UPDATE: Trying not to cry

arekeweg · January 2014

Hugs, and T&Ps for you and your family!

wtfisup · January 2014

However you're feeling right now, I assure you that you will find all the joy and love in this baby that you were meant to from the beginning.

My brother-in-law works with kids with DS in his career and cannot say enough about all the misperceptions. He adores them and intends to adopt a special needs child at some point. If you'd like to talk to him, I'm happy to give you his contact info. Just PM me. He's a sweet guy.

It's worth keeping in mind that none of us know how our children will turn out. We call those with Down's Syndrome "special needs," but I have yet to hear of a child that didn't have his or her own special path and requirements. They're part of the individuality of us all. Your child has been diagnosed with a set of traits often categorized a specific way, but that doesn't mean it will be your experience at all.

Take this time to do whatever you need to for yourself, your husband, and your family. Know that there's no "right" way to process the news. And when you find yourself needing support, let us and others know: you are a mother, this is your child, allow people to help you both embrace yourselves.

Sending much love.

ahastin1 · January 2014

Lots of hugs for you! Take things step by step and remember you aren't alone in this. Start seeking out your nearby support groups whenever you are ready. They are a wealth of information and support!

chickpea912 · January 2014

wtfisup said:

However you're feeling right now, I assure you that you will find all the joy and love in this baby that you were meant to from the beginning.

My brother-in-law works with kids with DS in his career and cannot say enough about all the misperceptions. He adores them and intends to adopt a special needs child at some point. If you'd like to talk to him, I'm happy to give you his contact info. Just PM me. He's a sweet guy.

It's worth keeping in mind that none of us know how our children will turn out. We call those with Down's Syndrome "special needs," but I have yet to hear of a child that didn't have his or her own special path and requirements. They're part of the individuality of us all. Your child has been diagnosed with a set of traits often categorized a specific way, but that doesn't mean it will be your experience at all.

Take this time to do whatever you need to for yourself, your husband, and your family. Know that there's no "right" way to process the news. And when you find yourself needing support, let us and others know: you are a mother, this is your child, allow people to help you both embrace yourselves.

Sending much love.

This is an absolutely beautiful, brilliant statement. So incredibly true. I work in a school with more than 500 kids, and I always say that everyone has their own special need. Thank you for saying this... I wish I could have said it as well myself.

lclark79 · January 2014

Hugs!

rainbowdashh · January 2014

Sending lots of hugs and positive thoughts your way.

MollySm · January 2014

((Hugs))

Nancy1250 · January 2014

I will be praying.

k2k2tog · January 2014

HUGE virtual hugs! I'm sure it was really difficult news to here, and it will take some time to process and adjust. Your baby will be beautiful. Lots of thoughts and prayers for you and your little family!

coffee-saur · January 2014

Thinking and praying for you! You'll be a wonderful mom I'm sure of it! A friend of ours that their nephew is DS, once said that they thought of him as one of God's angels here for us. It's really stayed with me, and I hope you'll have all the courage that you'll need! >:D< Hugs!

Shineoncrazy · January 2014

Sending prayers and thoughts your way!

jjva · January 2014

so many hugs.

Missib55 · January 2014

T&P to you and your family.

ADalesa29 · January 2014

T&Ps to you!

kks4471 · January 2014

Hugs to you!

b48kate · January 2014

Not the update I think any of us was expecting...I can't imagine how you feel. This is a path no one ever plans on traveling, but you will be okay at the end of it. Please take care of you and let the group know if we can do anything at all...sounds like many of these ladies have some great resources. Big hugs!

MrsRahl · January 2014

Will be praying for you. Lot's of love and hugs your way!

flerlgirl · January 2014

I'm sorry you got this news

But, FWIW, my niece has DS and I work with kids with special needs at church, and all of the kids with Down Syndrome are just the move lovable, amazing kids. They are accepting, give hugs freely, and are honestly some of my favorite kids to work with. Ts and Ps to you and we are all here for you.

JNerd · January 2014

Praying for you in this time. ((Hugs)$

Katieluc106 · January 2014

Hugs ❤️

deepoceanmama · January 2014

What overwhelming news; I can't imagine how you must feel. I agree with PPs that the kids with Down's syndrome that I know are amazing. My thoughts and prayers with you.

hlp2709 · January 2014

Thoughts and prays for you.

bebemac · January 2014

Hugs to you.

MrsCase1 · January 2014

Praying for you!

mslovesbo · January 2014

Raising any child has challenges, you will rise to the occasion and be rewarded ten-fold.

You got this momma!

shellbell813 · January 2014

Hugs!

MaidMarion25 · January 2014

You are going to be a great mom! Sending good thoughts your way!

kd&cd · January 2014

Thoughts & prayers to you & your family. Big hug

nlmosley · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers. So sorry that you have to be stressed right now.

skyview222 · January 2014

I am sorry you have such big news to process. It must be difficult to hear your child has a limitation. Of course, all of us do in some way. I've found children with DS to be sweet, genuine people. Take it one day at a time and please let us know if we can help in any way.

colllydon · January 2014

My thoughts and prayers go out to you!

almendarez · January 2014

T&P & hugs. Hope the U/S goes well. What do they want to look for with amnio? Just to confirm the M21 result?

kibean · January 2014

Thinking of you and sending hugs and support your way.

babybean82 · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers for you, I can't even imagine how you are feeling right now.

beasley1114 · January 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this mama. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

mjdavies · January 2014

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Sending hugs and good energy.

TonyaCody06 · January 2014

Big hugs!!!

Augustrush21 · January 2014

I used to work with lots of DS children. They were always so full of life and very smart. I enjoyed it. I know I told myself that if I find out my baby has DS.. Yes it will be tough, but to remember how those children would always give me a smile while teachig them. Every child with DS is a little different and it's great! I'm so sorry to hear this. I know it comes as a shock, but just think of how exciting and unique this will be. Lots of new and great challenges to come. You'll love that baby no matter what!

Kinipela7 · January 2014

*hugs* thinking of you

SchoolPsychSteph · January 2014

We, as a board, are here to support you. This is heavy news, but not necessarily bad news. As many pp have said, people with Down syndrome are extraordinary individuals. It might be a hard journey, but it will be your journey. At the end of the day,it will still be your child and in your eyes, s/he will be perfect.

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