Tell me I can do this!

shadysladyWed98470 · January 2014

Serious sleep training--night #1. LO has been screaming bloody murder for 30 minutes and I've been crying for 20. I've been in there twice to try to soothe, only made it worse so I'm staying out. Should I pick him up and start over tomorrow? How long can this go on? I'm crying like a baby here.

arschm02 · January 2014

With my little guy going in to soothe him made it 10x worse and he would start all over. If you pick him up tonight you'll just go through the same thing tomorrow. Hang in there. He'll calm down and you'll make it through and in the morning he'll still give his big grin and love you just the same. You can do it!

AprilloMom · January 2014

My little guy lasted about an hour. I went in at 5, 5, 10, & 11 mins. Each time I would hold him and calm him down a little and lay him back down. He would scream just as loud when I put him back down, but it made me feel better being able to comfort him. The last time he actually calmed down without me having to pick him up, which surprised me. I patted his back and left the room again. He cried again and fell asleep 9 minutes later. It was so hard. Each time I picked him up I would say, "Mommy's sorry, but I'm trying to help you learn how to sleep better." Sounds silly, but it made me feel better. And it's true...you are not only doing this for yourself. A rested baby is a happier baby for sure!

And it's ok to cry. I sat outside his room and cried. My DH tried to distract me and get me to come downstairs, but it made me feel better being close to him. Again, it sounds silly, but it helped.

Good luck! Stay strong, it made our daily routine so much better! It will be worth it.

shadysladyWed98470 · January 2014

Thanks ladies, he is asleep. Night 1 lasted almost 40 minutes. Here's to hoping tomorrow is a little easier for us all.

JSS1002 · January 2014

No advice, but big big hugs. Good job. I know that broke your heart, but it will get better.

AprilloMom · January 2014

I wanted to add:

I agree if you give in now it will be a wasted night and you will have to start again tomorrow! You are already 30 mins in..the hardest part. My son caught on so quickly after the first night. Hopefully your LO will too. Some people only do CIO at night and then move on to naps. But once I started CIO, we did naps and bedtime. I didn't want him to be confused as to why he was being rocked sometimes and not others. After the first night, he cried for 5 mins or less and now he only fusses for a couple of minutes.

AprilloMom · January 2014

shadysladyWed98470 said:

Thanks ladies, he is asleep. Night 1 lasted almost 40 minutes. Here's to hoping tomorrow is a little easier for us all.

yay! you/he did it!

snok83 · January 2014

Agree, I would try to wait it out. We did a Ferber like sleep training a few weeks ago. The first night was the roughest as it is hard to hear them cry and to do absolutely nothing for them. THe first night she cried for about 25 minutes. We went in at 5 minutes, then 10, then another 10 and we would not pick her up during these times. We simply told her it was okay, patted her back and if she was standing up in the crib- we layed her back down.

Each night, it got easier. She cried less and fell alseep quicker. Within a few nights, we found ourselves setting the timer for 5 minutes and ended up not needing to go back in. It is great being able to put her in the crib now and she falls alseep on her own within minutes of being put down. We do the same thing if she wakes during the night- not as easy when you want to return to sleep. But I suggest sticking with it. We were amazed at how quickly she improved and bed time is so much easier now.

24ladybug · January 2014

It should get better each night. Hang in there!

bumpuser5078523 · January 2014

Great job!!

It only took us two naps (one hour and half an hour) one day and he would only fuss/cry for 10 or 15 minutes after that. I was surprised he learned so quickly. Now he only fusses for a minute or two most naps.

I found going in for any reason made him so mad and he screamed! He probably would have slept quicker the first nap if I hadn't gone in to give him his binkie back.

Lhyacinth888 · January 2014

Great job! You can do it!!! Night one is done and tomorrow morning when you see his smiling face you'll see he wasn't damaged or hurt! You can do it! Stick with it and don't cave in!! :-)

ClandestineX · January 2014

I wrote up a huge pep talk to bring your spirits up and the Bump ate it and didn't save a draft.

Anyways, long story short.. you are a great mother and doing what is best for your child. You can do it!

shadysladyWed98470 · January 2014

Aw thanks ladies! I seriously feel so good reading all your words of encouragement! Night # 2 starts in about an hour! I feel confident after reading all of these! Thx again! Hugs!

pinottoparenthood · January 2014

We are sleep training over here too bc our ped told me I needed to stop nursing him to sleep and I think she's right... He's waking up to comfort nurse every night. I let my H do the checks and he found that it helps if he just stands next to the crib and makes shushing noises and/or sings and hums. Idk if you want to be more "hands off" but it has helped our guy settle down without haing to actually pick him up.

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