UPDATE: Trying not to cry

StacyH0507 · January 2014

lots of hugs to you!

Gigi8212 · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

LovetoLive614 · January 2014

Sending you strength and support. Be kind to yourself while your process this information, it is ok to feel a wide range of emotions.

butterflymom2010 · January 2014

Sending lots of thoughts and hugs!

Uptowngirl2009 · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers to you.

rachelyoung1984 · January 2014

Big hug! Thoughts and prayers are with you! I know this must be so difficult to find out but I would love to share with you a little thought. As a former special ed teacher, and step sis to a lovely young woman with cp, that this can surely be a blessing In disguise. I have met so many children and adults with downs who are truly some of the most amazing people I have ever met! Sweet, kind, carrying and honest. Always the heart of a child and true to the core. My life has been changed by so many of these amazing people and their parents would have them no other way! I know it is so hard right now, and you should take your time to process and grieve your lost expectations, but I want you to know that you are not alone and I know that in time you will see that this baby is perfect for you, perfect for your family and will change your life in amazing ways you will never expect. So much love coming from this side of the internet! If you ever need to talk, I am here!

MommaAshley12 · January 2014

Lots of prayers and (((hugs))). I will echo what many pp have said about how sweet and loving DS children are. You will be a great momma!! I have been a follower of Kelle Hampton's blog for a couple of years now. She unexpectedly had a daughter with DS and has written about her journey. I encourage you to read her birth story and blog when you are feeling up to it. https://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html?m=1
Big (((hugs)))!!

CherSomething · January 2014

As others have said, this baby will still be your beautiful baby. Thoughts and prayers that there aren't any further complications related to the diagnosis.

CoUnTryBB1 · January 2014

Lots of hugs and t&ps for you and your family

sheaporshia · January 2014

Many prayers your way!

puttyeast · January 2014

My thoughts are with you. I know you are concerned about how you will provide for this LO, but I can tell that you will give lots of love and I think that will go a long way. You will have time to prepare by tracking down resources and doing some reading. We are here to offer you encouragement! Hang in there.

lucreciac · January 2014

As a previous poster said, please know there is no right or wrong way to process this. Whatever you are feeling is absolutely valid. We are all here for you and I am praying for you and your family.

SchoolPsychSteph · January 2014

I am loving the love and support on this thread.

curlylocks3 · January 2014

Thinking of you and your family.

mrs_drc_rn · January 2014

PP's have said a lot of what I wanted to say, so I just want to add that I'm also sending lots of t&p and big internet hugs.

BabyCurtiss2014 · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers and big hugs!!! It's not the news anyone hopes to hear but as all of the ladies already stated, your baby will be a great blessing and you will be an amazing mom! And there is a small chance it was a false positive, after all. No matter what, you will be in love with your child and God never gives us more than we can handle. In the end there is always a much bigger plus side to what seems like a negative at first! xoxo

Dharmatron · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers to your family

MrsLabRat · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers from me! I just watched this video about a young man with Downs who runs his own restaurant. Very inspiring!

https://www.amazingoasis.org/2013/12/restaurant-owner-with-down-syndrome.html?m=1

chance_encounters · January 2014

Wow. Thank you ALL for your well wishes, thoughts and prayers. You are an amazing group of ladies. (Hugs) back to each of you.

lest12 · January 2014

I am late to the thread but wanted to send some hugs your way. I volunteered with high school age DS kids when I was in high school. They were inspiring, beautiful people who I still remember very fondly. Sending you the best.

crestedlady · January 2014

Sending out lots of thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

CreEspree · January 2014

Thoughts.. Prayers.. And many hugs to you.

MamaBgood · January 2014

Thinking of you xo

brooklyngirl46 · January 2014

Adding my t's and P's.

MissBHaven1024 · January 2014

Sending many thoughts and prayers to you. I know it's a lot to process, but I am confident that your baby will be loved immensely and will have the great support of his/her parents from you and your husband. We will be here to support you!

allrightmeow · January 2014

chickpea912 said:

Huge hugs - I know it must be hard to get that news. For what it's worth, I'm not sure what more the amnio would tell you. It would likely confirm the M21 results, so if you need the confirmation, that would be for that, but I'm not sure it Is necessary. Thinking of you.

This. If you do decide to go with the amino, I had one done and I had made it way worse in my head than it actually was. {{HUGS}} I've seen some of your other post and that little sweet pea is going to be very loved.

heedy07 · January 2014

I am sorry

I know this is not the news you were hoping for. I know many families in the DS community through our attempted adoption and they would tell you that their children have changed their lives for the better. Many of them were devastated at first, but now they couldn't imagine their life any other way. Our son has CHARGE Syndrome and they think that this little guy might have it as well, so I understand the hurt and fear you are feeling. Hang in there. It WILL be okay.

Csouthx · January 2014

Thinking of you, xxx

nflan16 · January 2014

Thinking of you. I've worked with children with DS and I can tell you that your child is going to be the kindest and most loving person in the world. Here is a beautiful and inspirational story if you have the chance to read it https://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html?m=1

Yasm33na · January 2014

LoHerrim said:

supgabs said:
Thoughts and prayers your way!!

I know a couple of people with DS and they are happy, functional adults who are so kind and loving!
This. I know it's hard news to hear, but it won't make you love this little precious person any less.

Both of these... This isn't going to be easy, but I doubt parenting ever was. Just remember that no matter what, this baby will be amazing and every ounce if love you show will have a ton of effect. Thoughts are with you.

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diagonalley · January 2014

Someone posted this on Facebook last night and I just had to share...

https://www.amazingoasis.org/2013/12/restaurant-owner-with-down-syndrome.html

What a cool story. I know you're going through stages of panic and whatnot now, but please know that there is so much support out there, not just from us, but others as well. Good luck to you and your family.

BrendaW09 · January 2014

Sending you thoughts, prayers and lots of hugs.

tddampf · January 2014

Not to be too cliche but I truly believe God never gives you more than you can handle. I work with the Special Olympics and have noticed over the years that the parents of the people I work with are truly wonderful people themselves. I can only imagine how scary it is to go into but you have lots of prayers coming to you and I know this child will be a blessing you will love so very much. There will be challenges but you will no doubt excel at overcoming them. Thinking of you!!

Mike&Teresa · January 2014

Thinking of you during this time. There are many resources and groups out there that will help you through.

alicatand · January 2014

tddampf said:

Not to be too cliche but I truly believe God never gives you more than you can handle. I work with the Special Olympics and have noticed over the years that the parents of the people I work with are truly wonderful people themselves. I can only imagine how scary it is to go into but you have lots of prayers coming to you and I know this child will be a blessing you will love so very much. There will be challenges but you will no doubt excel at overcoming them. Thinking of you!!

This! I can't even imagine how shocking and overwhelming this news is. But, I am a firm believer everything happens for a reason and as challenging at this is going to be, I imagine the rewards and love will come back to you tenfold.

HUGS!!!

LKHoffa · January 2014

This baby is lucky to have such a caring mom already! My prayers are absolutely with you!

BruiserB · January 2014

Sending you lots of love, thoughts , and prayers as you process this news. I know it must be difficult to take in right now, but as others have said, there are many resources and support groups available to you, and you will be able to love and cherish this little one just as everyone else.

snowpants · January 2014

So sorry you didn't get the results you wanted and obviously have a lot to deal with right now. Big ((hugs)) to you. A lot of the ladies here had great thoughts to share and I'm glad you feel supported.

I have a friend who has a little boy with DS. He's about 4 years old now. Let me tell you, I've never met such a joyous, beautiful, amazing little boy! He adds light to everyone he meets and I just can't even put in words what a blessing he has been to his family and all of those around him.

MrsP419 · January 2014

I can't imagine how blindsided you must feel, but I know that you are surrounded by love and support for this sweet one. Prayers for you as you prepare, and that you are able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.