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May 2014 Moms
ykristos
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Do I really have to be the one to bring up circumcision?
ykristos
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My partner and I disagree on whether or not our son should be circumcised. He thinks that if we choose not to do so, our son will face social issues and will be confused as to why he doesn't "match" with his dad and older brother (despite the fact that 80% of men in the world are not circumcised, only 60% are in the US, and rates are falling as people become more informed, and the matching argument is the silliest thing I've ever heard). My argument is that it's a painful, elective procedure that is no longer recommended nor known to have many actual benefits beyond... aesthetics. I know that the risk of complication is rather low, but I still see no reason to do it as it's not medically necessary. We're normally on the same page with these sorts of things, but we're at a stalemate.
Anyway, for those of you who know you're having a son (or are team green), have you dealt with any similar issues? We've tabled the discussion for now, but I'm a bit worried that he's not going to come around to the fact that I'm right and I don't see myself ultimately consenting to the procedure. Conundrum!
If you have nothing to add, you can just use this space to talk about penises in general. Whatever works.
Edit: Oh. and, if you already have a son who has been circumcised, feel free to share your experiences with how it went and if there have been any issues!
Baby boy arriving late Spring '14
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Re: Do I really have to be the one to bring up circumcision?
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
That being said, I don't judge people who chose either way. As for your husband, maybe keep showing him facts, articles, and what not. It's a tough decision to make. I can see both sides. But it was the whole fact that less people are doing it, and it will soon be the norm made me change my mind. If STDs are a factor, then that's his (DS) problem for not protecting himself. That's what I told my Mom!
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
I sort of assumed Jews circumcise and everybody else skips it and didn't realize how completely wrong I was until I was pregnant with my son. My husband definitively said we shouldn't circumcise, and that was that. I didn't especially care, but it seems like not the best idea to have a healing incision in a diaper. (The people who plan to not circumcise and ask about care confuse me. Not that you don't have to keep an intact boy clean, but I'd be way more worried about keeping a circumcised boy clean enough.)
Bwahahaha! No kidding. Do guys look that close at each others wankers? That is kind of creepy if they do. I have never looked at another girls vagina in person and I have no desire to.
I know they use urinals and stuff, but if I was at a urinal I think I would be staring straight ahead.
Plus, what if you have a small penis. Do guys make fun of you for that, too?
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Non-issue.
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
We had no issue keeping it clean. It heals very quickly and by slathering vasoline on it, it kinda repels the watery poop off of it anyhow. Not to mention you are changing them so frequently (and should immediately after every poop regardless) that it's not like they should be sitting in it.
ETA: The plastibell method mentioned above is what I was thinking of. I would avoid that if possible.
Plus, with respect to dirty diapers, not too much poop gets up by the penis at that age...especially not with the vaseline. Even now, I rarely notice poop on DS's wanker because the penis is more on the front of his body unless it is just a really nasty diaper. And the diaper will absorb the urine pretty well so long as you change it frequently enough.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
FWIW, the teasing issue didn't influence (at least my) decision. Kids can be cruel and will find something to pick on others for if they are so inclined. DH's family is comprised almost entirely of doctors and nurses, and they are pro-circ based on their medical experiences. I had a little boy friend growing up that need an emergency circ when he was 10, so that anecdotal experience scares me as well. We will be circ'ing our child if it is a boy.
Started TTC 05.08
Me: Stage II endo, borderline high FSH
DH: perfect
1 lap, 5 IUIs = 4 BFNs and 1 c/p
2 IVFs, 2 FETs = 1 BFN, 1 c/p, 1 ectopic and finally a sticky BFP in May 2011!
1 FET in Aug 2013 = BFP!
I'm glad you had no issue with it! I had a couple of friends who did. I didn't think you needed vasoline with it though. I was going to look into it in hopes of easier CDing early on but then they had issues with it not falling off so I never looked any further.