I'm thinking of "accidentally" dropping dh's xbox on the floor so it breaks! I hate what the xbox does to men!!!
I've seen this come up as a problem a lot both IRL and online. How do you deal with it? Do you ask him to play it less? Does he just refuse?
I feel so bad asking him not to play on it because I think he deserves his own space and time to chill out. But I sometimes feel like he's always trying to cram time in to play it! Like last night he was up till 2am playing which i guess doesn't effect me except that he"ll be tired when he gets home from work! He's so much more productive when the xbox I didn't around!i just wish he used that time to take LO for a walk or play with him. I have no solution to this!
Tell your husband a commitment is a commitment and to suck it up and play with his kid.
I'm thinking of "accidentally" dropping dh's xbox on the floor so it breaks! I hate what the xbox does to men!!!
I've seen this come up as a problem a lot both IRL and online. How do you deal with it? Do you ask him to play it less? Does he just refuse?
I feel so bad asking him not to play on it because I think he deserves his own space and time to chill out. But I sometimes feel like he's always trying to cram time in to play it! Like last night he was up till 2am playing which i guess doesn't effect me except that he"ll be tired when he gets home from work! He's so much more productive when the xbox I didn't around!i just wish he used that time to take LO for a walk or play with him. I have no solution to this!
Tell your husband a commitment is a commitment and to suck it up and play with his kid.
True that! But sometimes I don't want to be "that wife" who tells him what to do. He is entitled to his down time too. I just wish it was more productive down time!
My confession is I play video games with my husband or enjoy watching him play.
I love playing with my H too. And he plays his wrestling game with our kids, which is fun. But he's also an adult who gets his shit done before he gets relax time
@Speshul- I need deets on this life hack please! I wouldn't mind having another kitty in our home but DH is very very anti-litter.
We have the littermaid.
By one of those plastic drawer storage things.
Put the littermaid on top and cut a hole in the top of the plastic storage thing to line up with the shitcatching hole on the littermaid.
Put smaller box in the drawer of the new storage box with a sack lining it. We will call this box b.
Cut a hole in the bottom of a littermaid disposable shit catcher(This turns it into a poop shoot instead of a shit catcher).
The poop will fall through the poopshoot into the box b(new shit catcher) inside the drawer.
When you want to clean up...open the drawer, take out the sack and insert a new one.
Add more litter to the littermaid.
You can stick pieces of urinal tabs or smelly toilet tabs inside shit receptacle for more smell protection. This helps when opening the drawer...in case you forget to hold your breath a wave burning shit fume won't hit your nose.
I am sort of "looking forward" (maybe poor word choice?!?!?) for my older dog to die. She's 10. 60 lbs of love, but she's having trouble getting Around.
I have two largish dogs, a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm overwhelmed. Totally and completely overwhelmed with managing needs of 2 and 4 legged children while H works 6a to 6p. And the sweeping, vacuuming, mopping. It's just a real burden now. And I'll have to ramp up the cleaning more when LO is mobile!
I can't take walks with both dogs and handle both children, so the dogs quality of life is declining in sure. Once old girl passes my younger dog will be able to have a happier life I think. And I can take one dog to the park with the kiddos. Not two!
After younger dog goes we will be a one dog or no dog household for a while. It's just so much upkeep.
I SO look forward to LO's bedtime every day. It's incredible being able to spend all day with him but sometimes it's just mind-numbing. When 7pm rolls around I'm all "K bye! Mommy's going to have her martini now."
And then, inevitably, after said martini, I want to go wake him up and tickle him until he shrieks.
I am so grossed out people let dogs sleep on their bed.
I think cats are far worse than dogs. They basically step in their shit and piss multiple times a day. Our dogs are inspected when they come in the house and it's a RARE occasion.
Dogs roll in poop. Cats step on clean litter, if they are stepping in piss then their parents are doing a lousy job at taking care of their furbabies.
Our dogs never roll in shit. A cat.. when they use their little box, cover their doings. You can't tell me even if the little box is cleaned daily, that there isn't fecal matter or urine all over their paws.
Yeah... I'm not quite sure what other peoples dogs do but mine go outside for a quick piss & poop and run back in - there is no rolling in poop. And when we walk them again, pee & poop, no rolling in feces anywhere. That would be gross.
I JUST found out my little sister is 4 weeks pregnant with her second child. I am very happy & excited for her BUT have the following fffc about this... 1) why did she tell me in a FB message? Is it that damn hard to call me!? 2) I'm a bit jealous. I want another lo soon/now...I have to go through iui to make that happen due to male IF & she makes babies with the greatest of ease.
Soleil3 Yes responsibilities first...games later. I do feel like sometimes the game gets blamed instead the person though. Just the other day my friend told me how he was hiding playing WOW because his gf hates it and wrote a paper on how it ruins lives and is addicting. She doesn't even give it a chance, just assumes it will take over his life automatically.
I am sort of "looking forward" (maybe poor word choice?!?!?) for my older dog to die. She's 10. 60 lbs of love, but she's having trouble getting Around.
I have two largish dogs, a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm overwhelmed. Totally and completely overwhelmed with managing needs of 2 and 4 legged children while H works 6a to 6p. And the sweeping, vacuuming, mopping. It's just a real burden now. And I'll have to ramp up the cleaning more when LO is mobile!
I can't take walks with both dogs and handle both children, so the dogs quality of life is declining in sure. Once old girl passes my younger dog will be able to have a happier life I think. And I can take one dog to the park with the kiddos. Not two!
After younger dog goes we will be a one dog or no dog household for a while. It's just so much upkeep.
I am team no dogs in bed.
And team cats are icky.
I had similar feelings toward our female. (The one who just passed.) She had two torn ACLs and despite repairing them and putting her on supplements to help prevent arthritis, she was riddled with it. She had such a hard time getting around and was on daily pain killers. I'm the one who was home with her all day and saw how much pain she was in and it just broke my heart. We stopped taking her on walks years ago, which pissed her off, but she just couldn't handle it. She didn't get loads of attention (she didn't want it) and hid from DD1 and her friends, probably out of fear of someone hurting her accidentally.
In the end we're pretty confident it was cancer that got her and while I thought I was ready to end her suffering I had such a hard time with it. I was hysterical for days.
I will say though that dealing with half the mess, half of the vet bills (her meds ran us $80 a month alone) and half of the dogs requiring attention has been nice. I miss having two but it's not something I want to rush back into anytime soon.
V&G101808 said:
If you wear a super short skirt or extremely high heels to work, I'm going to assume you're sleeping with someone here or at least trying to.
What if it's YOU that she wants to sleep with….
When I drop DS1 off at his one day "school" program I have to lug DS2 in with me as well. So I park in one of the handicapped spots! I figure there are 6 of them, I'm in and out in less than 8 minutes and nobody's going to tow a mother of a toddler and a NB at gods house. (Church preschool)
But everytime I get in or out of my car when I park there, all I can hear is "damn it feels good to be a gangsta" in my head...
Both my danes used to sleep in bed with me. DH worked the yard and it was nice to have something in bed with me. I felt safer. I kept this a secret for about 2 weeks til he came home early and caught them. Ohh well.
My Fffc: my boss left early wed ( at like 1400) so I might have also left a ill early (1630) I'm suppose to stay til 1700. I had to see my baby!!
@Speshul- I need deets on this life hack please! I wouldn't mind having another kitty in our home but DH is very very anti-litter.
We have the littermaid.
By one of those plastic drawer storage things.
Put the littermaid on top and cut a hole in the top of the plastic storage thing to line up with the shitcatching hole on the littermaid.
Put smaller box in the drawer of the new storage box with a sack lining it. We will call this box b.
Cut a hole in the bottom of a littermaid disposable shit catcher(This turns it into a poop shoot instead of a shit catcher).
The poop will fall through the poopshoot into the box b(new shit catcher) inside the drawer.
When you want to clean up...open the drawer, take out the sack and insert a new one.
Add more litter to the littermaid.
You can stick pieces of urinal tabs or smelly toilet tabs inside shit receptacle for more smell protection. This helps when opening the drawer...in case you forget to hold your breath a wave burning shit fume won't hit your nose.
LO woke up at 6:30 today. By some miracle I managed to get her back to sleep. I should have woken up and actually had a shower, got some breakfast, maybe got some household chores done. Nope. I went back to sleep. It's after 10 now and I just got up.
I'm sorry that I'm not sorry. I tried to feel sorry, but I'm not.
We don't sleep with any of our animals. My dog is in her crate at night, and the cat stays in the living room. Since the cat hates the dog, she likes the time at night to roam the house without being bothered. We crate trained my dog when she was a puppy and now she'd rather sleep in her crate than anywhere else. We've tried to get her to sleep in our bed, but she ends up going back to her crate.
I put down my 17 y/o lab/pit cross 4 months before DD1 was born due to a compound fracture caused by osteosarcoma. All I wanted in the world at that moment was for her to have had a chance to meet my daughter. I had her for 16 years and she taught me about being responsibility, selflessness, loyalty, and most of all sacrifice. She trained me how to be a mother, but never got to see it. She was the best fucking dog on the planet. Her ashes are on my dresser.
She was words people don't use to describe dogs - she was sublime and transcendent.
I have 2 wonderful dogs left and while having them right this second is harder than it was without the girls, soon the girls will both be mobile and we will all be able to walk and play and exercise together. I'm thankful they have the patience to wait for us all.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
I am so sorry to read this. I wish I could offer more comforting words but I feel that nothing I might say would take away any pain that you are going through right now. I pray that today gets easier and that you are able to find some relief soon. Sending creepy internet hugs your way.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
When I drop DS1 off at his one day "school" program I have to lug DS2 in with me as well. So I park in one of the handicapped spots! I figure there are 6 of them, I'm in and out in less than 8 minutes and nobody's going to tow a mother of a toddler and a NB at gods house. (Church preschool)
But everytime I get in or out of my car when I park there, all I can hear is "damn it feels good to be a gangsta" in my head...
So you having two kids gives you a right to take a handicap spot? No. That is stupid. I'm glad taking a spot from someone with an actual disability makes you feel like a gangster.. Yes there's more than one spot but you never know what the Church could have scheduled and people actually NEED those spots.
It drives me seriously nuts when people park in mom and baby spots and handicap spots. I don't care if it's for 30 seconds. It's seriously rude and inconsiderate!i have gotten into many a parking lot fight over this.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
Oh no!! I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. Please accept my internet hugs.
Thanks guys. I'm just angry with myself that it hurts so much still. I know I know I need to be easy on myself blah blah blah. lol
Im so sorry. You shouldn't be angry with yourself. Grief can last a lifetime. You are doing the best you can and that's all that matters. You are in my prayers.
Regarding V&G's confession, that is pretty much why I dress so conservatively at work. I would never want to give off that impression. My heels are always less than 3". I never show cleavage. I always wear hosiery and my skirts are at the knee. I also don't find knee high boots with skirts or dresses to be a good work wear choice in an office/business environment.
I once had a client comment that one of my employees looked like a hooker. She was wearing a wrap dress with slight cleavage and knee high boots.
My confession is that yesterday I checked on BabyESP when I was about to leave the office. DD hadn't gone down for a nap yet, but it was just about time for one. I stayed at the office 15 minutes later than usual, hoping our nanny would get her down before I got home.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
Sending lots of thoughts, prayers and hugs your way!
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
This isn't a FFFC, I just don't want to start a new post about it. I'm angry at the world. I'm in my 3 week funk dealing with the events leading up to Aidan's birth and death. I'm chugging gatorade because I can tell that my supply is already starting to take a hit due to my emotions. Oh and my dog is probably going to be put down tomorrow because of cancer.
When I drop DS1 off at his one day "school" program I have to lug DS2 in with me as well. So I park in one of the handicapped spots! I figure there are 6 of them, I'm in and out in less than 8 minutes and nobody's going to tow a mother of a toddler and a NB at gods house. (Church preschool)
But everytime I get in or out of my car when I park there, all I can hear is "damn it feels good to be a gangsta" in my head...
So you having two kids gives you a right to take a handicap spot? No. That is stupid. I'm glad taking a spot from someone with an actual disability makes you feel like a gangster.. Yes there's more than one spot but you never know what the Church could have scheduled and people actually NEED those spots.
Lol. Nope. I never said I had a right. I just said I did it.
Re: FFFC
But sometimes I don't want to be "that wife" who tells him what to do. He is entitled to his down time too. I just wish it was more productive down time!
ETA: This is similar to ours.
I got the idea from this but our storage box fits under the entire littermaid:
https://smartlifeblog.com/how-to-hack-the-littermaid-litter-box-for-even-less-scooping/
I have two largish dogs, a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. I'm overwhelmed. Totally and completely overwhelmed with managing needs of 2 and 4 legged children while H works 6a to 6p. And the sweeping, vacuuming, mopping. It's just a real burden now. And I'll have to ramp up the cleaning more when LO is mobile!
I can't take walks with both dogs and handle both children, so the dogs quality of life is declining in sure. Once old girl passes my younger dog will be able to have a happier life I think. And I can take one dog to the park with the kiddos. Not two!
After younger dog goes we will be a one dog or no dog household for a while. It's just so much upkeep.
I am team no dogs in bed.
And team cats are icky.
What I want to say to them:
My first furbaby Tyson has slept in my bed since I got him... 10 years ago. He has more right to the bed than MH!
And then, inevitably, after said martini, I want to go wake him up and tickle him until he shrieks.
Yeah... I'm not quite sure what other peoples dogs do but mine go outside for a quick piss & poop and run back in - there is no rolling in poop. And when we walk them again, pee & poop, no rolling in feces anywhere. That would be gross.
1) why did she tell me in a FB message? Is it that damn hard to call me!?
2) I'm a bit jealous. I want another lo soon/now...I have to go through iui to make that happen due to male IF & she makes babies with the greatest of ease.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
But everytime I get in or out of my car when I park there, all I can hear is "damn it feels good to be a gangsta" in my head...
My Fffc: my boss left early wed ( at like 1400) so I might have also left a ill early (1630) I'm suppose to stay til 1700. I had to see my baby!!
I'm sorry that I'm not sorry. I tried to feel sorry, but I'm not.
She was words people don't use to describe dogs - she was sublime and transcendent.
I have 2 wonderful dogs left and while having them right this second is harder than it was without the girls, soon the girls will both be mobile and we will all be able to walk and play and exercise together. I'm thankful they have the patience to wait for us all.
I am so sorry to read this. I wish I could offer more comforting words but I feel that nothing I might say would take away any pain that you are going through right now. I pray that today gets easier and that you are able to find some relief soon. Sending creepy internet hugs your way.
Oh no!! I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. Please accept my internet hugs.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
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