breastfeeding till the age of 4.

mommy2twox3 · January 2014

PLEASE tell me I'm not being a bitch by laughing at my sister for having the intentions of breastfeeding her son till he's 4. I think that it the most ridiculous shit ever. If your kid is old enough to ask for a tit, GET HIM OFF THE TIT.
This is the reason I'm not breastfeeding my daughter. She has literally ruined it for me.
The pediatrician told her "it's really not necessary to continue to breastfeed past the age of 1"..
Am I the only one who finds this insane?

KatieGummow · January 2014

I heard it is ideal to BF until 2 y.o. if you can manage. I have heard cases of mom's letting their child choose when to stop. My SIL BF until her daughter was almost 5, she told her, "you can either have a brother or sister (they couldn't get pregnant) or you can keep breast feeding. What do you want?' She stopped BF and they got pregnant.

I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing until the kiddos are in school, then it makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I will probably stop at 1.5 years old (hopefully I can make it that long!).. Just put your baby first, please.

Edit: Spelling

Pandamom14 · January 2014

I personally would not want to breastfeed that long. I can't wait to breastfeed my first and I really hope I can last a full year. The evidence is just very strong that it's one of the best things we can do to help our babies have a strong start. (Of course if you can't it's not the end of the world). Culturally in America we don't really accept breastfeeding in the first place much less for multiple years. Historically speaking it makes sense to do it for multiple years - it's great nutrition, cheaper, and is a (albeit not 100%) form of birth control. I'm just saying following the rule: judge not lest ye be judged yourself.

thomas930 · January 2014

Judgmental much...

Benefits of breast milk don't just magically dissappear after a certain point. If she feels like she is doing what is best for her kid whats the harm.

Both my kids could "ask" for it before a year old, it didn't stop me. I continued until almost 2 years old . Also, wouldn't crying when hungry essentially be asking to eat? Does that mean when your baby cries for a bottle you wont feed it.

fourthnlast · January 2014

mommy2twox3 said:

PLEASE tell me I'm not being a bitch by laughing at my sister for having the intentions of breastfeeding her son till he's 4. I think that it the most ridiculous shit ever. If your kid is old enough to ask for a tit, GET HIM OFF THE TIT. This is the reason I'm not breastfeeding my daughter. She has literally ruined it for me. The pediatrician told her "it's really not necessary to continue to breastfeed past the age of 1".. Am I the only one who finds this insane?

Wow, I can't even imagine nursing that long! I nursed my youngest for 14 months and that was only because HE still wanted to! I was ready to cut him off at 12 months.

nikki912 · January 2014

I think it's absolutely insane that you would let the choice of another mother that impacts you in no way, be any sort of deciding factor in how you feed your child. If that is the sole reason for not nursing your daughter I'd judge you a hell of a lot more than her.

Themaritimemama · January 2014

Ehhh, this is a sensitive subject for a lot of people... For me, it's all personal preference. Breast milk has been known to have many great qualities and benefits, so people are looking to use those to their child's advantage. I think you saying that your sister's decision to bf so long has made you not want to bf your daughter is absurd. I bf my daughter for 2.5 months and then stopped... Afterward I thought how "weird" it would be to bf a child with teeth... Then I had my son and bf him well into his days with teeth(10.5 mths)... This time I'm shooting for 12 months, but possibly longer. Again, personal preference.

Rogue237 · January 2014

I don't understand how her bfing for so long impacts your decision to breast feed? Per the question, I would never bf that long, but to each their own.

mommy2twox3 · January 2014

Lol I just don't want to breastfeed personally. It's my own decision. Whatever.
Her just continuing to breastfeed till her child is 4 just has me in shock. I just don't understand. . A preschooler still breastfeeding .. weirds me out. Everybody tells her it's insane. I keep my comments to myself now because she isn't going to stop lol if the Dr tells her it's crazy and she still doesn't care, then she definitely isn't going to care about my opinion. I was just curious if you ladies found it as crazy
.as we do.

nicole mackenzie · January 2014

4 is too old in my oppinion.

But newborn is normal. Not really sure how your sister has ruined anything for you.

If you don't want to breast feed that is your perogative. But let it be for your own reasons.

Are you using your sister as an excuse?

Or trying to stir up some drama here?

Serenla · January 2014

thomas930 said:
Judgmental much...

Benefits of breast milk don't just magically dissappear after a certain point. If she feels like she is doing what is best for her kid whats the harm.

Both my kids could "ask" for it before a year old, it didn't stop me. I continued until almost 2 years old . Also, wouldn't crying when hungry essentially be asking to eat? Does that mean when your baby cries for a bottle you wont feed it.

Breast feeding is totes witchcraft. If you do not feed the breastfeeding fairy she turns your milk to beer.

BR · January 2014

While I personally wouldn't do that, I'm in no position to judge. There are a ton of decisions that you have to make as parents and I wouldn't want someone judging me for my decisions. There's nothing that makes your opinion better than hers. We all have our own opinions and have to make the choices we feel are best.

Serenla · January 2014

Here you go op! Judge away! I figure I'd give you something to do.

DemoDoll · January 2014

I fail to understand why someone else has "ruined" BFing enough for you not to BF your child at all. I hope you pull your head out of your ass before you child comes or you are in for a rude awakening!

I won't judge another mom for how long they want to BF, they are doing what is best for their family. I was only able to Bf for 6 months and I'm hoping to go longer this time.

thomas930 · January 2014

Nope, I really dont find it crazy... but I do find your judgment on the crazy side. Its not like the child will be attached and nursing every 2 hours....by 15 months old my kids only nursed 3-4 times a day because they were eating more solids. I would assume a 4 year old would do it maybe twice a day, morning and night type of deal.

mommy2twox3 · January 2014

How would my sisters business start drama here? Lol I'm simply asking if I'm the only one who finds it crazy. And everyone's entitled to their own opinion.
I agree breastfeeding is healthier and everything but I also agree it's not for everybody. Although it would be better than I do, I'm not. I just don't want to. She didn't entirely change my decision I just feel like I found it less of a bonding moment. She does it out of laziness, which is exactly what she will tell you. I just think it's so crazy..

I personally am choosing to formula feed, I feel better about being able to monitor how much baby is getting rather than just having them latched on a nipple. Again that's MY opinion. We each have our own.

Serenla · January 2014

She breastfeeds....out of laziness.

Ok.

Twirple · January 2014

Serenla said:

Judgmental much...

Benefits of breast milk don't just magically dissappear after a certain point. If she feels like she is doing what is best for her kid whats the harm.

Both my kids could "ask" for it before a year old, it didn't stop me. I continued until almost 2 years old . Also, wouldn't crying when hungry essentially be asking to eat? Does that mean when your baby cries for a bottle you wont feed it.
Breast feeding is totes witchcraft. If you do not feed the breastfeeding fairy she turns your milk to beer.

Don't tell my DH this, he might be tempted!

pete0121 · January 2014

Is she actually planning to BREASTfeed until 4 or just provide breast milk. I have heard of some women continuing to pump for their kids. There was a lady on one of my other BMB that was BF her infant son and pumping for her older son (like 3 at the time) because he had allergies to regular milk. I wouldn't do that, but to each their own.

Serenla · January 2014

Oh I found more!

thomas930 · January 2014

I'm going to assume that you aren't all the educated on breastfeeding....

Twirple · January 2014

I remember thinking that extended breastfeeding was weird. My goal was to feed DS for 12 months. That came and went and I ended up breastfeeding him until he was 2. After age one, we only nursed at home in the morning and evening, and then just in the evening.

There are also antibodies in breastmilk that you pass on to your child as long as they are breastfeeding. Who am I to judge?

J&NL · January 2014

Rogue237 said:
I don't understand how her bfing for so long impacts your decision to breast feed? Per the question, I would never bf that long, but to each their own.

This.

JFC, your posts give me a head ache.

ksulli · January 2014

Age 4 is more than I'd personally do. I went to 13 or 14 mos when dd lost interest and hope to bf until this one loses interest a well, though I'd probably quit by 2 just because it does put a lot of demands on my time/body that I don't always enjoy.

The WHO recommends exclusive breast feeding for 6 mos and continued to 2y or beyond: https://www.who.int/topics/breastfeeding/en/, and the AAP recommends exclusive bf for 6 mos and continued to 1y and beyond: https://m.pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/129/3/e827.full.

while your sister's pedi is right that it's 'not necessary' past the 1y mark, it's also 'not necessary' at all. That doesn't mean it isn't good for baby (and mom- more BFing reduces the risk of breast cancer, and is also correlated with lower instances of ovarian cancer though they haven't established more than a correlation with that one).

Serenla · January 2014

@Vinny424 think of all the calories you would burn!

mommy2twox3 · January 2014

That has made me not feel as comfortable with it. The laziness fact. Breastfeeding should be a special moment between baby and mom, not just a "ugh I dont want to get up in the middle of the night so he sleeps with me and I just roll over and give him a boob" . THAT has changed my opinion on it. I guess I should have specified lol.

sueann911 · January 2014

mommy2twox3 said:
How would my sisters business start drama here? Lol I'm simply asking if I'm the only one who finds it crazy. And everyone's entitled to their own opinion.
I agree breastfeeding is healthier and everything but I also agree it's not for everybody. Although it would be better than I do, I'm not. I just don't want to. She didn't entirely change my decision I just feel like I found it less of a bonding moment. She does it out of laziness, which is exactly what she will tell you. I just think it's so crazy..

I personally am choosing to formula feed, I feel better about being able to monitor how much baby is getting rather than just having them latched on a nipple. Again that's MY opinion. We each have our own.

No. She's not the crazy one. You are.

You asked. That's my opinion.

Andrewsgal · January 2014

BFing is about the least lazy thing you can do. It is demanding and your body is not your own. My first could say milk by 10 months guess she was ready to be off the tit huh? OP you are absolutely ridiculous and this post has me judging you way more than her. Oh and to answer your post you are being a total bitch.

Serenla · January 2014

mommy2twox3 said:
That has made me not feel as comfortable with it. The laziness fact. Breastfeeding should be a special moment between baby and mom, not just a "ugh I dont want to get up in the middle of the night so he sleeps with me and I just roll over and give him a boob" . THAT has changed my opinion on it. I guess I should have specified lol.

mommy2twox3 · January 2014

Okay

sueann911 · January 2014

mommy2twox3 said:
That has made me not feel as comfortable with it. The laziness fact. Breastfeeding should be a special moment between baby and mom, not just a "ugh I dont want to get up in the middle of the night so he sleeps with me and I just roll over and give him a boob" . THAT has changed my opinion on it. I guess I should have specified lol.

Hahaha to you calling her lazy for that.

That's not lazy. That's convenient. You think she's less of a mother because she doesn't get up and prepare a bottle?

J&NL · January 2014

There is nothing lazy about BF. Get your head out of your ass and educate yourself. FFS.

LittleLady77 · January 2014

You ARE being ridiculous, both for judging your sister AND for saying she is the reason you are choosing not to BF. AndPlusAlso, BF is extremely challenging.

Backpedal harder... no one is buying what you're selling.

Andrewsgal · January 2014

mommy2twox3 said:

PLEASE tell me I'm not being a bitch by laughing at my sister for having the intentions of breastfeeding her son till he's 4. I think that it the most ridiculous shit ever. If your kid is old enough to ask for a tit, GET HIM OFF THE TIT. This is the reason I'm not breastfeeding my daughter. She has literally ruined it for me. The pediatrician told her "it's really not necessary to continue to breastfeed past the age of 1".. Am I the only one who finds this insane?

Just in case

Pandamom14 · January 2014

I'm so confused. Is breastfeeding being called lazy? Bc that makes absolutely no sense.

kseccomb17 · January 2014

Wow. You've obviously never taken the time to learn about breastfeeding. It is physically and mentally demanding. I wasn't able to nurse past 6 months because of a surgery I had to have. I felt like making a bottle was a million times easier than bfing. Ignorant.

sueann911 · January 2014

mommy2twox3 said:
Okay

Just to clarify, you're agreeing that you're crazy, right?

Come back OP. Share your abundant knowledge with us.

rtv3 · January 2014

sueann911 said:

That has made me not feel as comfortable with it. The laziness fact. Breastfeeding should be a special moment between baby and mom, not just a "ugh I dont want to get up in the middle of the night so he sleeps with me and I just roll over and give him a boob" . THAT has changed my opinion on it. I guess I should have specified lol.
Hahaha to you calling her lazy for that. That's not lazy. That's convenient. You think she's less of a mother because she doesn't get up and prepare a bottle?

This. Seriously, we have boobs - why not use them. Besides from everything I've heard (I'm a FTM) breastfeeding is far from easy. It might be more convenient for her now, but I'm sure it wasn't at 2wks when her nipples were cracked and sore and she was getting up every 2 hours or whatever. Let her breastfeed in peace and don't judge.

nikki912 · January 2014

LalaMama81 said:

mommy2twox3 said:

That has made me not feel as comfortable with it. The laziness fact. Breastfeeding should be a special moment between baby and mom, not just a "ugh I dont want to get up in the middle of the night so he sleeps with me and I just roll over and give him a boob" . THAT has changed my opinion on it. I guess I should have specified lol.

This still doesn't make any sense. Initially breastfeeding is boatloads harder than FF. Later down the line it is easier (IMO) and yes, if it makes me lazy b/c I'd rather nurse my baby upstair rather than go make a bottle, I'm okay with that. I am a lazy person, but fighting to breastfeed w/ a chronic low supply due to a medical issue doesn't make me lazy.

BFing isn't supposed to be a "special moment," it's supposed to be the best/natural way to feed your baby. You can have special moments feeding a baby a bottle, too. You can also bf while bumping on your iPhone.

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This.

OP you're wrong. Read a book.