Not trying to snark or judge; just genuinely curious why you guys choose to wait if you find it frustrating?

hmmmm.... I'll try to explain, but I don't know if i'll do a good job putting it into words. A big part of it was the "surprise". I do agree it's a surprise no matter when you find out, but for me the big surprise was waiting until I had the baby to see who it was in there! With DS it was easy to be team green. We were having a baby and it'd all be new no matter whether it was a girl or boy. As an added bonus I liked not knowing so that I wouldn't get a bunch of clothes for my baby shower. Also (this sounds selfish and I don't know if it'll make sense to others, but....) there is something about others knowing what I'm having and/or the baby's name before it's born that bothers me. It's like when people I'm not close to touch my belly or act like the pregnancy has anything to do with them. It really bothers me. This is my baby and DH's baby, no one else's. I feel like people having "inside information" invades my privacy or something! (See I told you it probably wouldn't make sense, but it does to me)

This time we knew we'd be team green again, but I've found it surprisingly much more difficult. I think it's because we already have a son. Part of me thinks we could prepare him better if we knew what we were having so we could say "she/he", "your sister/brother", and maybe even start using a name. And because we already have a son I'm feeling up in the air about whether or not we'll need to purchase all new clothes, etc. We have gender neutral "stuff" so it'd just be clothes. The first go 'round we knew we'd need clothes either way, but this time I'm not sure. I guess my annoyance this time really comes down to a materialistic need to know so I can shop!

All in all I love the wondering and waiting...

I agree with all of it. I completely understand!!

gypsymystic · January 2014

pistolpackinmomma said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

K... so there is another old HS friend of mine on FB whom recently had a baby boy. He is under 2 weeks old and she keeps posting pics of her and/or baby sleeping precariously on the sofa, adult beds etc. To each her own but sleeping babies on furniture and adult beds especially so young is terrifying to me- on account of the fact my sister's SIL had twins and one of them smothered in bed at 6 months 2 days old, she slid between the mattress/bed and the wall with blankets and pillow on top of her while on vacation. My sister's MIL and SIL would do this frequently and thought it would be fine- and they feel so guilty they now tell everyone it was SIDs. Anyways I guess it's hormones but I am sooo trying my damndest to hold back from interjecting and informing her of the danger because basically I know she would take it offensively, I am fairly certain most people don't want any kind of advice like that. Better for me to bite my tongue, which is difficult because I have a tendency to blurt out my feelings/opinion sometimes.
I'm going to assume if someone is taking a picture then these are supervised naps.

I am guessing so too, I would just hope she isn't super comfortable leaving baby alone like that. I am against co-sleeping in general though, just as rule for myself. I don't intend to tell anyone else how to do it. My mom co-slept all of us I am just too paranoid and will personally choose not to. I did however, forget to mention my sister's MIL was sleeping on an air mattress a few feet away when this happened. SIL did not get into bed with her that night, as she had fallen asleep in the other room.
I'm guessing you mean bed sharing. Co-sleeping is actually recommended and supposed to help prevent SIDS. Also, never say never.

Yes, you are correct. We did co-sleep DS1 in our room, and will do so with DS2. I would wake up 50 million times a night to make sure the baby was breathing with #1 due to postpartum anxiety and I feel like I would drive myself crazy with worry if we were to ever have him in bed with us. DS1 is 4 now and I still get uncomfortable and feel like I or DH will squish him whenever he gets in our bed even though I know that is an irrational thought at this point.

mileswithmyles · January 2014

I know this is late, but my FFFC kept me busy last night. I was making cookies, a cake and cake pops for my childhood best friend's baby shower today and I ate a large amount of leftover frosting in lieu of dinner last night. I think I gave my baby a sugar high.

Must see if doctor will let me eat frosting for mg GD test...

mileswithmyles · January 2014

MrsKTen said:

IBackBevo said:

ALE515 said:

Let me just say that I'm a female Joe Pesci, so I can get ragey (terrible spelling I'm sure) over any little thing.

With that said, I hate when a certain pregnant friend doesn't discuss her pregnancy or post pics on facebook. I'm not saying that she has to talk about it all the time, but whenever someone asks her what she's craving or anything pregnancy related, she acts like she's not pregnant and everyone else is the crazy one for asking. None of her friends (me included) or family live near her, so we're just curious. One bump picture won't hurt. But she has no problem constantly posting pics of her crappy looking food, or toenail polish. She's been married a year, so this isn't scandalous. And she just had her shower. From what I've heard, she hasn't gained 200 pounds or anything crazy.

Why? Why does this bother me so much?

Maybe she has dealt with loss before. Or maybe she has a friend or family member dealing with IF or loss and doesn't want to rub it in their face all over facebook. Not being snarky. Just throwing out a possible reason. IDK. Or maybe it was unplanned and she is having a hard time getting excited.

This. There are a multitude of reasons someone may not want to AW their pregnancy on FB. It is very possible that she had a previous loss and wants to keep her pregnancy private. We didn't announce on FB until close to 20 weeks, and I haven't really mentioned it there since.

I agree with this. I posted to announce our pregnancy and that we were having a boy, but I don't post much else related to pregnancy. I save most of that for you ladies!

danabsd · January 2014

danabsd GoodToBeGeib @pistolpackinmomma

I don't judge the Team Green thing, but I'm curious what the draw is? The people I know who I've asked say they want to be surprised. When my H and I discussed it, we figure we're still going to be surprised no matter when we find out; finding out sooner just gives us more time to plan.

Not trying to snark or judge; just genuinely curious why you guys choose to wait if you find it frustrating?

I don't know how to answer that really. I'll try and then sleep on it.

I guess it started when my 2nd nephew was born, H and I were dating at the time (I hadn't met him when the first one came along). SIL found out really early it was a boy 14 weeks? this was before the blood tests were available so they found out the first chance they could by ultrasound. They decided they were going to name him Jared by 20 weeks? So, from that point on he was Jared. Come baby havin' time, she was induced and when she started pushing we all went to the hospital to wait in the waiting room. Siblings, aunts, cousins, me, seriously everyone. We walked in and H's aunt Jackie says "Jared's almost here!" She was so so excited and it took me a full minute to figure out who Jared was. Like I was missing someone in the family who was coming. Then I realized... it was the baby. And it was just so...anticlimactic. I guess...

It was at that point that I decided I wanted that surprise, that "it's a" moment...

My husband wasn't completely sold on the idea with Beb but he went along with it for me. He even told people "yea, next time were going to find out". After she was born he said he never wanted to do it any other way. And next time? He was the one who insisted on staying TG. We both loved that moment he told me it was a girl.

The tl;dr.

We did it the first time because I really wanted the delivery room surprise. We're doing it again because I truly loved it the first time.

reneewhite90 · January 2014

danabsd said:

gertiebarden said:
danabsd GoodToBeGeib @pistolpackinmomma

I don't judge the Team Green thing, but I'm curious what the draw is? The people I know who I've asked say they want to be surprised. When my H and I discussed it, we figure we're still going to be surprised no matter when we find out; finding out sooner just gives us more time to plan.

Not trying to snark or judge; just genuinely curious why you guys choose to wait if you find it frustrating?
I don't know how to answer that really. I'll try and then sleep on it.
I guess it started when my 2nd nephew was born, H and I were dating at the time (I hadn't met him when the first one came along). SIL found out really early it was a boy 14 weeks? this was before the blood tests were available so they found out the first chance they could by ultrasound. They decided they were going to name him Jared by 20 weeks? So, from that point on he was Jared. Come baby havin' time, she was induced and when she started pushing we all went to the hospital to wait in the waiting room. Siblings, aunts, cousins, me, seriously everyone. We walked in and H's aunt Jackie says "Jared's almost here!" She was so so excited and it took me a full minute to figure out who Jared was. Like I was missing someone in the family who was coming. Then I realized... it was the baby. And it was just so...anticlimactic. I guess...
It was at that point that I decided I wanted that surprise, that "it's a" moment...
My husband wasn't completely sold on the idea with Beb but he went along with it for me. He even told people "yea, next time were going to find out". After she was born he said he never wanted to do it any other way. And next time? He was the one who insisted on
staying TG. We both loved that moment he told me it was a girl.

The tl;dr.
We did it the first time because I really wanted the delivery room surprise. We're doing it again because I truly loved it the first time.

There have many many people that have tried to get me to be TG with all three pregnancies and I've never even budged. There had never been a part of me that thought "Oh that seems like a fun surprise!", and I've found out with all three. Until what you just explained... I'm not sure if it's anything necessarily different than what I've heard in the past or just the way you explained it. All I know is that I truly think if I read your response a little over a month ago, we would not have found out. It does sound very special. Excited for you and your family!

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