Paranoid mom wants ultra sound every two weeks

jvinglas · January 2014

I'm a first time mom who is so worried and paranoid that something is going to go wrong with my baby during the first trimester. Every ache and pain, or lack there of freaks me out and I find myself constantly searching for answers on line. The only time I feel some sort of relief is when I have an ultra sound and see that everything looks good. So, why can't obgyn's allow for an ultrasound every two weeks in the first trimester so that worried warts like me can breathe a little easier?

mrscutforth · January 2014

Seriously, stay offline with any thing pregnancy related. And insurance won't cover those ultrasounds, you will be paying a hefty amount out of pocket. I understand being a FTM but seriously cool your jets. Stressing is not helping.

tamarar5 · January 2014

If you feel paranoid, just think how those of us with multiple previous losses feel. I have had 4 m/cs and won't get any ultrasounds until 20 wk a/s.

You can't live with the panic. Even if you could get an ultrasound every other week, it still wouldn't prevent anything bad happening. You have to stay focused on being pregnant NOW. Enjoy this moment and try not to worry about tomorrow. It sucks, I get it. But try to relax and enjoy this moment.

awalter5110 · January 2014

They are just way too expensive and unnecessary. I know what you mean by the worry but you just have to relax and trust that everything is ok. Its just how pregnancy goes. Try to relax. You'll be fine.

awalter5110 · January 2014

They are just way too expensive and unnecessary. I know what you mean by the worry but you just have to relax and trust that everything is ok. Its just how pregnancy goes. Try to relax. You'll be fine.

blushingbride_08 · January 2014

I felt similar the first time around but you quickly get over it. In fact the more I went to the dr the more they would find something wrong. I just stopped going towards the end and told the dr I will see her when I'm ready to give birth. Dont make yourself paranoid.

Raclla · January 2014

Definitely try to not stress about it. My H told me I wasn't allowed to 'google while pregnant'. He said it's WAY too dangerous. He did enough research and worrying for the both of us.

epelleja · January 2014

You should instead look at it that you don't need an ultrasound every two weeks because everything is going just the way it's meant to

glaw · January 2014

Also the safety of numerous ultrasounds have been questioned in recent studies. Why would you want to expose your unborn child to unnecessary medical treatment? And ultrasound is not a toy - it's a medical device used for a specific purpose. Maybe you need to talk to someone about your anxiety and ways to deal with it. All the PPs have also given great advice and reasons why multiple first tri ultrasounds are unfeasable and pointless

Rosebean · January 2014

Here is what my boss said to me when I experienced my first pregnancy that resulted in a miscarriage: you are going to worry while you are pregnant, you are going to worry when they go to their first day of daycare/ school, you are going to worry when they learn to drive a car, go to college, buy their first house, travel.... This is parenthood. You are always going to worry about them and this is just the start. But at this point, you should be thankful for all the good in your life and a pregnancy that is going well for you so far. @tamarar4 nailed it right on the head. The women who are PGAL on this board have been down the road where they have had to say goodbye. They are lucky if they get enough attention to put their worries at ease. My OB wouldn't even meet with me until 13 weeks and I have had to get bloodwork done by asking for it, and only got an early ultrasound scheduled because I am experiencing technical difficulties. Again, enjoy the moment of each day you are pregnant and be thankful for today. Because you can't spend the rest of your life in fear because you are a parent.

Hilee18 · January 2014

Because you aren't their only patient. Most parents are nervous and worry about things going wrong. But you have to be healthy about it, even in high risk we didn't do ultrasounds for reassurance, we did do doppler until about 20 weeks for some who had reason to worry.

Lawgrl04 · January 2014

We all have worries, it's a normal part of pregnancy (and parenthood). It sounds like your anxiety is overwhelming you, though, and you should talk to your OB about talking to a counselor. Some counselors specialize in treating pregnant women/ postpartum. I saw one after my 3rd baby; my best friend died unexpectedly when my baby was 7 weeks old. My counselor was tremendously helpful.

One of the things you learn after you have kids is that you are not in complete control of this process. You will have hopes/ dreams for your birth, for your baby. But there will be challenges and surprises along the way. Do your best to be healthy for your baby, and then you have to make a leap of faith that all will be OK and you will rise to the occasion should you encounter difficulties.

Take care, and I hope you feel better!

MandMLeona · January 2014

I can understand where you are coming from. I'm actually surprised you didn't get some "Me too! We just have to power through!" kind of responses.

May I suggest a slightly different way of looking at things? Currently, it seems like you are focused on the baby as an alien entity who needs to be monitored by medical professionals the same way that cancer would. Try seeing this as the natural functioning of your organs. Have faith that your uterus is functioning the same way you have faith that your gallbladder is functioning. You were born with this wonderful organ specialized for this task. Trust that it's doing it's job, at least until it's given you reason to doubt.

loulou182 · January 2014

Have you thought about getting a fetal doppler? Whenever you're scared you can use it to hear your baby's heartbeat.

HeatherHam10 · January 2014

I agree with PP my doppler has really helped ease my mind in between u/s but I know theyre not for everyone. Luckily because I am still at my REs we go every two weeks but once Im released itll just have to be something I have to cope with. I think everyone pretty much explained why. Good luck and I hope the stress and anxiety lessens.

Abbney · January 2014

Simmer down.

Kaybaby02 · January 2014

You may as well adjust to the worry. You will be doing it the rest of your life! I worry about my kids before they are born, after they are born, and I am sure I will worry about them till I am dead and gone. Part of being a parent

mrscutforth · January 2014

MandMLeona said:
I can understand where you are coming from. I'm actually surprised you didn't get some "Me too! We just have to power through!" kind of responses.
May I suggest a slightly different way of looking at things? Currently, it seems like you are focused on the baby as an alien entity who needs to be monitored by medical professionals the same way that cancer would. Try seeing this as the natural functioning of your organs. Have faith that your uterus is functioning the same way you have faith that your gallbladder is functioning. You were born with this wonderful organ specialized for this task. Trust that it's doing it's job, at least until it's given you reason to doubt.

She is getting the 'me too' responses. They may not flat out say "me too" but like the rest of us there is no need to worry. And unless her dr has said there is reason to worry than that's a different story.

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