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  • LeesheyLeeshey member
    I have a problem with it because I'm jealous and insecure lol. I don't get why you can't come do your wife. I don't mind if he wakes me up for a blow job or wants some action- that's marriage and love. In my last pregnancy I was on pelvic rest. My computer crashed one day. I took it in and they found porn crap ALL OVER IT and viruses from XXX websites. I was soooo embarrassed and I confronted him and LOST MY SHIT. I was so pist because here I am MISERABLY PREGNANT and you're enjoying porn. I was beyond pist. It felt like he was cheating because it wasn't like I wasn't helping him out in many other ways that didn't involved my vagina.
    Since then, I've watched porn without telling him and enjoyed it *guilty* so I came clean and apologized for being a hypocrit and blah blah. I've stayed away from it since and if he hasn't, then I don't wanna know lol.
    I think it's toxic for marriage and since I felt guilty about it and scolded my husband over it- probably a good reason to just avoid it in our marriage.
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  • HedgessmHedgessm member
    @CopperPoppy literotica.com is a thing? Huh! That I may get into it..

    I asked DH to stop with the porn when we were dating (young and insecure) so he stopped then. Not sure if I would care now but I'm certainly not going to encourage him to go back. I've never watched anything personally cuz it weirds me out.

    But hey to each their own
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  • JAM85JAM85 member
    edited January 2014
    Before DH there was a loooooong break and the occasional porn for me and lots of paranormal erotica ;) now I'm fine but still like my stories and he has the lower sex drive so he is definitely fine. When I'm out of town and for the 6 weeks post delivery I'm sure there will be some but it certainly isn't concerning. As long as it doesn't affect out relationship then no worries and it really isn't even an issue for us- I would say he gets more variety frm me than the Internet any time he wants. I will also say he is embarrassed about masturbation and one time I brought the subject up (of his) he shut down which was curious- then again I was the first woman he was ever actually open about sexuality with so perhaps not. (I am very up front, honest, and open) Now porn addiction is a serious thing and would be concerning especially if it is damaging a relationship.
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  • CMDR513CMDR513 member
    awc1986 said:

    CMDR513 said:

    Along the same subject, thoughts on Strip Clubs? I would rather him go there than watch porn.

    So you would rather he go to a club with an actual, real life woman sticking her ass and other bits of herself in his face to please him and get more money out of him, than some Internet people doing it in a land far, far away from where he is, who have no idea who's watching?

    Yeah, I don't get the logic in that tbh.
    DH only goes there with guys to drink. He wouldn't let the girls near him because he thinks they're skanks so I don't feel threatened.
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  • pistolpackinmommapistolpackinmomma member
    We've watched together and separate. He is gone 5-6 days a week. You bet your ass I watch porn!

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  • sws684sws684 member
    He doesn't watch it out of respect (not my idea). But we both like it and aren't opposed to watching it together although we usually don't.
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  • kat8805kat8805 member
    If there is insecurity, and jealousy in your relationship, that's a personal problem, not a porn problem. That's something you, and only you, can resolve. No man's, or woman's, love or attention will fix the holes you have in your own self image. Stop blaming the porn. It can't help it.
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  • honey740honey740 member
    Kimbus22 said:
    I watch it.  He watches it.  Together.  Separately. It's fun.  It's harmless.  It can help get things going when you're in a slump.

    I've heard of cases where it becomes a legit obsession but those are few and far between. 

    Ditto exactly
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  • Mamazon2014Mamazon2014 member
    edited January 2014
    Hubs and I both watch porn together and separately. I have a VERY high libido, DH, not so much, so there's times it comes in handy like when DH has a $20,000 truckload at work and is asleep by 8:30. As long as we are open about it, and it doesn't become an addiction or subtract from our time together, I have no problem with it.

    I also don't mind strip clubs. When DH and I were engaged, my coworkers (all female) invited me out to a strip club for a night out. One of the other girl's husbands was going so I called up DH and told him we were going out. It was a lot of fun but after DH said that it was a one time deal because he would rather be home with me and get the lap dance for free, though he did enjoy watching me get my lap dance ;)

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  • jenb_99jenb_99 member
    Nope, not into it, don't approve of it anywhere in my relationship. Books aren't a big deal -- the types of fiction DH and I read are full of sex scenes, so it's pretty much unavoidable there -- but no visuals. It would be a problem for either of us.


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  • RedInLoveRedInLove member
    edited January 2014
    We don't watch any videos or anything like that, we don't use it to or anything as far as our own sexy time goes. DH has and has watched plenty of it, I've seen my share, no big deal. I don't care if he looks at it, he doesn't obsess over it or lock himself in his office for hours if/when he does. Ever watched porn bloopers? They can be pretty funny! Fun to do after a few drinks.

    DH gets Playboy. He gets it for the articles AND for the pictures, and I don't mind at all. I sometimes look at it before he does. If we're both there when he opens it, we see who can find the bunny on the cover quicker.




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  • jenb_99jenb_99 member
    edited January 2014
    I've read many human interest and charity articles listing stats that show porn as a major (possibly the biggest) contributor to the human-trafficking industry. Even free porn, because you can never be completely sure who's really profiting from the ads on the sites.

    I don't know how much that matters to most people, but it doesn't hurt to be aware that it's not necessarily just harmless fun.


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  • ho11ydayho11yday member
    Don't really care. I notice DH uses more of it when I'm not putting out.

    But TBH, 70s porn is great.
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    I've watched some when hubby is asleep and I needed to "relieve some tension". I know he has watched it since I got pregnant because my sex drive hasn't been too great and he needed to also relieve some "tension" build up.

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  • CopperPoppyCopperPoppy member
    @hedgessm, you're welcome! ;)

    I think more people might be into that because it's fiction and the visuals are all in your own head.

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  • CMDR513CMDR513 member
    @awc1986- I know my husband, he's is not there getting off on these girls. He has only been to a strip club 3 times in the last 15 yrs that I have known him. The reason he has gone was for bachelor parties.
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  • julesf817julesf817 member
    I have absolutely no issue with my husband watching porn. He has a much higher sex drive than I do, so it keeps things balanced. I'm very secure in our marriage so random porn chicks just don't threaten me in any way. He's always up for the real deal, and the only time I think porn would bother me would be if that changed. He actually doesn't really like strip clubs, though we did go to one together once which was fun. The feature dancer did a handstand in my lap. Quite the athlete, that girl.

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  • awc1986awc1986 member
    CMDR513 said:
    @awc1986- I know my husband, he's is not there getting off on these girls. He has only been to a strip club 3 times in the last 15 yrs that I have known him. The reason he has gone was for bachelor parties.
    My husband also dislikes strip clubs because that sort of thing skeeves him out. Therefore, he has been to a grand total of zero in the 10 years i've known him.

    If it makes you feel better to believe that he sits in the corner, sticking his nose up in the air and being all noble then you believe that. However, I promise you that in a bachelor party environment with other men, do you really think he'd get away with the "they're skanks and it's disrespectful to women" stance? He'd never get invited out ever again. Men's pack instincts come out when they're out with the boys. Why would your husband be any different. 

    But of course he'll tell you that he hates it and wishes he didn't have to go because he has everything he needs at home and stripping is degrading to women and he has more respect than that yada yada.…   It's male psychology 101. 

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