I can't believe it's this hard

GalLaura · January 2014

I've been in the USA on our trip since the 30th. It's simply been awful and I'm so heart broken over it. Long story short my son isn't adjusting at all. If I thought sleeping in Australia was bad that was nothing. I wound up visiting my dad and step mom first and got no support really from them. They are lovely people but have OCD and as much as they were happy we were there cleaning and rules drove my DH next. My DH went to visit friends for a few days and I was alone with a my poor little guy. I allowed him to sleep with me all night because I was desperate to get him to sleep. He wasn't seeming like himself and needed to sleep, and honestly if I didn't sleep was going to loose my mind. I've created a monster now because he won't sleep without me just after two nights of this. The thing is I can get him to fall asleep but he won't stay asleep. I don't even understand how he just hasn't fallen asleep out of pure exhaustion. I also either had a stomach virus or food poisoning. My sister is being weird and hasn't seen us yet. I have not seen one friend or talked to anyone on the phone because my little guy has had it so bad. So my problem is I don't know what to do. I know lo is teething, he hasn't pooped since the 31st, and he won't sleep unless I hold him. His voice is hoarse from either crying or maybe now he caught something. I never should have come here. He is too young for this. Any advice greatly appreciated.

KellenHi21 · January 2014

I am so sorry!

Honestly at this point just throw the "rules" out the window and do what you have to do to survive. If it means co-sleeping, then do it. Relax and just let everything go until you get back home. For now, get thru the day/night. Lots of hugs to you! I hope you are both able to enjoy the second half of your trip!

HeartLikeMine3 · January 2014

Wow. I an so sorry, I can't imagine how hard it is dealing with it alone. I'm sorry you haven't really gotten the family/friend time you came for. I agree with kellenhi21 just do what you have to do to get done sleep and survive. Once you guys are back home it will be easier to retrain your LO, try not to worry about that. Your LO is acting just like mine when he cut his first two teeth and we were at home. I hope you and your LO get some relief and are returning home soon HUGS.

Cricket81 · January 2014

Have you given LO any Tylenol for his teeth. I was avoiding it, but even just a little bit made a big difference for us.

ASmallWonder · January 2014

I'm so sorry your trip is sucking

First, what have you tried for LO for pooping? If you haven't, I'd suggest picking up some prune juice and giving him a little in a bottle and cutting out cereal if you feed it. Being constipated can cause issues in every part of their life because they feel so awful. Have you given Tylenol for the teething? Again - that can really mess with them 24/7 so I'd see if that makes him more comfortable.

I agree with the others that for the sleep, you do what you need to do! He won't be sleeping with you in high school - you've got time to fix whatever gets messed up during the trip to keep you all sane

And ditto about DH coming back. I'm shaking my head at that. I don't care if you were in a house being ruled by a vicious dictator. You're his family and he needs to be there to support you even if it's only in a misery loves company sort of way.

tttwalters · January 2014

hugs to you @gallaura, I hope things get better. Are you going to see your mom soon? Hopefully she can be more of a help and get up with LO so you can sleep. Keep us posted!

Greywolf12 · January 2014

So sorry this is happening. I really hoped that the trip would trigger something and he would start sleeping better. Agree with just doing whatever you can to get you both some sleep.

BunnyLove416 · January 2014

Oh man I'm sorry it's been so awful. We've been spending a week at each of the grandparent's houses and L has reacted the same way. No sleeping, waking up every hour, sleeping only in the bed with me and even the poop problems! I second the prune juice suggestion, we even got the Gerber little bottles and it's worked like a charm which has really helped L be happier. As far as the rest L did start to go back to normal after 5 or so days in each location so it didn't last forever but I know that doesn't help in the moment. Many many hugs, its so freaking hard.

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daffy2k · January 2014

I second everything @elmoali said, do what you have to do to make the little guy comfortable. Teething and constipation aside, my DD went through a similar sleep issue in Dec. I could get her to sleep but she would never stay asleep. It turned into me eventually cosleeping with her every night for about 2 weeks. Every night I started our routine the normal way, and I kept nursing/rocking her back to sleep until about midnight. If we had had several wake ups by then, then I just slept with her in her room (there is also a double bed in there in addition to her crib). I did this every day and eventually we got back to normal. Just so you know that there is a hope

I really hope your trip improves. I know travelling with LO can be stressful enough, adding all of this would feel like too much for me as well.

FunkyPhoenix · January 2014

That's what she said.

FunkyPhoenix · January 2014

On a serious note, though, sorry you are having a terrible trip! It's all probably exacerbated by the fact that you seem to be doing it all alone! I would def just let him sleep however he will sleep for now. If he is anything like Ben, his sleeping patterns are completely turned upside down when teething. I'd also try to address his pain with a remedy or two. I've personally found that a mesh feeder with a cut up wash cloth inside, dipped in ice water, works wonders for Ben. Hopefully your DH will get his ass back in the game and help you out so you can rest. Sorry!! Hope it gets better before you leave.

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