Just thought I'd give an update on my mom, who is fighting breast cancer. She had gotten the pathology results back from her lumpectomy (from someone who was not her doctor as her doctor was on vacation for a week) to see how the margins were, and she thought she was told one margin was bad so she thought she would have to go under the knife again to have more tissue shaved off. Well, that's what she thought she heard at least. She finally got to talk to her actual doctor yesterday, and it turns out that three margins are bad, so now a mastectomy and lymp node removal is pretty much the only option. I am still in freak-out mode
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Hang in there hun ...
When is the surgery? What's the treatment plan afterwards?
She thinks she will get in for surgery on Jan. 6th. The frustrating part is that when the bad news from the pathology results came back, her doctor was on vacation. They couldn't schedule anything until she came back. Finally today, my mom had a sit-down with the doctor so she could talk over everything face-to-face and have any misunderstandings cleared up and questions answered. I haven't heard back yet about that meeting yet. Her guess is a mastectomy and lymph-node removal. Previously, when the cancer was thought to be non-invasive, she was looking at a month of radiation, but now who knows what. Chemo could even be possible. So much is still in the air until I hear from her today.
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When is the surgery? What's the treatment plan afterwards?
She thinks she will get in for surgery on Jan. 6th. The frustrating part is that when the bad news from the pathology results came back, her doctor was on vacation. They couldn't schedule anything until she came back. Finally today, my mom had a sit-down with the doctor so she could talk over everything face-to-face and have any misunderstandings cleared up and questions answered. I haven't heard back yet about that meeting yet. Her guess is a mastectomy and lymph-node removal. Previously, when the cancer was thought to be non-invasive, she was looking at a month of radiation, but now who knows what. Chemo could even be possible. So much is still in the air until I hear from her today.
------------------------ Are you and your mom in the same town? Can you go to apts with her? 2 pairs of ears are always good.
Be there for your mom - be her "safe" place - she can say anything to you, share any fear, and you'll be there. My mom had a hard time admitting that she was scared because so much cancer pop culture wants you to be positive, yanno? Its OK to be scared!!!!
The mastectomies weren't the hard part with my mom - quick, good pain management, and relatively easy healing. Radiation wasnt too bad either because it is very focused. The hard part was chemo because its really a grind - not trying to scare you but I found it helped to be prepared. You have to DECIDE right now that you guys are tougher than this disease ... and you are. I promise.
I am so sorry you're going through this. I wish I had wise words to say. I just tried to spend as much time with Dad as possible, I went to as many appointments as I could, was as informed as I could, was there just to sit with him when he was getting chemo or treatments.I was the one to ask questions at the appointments that he was too
afraid to ask - side effects, expectancy, percentages, outlook, etc. Just be present as much as possible, that will mean the world to her.
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Re: Small mom update
When is the surgery? What's the treatment plan afterwards?
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Are you and your mom in the same town? Can you go to apts with her? 2 pairs of ears are always good.
Be there for your mom - be her "safe" place - she can say anything to you, share any fear, and you'll be there. My mom had a hard time admitting that she was scared because so much cancer pop culture wants you to be positive, yanno? Its OK to be scared!!!!
The mastectomies weren't the hard part with my mom - quick, good pain management, and relatively easy healing. Radiation wasnt too bad either because it is very focused. The hard part was chemo because its really a grind - not trying to scare you but I found it helped to be prepared. You have to DECIDE right now that you guys are tougher than this disease ... and you are. I promise.
I'm here any time.
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!