That is so shitty. I'm so sorry you're going through this. My GF cheated on me a few years back and I knew I didn't want to break up but needed some space so I stayed with my mom for about a week. If at all possible, I'd suggest finding a safe place to spend a couple nights so you can be in a positive loving environment and care for yourself and baby. Keep your head up, you are so strong to be going through this while pregnant! Sending my thoughts.
I don't have much to add aside from how sorry I am that you are going through this. Your wife made a terrible choice, and it is not your fault. I hope that you can work with a counselor to find some peace for you and your family no matter to what end. (((HUGS)))
As PPs have said, take time to process how you are feeling and definitely think about counseling, for yourself and together. And definitely have her get tested!
I am so so sorry for what you're going through! I don't have any firsthand advice, but to echo what others have said it's ok to feel how you feel about this! Let it out, express yourself and let yourself have the time you need to process it. Time for next steps (whatever they may be) will come, but right now focus on you. Do you have a good local support system? Even if you don't want to talk to others about it, I find going for lunch, a movie, shopping, activities that are ridiculously 'normal' can feel cleansing when something traumatic happens.
I'm sorry to hear this. Lots of thoughts coming your way.
FWIW- One of my best friends was 20w pregnant when her husband cheated on her. I was there to pick up the pieces and remember one of the really big things that helped her was going to see someone. She found it to be a great outlet.
Jesus. I am so, so sorry. I just can't imagine trying to sort through all that while taking care of your kids and yourself. I'll be thinking of you, and sending you good juju. You two have been together for quite awhile, right? I understand wanting to work it out...I hope you can both find the strength and understanding to do that! ❤️
I'm so sorry to hear what you are going though. If you can both agree to it, couples counseling is a wonderful tool. My husband and I had trust issues while I was pregnant with DS2 and a counselor helped us through them. So very sorry.
I just wanted to add to really work as hard as you can to focus on you right now. You will be a better mom to your other kids because of it, you will be a better wife later if you go that direction- but most importantly, an amazing but sometimes sucky thing about being pregnant is that we're never alone. We can't take a break from being pregnant- we have to keep ourselves as healthy as we can; mentally, physically, and emotionally. Take care of yourself
*TW* Losses Mentioned 9.6.12 - Crazy J entered the world 4.30.14 - Sweet Angel Micah John lost to T18 at 7 months pregnant 2.8.16 Miscarriage at 6 weeks 4.30.16 BFP *stick baby stick*
I hope the time apart gives her a little reflection on the reasons you got married in the first place. I hope the best for you whether it means you end up together or apart in the end. I hope you find your happiness.
Re: DW cheated (updated)
BFP 11/18/13. EDD 7/25/14. It's a BOY!
Surprise BFP 7/30/13. EDD 4/7/14. Natural MC 8/24/13
DD 1 10/2012
CP 9/2013
DD 2 6/2014
CP 3/2016
BFP 12/8/2016
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
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Everyone is welcome
FWIW- One of my best friends was 20w pregnant when her husband cheated on her. I was there to pick up the pieces and remember one of the really big things that helped her was going to see someone. She found it to be a great outlet.
Take care of yourself, I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.
9.6.12 - Crazy J entered the world
4.30.14 - Sweet Angel Micah John lost to T18 at 7 months pregnant
2.8.16 Miscarriage at 6 weeks
4.30.16 BFP *stick baby stick*