work or stay home?

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

OG A14 - just wanted to post for reference:

At 19 I worked for a Broadway theater in San Francisco, which is the kind of theater I'm assuming her husband works at, because I've never heard of a "head usher" in a movie theater. You know who worked there with me? Other college kids and retirees....because there was no way a person could afford to work there and live a normal adult life. I got paid by the shift, not by the hour, and made just enough that I could scrape by rent and have some fun as a kid living in the city, but I'd still have to ask my boyfriend (now husband) to help me out occasionally with my cell bill. I had to decide some weeks if I was going to eat or buy the shoes my job required me to have to work. I was stubborn and supporting myself because home wasn't an option for me, and I was poor.

And this was in the California Bay Area where minimum wage is high because a living wage is crazy high. I doubt this princess lives in an area where people are paid very well, because high cost-of-living areas don't tend to have a lot of 18-year-olds living in 2,700 sq ft homes. So he can't be making much. I started working at Starbucks because the theater went dark once for five months, and you don't get paid when there's no shows coming in. So yes, sounds like a totally awesome job for an 18 year old kid supporting a wife and a baby to have.

And if he does work at a movie theater, not a Broadway theater, my sister did that too. And had to quit when she started putting herself through college and get a full-time job, on top of being a full-time student, because she didn't make enough to live.

And as for this:

ladyabagail said:
I'm sorry that I don't have to work and you do. Jealousy is very ugly. Try to be happy for what you do have no matter how little that may be @morsebrooks and all others commenting on my lifestyle. #Haveandhavenots

This more than anything makes me feel sorry for the OP. I've never understood people who have 'grown up' thinking it's completely okay to mooch off of others for the rest of their lives. Where's the self-respect, where's the appreciation and satisfaction of having a life you've earned, instead of having it handed to you? I've said it before, and with the entitlement generation we're living in, I'm sure i'll say it again: if I could give people the value of self-reliance I would. I would NEVER let my kid grow up and think it's okay to be a drain on other people's hard-earned resources. What a great example OP is setting for her child.

Andplusalso did the theater job make anyone else think of that friends episode where Monica dates that guy from high school and he's like "I can totally get you posters for your room," and she's like, "Thanks, I'm all set."

KUGirl09 · January 2014

I see we started out wrong due to my confession on the flame free board which should be titled feel free to flame but that's a whole other post. I did not post to offend anyone and my comments were about my sil not anyone here. I did not mean for it to be taken so personally. There a lots of topics that not everyone will agree on and apparently I posted a caused a big disaster. Being this is my birth month board too I will continue to post here until at least August. Those of you that would like to be adults and move on , thanks. The others that continue to bash me will just be blocked. I have no plans to leave this board so we can either just get along or pretend one another don't exist. That is all.♡♥♡♡♥♡♥♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

Yep, @ladyabagail, I see that you really want this to end so that you can start over... which is why you are spouting off all this bs about your rich and lavish lifestyle as a Head Ushers wife. Man, if I was your mom, I would be so ashamed of your entitled (insert Expletive). I work in Economic Development and help family businesses grow all the time. Do you think your family owned company will really last through your generation with this kind of attitude? I seriously doubt that your community and its workforce will want to support such an organization. I hope your parents business can continue to do well, but I really hope that your families are smart enough not to leave it in your entitled child hands. I don't get it. You are not welcome here. I am an August 2014 mom, and I will make sure that you never get support on here. Ever. It will be my third mission on the Bump, as my first is to learn more about my growing child, and the second is being supportive and loyal to other strong Queens on here and in August 2014.

Wil08 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:

I'm sorry that I don't have to work and you do. Jealousy is very ugly. Try to be happy for what you do have no matter how little that may be @morsebrooks and all others commenting on my lifestyle. #Haveandhavenots

Oh girl, you don't even realize what you don't have. Please don't use a hashtag that you don't understand.

The world is an ever changing place. Businesses must change and adapt to grow and maintain a market share. That takes motivation and education. Entitlement is the achilles heel of anyone who works in a family business.

A guaranteed job in this day and age is a blessing and should be appreciated. My DH is 3rd generation in his family business. He has a business degree and an MBA all of which make him a more valuable asset to the future of the company. He is leading acquisitions for the company that are giving them YoY growth and competitive positioning in the region. There is a large difference between working at a job and leading a company.

This really isn't meant to be a flame. You are fortunate, but you can't assume that a family business will always be there. Blessings can be taken away as easily as they can be given.

Again, think of the audience of these boards. We are all from different walks of life. We have all made different choices and sacrifices based on individual circumstances. We all have what we have and for many that is exactly what they want.

If you do create a new name I would recommend you drop the lady, because a lady you are not. Ok, that was a flame.

chase16 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:

I'm sorry that I don't have to work and you do. Jealousy is very ugly. Try to be happy for what you do have no matter how little that may be @morsebrooks and all others commenting on my lifestyle. #Haveandhavenots

I think you might be missing the fact that many of us who DO work LOVE working.

chase16 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:

Of course mom and dad won't be around forever and neither will anyone else. We have a great business and that will still be here and so will everything they leave me. We have really close friends who come from similar backgrounds as us so I doubt our friendships will end. Keep living your fairytale and pretending to be a Queen when no one has a clue who you even are.

Well that explains a lot. God I really wish we knew eachother IRL so that I could watch what you think is your made life explode in front of your naive little eyes in a few years.

Tkhixen · January 2014

chase16 said:

ladyabagail said:

Of course mom and dad won't be around forever and neither will anyone else. We have a great business and that will still be here and so will everything they leave me. We have really close friends who come from similar backgrounds as us so I doubt our friendships will end. Keep living your fairytale and pretending to be a Queen when no one has a clue who you even are.

Well that explains a lot. God I really wish we knew eachother IRL so that I could watch what you think is your made life explode in front of your naive little eyes in a few years.

So, doing things the right way means waiting for your parents to die so you can inherit their business? Doing things the right way means that you get your parents to take care of you? All I see @ladyabagail, is your parent's money going towards your divorce and failed marriage because you are too much of a spoiled little brat that has no clue about the real world. Your DH's family business is probably gonna go to your awesome BIL and SIL and their evil science baby. Little girl, you have a lot to learn. Good luck with being a first time mom with a baby, cause in case you didn't know, it takes a lot of brains and responsibility to raise a kid. It's not playing with a baby doll....

laurblum · January 2014

OMG, what an entertaining read for Tuesday morning. Can her head usher husband bring me some popcorn?? I'm dying over here.

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