I hate the Bump today. Also, I am in agreement that it has been so boring lately...I've resorted to being a post whore if anyone noticed. Fuck using the search button or google, I need some kind of conversation other than labor and birth posts.
To be clear... my unpopular opinion is not limited to the sterilizing issue. I hear it all the time. I got told it by someone that I should never supplement with formula because my kid wouldn't starve to death, after all what did kids use before, i've heard it when i told my coworkers we didn't buy a snow suit for our baby because they shouldn't be used under a car seat. It goes on. People forget how much infant mortality there used to be. (And this comes up with the dreaded V-word all the time... but let's not launch on that dead horse today agreed?).
But, I agree, that kids need to build up their own immune system, and I'm not talking about doing this forever, but certainly until my child starts to develop an immune system I am taking the precautions necessary to reduce exposure to germs.
I do not find breastfeeding yo be natural like most women seem to.
Agreed.
I literally just told DH I'd rather pump than breastfeed.
I did this but I don't understand why we update our labor buddies when we are in labor. I mobile bump pretty much all the time so in the time it took to text my labor buddy I could have gotten on the app and done it my-damn-self. It's the same thing!
Married 3/5/11
BFP: 6/19/12, D&C 8/23/12
BFP: 5/17/13, Born 12/16/2013
January Siggy Challenge: When I am done breastfeeding...
I do not find breastfeeding yo be natural like most women seem to.
Agreed.
I agree too!
I hate pumping and breastfeeding, but I still do it for at least 6 months. I hate it even more now that I have to do it exclusively until we get Vinny's PKU stuff figured out. He eats constantly and I'm afraid that I can't keep up with him
#1 It took me a while to think of one. My dh and my anniversary was yesterday I have been hoping for the longest time that LO would not be born on that day because I would feel like we would never be able to celebrate that day again because I would want all my attention given to my son or daughter on his or her bday. I would like to appreciate my husband and just celebrate us on that day.
#2 My bday is in a few day and I also hope its not on my bday, this time not for selfish reasons I could care less about celebrating my bday I just want LO to have his or her own day. We have a lot of family members bdays in the next two weeks and I just hope LO is not born on anyone's bday.
But if LO happens to be born on my bday or anyone else's I will just consider it the best bday present EVER!
BFP #1 (7/13/12) MC (8/14) 9 weeks. D & C 8/17. BFP #2 (5/18/13) due 1/26/14. Grow baby grow! Its a surprise! Team green!
You ladies with sushi in your siggies - gross. Just gross.
I'm too tired to think today...it's the best I can come up with. Even then, I don't eat sushi.
@Roses87 - I know what you mean! I have 1 niece and 1 nephew with birthdays this Saturday, my parents anniversary and a niece with a birthday on Monday. I'm kind of hoping that if baby decides to come early(ish) it'll come Sunday or anytime after Monday. My birthday is the 30th, but my Dr. won't let me go more then 10 days over, so baby will be here by then.
I don't understand why people hire people to run their errands. Not famous people, I mean people that do it just bc they can afford to and/ or are lazy
I have seen this article on FB going around about how to parent strong willed children and I think everyone I know with a toddler has shared it. My opinion is I think all toddlers are strong willed and they need limits and boundaries and I did read the article and agreed with some to an extent, but I feel like the term "strong willed" can be used sometimes (not always) as an excuse for negative behavior.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Well, going off @Roses87's UO -- I don't really care about anniversaries and don't think they are that big of a deal. We don't really celebrate ours.
I agree with this to a certain extent - I don't think it's necessary to buy gifts for your SO. I prefer some quality time together on those 'special days' (could be as simple as dinner or as extravagant as going away on a trip). But buying something for the sake of buying something, is useless.
Also giving your SO a card for those special holidays (valentines, christmas, anniversary, birthday etc) is also a waste of money. You live in the same house together; just tell/show your SO you love them.
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7
Ditto on hating breast feeding and pumping... But I still pump.
I also don't sterilize bottles. We have scalding hot water that comes from our taps so I run that in each bottle for a few seconds after washing each!
Please don't do this @tootsscott ! Too many hot water tanks leach metals. When I worked in drinking water safety for our municipalities this is the number one thing we had to tell people.
Well, going off @Roses87's UO -- I don't really care about anniversaries and don't think they are that big of a deal. We don't really celebrate ours.
I agree with this to a certain extent - I don't think it's necessary to buy gifts for your SO. I prefer some quality time together on those 'special days' (could be as simple as dinner or as extravagant as going away on a trip). But buying something for the sake of buying something, is useless.
Also giving your SO a card for those special holidays (valentines, christmas, anniversary, birthday etc) is also a waste of money. You live in the same house together; just tell/show your SO you love them.
All we do for birthdays and anniversaries is go out to dinner, or maybe, if we have the funds, we go away for the weekend of our anniversary. No gifts here. I do however ask my husband for 3 cards a year - anniversary or mother's day (they are a week apart so he can pick), birthday and Christmas. And that is only because I just like to see what kind of card he picks because he isn't a "sappy" guy so he'll pick the weirdest cards.
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
All we do for birthdays and anniversaries is go out to dinner, or maybe, if we have the funds, we go away for the weekend of our anniversary. No gifts here. I do however ask my husband for 3 cards a year - anniversary or mother's day (they are a week apart so he can pick), birthday and Christmas. And that is only because I just like to see what kind of card he picks because he isn't a "sappy" guy so he'll pick the weirdest cards.
@dhviel - DH writes me notes on post-its with any gift he ever gives me. In the beginning I thought he was crazy for doing it, but I always keep one in my wallet with me at all times
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7
All we do for birthdays and anniversaries is go out to dinner, or maybe, if we have the funds, we go away for the weekend of our anniversary. No gifts here. I do however ask my husband for 3 cards a year - anniversary or mother's day (they are a week apart so he can pick), birthday and Christmas. And that is only because I just like to see what kind of card he picks because he isn't a "sappy" guy so he'll pick the weirdest cards.
@dhviel - DH writes me notes on post-its with any gift he ever gives me. In the beginning I thought he was crazy for doing it, but I always keep one in my wallet with me at all times
My husband took after my FIL, who once brought my MIL into the card store, found a card, gave it to her to read and then put it back and said, "there, that's your birthday card". I'm fully expecting that one day in our relationship....
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
Well, going off @Roses87's UO -- I don't really care about anniversaries and don't think they are that big of a deal. We don't really celebrate ours.
I agree with this to a certain extent - I don't think it's necessary to buy gifts for your SO. I prefer some quality time together on those 'special days' (could be as simple as dinner or as extravagant as going away on a trip). But buying something for the sake of buying something, is useless.
Also giving your SO a card for those special holidays (valentines, christmas, anniversary, birthday etc) is also a waste of money. You live in the same house together; just tell/show your SO you love them.
I agree with both of those statements. I like to spend "special time" on that day. I do not believe in anniversary gifts and I too think cards are a waste. All we did yesterday was go out to a Japanese steakhouse for dinner. I do like to recognize the day and spend quality time together. We did not do gifts for each other. I think once we start hitting the "big" anniversaries and have more money it would be nice to take a little trip just the two of us.
BFP #1 (7/13/12) MC (8/14) 9 weeks. D & C 8/17. BFP #2 (5/18/13) due 1/26/14. Grow baby grow! Its a surprise! Team green!
I have seen this article on FB going around about how to parent strong willed children and I think everyone I know with a toddler has shared it. My opinion is I think all toddlers are strong willed and they need limits and boundaries and I did read the article and agreed with some to an extent, but I feel like the term "strong willed" can be used sometimes (not always) as an excuse for negative behavior.
I agree. We know a couple who calls their daughter "high spirited," when really, her problem is that her parents let her do whatever she wants and she doesn't have boundaries.
partial molar pregnancy : bfp 6.28.10, d/c 8.17.10, 7 rounds methotrexate, cleared 7.1.11 alexander patrick : bfp 1.16.12, born 9.20.12 @ 39w1d, 7 lbs./11 oz./22 in. scarlett irene elizabeth : bfp 5.24.13, born 2.3.14 @ 41w2d, 7 lbs./13 oz./19 in.
1) I dislike when people hold the elevator for me. I prefer to ride the elevator by myself and when they hold the elevator, I feel obligated to thank them for doing something I don't even like in the first place. Also, I feel the pressure to hurry and hussle in when I could have waddled in at my own pace. It annoys me even more when people get off on a different floor before my floor because it means extra stops.
2) I find it intimidating to start new posts on this board. I see others get a lashing for whatever reason (asking a repeat question, not using search first, not googling before asking, mis-wording etc). First, I have to have an interesting enough topic. Then I have to do a bunch of research on post history and google to make sure it's not a repeat or too easy to find. Then I need to make sure I carefully phrase every single word meticulously as to not offend someone...all of which is just a bit too much effort.
1) I dislike when people hold the elevator for me. I prefer to ride the elevator by myself and when they hold the elevator, I feel obligated to thank them for doing something I don't even like in the first place. Also, I feel the pressure to hurry and hussle in when I could have waddled in at my own pace. It annoys me even more when people get off on a different floor before my floor because it means extra stops.
2) I find it intimidating to start new posts on this board. I see others get a lashing for whatever reason (asking a repeat question, not using search first, not googling before asking, mis-wording etc). First, I have to have an interesting enough topic. Then I have to do a bunch of research on post history and google to make sure it's not a repeat or too easy to find. Then I need to make sure I carefully phrase every single word meticulously as to not offend someone...all of which is just a bit too much effort.
Agree with #1 completely, and for regular doors it is still annoying. Okay, if I'm literally right behind you, then yes it is very polite to hold the door for me. Also, if my arms are full and it looks as if I would have trouble opening the door myself, then thank you for waiting for me and doing it for me. However, if I am walking at my own leisure pace and feel the need to rush to go through a door held open way ahead of me, that is annoying.
I have also noticed #2 getting out of hand lately. I actually like reading posts of repeat discussion topics because I don't always catch the story the first time. And I don't want to feel like I have to do homework before posting. Yes, certain topics are done to death but oh well, I can just skip over those anyway.
I preferred the wedding ring avatars to these aggressive orange champagne flutes.
Guys, I'm starting a band and the name is
WALTER and the AGGRESSIVE ORANGE CHAMPAGNE FLUTES
(Walter is one of my cats.)
I love the fact that I'm not the only one that hears something and says "that would make a great band name!" I'm still trying to start one called "ginger mullet." I'd play triangle.
My UO? I hate when people say "you don't know what your birth will be like so you can't say what you will/ won't do." these are usually ppl who don't know me. I say I don't want an epidural and they're like "we'll see!" I don't even take Tylenol and can handle pain well (it's discomfort I have a problem with and I've been uncomfortable on and off for weeks now). All it does is reinforce my stubbornness.
My UO? I hate when people say "you don't know what your birth will be like so you can't say what you will/ won't do." these are usually ppl who don't know me. I say I don't want an epidural and they're like "we'll see!" I don't even take Tylenol and can handle pain well (it's discomfort I have a problem with and I've been uncomfortable on and off for weeks now). All it does is reinforce my stubbornness.
@joynalanson - I don't think they're trying to be negative, just realistic. I have a high pain tolerance and was convinced I could go without an epidural. I used to get mad at people who told me to keep my options open, but they were right. You can't imagine what labor will be like until you're in it. I really beat myself up for caving, but after 30+ hours on Pitocin I just needed some relief and sleep. I think it's great that you want to go that route, but the more flexible (and less stubborn) you are about it, the more enjoyable your birth will be.
ETA: labor isn't just painful, it's extremely uncomfortable. Hours upon hours of contractions that increase in intensity and frequency... yeah.
@mamap19 they should say it like that. Yesterday my coworker did that "hehe listen to her, she thinks she knows" kind of laugh and tapped another coworker. Like totally discrediting my statements and my preparation to not have pain relief or other drugs. It was just so rude. And this from a woman who had 2 natural births herself so it was like she said I wasn't as strong as her.
I do not find breastfeeding yo be natural like most women seem to.
Agreed.
Same boat. Lily and I are working on her latch and it is easier with her being a little older now. I'm also supplementing with formula because she lost almost two pounds since birth. I still hope to breastfeed exclusively on time but it's just not coming naturally to me.
As I approach my the end of my pregnancy I find myself seeing posters who are puppies, rainbows, and are overly positive as this:
And I see myself as this:
Anyone else?
Is this even a UO?
YES! I love Daria. And so true.
And agree with @suupercute re: posting. I try to be active but I am pretty sure that people are already screaming WHO ARE YOU at their phones/screens. I am having my C/S today and probably won't post pics or anything but wasn't going to be all ADD ME TO THE SPREADSHEET. I enjoy reading about you all and when I find something I agree with or can comment on I do. Like @peanutmuse MIL nursery gift - asbestos art from haunted childhood orphanage anyone? But as far as starting posts I have nothing new.
Oh I need an UO? Pink being the ONLY color for girls. When I found out we were having a girl I tried to be OK with the onslaught of pink. But oooof some of that shit is UGLY. Making it pink does not make the Laura-Ashley-threw-up-here shirt cute. It looks like pink curtains. And what IS IT WITH RUFFLES?! I bought boys pants because my kid doesn't need ruffles on her ass on every outfit.
I hate the new bit strip app. People have been posting that crap entirely way too much on FB.
You can block that, as long as they haven't converted it to a picture and uploaded it. In the little arrow that appears up in the corner of the post, the drop down has the option of "I don't want to see this," and then you can block BitStrips from there. I hate them, too, and I rarely see them now.
Re: UO
Carter Robert 7.18.08 | Brynn Sophia 5.24.10 | Reid Joseph 9.10.12 | Emerson Mae 1.27.14
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But, I agree, that kids need to build up their own immune system, and I'm not talking about doing this forever, but certainly until my child starts to develop an immune system I am taking the precautions necessary to reduce exposure to germs.
I can't wait to meet you Neva Margaret Rebecca
PCOS diagnosed secondary infertility
BFP #1 (letrozole 2.5mg + ovidrel) February 2016, MMC April 2016 @ 7 weeks
BFP #2 (letrozole 5mg + ovidrel) July 2016, Beta #1 359, Beta #2 745, Beta #3 11484
EDD April 9th, 2017
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Besides, most of the sushi just looks gross.
DS1 born 11/3/06 * DS2 born 3/29/08 * DD born 3/15/11
Scarlett Mae born 1/14/14 Our family is now complete!
I literally just told DH I'd rather pump than breastfeed.
I did this but I don't understand why we update our labor buddies when we are in labor. I mobile bump pretty much all the time so in the time it took to text my labor buddy I could have gotten on the app and done it my-damn-self. It's the same thing!
I agree too!
I hate pumping and breastfeeding, but I still do it for at least 6 months. I hate it even more now that I have to do it exclusively until we get Vinny's PKU stuff figured out. He eats constantly and I'm afraid that I can't keep up with him
BFP #2 (5/18/13) due 1/26/14. Grow baby grow!
Its a surprise! Team green!
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I also don't sterilize bottles. We have scalding hot water that comes from our taps so I run that in each bottle for a few seconds after washing each!
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
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I can't wait to meet you Neva Margaret Rebecca
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
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Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
BFP #2 (5/18/13) due 1/26/14. Grow baby grow!
Its a surprise! Team green!
partial molar pregnancy : bfp 6.28.10, d/c 8.17.10, 7 rounds methotrexate, cleared 7.1.11
alexander patrick : bfp 1.16.12, born 9.20.12 @ 39w1d, 7 lbs./11 oz./22 in.
scarlett irene elizabeth : bfp 5.24.13, born 2.3.14 @ 41w2d, 7 lbs./13 oz./19 in.
2) I find it intimidating to start new posts on this board. I see others get a lashing for whatever reason (asking a repeat question, not using search first, not googling before asking, mis-wording etc). First, I have to have an interesting enough topic. Then I have to do a bunch of research on post history and google to make sure it's not a repeat or too easy to find. Then I need to make sure I carefully phrase every single word meticulously as to not offend someone...all of which is just a bit too much effort.
I have also noticed #2 getting out of hand lately. I actually like reading posts of repeat discussion topics because I don't always catch the story the first time. And I don't want to feel like I have to do homework before posting. Yes, certain topics are done to death but oh well, I can just skip over those anyway.
I love the fact that I'm not the only one that hears something and says "that would make a great band name!" I'm still trying to start one called "ginger mullet." I'd play triangle.
married 3/3/12----- Alanson Kavi born 1/15/14
married 3/3/12----- Alanson Kavi born 1/15/14
married 3/3/12----- Alanson Kavi born 1/15/14
Same boat. Lily and I are working on her latch and it is easier with her being a little older now. I'm also supplementing with formula because she lost almost two pounds since birth. I still hope to breastfeed exclusively on time but it's just not coming naturally to me.
And agree with @suupercute re: posting. I try to be active but I am pretty sure that people are already screaming WHO ARE YOU at their phones/screens. I am having my C/S today and probably won't post pics or anything but wasn't going to be all ADD ME TO THE SPREADSHEET. I enjoy reading about you all and when I find something I agree with or can comment on I do. Like @peanutmuse MIL nursery gift - asbestos art from haunted childhood orphanage anyone? But as far as starting posts I have nothing new.
Oh I need an UO? Pink being the ONLY color for girls. When I found out we were having a girl I tried to be OK with the onslaught of pink. But oooof some of that shit is UGLY. Making it pink does not make the Laura-Ashley-threw-up-here shirt cute. It looks like pink curtains. And what IS IT WITH RUFFLES?! I bought boys pants because my kid doesn't need ruffles on her ass on every outfit.
ETA: missing word
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