September 2014 Moms

Telling family

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Re: Telling family

  • We've told our parents/siblings and I've told a few close friends. I've also told my boss. We'll share the news slowly once we hear the heartbeat. 








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  • I'm not sure yet.  With DS, we told the families the day I got a BFP.  For some reason this time I feel like waiting a little bit.  We thought about doing it on MH's birthday in 3 weeks or waiting until after I go to the doctor, but that's like a month away.  Maybe we will just do it this weekend.  I'm starting to feel weird having a secret!  I will probably not tell my friends until after the doctor.

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  • Told my immediate family and MIL on Christmas day.  I got my BFP Christmas eve and wrapped up a box for DH and DS to open.  With DS I announced on Christmas day as well so it felt like a tradition. 

    Told FIL, BILs and SILs after.  A few other people know.  I'm a lot more lenient this time around because if I have a loss I think I'd want the support.

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  • Ceridwen21Ceridwen21 member
    edited January 2014
    We told family and our close friends over the holidays because I'm a lush and everyone would suspect. They were also a great support to us during our miscarriage so I know I would want to count on them if it should (heaven forbid) happen again. Everyone else will know after 1st tri.,

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  • Being that this is our first we are going to tell our parents and grandparents. I'm going to tell my parents on Thursday, that's when they get back from vacation. And DH's parents over the weekend. I'm also thinking about telling my two BFFs (one just had a baby and the other is due in April). The rest of the family, friends and FB will probably find out around 12 weeks.

    I'm nervous but so excited at the same time! :)
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  • I blurted it out the day after we found out (so, 5 weeks) on New Year's Eve.  And not just to our parents, but 25 of our very close family friends at dinner.  

    I had a very healthy first pregnancy, I hope I'm not taking things for granted.  *face palm*
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  • We told ours immediately after the BFP with #1 and #2, but it has been two weeks since we found out this time we haven't told yet. I had a CP in November, so I am more nervous, plus I think it's our last, so we are enjoying having a sweet secret for what might be the last time. I think we might wait until mid-February.
  • We told immediate family immediately but will wait til 12 weeks for everyone elseo. Even though I can hardly wait!
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  • DH and I are thinking we'd like to wait until Valentine's Day to tell family. That would put us at a little over 11 weeks, but I'm not sure I can wait that long. Man, this waiting game is tough.
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  • We are going to tell my parents and siblings at 12 weeks and will announce on FB after our anatomy scan. We told early with our son and my last pregnancy that ended in m/c. I don't really want to take anyone on the emotional roller coaster again so we are going to wait.
  • A few of our close friends know. I told my Mom when I was leaving the Dr office this morning, she would be the one I talk to the most about my pregnancy so it is nice to have her in the loop. She told my step-dad soon afterward. Other than that, I will be waiting to tell everyone else after my u/s on 2/4. 


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  • I found out on Monday...and I'm waiting a couple more hours for DH to get home so I can finally tell him! I worked the last two nights, so we have really not seen each other much, and I didn't want to tell him as one of us was heading out the door. My charge nurses know because I work on a heme/onc floor, and I wanted to make sure I wouldn't get assigned to giving chemo.

    Other than that, my sister knows. I figure we will tell family around 12 weeks, which falls a week before my husband's cousin gets married. We may wait until after so that we don't steal her thunder. Obviously, DH and I have a big conversation coming up and we will figure it out. I'd really like to tell our family and friends back home in person.
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    Hward1015 said:

    A few of our close friends know. I told my Mom when I was leaving the Dr office this morning, she would be the one I talk to the most about my pregnancy so it is nice to have her in the loop. She told my step-dad soon afterward. Other than that, I will be waiting to tell everyone else after my u/s on 2/4. 

    Same day as my appointment! We can count down the days together!!! I've never wanted a day to come so bad!!
  • We've already told all of our family and we will announce to everyone else as soon as I get DS's big brother shirt. I'm not big on waiting!
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  • Planning on telling parents and siblings soon, close friends and other family in a few weeks, after a doctors visit. Then the world can know! Hesitant to tell everyone right away because I have heard from some couples they're pregnant and then they miscarry. I don't know if I'd want to have to share such devastating news.
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  • We will tell family after first midwife appointment and announce to friends 12-15 weeks. We announced at 9 weeks and had a miscarriage that started two days later it was hard telling people. We waited until 16 weeks with our son.
  • We told our parents and siblings right away. Won't tell anyone else until 2nd trimester, except maybe a close girlfriend, but won't even tell her until I hear a heartbeat. No right answer for when to tell though!
  • We told our parents and I told my supervisors in case morning sickness rears it's head (it's a very pregnancy friendly place) right after we found out. We plan on telling family after we see a heartbeat in another 3 weeks, and then the world once we pass the first trimester mark.

    It's our first and I want to shout it from the rooftops.
  • cmartinesqcmartinesq member
    edited January 2014
  • With my first pregnancy we told everyone the day of the BFP but that ended in a m/c a few weeks later. This time around only my husband my doctors office and you ladies know. We have not decided when we will tell people.

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    TTC Since Jan 2011
    Diagnosed with PCOS Jan 2013
    BFP#1 June 2013/ EDD 2/23/2013 Blighted Ovum confirmed July 18, 2013
    took Cytotec July 20, 2013

    BFP #2 12/28/2013 EDD 9/11/2014 Its A Girl!!! Rebecca Ann!

    Rebecca Ann born 8/31/2014 6lb 1oz 19 inches long 8:55am!!!!


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  • We told my parents and sibs but waiting to tell everyone else at the beginning of the 2nd trimester.
  • I told my parents a few days ago at 5 w because I wanted to do it in person since I dont live close and we are visiting them now. We plan to tell the rest of our immediate family after 1st us on the 29th and then everyone else after 1st trimester
  • I almost just spilled the beans to my mom on accident! I'm going to tell her after my appt on Monday, but she was asking about everything and I hate keeping secrets from her! Ahhhhh!!!!! Hurry up Monday!
  • We will probably tell most of the family this weekend after our appointment tomorrow.  I have also told the people I work with.  They know we have been trying so they have constantly been asking if I am pregnant yet and I have this horrible disease where I can't tell a lie so most know.   I will probably have to announce it on facebook as well since my il's can't keep a secret.  My parents know and are struggling to keep the secret.  My mom has already made the new baby a christmas stocking since she has been bored with an extended christmas vacation. (we all have matching knitted stockings that my grandma started with her children and grandchildren so my mom has picked up the knitting for the great grandchildren.

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  • We got our BFP on the 26th, right after we got back from visiting family for the holidays. We immediately went for a confirmation at the doctor, then called our parents. We told our siblings and my 3 best girlfriends a few days later. We weren't going to tell anyone else, but we ended up telling our couple friends here that we were going out with on NYE because I wasn't going to be drinking, and they would notice. I gave the two women a bottle with a sign on it that said "Drink for me, I'm a mommy to be." My husband also had to tell his second in command at work so they wouldn't make any plans during my appointment times. With the exception of my husband's co-worker, I would want all these people to know if I had a miscarriage.
     
    We will tell our extended family and other friends with a card mailed out right before Valentine's Day. It will say "Roses are red, violets are blue, On September 2nd, our baby is due!" Then I will post on Facebook on Valentine's Day. I will be 11 weeks, 3 days at that point. I will probably also tell my boss, fellow grad students, and the students I teach (college) that day, unless morning sickness forces me to tell them earlier.
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  • I'm picking my parents up from the airport today. I finally get to tell them, I'm so excited!!! :D
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  • I'm picking my parents up from the airport today. I finally get to tell them, I'm so excited!!! :D
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  • Not sure why that posted twice.
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  • We've only told my mom. We were planning to start IVF this month but were pleasantly surprised beforehand! We've been telling our fam that we couldn't start IVF for another month. I think we'll tell my in-laws and siblings once we hear the heartbeat and are further along. It's so hard to wait though!
  • My situation is a little different. This is our first, and was planned but we are not married yet. So we are not sure how some people will take it. Also, my bf and I work at the same place and my mom works there too. We all work in different departments but we think it's best to tell our family after our first OB appointment in Feb. I will be a little over 11 weeks, but think that's "a safe" time because we will be so much further along. Plus we want to tell our family right after the appointment and then a few days later tell everyone at work so that way we do not have to worry about anything slipping out since we all work at the same company.
  • We're torn about this. Originally, the plan was to wait until 12 weeks b/c I have an increased risk of m/c. My family is supportive, but I wouldn't want it being constantly brought up and I hate the "How are you *sympathetic head tilt*". My mom's not good with giving me space when something bad/sad happens.
    However, we're really excited and we want to let our parents in on our little secret. We know they're going to be super happy about their first grandchild. I think we're going to at least wait until our first u/s and see what happens. After the u/s, I have a meeting with the RE about when I'll be discharged to my OB; so I plan on asking her what she thinks about my risk and all that. 
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  • I told a couple friends and my workout support group since there are a few of us pregnant. :) DH wants to wait as long as possible to tell family. I'm thinking at least until our first appointment around 10 weeks.
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  • At 4 weeks we told our mom's, I will probably start to tell people after the first appt in February. 
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  • My dad's birthday is on the 23rd so I think I'll tell my parents that day as a little over the phone birthday present. I'll probably tell my sister around then too. We'll probably tell H's family sometime after that.
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  • We took a risk and already told. This is #2 for me and #4 for for DH. MIL has terminally ill cancer and was just diagnosed a couple of weeks ago... And this seemed to make everyone think of something positive right now.
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  • I told my mother first, basically 1 week plus after getting my BFP. My hubby is not ready yet, he relishes holding that much info to himself. As long as my mom knows, I don’t care..
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  • We've waited to tell family with all 4 past pregnancies, but just went for it this time. It was just so, shocking.
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  • Told my parents tonight. 7w1d and had a u/s already. She cried then said it's about time. Lol
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