2IF Grad Check-In

tryingyetagain · January 2014

Congrats to everyone for making it here! This check-in is for graduates of the 2IF board (and any other secondary infertility grads). If you are new to the check-in, please let us know your due date and you will be added for next week.

Congrats to mlamping on the arrival of her baby girl, Gabi! And good luck to huskermama on your scheduled 1/16 delivery! Can’t wait to see your update!

Bumpee Due Date Team

huskermama 1/23 Pink

HopingForMore 4/20 TBD

tryingyetagain 4/26 Pink

MJC1116 5/1 Green

luckyu317 5/27 Blue

Chrissy1276 6/3 TBD

gmc222 6/21 TBD

uagirl 7/19 TBD

AlmostWright 7/22 TBD

KristyLynn26 7/28 Green

jknallen 7/31 TBD

ally510 8/3 TBD

kndeckar 8/13 TBD

1. How many weeks along are you?

2. Any medical updates (appointments, ultrasounds, tests/results, etc.)?

3. How are you feeling lately?

4. QOTW: As wonderful as it would be for pregnancy to be nothing but emotional bliss and physical harmony, that's just not gonna happen unfortunately. We are all grateful for these miracle babies, but this is your chance to vent here…. What are the things that are driving you crazy right about now? It can be anything from things you’ve had to give up, discomforts, DH, work, crazy people around you, and the list goes on…. This is your chance to let it all out without feeling guilty about it, ladies!

tryingyetagain · January 2014

Can't wait to hear from you this week, huskermama! Good luck for a smooth delivery!

I'm 25 weeks, and doing much better this week than last. I came down with the flu and ended up in the ER on Tuesday last week. Tested positive for Influenza A, and am just now starting to feel better. DH and DS got it too, and all three of us had our flu vaccines in November. I have asthma, and the ER doctor said the combination of the pregnancy and asthma made it worse. Had my 24 week appointment on Friday, along with the glucose challenge test. Just found out that I failed the GCT by a pretty good margin (172 and the cut-off is 139 or below). Ouch! So, I am scheduled for the 3-hour GTT on Saturday morning. Scared!! I don't have a lot of self-control when it comes to food.

QOTW: I sooooo miss taking scalding hot baths. And sleeping on my stomach. And laying on my back to relax and stretch out in the evenings. And I am so aggravated that our basement finish project is still going on. We signed the contract in August, supposed to be done by October, and they are still working on it! Driving DH and I crazy! We can't really start on the nursery until they are done because the furniture in the nursery is being moved down to the basement bedroom once it's finished. So we haven't even been able to paint the nursery, much less furnish and decorate. But, they're almost done, workers just finished taping/sanding/texturing today. Just breathe....

+SouthernMomma+ · January 2014

Holy crap, im a graduate lol! :P Looking like September 26th is the due date!! FX for a sticky take home rainbow baby!

MJC1116 · January 2014

Congrats and welcome @+southernmomma+!

I'm 24 weeks 4 days. Celebrated V-day on Thursday! Woo hoo! I cannot believe I'm towards the top of the list up there! So weird and so exciting to see so many 2IF ladies coming over!

I'm feeling better. Working full time and dealing with an almost 4-year old (oh and my 2nd child -- my husband!) is tough so I find myself way more exhausted this time than last time. But baby is kicking away, which I *love*. It even woke me up this morning.

No appointments until the 22nd. I do have my 2-hour glucose test on MLK day. I'm so glad the lab is open because I would not be a very nice teacher with a 2-hour fast. LOL

QOTW: I miss wine and sushi terribly!! The other things, too, -- please don't flame me!! -- I miss the fanfare of being pregnant with my first. I don't mean the attention from others... I mean the excitement and anticipation of everything -- buying the furniture, going to the store every weekend to see what we wanted to register for, having showers and celebrating with family, decorating the nursery. This time around we have everything so there's not much to do until the baby comes around

I'm sorry, I know that sounds terribly selfish!!

Another thing is that I'm slightly hurt by a friend at work. She's been ttc for a year. I came clean with her about my struggles when she was about 7 months into trying. I got pregnant this summer when she reached her breaking point. Actually the day she cried to me about her struggles was the day I got my BFP. I feel like she can't even look at me. I know IF hurts no matter how long you've been trying, but I feel like since it wasn't easy for me either (2 years of heartache) that maybe she could be a bit more tolerant of my pregnancy. Am I being awful? I've tried to cover my belly a bit more when she's around (ie wear looser clothes) but I don't know what else to do.

+SouthernMomma+ · January 2014

Thank you!!

PS. I cant seem to find PAIF from the main bump page???? Will I always have to go to the check in link posted in 2IF to find this board/link ?? Im sure this is an obvious answer, lol.. TIA!

tryingyetagain · January 2014

MJC1116 said:

Another thing is that I'm slightly hurt by a friend at work. She's been ttc for a year. I came clean with her about my struggles when she was about 7 months into trying. I got pregnant this summer when she reached her breaking point. Actually the day she cried to me about her struggles was the day I got my BFP. I feel like she can't even look at me. I know IF hurts no matter how long you've been trying, but I feel like since it wasn't easy for me either (2 years of heartache) that maybe she could be a bit more tolerant of my pregnancy. Am I being awful? I've tried to cover my belly a bit more when she's around (ie wear looser clothes) but I don't know what else to do.

Congrats on V-Day! Yeah!!

Your situation above would hurt my feelings too. I think I've read a few posts from ladies on PAIF who have expressed having a hard time being around other ladies who have gotten pregnant, even when those ladies also went through IF. I bet some of them would have some good insight into ways you could maybe handle the delicate situation, in case you wanted to post on the main PAIF board. I'm sure your coworker is actually happy for you, she's just really unhappy about her own situation and is having a hard time getting past that. Good luck with it. You deserve to be happy at work about your hard-won pregnancy!

tryingyetagain · January 2014

+SouthernMomma+ said:

Thank you!!
PS. I cant seem to find PAIF from the main bump page???? Will I always have to go to the check in link posted in 2IF to find this board/link ?? Im sure this is an obvious answer, lol.. TIA!

I never could get to it from the main page either, and eventually just saved it under my "Favorites." You can also get to it from the "Choose Another Board" section on the right. It defaults to "The Bump Message Boards" and you just hit "Go."

Congrats to you for making it here, lady!! So happy for you. From another southern momma (born and raised in GA) who went through multiple losses. Fingers and toes crossed for you to be here for the long haul!

mlamping · January 2014

I just wanted to say thank you to all for all the support! Baby Gabi is doing ok. Her sister has a cold, so it is hard beginnings.

Best of luck to all!

MJC1116 · January 2014

@tryingyetagain, I hope I didn't sound like I want my friend to fawn over me or anything. It's not like that. I don't even have to talk about the pregnancy with her. If the roles were reversed, I'd probably be hurt, too, especially since shes TTC #1 and I'm on #2. I guess I just want to be able to talk to her still and I want her to know that even though I'm pregnant, my wounds from IF are still fresh. I don't know about you, but in ttc #2 and finding difficulty, I always thought that once I was pregnant, those feelings would go away, but was shocked to find that they don't. I guess I want her to know that I still understand and I'm still here for her.

Thanks for listening to me whine

AlmostWright · January 2014

Congratulations @+southernmomma+!! @tryingyetagain I am glad you are feeling better. It sounds like a rough few weeks for your house!

I am 13w today! Still really nauseous at times, especially evenings, and would love for that to end. We are waiting for the results from the MaterniT21 test done on Friday. NT scan was great for measurements but my blood work was off showing an increased risk for Downs so we went ahead with this test. The risk was still pretty low, so we are very hopeful baby is healthy and are trying to use the excitement at finding out boy or girl so soon to make the next 2 weeks go by faster. We also got the news last week that DH, who has been in remission for the past 2 years, has some abnormal lymph nodes that need biopsied. We are "lucky" that this cancer is still considered very treatable, but I would hate for him to have to go through radiation again. Fingers crossed we get some good news in the next few weeks!

QOTW: I really miss having energy and just feeling good. I am feeling very guilty about not being able to play with DS as much. His favorite things are just to run around, be chased, etc and by the time we are home from work/daycare, I can't do it. DH has been great about stepping in, but I miss my time with DS. Guilty mom day here!

tryingyetagain · January 2014

MJC1116 said:

@tryingyetagain, I hope I didn't sound like I want my friend to fawn over me or anything. It's not like that. I don't even have to talk about the pregnancy with her. If the roles were reversed, I'd probably be hurt, too, especially since shes TTC #1 and I'm on #2. I guess I just want to be able to talk to her still and I want her to know that even though I'm pregnant, my wounds from IF are still fresh. I don't know about you, but in ttc #2 and finding difficulty, I always thought that once I was pregnant, those feelings would go away, but was shocked to find that they don't. I guess I want her to know that I still understand and I'm still here for her.

Thanks for listening to me whine

No, you didn't sound like that at all! It just sucks to be in that situation. I hope she is able to reach a point where she can talk to you soon. The point of this week's QOTW was to vent without guilt (or being flamed!), so vent/whine away!! I did!

tryingyetagain · January 2014

AlmostWright said:

Congratulations @+southernmomma+!! @tryingyetagain I am glad you are feeling better. It sounds like a rough few weeks for your house!

I am 13w today! Still really nauseous at times, especially evenings, and would love for that to end. We are waiting for the results from the MaterniT21 test done on Friday. NT scan was great for measurements but my blood work was off showing an increased risk for Downs so we went ahead with this test. The risk was still pretty low, so we are very hopeful baby is healthy and are trying to use the excitement at finding out boy or girl so soon to make the next 2 weeks go by faster. We also got the news last week that DH, who has been in remission for the past 2 years, has some abnormal lymph nodes that need biopsied. We are "lucky" that this cancer is still considered very treatable, but I would hate for him to have to go through radiation again. Fingers crossed we get some good news in the next few weeks!

QOTW: I really miss having energy and just feeling good. I am feeling very guilty about not being able to play with DS as much. His favorite things are just to run around, be chased, etc and by the time we are home from work/daycare, I can't do it. DH has been great about stepping in, but I miss my time with DS. Guilty mom day here!

Just wanted to say I'm keeping everything crossed for you that the MaterniT21 test results come back fine. I know that must be so stressful. And, jeez, that sucks about your DH and having to possibly go through radiation again, especially with LO on the way. I hope you get good news on both counts!

kndeckar · January 2014

Sooo happy to see you here Southern Momma!! Yay!!
1.) I'm 10 weeks
2.) I'm anxiously awaiting my first appt with my OB in 2 weeks. I'm kinda nervous now that we announced so early. I felt really good after having two perfect u/s with my RE, but now I'm just really anxious to hear that hb again & get past 1st tri.
3.) Well...in the last 2 months every member of my family has had cold symptoms on & off, DD ended up in the hospital with pneumonia, DD got hand foot mouth virus at daycare, AND the icing on the cake was DD & I both coming down with the stomach flu this week. I spent all last night throwing up. I sound whiney, but it is completely unfair to have both a stomach virus & morning sickness at the same time!! I REALLY hope my family can just stay healthy for a while!
4.) Well...if I didn't sound whiney enough already, I really miss being able to eat whatever I want without feeling sick. My food aversions & nausea have been a lot worse this time around.

huskermama · January 2014

Had my last appointment yesterday and tomorrow is the big day! Doesn't seem real! C-section is tomorrow at noon so I will try to post an update later at night or sometime Friday.

I think everything is starting to sink in and weird to think that today is our last day as a family of 3. It was a looonnggg 4+ year road to get to this point and now that we are almost there I'm starting to realize how much things are about to change. Worried about having a newborn again, bathing, bfing, etc, etc. but my MIL assures me it is like riding a bike....hope she is right.

Thanks to all of the ladies here for all of their support and encouragement. The 2IF board was such a great outlet for me knowing I wasn't alone and there were others going through the same struggles. I will be lurking frequently to check up on everyone and wishing you all the best!

Chrissy1276 · January 2014

I'm just over 20 weeks and team pink.
No appointments for 2 weeks. Still not feeling great.

I guess what I would love is to be able to enjoy this pregnancy this morning sickness is a pain and an energy drainer. I know it will be all worth it. I would just like energy enough to maybe go get pregnancy pics done as I never did them before but I just want to sleep.

mlamping · January 2014

I just wanted to say best of luck to each and every one of you! I hope I see happy smiling babies soon from each of you!

Thank you for all the support!

Want a personalized experience?

2IF Grad Check-In

Re: 2IF Grad Check-In

Choose Another Board

Search Boards

Want a personalized experience?

**2IF Grad Check-In**

Re: **2IF Grad Check-In**

Choose Another Board

Search Boards

2IF Grad Check-In

Re: 2IF Grad Check-In