work or stay home?

ladyabagail · January 2014

Not sure if this has been asked but figured I would start a new topic. Do you work or stay home? Do you plan to work when baby arrives?

BlckRoses · January 2014

Work currently and plan to continue to work when baby arrives. I don't think I'd be very good at being a SAHM.

ETA- dammit, those generic avatars get me every time! We don't like you, lady.

rockyrollgirl · January 2014

Shoo.

NoeliaV · January 2014

ladyabagail says "pay attention to meeeeeee!"

shevaCC · January 2014

I work full time and likely will continue to do so after this child is born. DH and I have comparable salaries so we'd take a huge income hit if I decided to stay home and would go from financially reasonably comfortable to very stretched. I would love to work part-time someday but in my current job that isn't very likely to be allowed/accepted.

DD is in full-time daycare and we may consider switching her to a nanny plus part-time preschool after this next child comes along. Decisions, decisions.

ETA - woah...should've caught up on the FFFC first

Raclla · January 2014

Work. SAHM's are saints!!! I am not a saint. Maternity leave was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.

BeachM · January 2014

I'm a SAHM and will continue to be one.

Um, didn't you just graduate from high school? Do you have a job now?

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Valancyy · January 2014

At least this thread alerted me to the craziness in the FFFC thread. I missed all that....

EmleeSilva · January 2014

I work part time. Hopefully after number 2 we can move into our own place and I can be a SAHM. *crosses fingers*

liz4paws · January 2014

GTFO. BYE

KUGirl09 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:

Not sure if this has been asked but figured I would start a new topic. Do you work or stay home? Do you plan to work when baby arrives?

Starting a new topic isn't going to help.

DJS0312 · January 2014

I actually think working is easier then being at home. I work part-time which seems to be the perfect balance for me.

chase16 · January 2014

I just caught up on all the craziness too.

1) I started paperwork today to reenlist. I love working and I can't imagine a life where I don't have a career. Also I really like money, and FI doesn't make enough for us to live comfortably on just his salary. (The Army didn't make us millionaires, unfortunately)
2) You should probably go to college, seeing as how you married your HSS and got KU at age 18. While I realize that there are very few lucky exceptions to the rule that stay married and live happily ever after, given your personality and immaturity, I highly doubt that you are one of them. Get a job and an education, cause when you're single in 3 years, you're going to need it. Also- you need to rethink your life.

ETA: stay married and live happily ever after that get married at age 18.. Did not mean that everyone's married is doomed haha

ungraceful13 · January 2014

Work but that might change depending on if I get hired back next year. If I don't get hired back I will SAH.

LupeVallejo · January 2014

You are bat shit crazy.

rosesandpetals · January 2014

You should be a working mom because the sahm board would eat you alive.

nikhubbard67 · January 2014

I was a stay at home mom with my first and am now working and planning to continue after this baby comes. There are definitely pros and cons with both so you just have to decide what's right for your family. I'm hoping that one day I can be back at home, but for now this is working. Also, apparently I missed some drama since I'm not a regular bumper. I married my hss so there will be no judgement from me there; like others. We dated for 8 years and I got pregnant with my 1st after finishing my masters. We didn't need ivf, however, I get more excited for those ladies bc I have seen first hand how much effort they put into having a child. I would not be judging; you are young and have a lot of life experiences that will proof you wrong. I have a string feeling that this child will do just that... I wanted to breast feed...couldn't, didn't want my son to have any sugar until after 1...grandparents, didn't want him to take antibiotics...6 before he was 1 yr. At the age of 1 he gots tubes in and adenoids out. I thank god for the ability to make him feel better with science since every natural remedy we tried did nothing. Children make you throw your hands in the air and admit you know nothing; you're just doing your best. You will do anything to not see your baby suffer; even if that means supporting your daughter if she needs ivf one day I'm sure.

GinnyJ2012 · January 2014

I am a SAHM....but seriously you need to leave.

ladyabagail · January 2014

I stay home and will continue to after the baby is born. My husband really enjoys his job so we only plan for him to work.

MissLMS · January 2014

I always wanted to be a SAHM but after 3 months of maternity leave I was really missing my job, which I love. I work now and will continue to work after. I'm lucky in that my job has some odd hours and is incredibly flexible, which is great for having young kids.

micaela421 · January 2014

Work full time but I have 3 days off

chase16 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:
I stay home and will continue to after the baby is born. My husband really enjoys his job so we only plan for him to work.

Please tell me your husband at least has insurance for you and your poor child.

HeatherHam10 · January 2014

Why do you keep trying to start new posts after turning everyone on this board against you?!?

And at 18 you literally just graduated from HS (if you even did) and have no experience in the career world nor do you have any further education...and going along with your TRADITIONAL values which doesnt make much sense to me seeing as youre 18 and about to have a child...I think this conversation is about done. Go away!

greenbeanqueen · January 2014

Butting in from Dec 13.

@ladyabagail what are you going to do if *god forbid* your husband were to die or become disabled? You have no job, no formal education, very little if any experience, and kid(s) to take care of... Good luck in the real world with your *traditional* beliefs and your *real* non science baby...

KUGirl09 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:
I stay home and will continue to after the baby is born. My husband really enjoys his job so we only plan for him to work.

I don't think anyone in the August 2014 board gives a damn. To the other SAHM posts on here, sorry you got high jacked. Is there a way to block @ladyabagail from the bump?

ladyabagail · January 2014

This is the only topic I've started so I'm not sure what you are talking about. I can post here if I want. If something were to happen to my husband or with his job we have family that would be able to help. He has been at the theater for 2years and was just made head usher so we know they don't plan to let him go but thanks for the concern. Just because some of your marriages haven't worked doesn't mean that will happen to us, we are very happy.

ladyabagail · January 2014

And I officially believe you are rude

ladyabagail · January 2014

I'm living real life maybe you should give it a try and not worry so much about what an internet stranger is doing. You are being a cyber bully.

KUGirl09 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:
This is the only topic I've started so I'm not sure what you are talking about. I can post here if I want. If something were to happen to my husband or with his job we have family that would be able to help. He has been at the theater for 2years and was just made head usher so we know they don't plan to let him go but thanks for the concern. Just because some of your marriages haven't worked doesn't mean that will happen to us, we are very happy.

OMG @ladyabagail are you that obtuse? Have you read the 16 PAGES of people telling you how much of a jackass you are? You keep posting on here, like there is nothing wrong, and you think you will get support from other moms. Just because you start a discussion away from the FFFC discussion doesn't mean we don't see you! You must have some kahoneys to tell another mom that she is rude. You are so far beyond rude that I can't even.... Quick question for ya. When is your SIL due? I am hoping we in the August 2014 moms board can find her and send her lots of virtual hugs. You aren't welcome here @ladyabagail stop posting.

chase16 · January 2014

ladyabagail said:

This is the only topic I've started so I'm not sure what you are talking about. I can post here if I want. If something were to happen to my husband or with his job we have family that would be able to help. He has been at the theater for 2years and was just made head usher so we know they don't plan to let him go but thanks for the concern. Just because some of your marriages haven't worked doesn't mean that will happen to us, we are very happy.

HOLY CRAP. Your husband's steady job is AT THE THEATER?? and thats the ONLY source of income you both have coming in? ARE YOU INSANE??? How are you in any way equipped to care for a child?

Jennicillin · January 2014

When you said "theater" I had this brief moment of hope that you were using a military term and that he was deployed, and on an ACTUAL career path. How quickly that hope was dashed...

"Head Usher"

blushingbride_08 · January 2014

I quit my full time job after I had my 1st LO. I still plan to be home with this one too.

greenbeanqueen · January 2014

chase16 said:

ladyabagail said:

This is the only topic I've started so I'm not sure what you are talking about. I can post here if I want. If something were to happen to my husband or with his job we have family that would be able to help. He has been at the theater for 2years and was just made head usher so we know they don't plan to let him go but thanks for the concern. Just because some of your marriages haven't worked doesn't mean that will happen to us, we are very happy.

HOLY CRAP. Your husband's steady job is AT THE THEATER?? and thats the ONLY source of income you both have coming in? ARE YOU INSANE??? How are you in any way equipped to care for a child?

So your DH has a full time career at a theater and your fall back is mommy and daddy. Very grown up of you. Good luck buying diapers and food and paying bills...

cashews29 · January 2014

Head Usher! Wow, that's amazing!

I didn't know movie theaters even HAD head ushers. I can see why you are completely comfortable with your financial future.

/sarcasm

schnookee · January 2014

Some small part of me actually feels bad for this idiot that she is so naive. Man is she going to hate herself in the future when reality socks her in the face. I don't usually wish bad things on people but I hope it hits her hard and knocks some sense into her before she messes up her poor kid.

chase16 · January 2014

schnookee said:

Some small part of me actually feels bad for this idiot that she is so naive. Man is she going to hate herself in the future when reality socks her in the face. I don't usually wish bad things on people but I hope it hits her hard and knocks some sense into her before she messes up her poor kid.

I actually do too. She has some truly messed up ideas, but shes only 18 so I have to assume that that is how she was parented. Sad. I feel bad for her because sooner or later (probably sooner) reality is going to hit.. and she is completely unprepared for it. I really just feel bad for her kid though. I'm puurrttyy certain she's got no insurance to take care of the kid, and I can't even imagine how they're making ends meet with his job right now, let alone when the baby comes. yeesh.

ETA: Not that one's parenting is an any way an excuse for hurting other people. At some point, you have to be an adult and recognize that sometimes, just maybe, your parents were wrong about some stuff.

Jennicillin · January 2014

NariaDreaming said:

This is the only topic I've started so I'm not sure what you are talking about. I can post here if I want. If something were to happen to my husband or with his job we have family that would be able to help. He has been at the theater for 2years and was just made head usher so we know they don't plan to let him go but thanks for the concern. Just because some of your marriages haven't worked doesn't mean that will happen to us, we are very happy.
So glad my tax dollars will be supporting you, the child you are married to, and the child you are bringing into the world. I know a $20,000 a year job sounds impressive at 18... but trust me, it's not. Do you have any idea how much being a grown up actually costs?

THIS. THIS EXACTLY. Seriously, she probably stays home cause she's too lazy to work and that income would cut off all of their government benefits. Way to abuse the system sweetheart. You're not a grown up, you're a leech..

ETA: I actually am a SAHM, BUT we can afford that option. If my husbands career ambitions were limited to ushering, I would work to provide for my family... Or I'd choose a spouse with an actual career path, and work to help him achieve those goals.

beachbum4304 · January 2014

Oh honey, you have a lot of growing up to do. Its clear you have the typical teenage mentality that you know everything. I thought that too til reality kicked my butt. One day you will look back at this and think wow they were right.

kristine526 · January 2014

On behalf of Bumpies everywhere:

Or stay. Your immaturity and FFFC drama is known bump-wide and is at the very least entertaining.

talkthewholetime · January 2014

I'm sure he's going to enjoy being a movie theater usher for the rest of his life. And he definitely won't ever need any further education to provide for your family.

Look, I know what it was like to be 18. Everyone here does. There is SO much you and your child will need besides love and $11 an hour.

Lurking from May 14 because I can't handle the crazy!

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