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Vent/rant

Skylight21Skylight21 member
in December 2013 Moms
Tonight is one of those nights that I wish I had someone to tell me that I'm doing a good job with Lilly. At night she is perfect but during the day she can be inconsolable and when my mom is around I get stares and smirks from her that make me feel like I am doing a terrible job if Lilly won't stop crying within a few minutes, or if its been 3 days since her last bath. It feels like that in my moms eyes I can't do anything right. I just wish that I had someone to tell me that I am doing a good job and that I'm not doing anything wrong.
This is my first baby, I'm sorry I'm a new mom and don't know all tricks and short cuts to things :(

 

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  • BoothBabyBoothBaby member
    If it makes you feel better, my kid has only gotten 2 baths in the 15 days since he has been home. :) I'm sure you are a great mom!
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  • cammyisagirlsnamecammyisagirlsname member
    Aww don't feel that way. You're doing as best a job as you know how and I'm sure that's great!
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  • Aycul18Aycul18 member
    If you love your LO and are feeding her, and cuddling her, and changing her diaper, you are all good!

    If it makes you feel better at all, we gave Ariella her first real bath on Saturday, and we were going to again today but got too tired... She doesn't smell and we wipe her well after her diapers, so I don't see any harm in it... If anything it's probably better because her skin is already so dry!

    None of us will do EVERYTHING right. We're all human, and there is no correct way to care for your child, just do your best!!! If you do your best, then your already a great mom!
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  • FutureMrsCaesarFutureMrsCaesar member
    I'm sure you are doing a great job. Almost all first time moms feel the way you do from time to time. And even third time moms wonder if they're doing it right at times ;). It's very hard to tell if you are making a newborn happy, but it starts getting easier soon and you'll know by looking at her how much she loves you and that you're doing a good job! Also, my pedi said not to bathe newborns more than twice a week, so we routinely go 3-4 days between baths. Dh gives me the sideeye for it too sometimes, like I'm being lazy not wanting to bathe him.
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  • KelseyKetchumKelseyKetchum member
    Yeah I'm avoiding my mom for this exact reason... She was telling me how to breast feed, she formula fed all of her kids. :/

    As everyone has said if you are taking care of her needs and trying your best to soothe her you are being a wonderful mommy!
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  • mavgirl_73mavgirl_73 member
    We bath 1x a week unless there is a major blowout.. No mom knows everything all the time. These babies don't come with instruction manuals. Just brush it off. It gets easier.

     

     

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