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Shower invite <facepalm>

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I just got the strangest invite and thought it was too good not to share. Hold on to your hats for this one ladies. A baby shower for a first time GRANDMA.
I was very confused when I read the invite and thought maybe it was a typo on the name. But nope, I called to confirm and the shower is for the grandma. The MTB is having her own shower in a few weeks thrown by her own family.
From what I could process through my initial brain spasm is that the MIL, whom I've met a few times, thought it would be fun to have her own shower so that she could have her own stuff for when the baby came to visit.  They live like 10 miles away. I politely declined but now I wish I was going just to watch!

Is this for real?? Do people really think this is okay?

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Re: Shower invite &lt;facepalm&gt;

  • mysticlmysticl member
    When my SIL got pregnant with the first grandchildren (twins) MIL's co-workers threw her a grandmother's shower.  She and SIL live about 5-10 minutes apart and they got her stuff to keep at her place for when the babies came over.  They did it because she had been contributing money/presents to bridal and baby showers at work for years and was never going to be having one of those herself so they only thought it fair she get something back.  This happened long before I met them, but I'm pretty sure she didn't ask for or expect it.  I got the impression they kind of sprung it on her.  
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    mysticl said:
    When my SIL got pregnant with the first grandchildren (twins) MIL's co-workers threw her a grandmother's shower.  She and SIL live about 5-10 minutes apart and they got her stuff to keep at her place for when the babies came over.  They did it because she had been contributing money/presents to bridal and baby showers at work for years and was never going to be having one of those herself so they only thought it fair she get something back.  This happened long before I met them, but I'm pretty sure she didn't ask for or expect it.  I got the impression they kind of sprung it on her.  
    I think that is really sweet! I'd totally go for something like that if I worked with the grandma to be, but in my case the grandma to be is throwing her own shower to get stuff and made it clear that the items would be staying at her house only. I just find that odd. Also odd that I was invited since I have only met the MIL a few times at my friends house parties.
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  • nah82nah82 member
    Ladies that worked with my mom and MIL bought them grandma gifts when I was pregnant the first time so they would both be getting their first grandchild.  My mom received a baby gate and some outfits and MIL was given bibs with grandma sayings on them and I don't remember what else.  But they didn't throw showers, just brought the gifts to work.  It was something new and a little confusing to us, definitely unexpected!  At the time, we weren't sure if I should write the thank you notes, or them, or both of us, because it totally threw us and it didn't really click in our heads that they were gifts meant to stay at grandma's house.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    If her friends wanted to do this for her, I could maybe say "cute", but she's throwing this for herself? Horribly tacky. And I'd hope that she isbt inviting people that will also be invited to the actual mothers shower.
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  • ParadisemoonParadisemoon member
    EastCoastBride said:
    If her friends wanted to do this for her, I could maybe say "cute", but she's throwing this for herself? Horribly tacky. And I'd hope that she isbt inviting people that will also be invited to the actual mothers shower.
    Well she must be because I got an invite to the MTB's shower since she is my friend. I can't believe I was invited to the MIL's shower too. I just find the whole thing very strange.

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  • Luna CLuna C member
    There is an article on the front page of the bump (or there was recently) about how this is one of the new "baby trends" for 2014. 

    Personally, it's the first I've heard of it, and I think it's tacky as hell. If GM is providing frequent enough care that she needs her own car seat, bassinet, etc., just register for duplicates of those things and hope for the best. 
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  • Peanutz21Peanutz21 member
    mm i think it's super tacky...

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  • DrecabDrecab member
    I wonder if the mil was invited to the mtb's shower? Sounds like something an evil mil would do to grab attention away from a dil she didn't like.
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  • nah82nah82 member
    edited January 2014
    Update:  Check out the newest announcement at the top of the Baby Showers board!!
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  • ParadisemoonParadisemoon member
    edited January 2014
    namcgee said:
    Update:  Check out the newest announcement at the top of the Baby Showers board!!

    I know, weird huh?

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  • MamaLlama14MamaLlama14 member
    When my son was born, my mom's coworkers had a cake for her at work to congratulate her on becoming a grandma.  One lady knitted a blanket.  

    If anyone had thrown her a shower- or worse, if she and the gaul to throw her own- I would have DIED.  It's inappropriate, gift-grabby, tacky and riddled with jealousy.  
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