My 3 y/o is making it impossible to name this baby.

amhah09 · January 2014

He keeps calling her Parker. He picked it up months ago when DH and I were throwing around names and he hasn't let to of it since. DH and I really do like the name but want to use it as a MIDDLE name and now everyone is calling her Parker.

Any other name I suggest my 3 y/o will say "no, she's Parker," and the adults in my family say, "well it doesn't matter anyway because she'll always be called Parker."

So now I don't know whether I should A) continue with Parker as a MN with the possibility that she may really always go by her MN (and I hate that!) or

use Parker as a first name and just decide on a MN or C) not use Parker at all to avoid either of the precious scenarios! Grrrrr.

FWIW the names we've agreed on are Amelia Parker, Olivia Parker, Lillian (or just Lily) Parker, and Elena Parker. Parker as a first name options are Parker Elise, Parker Elizabeth, or Parker Eloise. Parker Eloise is the only one I like and DH hates it.

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

Go with what you want; your 3-year old will forget it in time. I say this as a know-it-all FTM, of course, but I offer two bits of anecdotal evidence:

My friend just had her third child, first girl, and both of her sons were adamant that her name was Vanessa Fish Tacos. (Their favorite baby-sitter and favorite food) When her baby got here, it was like Vanessa Fish Tacos was a different person, because their little sister was obviously Emily.

My mom tells us how I was convinced my sister was going to be named Maria Ketchup, and she in turn was convinced our youngest sister was Scarlet Delaney. Nothing would convince us otherwise, but it wasn't an issue when our sister was born.

Bluebird2318 · January 2014

I'm of the mind that the only people who determine what you name your child are you and your DH. I think your DS is so young that while he may be obsessively calling her Parker now, that won't always be the case. That leaves only the adults in the equation. I couldn't understand from your post whether you meant that your family is saying "she'll always be called Parker" as a reference to your DS's behavior alone or they mean to suggest that they will call her Parker as well. If it's the latter: they are adults and they will have to learn how to handle the situation as such.

homediva · January 2014

Love Elena Parker! I absolutely would not let my 3 year old's choice affect my name choice! Everyone else will deal. Just look at them like they are idiots. Works like a charm.

LaurenC109 · January 2014

Before I was born my parents had decided on naming me Krista but at the last minute changed their minds. I guess my older sister had a hard time adjusting at first, but it didn't take her that long to call me the correct name. So I think you should name your child whatever you want and don't worry about your 3 year old calling her the wrong name.

amhah09 · January 2014

Bluebird2318 said:
I'm of the mind that the only people who determine what you name your child are you and your DH. I think your DS is so young that while he may be obsessively calling her Parker now, that won't always be the case. That leaves only the adults in the equation. I couldn't understand from your post whether you meant that your family is saying "she'll always be called Parker" as a reference to your DS's behavior alone or they mean to suggest that they will call her Parker as well. If it's the latter: they are adults and they will have to learn how to handle the situation as such.

The latter. But I agree, I think I will just have to correct the adults who call her Parker. It's hard because since we don't have a name set right now everyone refers to her as Parker and that's why I fear it will stick if we use it as a MN. Does that make sense?

But DH and I do like the name the Parker. It was one of our picks and that's why DS picked it up in the first place. So I think we will use it as a MN as planned and just correct anyone who continues to call her Parker after we have a name set for her. I hate when other adults feel they have a say in what your children will or will not be called.

amhah09 · January 2014

Also, I do know that young children can change their minds and behaviors. He may vary well never think twice about the name Parker again when she's born. What I meant by the frustration in this post is that because he is so adamant about her being called Parker, the adults are referring to her as Parker as well and THAT is why I'm finding it difficult. Only because I think THEY will continue to call her that. But you guys are right, adults can be corrected.

babym6705 · January 2014

My 4 yr. old daughter wants to name the baby Macaroni. DH and I will be naming the baby, lol, she'll live.

amhah09 · January 2014

babym6705 said:
My 4 yr. old daughter wants to name the baby Macaroni. DH and I will be naming the baby, lol, she'll live.

That's quite a bit different. Parker is a name that we actually like and intend to use. I'm finding it difficult to decide whether or not to use it as a MN if she will end up being called that. If he wanted to name her Soup this would be a nonissue.

Bluebird2318 · January 2014

amhah09 said:

I'm of the mind that the only people who determine what you name your child are you and your DH. I think your DS is so young that while he may be obsessively calling her Parker now, that won't always be the case. That leaves only the adults in the equation. I couldn't understand from your post whether you meant that your family is saying "she'll always be called Parker" as a reference to your DS's behavior alone or they mean to suggest that they will call her Parker as well. If it's the latter: they are adults and they will have to learn how to handle the situation as such.
The latter. But I agree, I think I will just have to correct the adults who call her Parker. It's hard because since we don't have a name set right now everyone refers to her as Parker and that's why I fear it will stick if we use it as a MN. Does that make sense? But DH and I do like the name the Parker. It was one of our picks and that's why DS picked it up in the first place. So I think we will use it as a MN as planned and just correct anyone who continues to call her Parker after we have a name set for her. I hate when other adults feel they have a say in what your children will or will not be called.

I definitely understand. My mother hates the name we have picked--which is fine; it's a little different and not everyone has to love it--but she says she will never call him by his name which is frustrating to say the least. I just feel like as long as you and your DH are positively in love with the name you choose, everything else will fit eventually (even if it needs a little push).

I still love Amelia Parker.

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

@Bluebird2318 That would make me TP a MIL.

Bluebird2318 · January 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:

@Bluebird2318 That would make me TP a MIL.

@BiggerinRealLife It's actually my own mother! My MIL is better equipped with tact and social decency.

My mom is just weird. She rides a line between cool person and frequent TP target.

amhah09 · January 2014

Bluebird2318 said:

amhah09 said:

Bluebird2318 said:
I'm of the mind that the only people who determine what you name your child are you and your DH. I think your DS is so young that while he may be obsessively calling her Parker now, that won't always be the case. That leaves only the adults in the equation. I couldn't understand from your post whether you meant that your family is saying "she'll always be called Parker" as a reference to your DS's behavior alone or they mean to suggest that they will call her Parker as well. If it's the latter: they are adults and they will have to learn how to handle the situation as such.
The latter. But I agree, I think I will just have to correct the adults who call her Parker. It's hard because since we don't have a name set right now everyone refers to her as Parker and that's why I fear it will stick if we use it as a MN. Does that make sense?

But DH and I do like the name the Parker. It was one of our picks and that's why DS picked it up in the first place. So I think we will use it as a MN as planned and just correct anyone who continues to call her Parker after we have a name set for her. I hate when other adults feel they have a say in what your children will or will not be called.

I definitely understand. My mother hates the name we have picked--which is fine; it's a little different and not everyone has to love it--but she says she will never call him by his name which is frustrating to say the least. I just feel like as long as you and your DH are positively in love with the name you choose, everything else will fit eventually (even if it needs a little push).

I still love Amelia Parker.

I think that's what I worry about. That the first name we choose won't be as well liked and therefore people won't use it. But I shouldn't care what other people think anyway. I'll just have to be prepared to correct people.

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

Bluebird2318 said:

BiggerinRealLife said:

@Bluebird2318 That would make me TP a MIL.

@BiggerinRealLife It's actually my own mother! My MIL is better equipped with tact and social decency. My mom is just weird. She rides a line between cool person and frequent TP target.

@Bluebird2318 Hahahaha I totally read Mother-in-law.....power of suggestion or something, I guess. Apparently I think the worst of MILs.

BuggasMom · January 2014

I actually love Parker for the first name! It's adorable. but besides that if you don't love it don't use it. your DS will catch on eventually and if not nicknames happen even after the fact ... I know a girl named isebelle but everyone calls her "chick" I am sure her parents didn't see that one coming

Rrrrrachel · January 2014

I say name them what you want and the parker thing will blow over.

daniz110 · January 2014

I say name your DD what you want an don't worry about anyone else. My in laws hated the name Ella and that is what my daughter mainly goes by. Her full name is Gabriella. They insist on her full name, never her nickname. It doesn't phase us...and they are trying to give opinions on this new baby and we just shrug it off. Pick what you like.

Bluebird2318 · January 2014

I'm the same way. I just keep telling myself that I might not be able to control what everyone else does, but I'm the one (along with DH) who controls what goes on the birth certificate and I want to make sure that name is purely what was in mine and DH's heart for our son. I'll just deal with anything else as it comes.

Tee710 · January 2014

I love Amelia Parker!

alysemci · January 2014

When my sister was born I was 4 and was adamant on naming her Snow White. My parents named her Lauren, I moved on. Don't base it off what a toddler says

Rrrrrachel · January 2014

My two year old wants to name her brother laura leigh . . . . sooooooo . . .

momofmanyinthemitten · January 2014

We asked our 3 y/o what she thought of William and Joseph for baby names, just to see if she could pronounce them. She is now convinced that we're having a boy and his name will be Joseph. I think we will probably use it as a MN.

MamaFantastic · January 2014

i have a friend who JUST had a baby and went through the exact same thing!! they had been tossing around names, happened to mention a name to their 2 year old, and the daughter 100% latched on to that name and started insisting the baby was named this one choice. they ended up choosing that particular name as the middle name, and chose a different option they wanted for the first name. baby is going by first name only so far (3 days in!)

Jessimax · January 2014

If it is any consolation, DS3 has named our baby GIRL Davy, no idea where it came from...

michigancam · January 2014

I named my little sister fruit loops. Needless to say, it didn't stick.

Go with what you want and introduce her that way when she arrives.

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