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Is this just what happens when you become a Mom? (Birthday help!)

AriaAmante143AriaAmante143 member
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DH has been bugging me for birthday ideas (my bday is next month). For the first time in my 28 years of life, I have nothing that I want for my birthday. I haven't even window shopped for myself in months, everything I look for now is baby related. He wants to get something for ME, not for baby, and I'm at a loss for ideas. The only lame idea I could even come up with was like a spa day, because I really need a haircut and pedicure. DH seemed disappointed that all I wanted for my birthday was a haircut. Send me pretty things to look at! I need ideas!
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Re: Is this just what happens when you become a Mom? (Birthday help!)

  • saisongbirdsaisongbird member
    How about a spa day that expands after the baby is born and you really need it? Haircut, mani, pedi, facial, massage...


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  • karacakes98karacakes98 member
    This has been me for the last 7 years. DS was born 10 days before my birthday and ever since then, I couldn't care less about celebrating mine. In fact, more often than not, I forget all about my own birthday until after we've celebrated DS's birthday!
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  • MayKay12MayKay12 member
    Yes, that is definitely me too. Also my birthdays are decided around what would be fun for the kids to do, that I would enjoy also. I would help come up with ideas but I have none :( the spa day sounds great!
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  • aLsMay24aLsMay24 member
    Yeah my bday is Friday and I'd love to just not have to cook dinner. Although if he'd get me a gc for a massage I wouldn't turn it down!
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  • BuckeyeWife07BuckeyeWife07 member
    Mine is in a couple weeks and he offered either a spa day or a trip to the comedy club. The bad thing is, I really want the spa day but don't want to spend the money. I might just do a pedicure and the comedy club. For me, the real key is that I have some time to relax without the other two kiddos and sleep in in the morning! Sounds horrible but it's really all I want. 
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  • tsmith312tsmith312 member
    Sounds like me ! Every time I walk-in a store my direction is pointed towards the baby section ! That's all I shop for these days ! I haven't bought myself anything in the past few months ( other then a few maternity tops ). But a spa day sounds great! Especially a pedicure since I cant reach my toes anymore. I thought about getting one last week , but my feet are sooo swollen !

     

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  • kelley72kelley72 member
    ? maybe... I don't get why adults feel the need to celebrate their own birthday... I always call my mom and tell her thankyou for being such a loving mother and remind her of the day she had x years ago... ...
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  • DTNZ4EverDTNZ4Ever member

    I love getting a spa day, or once the baby is here a dinner and a movie for me and DH. If I were the OP I would do a fantastic date night since those become harder once the baby gets here. A few years ago I got a Pandora bracelet so I always add charms to my birthday gift lists. Or a clothes shopping trip since I don't shop for myself anymore since DS always needs clothes or shoes etc. Since I am home more I always have house stuff on my list like new sheets, or towels, or pans since mine have gotten gross since were were married.

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  • pepperedmothpepperedmoth member
    I don't have this problem at all! My hobbies and interests have stayed the same. What are you interested in? A craft? A sport? Reading? Music? Food? Movies? Theater? What?
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  • AriaAmante143AriaAmante143 member
    pepperedmoth said:

    I don't have this problem at all! My hobbies and interests have stayed the same. What are you interested in? A craft? A sport? Reading? Music? Food? Movies? Theater? What?

    I love crafting, and reading. I'd be happy with gift cards for my e-reader, craft stores, etc, but DH hates getting those types of things for me. He always wants to get something "special", kwim? I told him if he really wanted to splurge, he could get me a Silhouette Cameo (die cutting) machine. It's almost $300, somehow I doubt that's happening ;)
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  • TradeMamaTradeMama member
    For my last birthday DH got me a pandora bracelet and a birthstone charm for each of our kids. It is my favorite present he's gotten me! I got a charm for our anniversary, and one for the vacation we just took... So it's the gift that keeps on giving, and very sentimental!
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  • pepperedmothpepperedmoth member
    AriaAmante143 said:

    pepperedmoth said:

    I don't have this problem at all! My hobbies and interests have stayed the same. What are you interested in? A craft? A sport? Reading? Music? Food? Movies? Theater? What?

    I love crafting, and reading. I'd be happy with gift cards for my e-reader, craft stores, etc, but DH hates getting those types of things for me. He always wants to get something "special", kwim? I told him if he really wanted to splurge, he could get me a Silhouette Cameo (die cutting) machine. It's almost $300, somehow I doubt that's happening ;)
    LOL. That really tickles me that you two are like that, as MH and I are the opposite! If he gets me a present, which he doesn't usually, it's a kitchen gadget because he only likes useful things.

    Hmmmm, I can see why he doesn't want to do a gift card, cuz those are sure impersonal, but what if you gave him an idea of what you might buy for yourself in a craft or bookstore, and had him pick for you? Then if he wants to make it "special" he could throw in chocolate or flowers? (Can't remember whether you have GD or not, sorry.....)
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  • kelley72kelley72 member
    pepperedmoth - yep I can see that.  I just don't get excited about my birthday but I never really have, nope not true definitely did when I turned 16 and 21... now the last 20 years haven't gotten me riled up!  I have to admit I'm also pretty low key on celebrating other people's bdays.  I'm a sad sally like yay whop to do...
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  • PerkyErkyPerkyErky member
    I share my birthday with DS. That day is definitely no longer about me :) I never know what to ask for either. DH usually takes me out to dinner and gets me a nice card. The presents and celebration are more for the kiddo.
    Married 11/23/11, TTC starting 10/12, BFP#1 11/30/12, Adoption of stepson finalized 03/19/13,Loss of our daughter at 20w4d due to incompetent cervix 03/27/13, BFP#2 06/28/13, DS2 born 3/1/14.

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  • kimberpookimberpoo member

    I'm not super into birthdays either, but it is fun to get something from DH since he and my mom are the only people who get things for my b-day. (tried to talk them out of it to no avail) so I usually ask for something that I want but have been hesitant to buy for myself. a new coat, new boots, loungewear, etc is always on the list. if I don't want that stuff, I'll upgrade my ski gear or camping gear since I'm super outdoorsy. Burton.com has the BEST outdoor snow gear. super warm stuff, great fit, comfy. they have some regular clothes too which are awesome. 

    If you want something different, I love getting stuff from Sephora.com (makeup/hair) or bobbibrown.com (makeup). for yoga / workout type clothes, underarmour.com and northface.com have nice things. OR if you have a higher-end mall near your house, have DH take you shopping to some nicer stores (lululemon anyone?) and pick your gift :) turn it into a date!

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  • amholley1amholley1 member
    Happy Birthday @VineyardMel! I had such a hard time deciding what I wanted for my birthday this year too. I just asked to go out to dinner because that sounded the best haha 



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  • kelley72kelley72 member
    DisneyAddict1- yes I see your perspective.  Really though I don't credit myself for being alive another year.. that is God's decision.  I hate to rain on parade I just don't give a damn about My birthday... stating loudly that I am grateful to be alive another year is what I do
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  • Excitedmum35Excitedmum35 member
    I'm the same at the moment- the only thing I could think of for Christmas was anew dining table- which my friend reminded me is not really for me- and a chest of drawers for the bedroom cos I was dick of using the walk in wardrobe for all my things as it was overflowing.
    I have a pandora bracelet and that's what DS and DH usually get me- charms- but- it's full now!
    My bday is April so we will see what I can think of before then!
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  • NortyLeighNortyLeigh member
    Haha, this is exactly my husband and I! For the past two birthdays and Christmases, we haven't wanted anything. When I told my mom that last year she asked what had happened to her child. I would much rather have things for my kids than for me and really, I have everything I want and need.
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  • kaking78kaking78 member
    I had this problem at Christmas.  I'm strongly hinting to my husband that I want an aquamarine pendant for Valentine's since that will be LO's birthstone.   
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