irrational thought/confession

peanutmuse · January 2014

I have two confessions. I rarely (if ever) read the posts about going to L&D. I'll try to go back & read them if there's an update about the arrival of a baby, but until then, they hold zero interest for me.

#2 -- I only skim birth stories for the last parts, ie, when the baby is actually born and there are pictures. I don't really read the parts about the early stages of labor, pretty much for the same reason I don't read the posts about heading to L&D.

worleygirl · January 2014

I tossed the umbellical cord right away. But I did save the pregnancy tests from both DS and this baby. My mother in law was horrified I didn't save the hair from DS's first haircut but I was too busy irrationally crying about his baby mullet getting the chop.

ChuggingWater · January 2014

HeartOverMind said:
My irrational fear is that something might be wrong with dd. She doesn't make eye contact, but when we last went to the doctor he said that was normal before one month. As a ftm, i feel like i just look for things to be wrong with her. It freaks me out.

@Heartovermind

Do not let this worry you! It is normal! Dd2 even goes a little cross eyed. I'm sure DS1 did the same thing but 6.5 years is a long time to remember.

Don't worry!!

MindyBadger1 · January 2014

ChuggingWater said:
Hoyt's umbilical cord fell off Wednesday, and it is still sitting on his dresser.

How gross is that? I'm having a hard time throwing it away because it was a piece of him.

I'm a nut.

Here is my contribution to the board. Maybe I'll type his birth story one day...

(Feel free to share your irrational thoughts, fears, confessions.)

Lmao. Jacks fell off in the middle of the night and it's sitting on his dresser. I keep looking at it right now while pumping mildly disgusted that I didn't throw it away And was just wondering if I had the balls to and decided probably not. Then I read this post.

@chuggingwater

goldenB · January 2014

katags said:

goldenB said:

My irrational thought is that I will never go into labour and be pregnant forever OR that I won't know that I'm in labour and baby will just slip out of me (ya right, wishful thinking). I haven't had any strong contractions or BH. God just give me a sign!

@goldenB It doesn't sound irrational to me! I'm 40w4d and could have written your post. I really hope my water breaks randomly or else I will have no idea labor is starting. Add to that I'm supposed to notify my mom who lives 4 hrs away so she can drive down to be at the hospital with me. Too much pressure! I vote for magicking this baby out.

@katags you're like a walking time bomb, baby will come soon! Just keep in mind that on average babies are 8days late (especially for FTMs).

However if you do magic the baby out, share your secrets with me:)

MrsGraham06 · January 2014

@jessicabcairns - The entire Insomnia Club is waiting for those pictures!

Today was my original due date, and I can't believe how incredibly frustrated I am about not holding my LO in my arms right now. On the other hand, as I'm typing, I'm having a mother contraction. I think I need to start timing them again...

[Deleted User] · January 2014

I'm terrified of SIDS. Part of it is rational because we did the NICU ordeal and saw babies's heart rates go down on regular babies, but I know I can't possibly watch him 24/7. DH and I are taking turns for now but at some point, I hope we feel confident to just sleep when Jacob is sleeping.

Siblynika · January 2014

Irrational fear: I'm worried that my daughter will have her fathers nose....

It's a perfectly good looking nose- on a man. He and his sister have the same nose as does their mother and it just looks WEIRD on a girl.

I'm a horribly vain person, I know

angiek1 · January 2014

My fear is that there is something else wrong with DD that we haven't been able to pick up in tests or the U/S. While we are 90% sure we only have the one arm defect, I'm scared to death that we will have something else come up at delivery.

Now for my irrational fear: I'm worried DD#1 is going to accidentally hurt her sister. Somehow the baby swing and cradle have become homes for her toys and I fear if I am not looking she'll toss DD#2 out of the swing so her bear can use it.

MrsGraham06 · January 2014

@angiek1 - How old is your DD1? When I had my 2nd, DS1 was just eager to be helpful, mostly by plugging the crying with a paci (didn't work). He was 18 months old.

casholmes · January 2014

I have several fears. I put off applying for insurance and now I'm worried the forms wont be here until after I go into labor. I'm scared that I'll go into labor when DH is at work and that the roads will be too icy for my grandmother to come get me (meaning I might need to call an ambulance). I'm scared that I might not be able to get an epidural.

After LO gets here: I'm scared to carry him up and down our stairs. I'm scared he won't take to breastfeeding, or that I won't produce any milk (my mother didn't). I'm scared that I won't be able to find good child care that we can actually afford.

mj0413 · January 2014

I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in my crazy random fears! I second the fears of LO coming out the opposite sex, not knowing I'm in labor, etc. I also have this crazy fear she'll have two heads or something, even though the anatomy scan was totally normal. I've also managed to freak myself out that I'm leaking fluid. I worry I won't know when/if my water breaks.

And I know I'm definitely much newer around here than most people, but I've realized a huge number of people I don't recognize posting random baby stuff. I guess that's just how it goes. I didnt get a labor buddy because I figured I'd be one of those people who wasn't recognized and just irritated the regular people!

peanutmuse · January 2014

PASHON432 said:

I don't think anyone having thier babies later in the month is going to be deprived of thier moment. I am fairly new, *SNIP*

@PASHON432, the bolded is why you think the births later in the month won't be deprived. Seriously. It's human nature that once you are past your moment, you stop paying as much attention. Not to mention how busy everyone will be taking care of newborns. Some of our regs who have had their babies have not been posting as much. I don't fault anyone for doing that, but I also don't try to pretend that the babies born in December and early January won't receive more board attention than the ones born later in January -- to think otherwise is a bit naive.

ETA: missing word

jhjocelyn · January 2014

My fear is that DH will be better at this parenting thing than I will even though it's my job (parent education 0-3 age range). Also, that I will be jealous or the third wheel once LO comes... I swear it's adorable, but he says "I love you" to the bump more often than I do and talks about just wanting to hold her and snuggle her. ... I miss my just-me-snuggles!... and I feel guilty!

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berenely · January 2014

Queen of irrational thoughts, here! Last night I kept thinking what would happen if I didn't make it through the birth. How would my husband do? What would he do for child care? Could he make it financially? He is the bread-winner, but I just started freaking out.

And then it didn't help when later, he said, "Just so you know, you have to come home with me. I don't know what I'd do without you." I played it cool, saying something like, "oh, honey, you'd do fine." But inside I was freaking out.

I have no reason to be scared - baby is healthy, no complications, no preexisting conditions. Just me being a drama queen I guess. Sometimes it stinks having an over-active imagination.

Arrgcr · January 2014

JmeMichelle said:

ChuggingWater said:
Oh good.

I should save it then??
I wouldn't even judge you for saving it!

My husband actually made me save DS's and put it in the damn scrap book. If anyone wants to look at said scrapbook, I sit with them and make sure the page gets hidden by turning two pages at once. We argued about it ad it hurt DH's feelings so bad. We were talking the other day and he said he wanted to do the same with LO's...

He also had me save all the bandaids that were still attached, bracelets, etc.

angiek1 · January 2014

MrsGraham06 said:

@angiek1 - How old is your DD1? When I had my 2nd, DS1 was just eager to be helpful, mostly by plugging the crying with a paci (didn't work). He was 18 months old.

She is 2.5 yrs old. I think she'll be sure eager to help, but also super possessive of "her" things. We shall soon find out!

mommygrams0730 · January 2014

Now that it's becoming real that we're having the baby this week I'm starting to feel a bit guilty about dd not being the baby anymore. I spent 3.5 years with DS before dd was born and she only had 20 months as the baby. I worry that she is going to have a difficult time adjusting. I also feel like I will expect a lot from my son because he is so helpful. I just want them both to feel important even though in the beginning most of the baby's needs come first. I wasn't at all nervous about adding #2, but I'm a little unsure of how adding #3 will be.

BShreeve · January 2014

goldenB said:
My irrational thought is that I will never go into labour and be pregnant forever OR that I won't know that I'm in labour and baby will just slip out of me (ya right, wishful thinking). I haven't had any strong contractions or BH. God just give me a sign!

Me too

ashleywiz · January 2014

goldenB said:

My irrational thought is that I will never go into labour and be pregnant forever OR that I won't know that I'm in labour and baby will just slip out of me (ya right, wishful thinking). I haven't had any strong contractions or BH. God just give me a sign!

AHHH @goldenB This is me too!!! That is my irrational thought for sure because I am certain I will know, but at this point I just keep thinking there is no way.

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