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Night nurse...?

Sprinkles86Sprinkles86 member
in June 2014 Moms
Hi fellow radiant june moms!
Question...on the topic of night nurses... Whats theyre job? Do the come only at night?....i know they are registered nurses...but....how long do u have them? How much is the price range? Is it the same as a nanny? If someone could clear this up id very much appreciate it!

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  • MztwilsonMztwilson member
    flerlgirl said:

    It is my understanding that a night nurse is someone who comes to care for your baby overnight - feedings and changes, essentially. I don't know about price ranges. But it seems utterly ridiculous so I will not be of much help. 


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    Agreed. I don't understand the want or need for a night nurse unless your child has special needs. And feeding and changing aren't what I'd consider special needs.
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  • curlylocks3curlylocks3 member
    Price will vary by area but the going rate around here seems to be ~$30/hour and how long you have them just depends on your needs. Basically they provide care to your baby overnight, allowing you to sleep. 
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  • rmjones15rmjones15 member
    i think they are ridiculous as well. I don't understand needing someone to be there at night so you can sleep.

    I will say…when I nannied, I took a short job as a night nanny for a woman who had a difficult C-section. since her husband worked nights, she needed someone to be there to pick up her baby and bring him to her so she could nurse. that's the only real scenario I can think of when it's "needed". 
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  • curlylocks3curlylocks3 member
    OP, if you're interested in going this route, I suggest working with an agency- this will give you the peace of mind that whoever is coming into your home has had a thorough background check, and the agency might also be able to help find backup if your night nurse is ill, etc. A lot of them book fairly far out, so you might want to look soon. 
    Try nanny agencies, or if you have some boutique-style baby shops in your area you could ask them for recommendations, as well as your pediatrician. Whatever you do though, don't be the creep trying to solicit nurses at the hospital to come work for you. 
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  • ncbellencbelle member
    I don't get the concept of a night nurse either.  You might look into a postpartum doula if you feel like you want help.  Instead of "taking over" a postpartum doula offers support so that you can be self-sufficient - helps answer your questions about breastfeeding and early baby care and provides much needed emotional support.


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  • lellyminelellymine member
    My friend has one but her child also has special needs and needs round the clock care. They tried for a yr to do it themselves and she ended up almost having a breakdown and being hospitalized from the exhaustion. They were given a grant to help pay for it. I think for a healthy mom and baby it's pure laziness though. That and being swayed by all the celebrities that do it.
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  • MrsCase1MrsCase1 member
    If I had the money, I would totally hire one. Annnnnnnnd a housekeeper! My husband does manual labor and it is hard for him waking all night to help me after my c/s.

    Also, I have a girlfriend who loves kids and is a brilliant preschool teacher. For most women, we just deal with the night wakings and move forward. For her, the night wakings wreak havoc on her body to an extreme. Obviously she is the exception, not the rule, bit I totally wouldn't judge someone for knowing their own limits and hiring someone.
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  • flojo973flojo973 member
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    From my understanding, you could have a full-time nurse or one that comes in the late afternoon and leaves in the early morning to do baths, feedings, changings, etc.  They help get the baby on a feeding and sleeping schedule (as much as that's possible when they're infants).  

    Having a night nurse is pretty common where I live and among certain of my friends.  I would definitely suggest working with an agency or having a first-hand recommendation.  In my area (northern NJ), a night nurse is about $250/night.

    ETA:  You can have them as long as you want.  Most people I know have the for the first week or two, but one friend had them for the first month.
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  • b48kateb48kate member
    How to find a night nurse?
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  • nunzchucksnunzchucks member
    flojo973 said:
    From my understanding, you could have a full-time nurse or one that comes in the late afternoon and leaves in the early morning to do baths, feedings, changings, etc.  They help get the baby on a feeding and sleeping schedule (as much as that's possible when they're infants).  

    Having a night nurse is pretty common where I live and among certain of my friends.  I would definitely suggest working with an agency or having a first-hand recommendation.  In my area (northern NJ), a night nurse is about $250/night.

    ETA:  You can have them as long as you want.  Most people I know have the for the first week or two, but one friend had them for the first month.

    Holy cow...that is expensive!
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  • beachbride5beachbride5 member
    i believe they handle the feedings and diaper changes overnight so you can sleep. they are extremely common where i am, but i am a control freak so the thought of someone creeping around my house at night and then snuggling with my baby is a little too hand that rocks the cradle for me. haha! but the sleep sounds amazing! 
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  • MztwilsonMztwilson member
    Do they just stay up all night or do they sleep and wake up with baby? What do they do when baby is asleep? Stare at a wall?
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  • lellyminelellymine member
    Mztwilson said:

    Do they just stay up all night or do they sleep and wake up with baby? What do they do when baby is asleep? Stare at a wall?

    My friend's night nurse stays awake all night, like a grave shift job. She's allowed to read or watch movies as long as she can see their child. He's special needs though so I'm not sure what one would do while watching a non special needs baby.
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  • 2blessingsin12blessingsin1 member
    Not all "night nurses" are RNs... some are LPNs... some are just CNAs. It varies from company to company. But having been a ped homehealth nurse, Unless your child has extreme special needs I think it is laziness to have someone come care for your child when you are home and there are no special needs. *rant over*

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  • Pepper6Pepper6 member
    I've only known of one person who has actually had a nurse (day and night though), and that was because she had triplets and her husband had a month-long business trip the week after they were born and they lived out of state from both their families.  I believe his company partially paid

    I can't imagine needing one for normal circumstances, but if you want and can afford one, then by all means.  I would totally jump on the offer of a housekeeper though.  I'll handle the feeding and diaper changes if someone would come cook, do the dishes and laundry.
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  • MztwilsonMztwilson member
    I'm a CNA and if someone wants to pay me to take care of their newborn I'm game! That sounds like the easiest job ever!
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    courtneyjean1980 said:

    I set aside part of my tax refund to hire one when/if I need it. Due to his work travel and schedule, DH is not able to wake up with the baby. With DS I did every single night feeding and just about lost my mind. I suffered from severe PPA and PPD, exacerbated by lack of sleep. I was angry and my marriage suffered that year. So this time around, I'm going to recognize my limitations and hire some help if I need it. I don't think there's anything "lazy" about taking care of yourself.

    I dearly wish I had family around to help out, but I don't, so I'll have to pay for it. I prioritize my mental health over taking nice vacations, driving a new car, and many other things.

    To answer OP's question, where I am it runs $20-30 an hour and they stay awake and either do all the night time feedings, changing, swaddling, rocking back to sleep, or they bring the baby to you to nurse and then do the other stuff. There's no time limit, but most people I know don't use them beyond the first three months, and usually only a night or two a week for a break. They can also help to get baby on a sleep schedule.

    Sorry if I sound defensive, but I get tired of the judgment. Moms feel all sorts of guilt anyway without being judged for not being able to survive on no sleep for months on end.

    I think that pretty much answered my question as to why someone would hire a night nurse.
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  • courtneyjean1980courtneyjean1980 member
    @mullenem, I guess all I'm saying is that sleep deprivation itself can be a special circumstance, one that is handled better by some than others. I toughed it out the first time, much to my detriment. And a big part of that was beating myself up that I was lazy or inadequate for feeling like I needed help, so I suffered in silence. I'm tired of beating myself up!

    For me personally, if given a choice between getting a couple nights of unbroken sleep or help during the day with childcare/cleaning, I choose sleep. It is more valuable to me. It allows me to function for my DH, my DS, and the new baby I don't think there's any shame in that. More power to you mamas who function well on little to no sleep! I wish I were one of you. I'd love to spend my night nurse savings on a babymoon!
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    @meladoriestar - shut your face right up; I was just thinking of my friend Jess!





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    @meladoriestar - shut your face right up; I was just thinking of my friend Jess!
    And this is why I have creepy dirty dreams about you ;) (well, I don't remember the content of the dream, but I'll just go ahead and assume it was creepy and dirty!)
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    ncbelle said:
    I don't get the concept of a night nurse either.  You might look into a postpartum doula if you feel like you want help.  Instead of "taking over" a postpartum doula offers support so that you can be self-sufficient - helps answer your questions about breastfeeding and early baby care and provides much needed emotional support.
    I agree with the postpartum doula suggestion.  There are several where I live and they do daytime support or overnight shifts and basically their role (at least here) is to support mom however needed - breastfeeding consults, teaching parents soothing and general baby care techniques and they will care for the baby so mom can nap.   They will make meals for you, do your laundry, and take care of baby - staying up all night to do this while you sleep.  One doula group around here specializes in overnight care and stocks the fridge with meals and has a breakfast waiting for mom in the morning.  If you want baby brought to you to nurse during the night they will do that but otherwise they stay awake and go about taking care of baby and the home. 

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  • Sprinkles86Sprinkles86 member
    Well....that was a lot of responses to catch up to I appreciate the answers I plan on using a doula and most likely will have her post paradum as well....the night nurse I assumed was just to help me establish a healthy routine at night with baby to make sure I'm doing everything safe and just to help me....but if the doula can help me then that might not be necessary....not judgement everyone parents their children differently I'm open to advice and suggestions Thank you
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