JFC: Bottle Refusal

Stina2012 · January 2014

Riley just lost her shit when I tried to offer her a bottle. What the ever loving fuck? She took a bottle from from DH all weekend and yesterday. I need her to eat a bottle consistently. She used to take them from anyone and now she's throwing shit fits. Can they have tantrums at this age?

I honestly want to strangle her about this bottle issue. I am so fucking pissed she's being such a little shit. I mean that, I really mean that about my 6 month old. I know she can drink from a bottle, I know she drinks funky milk. This is a choice that she is making and it's fucking obnoxious.

[Deleted User] · January 2014

I feel this way about sleep. Hugs >:D<

Pink724 · January 2014

I'm sorry

I know she used to take them from any/everyone, but maybe now she is ok taking them from someone other than you? Since your DH could get her to take one, maybe the DC people can, too. Perhaps she is pitching a fit because you, The Boobs, are trying to give it to her and she has figured out she can refuse?

I don't know, you know I am no help really. I hope it gets better.

Stina2012 · January 2014

Like this is not in any way normal. At all. Shouldn't she still have a desire to suck? If she's hungry shouldn't she want to eat a bottle she she fucking can eat a bottle? This is not a new bottle, not new milk so she knows how to do these things.

She's just completely losing her shit. I'm comforting and rocking her to get her calm to take a bottle. Then I offer a bottle and she flips her fucking lid. Heaven forbid I try to give her a bottle. I was in the house when she took 2oz yesterday.

Ffffuuuuuucccckkkkk!

blairwitch · January 2014

Stina2012 · January 2014

My hand to God it will take DH forever to convince me to have another. Every FUCKING thing is an issue for this kid. Her fucking car seat, her fucking naps, her fucking bottles. There is not ONE thing that has been easy with her. Everyone thinks she's an easy baby. She's easy as long as you do things exactly as she wants them.

Are your babies like this? I really think she's mentally delayed or there's an issue there. This is ridiculous.

aehamilton13 · January 2014

I know how frustrating it is. My kid flips his lid every single time we try to feed him. Boob, bottle, doesn't matter. Crying from hunger, try to feed him, freaks out. Not acting overly hungry, try to feed him, freaks out. It is so trying on my patience. I had to put him down and walk away this morning, I was getting so frustrated. I don't know what to do either, but I'm losing my mind.

Stina2012 · January 2014

lizabethann06 said:
Hugs Hun. Big big hugs.

My guess is she won't take a bottle from you because she associates you with nursing?

And what happens when I'm done nursing? Or when I can't leave my job to go feed her?

Seriously, are other babies like this?

Stina2012 · January 2014

aehamilton13 said:
I know how frustrating it is. My kid flips his lid every single time we try to feed him. Boob, bottle, doesn't matter. Crying from hunger, try to feed him, freaks out. Not acting overly hungry, try to feed him, freaks out. It is so trying on my patience. I had to put him down and walk away this morning, I was getting so frustrated. I don't know what to do either, but I'm losing my mind.

It's fucking obnoxious.

blairwitch · January 2014

Just gonna leave these here and walk away....slowly....

Stina2012 · January 2014

We are all going for a walk with the dog. This just absolutely sucks. I do not like letting Riley cry, but I need her to push through this. We alternate crying, cuddling and soothing, playing, attempting a bottle and then crying. Rinse and repeat.

Going for a walk and then abandoning bottle attempts today. I'm close to losing my cool with her (I'm cursing like a sailor here, but very calm with her I promise) and that's no bueno.

aehamilton13 · January 2014

Stina2012 said:

aehamilton13 said:
I know how frustrating it is. My kid flips his lid every single time we try to feed him. Boob, bottle, doesn't matter. Crying from hunger, try to feed him, freaks out. Not acting overly hungry, try to feed him, freaks out. It is so trying on my patience. I had to put him down and walk away this morning, I was getting so frustrated. I don't know what to do either, but I'm losing my mind.
It's fucking obnoxious.

Yes, yes it is. I've yelled at Hunter before. So not proud of that.

But it is so frustrating it's insane. I want to poke my eyeballs out with knitting needles all day.

atlvol · January 2014

I don't have any advice, but I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I hope you are able to figure out something soon.

Stina2012 · January 2014

Guys, save me! She's trying to feed me from a bottle!!!! Heeeellllllppppp!

karen0477 · January 2014

I would guess it's because it's you offering, I don't really have much else because I don't bf, but I hear the same thing from many a mom. And yes, she can already be figuring out the stubbornness at this age, my first dd did.

Big hugs....breathe deep. I don't honestly think there is anything wrong with her.....have a good walk and decompress, it should help....

dliz87 · January 2014

You've gotta let it out somewhere- curse like a sailor as much as you want.

Liv has had major issues in the past few days refusing her bottle and arching her back.... We figured out that it was thrush. Any chance it's something like that?

Stina2012 · January 2014

All that fighting has me tuckered out. We took a super short walk (it's like 14 out) and are back inside. I'm giving up the bottle today. I just pray she takes something at daycare.

Stina2012 · January 2014

Oh, here's the photo I meant to add.

Stina2012 · January 2014

dliz87 said:
You've gotta let it out somewhere- curse like a sailor as much as you want.

Liv has had major issues in the past few days refusing her bottle and arching her back.... We figured out that it was thrush. Any chance it's something like that?

She'll nurse on me without issue. So I don't think it's thrush. We have her 6 month appointment on Fri so I will ask.

Stina2012 · January 2014

NKaeding said:
Ugh.

I mean, right?

Linzbut113083 · January 2014

Yes, we are in the same predicament. We have been trying to give dd a bottle for.f'ing.ever. She took it the first two weeks of life, then it was bf for two weeks without offering a bottle, and during those two weeks she quit the bottle. She hasnt gone back. Its frustrating. I pop into work 2 days a week and she stays with DH. She refuses a bottle everytime, wastes BM i have stashed. After battling for a while, he drives her to my office, i nurse her in the car, and he takes her home.

You cant force her to eat. If its offered, she will take it when shes ready. Sorry.

Stina2012 · January 2014

NKaeding said:

Stina2012 said:

NKaeding said:
Ugh.
I mean, right?

Well if you need some time away, you
know where to find me.

I can't leave or my child will starve.

Stina2012 · January 2014

NKaeding said:

Stina2012 said:

NKaeding said:

Stina2012 said:

NKaeding said:
Ugh.
I mean, right?

Well if you need some time away, you
know where to find me.
I can't leave or my child will starve.

Touche

She's just going to have to deal with it at daycare. I cannot leave mid day to nurse her once my big project hits.

And the dog walker, who I cancelled, just woke her up from her nap. Fuckity fuck fuck.

Happy Hump Day.

Lelo2006 · January 2014

I've had days where I felt like this, too! A couple weeks ago I could have written the same post. Things have progressively gotten so much better since 6 months.

I'm sure over the next few months things will get easier and easier and all these issues will disappear. I'm so, so sorry. Huge hugs. I have had days when I was just crying in the shower because everything seemed so hard.

Stina2012 · January 2014

Thanks Mamas!

I want to reiterate that I lose my cool here, not with my nugget. I mean, don't get me wrong I am pissed at her! But I try and keep my cool.

ceechie · January 2014

Ahhhh, that blows so majorly much. I went through it with dd1. She was super strong willed. I, knock on wood, haven't had the same issue with any of my other kids. When I tried to wean her from the boob, she acted the same way. I cried for a week straight. I was so freaked she would starve herself and I didn't want to nurse anymore. It was a no win. When dh got home from work, I'd have to leave the room, and sometimes the house, to get her to take a bottle. Once we got through hell week, she was good to go.

Stina2012 · January 2014

@lelo2006, she turns 6 months today. Is there an "I am a crazy person" phase that James went through around 6 months?

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

Oh girl. Take a deep deep breath. This is just her issue right now. Can you get your H to give her the bottle on his lunch break? Can you call another person to try? I think, right now, you are too wound up to think clearly.

It sounds so frustrating but if you push & get frustrated then it might backfire. Just hang it up & try again later. She will eat when she is hungry.

Don't take this the wrong way, but I think you need a time out. Reset. Put LO down somewhere safe & take 5 minutes to chill.

Lelo2006 · January 2014

Stina2012 said:
@lelo2006, she turns 6 months today. Is there an "I am a crazy person" phase that James went through around 6 months?

Oh yeah. Literally right at 6 months. I was so, so upset because I was like I thought things were supposed to get a little easier right now! He cried and fussed all day, he seemed super hungry all the time and was eating non stop, and I literally couldn't put him down. Now, 3 weeks later, he's so much better. He will play by himself in his bouncer, on the floor, or in his room while I do laundry, he doesn't scream in the car seat (unless he's hungry or tired), and he goes right to sleep for naps (I did do nap training).

Give it time. Everything is just a phase and I'm sure there will be times when things seem impossible again. Anyway, I know how hard it can be. I'm sorry!

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

Remember the first year is about survival!

Lelo2006 · January 2014

PrimRoseMama said:
Remember the first year is about survival!

It is really about setting expectations, I've found. It seemed like everyone told me that it gets so easy to have a baby around 4 months old. Well, those people are either drunk or they were so sleep-deprived they can't remember, because things were still effing hard at 6 months. Then I read here a while ago exactly what Prim posted above. I just realized I need to expect things to just be difficult this first year. That doesn't mean I'm not going to cry about it or feel like a shitty mom some days. Or feel like throwing the baby out the window

Stina2012 · January 2014

PrimRoseMama said:
Oh girl. Take a deep deep breath. This is just her issue right now. Can you get your H to give her the bottle on his lunch break? Can you call another person to try? I think, right now, you are too wound up to think clearly.

It sounds so frustrating but if you push & get frustrated then it might backfire. Just hang it up & try again later. She will eat when she is hungry.

Don't take this the wrong way, but I think you need a time out. Reset. Put LO down somewhere safe & take 5 minutes to chill.

Totally agree with you. I put her down in her room and took a breather. Our walk helped.

DH can't come and give her a bottle during lunch. That's just not an option. We have to be able to drop her off at DC for 8 hours. There's just no other option unless one of us doesn't work.

Lelo2006 · January 2014

Was it @rondosa who said that her baby wouldn't take a bottle all day for weeks? I can't remember who that happened to... Anyway, her baby wouldn't eat for 10 hours during the day.

Stina2012 · January 2014

Let me give some background, I went back to work Jan 8 and haven't worked a full day yet due to her refusing bottles. Would your employer be ok with that? Add in that you know your baby can take a bottle, she just won't. Feels great doesn't it?

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

Stina2012 said:
Let me give some background, I went back to work Jan 8 and haven't worked a full day yet due to her refusing bottles. Would your employer be ok with that? Add in that you know your baby can take a bottle, she just won't. Feels great doesn't it?

That sucks! I'm sorry! Do they syringe feed her at DC? Does she refuse a sippy cup too? I'm so sorry.

Stina2012 · January 2014

PrimRoseMama said:

Stina2012 said:
Let me give some background, I went back to work Jan 8 and haven't worked a full day yet due to her refusing bottles. Would your employer be ok with that? Add in that you know your baby can take a bottle, she just won't. Feels great doesn't it?
That sucks! I'm sorry! Do they syringe feed her at DC? Does she refuse a sippy cup too? I'm so sorry.

They have syringe fed her 6oz before. And gotten her to drink as much as 5oz from a bottle in a day once. She took a bottle from me two afternoons last week and a sippy cup from me once. She now won't let you hold the sippy cup.

Today has been rough. But she's 6 months today. Here's our photo shoot!

Stina2012 · January 2014

LadyBlue07 said:
Maybe let Riley reverse cycle. She is big enough to go all night without eating, so just try not to stress about her at daycare. Maybe send small (1-2 oz) bottles, but just plan on feeding her mostly when you are home.

This is what I've resigned myself to doing. Of course the pediatrician has me freaked about dehydration.

lancomechica · January 2014

Just wanted to say sorry

Stina2012 · January 2014

lizabethann06 said:
Jack didn't take a bottle for the longest time. When I couldn't run to the sitter on my lunch at work, he would go 8 hours without anything except the little she could syringe in. He then reverse cycled all night long. This lasted for awhile and was incredibly stressful but then one day he got hungry enough at the babysitter and started talking bottles.

I would take a break from you giving her bottles because it's stressing both of you out.

She's not going to get dehydrated. She will give in and take a bottle before then. Let daycare syringe feed and try the bottles. You need a bottle break for now. Just nurse when you're with her.

It fccking sucks. I'm sorry. I was a mess. I walked around work feeling insanely panicked all day long.

Sending you hugs and a huge glass of wine.

Thanks! I am taking a bottle break. She won't take them from me and it does just stress us out. Ugh. She's asleep on me now and I'm planning a glass of wine in the tub. I may even take a brownie in there with me (not a special brownie, but damn I wish it was).

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

@citrusfamily you said it perfectly

Stina2012 · January 2014

@Citrusfamily, you have me crying! If I could go back in time I'd give her 2oz of formula bottles a day. That way I'd know she'd take formula if I had to supplement and bottles. Hindsight!

I took a nice soak and DH is on his way home from school. Riley is actually sleeping in her crib. So that's one hard won achievement!

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