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  • JNerdJNerd member
    Pintobean39 said:
    @Pintobean39 Been thinking about you lots. You and @ellyD14 are great to give OP some perspective.
    Praying that you get your sticky baby soon!!
    I got kinda good news with all my test. We have no genetic problems my FSH was 7.4 so I have eggs and all my hormones were where they should be and my HSG was good. I just have bad fucking luck. I have a feeling 2014 is the year I will finally get my sticky baby!!!!
    That is fan-frickin-tastic! Yay!!! I am so glad to hear that things are going well. You have to keep us posted. Promise?
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  • rebeccaodee03rebeccaodee03 member
    My friend had a girl who wanted a boy and I myself really want a boy. However she posted on FB the other day about how sad she was when she found out her baby was a girl. She now says "God gave me what I really needed." I'm going to keep this in mind when I find out the gender on Monday. I will get what I need. :)
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    Pintobean39 said:
    Pintobean39 said:
    @Pintobean39 Been thinking about you lots. You and @ellyD14 are great to give OP some perspective.
    Praying that you get your sticky baby soon!!
    I got kinda good news with all my test. We have no genetic problems my FSH was 7.4 so I have eggs and all my hormones were where they should be and my HSG was good. I just have bad fucking luck. I have a feeling 2014 is the year I will finally get my sticky baby!!!!
    That is fan-frickin-tastic! Yay!!! I am so glad to hear that things are going well. You have to keep us posted. Promise?
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    When I get my BFP I announcing it here :-) I promise!!!! Out of all my BMB y'all are my favorite.
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  • AnnaKaieAnnaKaie member
    JNerd said:
    Pintobean39 said:
    Pintobean39 said:
    @Pintobean39 Been thinking about you lots. You and @ellyD14 are great to give OP some perspective.
    Praying that you get your sticky baby soon!!
    I got kinda good news with all my test. We have no genetic problems my FSH was 7.4 so I have eggs and all my hormones were where they should be and my HSG was good. I just have bad fucking luck. I have a feeling 2014 is the year I will finally get my sticky baby!!!!
    That is fan-frickin-tastic! Yay!!! I am so glad to hear that things are going well. You have to keep us posted. Promise?
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    When I get my BFP I announcing it here :-) I promise!!!! Out of all my BMB y'all are my favorite.
    You'll always be a member! And you can stay with us the whole way through
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  • LaddiedahlLaddiedahl member
    Honestly, if I was hoping for a boy I would be little let down too but I don't think it's uncommon. I just think people are afraid to actually admit it. We are hoping for a girl and I have this gut feeling it's a girl. if I'm wrong ya i will be a tad sad but that doesn't mean I am not going to love my son any less.. I think you both need to sit down and talk about all the exciting and positive things that come with a girl. She can play sports while daddy cheers her on! He just needs time to warm up to the idea. He will be able to explore a entire new world with a daughter...and he will love it! He will be involved in so many ways... And It's not all you. He has an important roll... to show her love and how to be treated. By treating her like a princess and also treating you like a queen. He will be setting the bar for her future. That's on him :) you guys will enjoy your little girl and love her so much! Just remember she can do all the "guy" things too. Good luck and congratulations :)
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  • tlcallowaytlcalloway member
    edited January 2014
    Pintobean39 said:
    Was I paged??? I really can't read everything, I really just want to bitch slap the OP after reading that. Hey OP I found out the first of December that I lost my second girl in November. She was due is June just like your little girl that y'all are obviously are so disappointed that it's not a fucking boy. I'd trade place with you any day, be grateful that you have a healthy baby. I lost 2 girls last year that didn't have a chance of survival. Your boyfriend sounds like a total douche bag himself. Sounds like you are made for each other. @happy_yahoo_personaler I seriously wanted to give you a standing ovation for your comment. I can't like it enough. I'm now in the process of seeing an RE to hopefully have a healthy baby and it's expensive as hell. Just the first month of test and consultations we've already spent $1,000 and nothing to show for it yet. We were talking about it over this past week when we have a healthy baby he/she will be worth every penny but it may have to go to public school. Lol
    @Pintobean39 - its crazy how much it costs, isnt it...i haven't summed up all of our costs, but even with "our really good insurance" it was thousands...heck one set of lab tests for DH was 800 bucks (his insurance is different than mine so that might be a factor).  We went straight to IVF with PGH....  17weeks pregnant today on the first round.  If you need an independent shoulder who has been there done that...just PM me...

    edit - hit send too fast - Have my fingers crossed for you that you have success really soon and we see you back here asap
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  • JNerdJNerd member
    meladoriestar said:

    SNLT1012 said:

    @Pintobean39 I've been missing you! (And @EllyD14 and @meladoriestar) but I'm almost always mobile so I rarely get to bump stalk you ladies.

    So glad you've gotten some good news in spite of everything that has happened. Can't wait for your golden egg!!

    Aww I'm a mobile bad-lurker too! I'm super busy lately (hysteroscopy/surgery on Wednesday and moving out of state in 2 months) but I still love all you awesome ladies!
    @meladoriestar I didn't forget about you- I just couldn't remember your SN. Huge fail on my part.
    Really hope things go well with the surgery!
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  • betjso82betjso82 member
    Preface: I am 18 wks PGAL. Our first baby would've been due this past October. During the pregnancy my husband said how badly he wanted a boy and I remember how upset I would get because gender does not matter to me. Since the miscarriage, he has become unbiased and it really shows when ppl ask "what we want". He always is the first to say "happy/healthy". He has decided not to find out, which initially was a big battle for me. I have never wanted to know and for the last pregnancy he was not on the same page. Because he saw and experienced the physical-mental damage a miscarriage causes, for this baby, he is Team Green. Clearly what you and your BF should be most "worried" about is hearing the heartbeat each time you have a check-up, not pink girly-girl frillies. For him to say "this one's on you" is totally fucked because he is the one that should've thoroughly wrapped it up if having kids was not on his bucket list. He has the penis that not only controls sperm, but what kind come out! I am sorry you are not getting the support you deserve. Best of luck with your pregnancy and best wishes for a healthy baby girl.
    Same here. Pgal here too, our baby would have been 5 months old. We are so grateful each time we hear hb, I can feel baby now so that almost puts me in tears each time, I'm grateful for each test that comes back negative, I'm thankful for each and every moment. Gender is the least of my concerns bc nobody is guaranteed a baby, boy, girl, healthy, unhealthy. OP's post makes me sick.
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  • hubbs173hubbs173 member
    RedMar said:

    Preface: I am 18 wks PGAL. Our first baby would've been due this past October. During the pregnancy my husband said how badly he wanted a boy and I remember how upset I would get because gender does not matter to me.
    Since the miscarriage, he has become unbiased and it really shows when ppl ask "what we want". He always is the first to say "happy/healthy". He has decided not to find out, which initially was a big battle for me. I have never wanted to know and for the last pregnancy he was not on the same page. Because he saw and experienced the physical-mental damage a miscarriage causes, for this baby, he is Team Green.

    Clearly what you and your BF should be most "worried" about is hearing the heartbeat each time you have a check-up, not pink girly-girl frillies.
    For him to say "this one's on you" is totally fucked because he is the one that should've thoroughly wrapped it up if having kids was not on his bucket list. He has the penis that not only controls sperm, but what kind come out!
    I am sorry you are not getting the support you deserve. Best of luck with your pregnancy and best wishes for a healthy baby girl.


    I'm in the same boat as you. 18 weeks PGAL, first one was due this coming Valentines day. My hubby has the same response as yours, he just wants a healthy baby!! He will be excited either way when we find out next week!

    It disgusts me that OP would even post something like this! Experiencing a miscarriage was the worst thing my DH and I have ever had to deal with, both physically for myself but emotionally as well! Even with this pregnancy I had issues in the beginning so we are so happy that at this point in the pregnancy we have a healthy baby.

    OP should be ashamed of herself because there are couples out there who have struggled to get pregnant and or have miscarried! Both of you sound way too immature to have this baby and I feel bad for the baby girl!!! She should be happy that her baby is healthy! As for her bf, he needs to grow up or learn to keep it in his pants!! I agree with PP that he is a huge douche bag!!

    And as for the baby being a girl means nothing. I played sports and spent most of my youth riding horses and preferred cleaning stalls than my own room. I was also my dad's fishing buddy and still enjoy fishing to this day! Girls can do anything that boys can do!

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  • puttyeastputtyeast member
    Ugh I hate that I am so late to everything today. I don't have anything to add, but I will say that drive-bys with the demands for positive responses always make my bump reading a little more exciting...
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  • CherSomethingCherSomething member
    All I'm going to say is… I hope his feelings don't influence how you feel about your baby. 
    Please don't let his disappointment rub off on you. Your baby girl needs her mama's love and acceptance. 
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    EmbracingChange said:
    LizM05 said:
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    Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

    What is or is not between a child's legs means NOTHING, other than if you'll have to teach them to stand when they pee or not.  It does NOT dictate ANYTHING about what their personality will be like.

    Seriously, tell him to stop being such a whiny, self centered little bitch.
    I totally taught my son to pee sitting down.  I wasn't cleaning pee off the floor.  He learned to pee standing up when he was finally tall enough.
    Same here... Actually my DH was the one who really pushed for it cuz he was taught as a kid to sit to avoid mess.
    That reminds me of a couple of weeks ago. I went into the bathroom and the wall was all wet. DH and i had this exchange yelling from several rooms apart...
    Me: "anyone know why the wall is wet? Ryan!!!!"
     DH: "Is it across from the toilet?"
    Me: "YES! Why?" 
    DH: "Don't punish him. It wasn't his fault. I know what happened...it's happened to us all at one point, straining hard to poop and lose control of your water wiggler! I'll come clean it up."

    Boys are gross ;)
    Hilarious! I was finally catching up on this thread and I was laughing so hard DH had to know what I was reading...he thought it was pretty funny too!

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  • wtfisupwtfisup member
    meladoriestar said:

    Alright, I've avoided posting on this all day, but I decided to weigh in, even though you all won't like my opinion.

    I don't think there's anything wrong with an initial disappointment about the sex. Personally, I want a boy and DH wants a boy. I don't think it's wrong to have that preference and I definitely don't think it's a feminist issue to want a boy or a girl. I know DH would be scared to have a girl. Because he DOESN'T have any clue what to do with a girl. He's the best man I know, and I have no doubt that he would initially have a moment of disappointment if we were having a girl.

    But note I say a moment. And I'm speaking past tense. OP, I'm annoyed you haven't responded. Because I think it's important you have perspective. I want a boy, badly, but after spending close to 10k this year trying to have a baby, a girl would be amazing. Feel free to have your moment of disappointment. Then get over it. And be happy for what you have.

    Also, for my outlander loving fans: a quote from the second book:

    "'Before...it's all possibility. It might be a son, or a daughter. A plain child, or a bonny one. And then it's born, and all the things that might have been are gone, because now it is...and a daughter is born, and the son that she might have been is dead...and you weep for what you didn't know, that's gone for good, until you know the child you have, and then at last it's as though they could never have been any other than they are, and you feel naught but joy in them."

    There's also the issue of her BF saying that the baby was "all her"
    Bc it was a girl. That's a really nasty, dated idea - that a child will be raised primarily by the parent of the same sex.

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    c_a_mag@hotmail.com said:

    meladoriestar said:

    Alright, I've avoided posting on this all day, but I decided to weigh in, even though you all won't like my opinion.

    I don't think there's anything wrong with an initial disappointment about the sex. Personally, I want a boy and DH wants a boy. I don't think it's wrong to have that preference and I definitely don't think it's a feminist issue to want a boy or a girl. I know DH would be scared to have a girl. Because he DOESN'T have any clue what to do with a girl. He's the best man I know, and I have no doubt that he would initially have a moment of disappointment if we were having a girl.

    But note I say a moment. And I'm speaking past tense. OP, I'm annoyed you haven't responded. Because I think it's important you have perspective. I want a boy, badly, but after spending close to 10k this year trying to have a baby, a girl would be amazing. Feel free to have your moment of disappointment. Then get over it. And be happy for what you have.

    Also, for my outlander loving fans: a quote from the second book:

    "'Before...it's all possibility. It might be a son, or a daughter. A plain child, or a bonny one. And then it's born, and all the things that might have been are gone, because now it is...and a daughter is born, and the son that she might have been is dead...and you weep for what you didn't know, that's gone for good, until you know the child you have, and then at last it's as though they could never have been any other than they are, and you feel naught but joy in them."


    I feel like the issue here is that if you have a moment of dissapointment over the sex of your baby, you should not immediately jump on line and barf out your feelings. Think first. Reflect for a moment. Consider how it might be received by those people that 1) have experienced losses, 2) have spent an ass ton of $$ to get their sticky baby and 3) want a velociraptor and will never have one. Then sleep on it, think some more and then tell your DB BF to get with the program.

    I can also assure you that NOT everyone secretly wishes for one sex or the other as some PPs have said. I'm so GD happy to be pregnant, I'm not the least bit concerned about the sex of our babies. Neither is my SO.

    Edit: spelling
    I think lots of people also experience a reaction more like shock/panic. It's not all movie squeals. It took me a few days to be happy about the sex, and I had no preference. It's just a big piece of information that makes things quite real. It stirred up a lot of anxiety. But again - not disappointment.

    Now, I'm delighted about our daughter. Husband was from the moment we found out, though.

    It's worth taking time and space to process before publicly emoting.

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  • katekat8721katekat8721 member
    I think a good portion of people honestly have a leaning towards a particular sex. It doesn't take away from the fact that you're excited, grateful and love your little babies.

    I've seen other women have disappointment when their dream of pink bows was replaced by blue baseball caps. That's understandable, they had dreamed up their child in a certain way and now have to modify that dream. But her DF saying that it's all on OP because this isn't his deal anymore, ehhh, kinda douchey.

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  • rmjones15rmjones15 member
    wtfisup said:

    Laddiedahl said:

    . He has an important roll... to show her love and how to be treated. By treating her like a princess and also treating you like a queen. :)

    Or just treat her like a smart, strong person. I haven't seen any princess skills transfer to lifetime satisfaction or skills.
    Sweet lord do I agree. No princess (entitlement) treatment for any of my future daughters. NO SIR.
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  • Neuron79Neuron79 member
    That is an absolutely awful thing to say.
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