- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
July 2014 Moms
Smoking and drinking during pregnancy
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Smoking and drinking during pregnancy
My other half was addicted to weed and I'm speaking from experience here it took him years to finally come off the stuff.
No judgement on those who do. I understand light drinking has not proven to be harmful. My friend said it helped with her Braxton hicks and her dr also was ok with it.
I, myself, have respiratory issues because of medication that my mom HAD to be on while pregnant. And my dad smoked for the first 13 years of my life. The negative effects on me were enough to ensure I'd never do that to my own kids. (And I'm referring to the smoking. My mom could not go without her medication. I certainly don't fault her that)
The intent wasn't to judge. I expressed a feeling and thought that I can't get passed and that isn't science based logic. Owning up to that isn't the same as judging others.
Did you see the part where I said I've never smoked it and only would to help nausea if research was ever positive it didn't do anything? No need to jump down my back, just read the whole post please
Even with use of any of the above, I still don't see side effects sometimes.
Example: When I was pg w/DD, so was my friend at the time. She continued to smoke cigarettes and drank Big Slam Mountain Dews alllll the time ('member those?).
I couldn't even smell smoke without puking, didn't drink any caffeine at all.
Our kids were 5 days apart, she ended up with a 9 pounder. He was big enough to crack his collarbone coming out.
I ended up with preclampsia and a preemie born 4 weeks early and weighed 5lbs.
So, even though I did all the right things, I ended up with a preemie and her kid was fine.
Another example: My friend just had her 3rd last year. She smoked with all of her pregnancies, all of her kids had normal birth weights. Her youngest has constand ear infections and is getting tubed. But not her other kids. Who knows what it could be from.
Another example: Another friend of mine has 3 kids. Didn't smoke, all the kids are fine. Her last kid, she had 2 big cups of wine a few weeks before she was born. The kid is totally fine.
I don't have a case for or against, I'm just citing examples I've seen personally.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
I smoked pot, cigs, drank when I got PG with DD. I quit everything when I found out I was PG. I did have a few glasses of wine in 2nd and 3rd tri and plan on doing so this pregnancy as well. I love the taste of wine. I smoked occasionally before I got PG this time, but would never smoke during pregnancy. Plus the smell just makes me want to vomit. I also smoked pot occasionally, but unless I had very severe m/s I don't think I would consider smoking while PG. One or two hits to help nausea probably wouldn't hurt much but I couldn't imagine being "high" while PG. Or drunk for that matter.
I know someone who smoked pot during all 3 of her pregnancies, like every day. Her kids are rather slow...they don't have disabilities per se, but one of them in particular looks like she is perpetually lost. Not very smart either.
BFP #1 ended in MMC. Discovered Oct 2005 @10w5d, baby stopped growing around 6w. D&C.
BFP#2 Nov 2005. Baby's heart stopped @ 8w3d. D&C Jan 2006. Trisomy 18
BFP#3 Nov 2006. My "miracle baby" DD born 7/25/07
BFP #4 11/6/12. EDD 7/16/13~my birthday! No sac found @ 5w1d, betas not increasing. Natural m/c started 11/20/12.
BFP#5 11/9/13. EDD 7/21/14 Our beautiful rainbow born on his due date!!
R. Alati, et al, "Intrauterine Exposure to Alcohol and Tobacco Use and Childhood IQ: Findings from a Parental-Offspring Comparison Within the Avon Longitudinal Study of Parents and Children", Pediatric Research 64, no. 6 (Dec 2008): 659-66
A. Skogerbo et al., "The Effects of Low to Moderate Alcohol Consumption and Binge Drinking in Early Pregnancy on Executive Function in 5 Year Old Children," BJOG 119, no. 10 (Sep 2012): 1201-10
Let me know if you'd like a couple more... There are ones done on 6-7 year old behaviors after prenatal alcohol exposure, risk of preterm delivery with alcohol consumption during pregnancy, effects on overall pregnancy outcome, risk of fetal death, risk of first tri miscarriage, etc.
ETA: Your baby doesn't receive ALL the alcohol you drink - it's filtered through you, and the problem is then if you drink more/faster than you can filter it can be passed through and then the baby has to filter (if possible). As far as my understanding goes.
She felt ok with small amounts of alcohol, but the speed does matter. So slowly drinking a glass of wine is NBD, but 4-5 drinks in a row is certainly out. I had some champagne when a dear friend got engaged, and a few sips of DH's sangria on my birthday. I feel ok with that, and I am also ok if others are horrified. We do what we feel is best.
There are absolutely no positives or upsides to smoking while pregnant.
I ended up looking at reviews of that book a pp mentioned, which is just as controversial and finally found an opinion which I can relate to. I don't think this doctor is judging the issue either way:
https://mybetterdoctor.com/2013/08/28/evidence-free-pregnancy-advice/
You guys are just so friendly here. Bye, I think I will go find a forum where the discussions are mature.
I couldn't imagine smoking while PG after seeing all the nicotine & stuff come out of my walls as a child. My sister had to use a humdifier because she was sick and lets just say our pink & white walls were not pink & white anymore. The glass of water that my parent left out for her looked like coffee with all the stuff that dripped out of the walls and ceilings.
Just couldn't imagine that stuff going into the baby.
Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow may never come. There is only the miracle of this moment. Savour it. It is a gift.
-- Unknown
Prepping TC - 1/2012 - TTC 4/13 **Prepregnancy diabetic - Hypertension - PCOS - Hypothyroidism** BFP#1 - 11/27/13 -EDD -- 7/26/14 - Lost our little sprite on 1/1714BFP#2 - 6/13/14 -- EDD - 2/12/15 -- 10wk U/S -172 HBM & right on trackWell that's silly. She was clearly joking. Welcome to the internet, honey.
BFP 08/14/13 EDD 04/18/14 Natural MC 08/19/13
BFP 10/15/13 EDD 06/24/2014 Natural MC 10/23/13
Recurrent Miscarriage Panel done 11/06/13. Results= All normal
BFP 12/2/13 EDD July 30, 2014
Beta 12/3/13: 19,261!
U/S 12/13/13 heart rate 143 bpm!
My Blog
Well that's silly. She was clearly joking. Welcome to the internet, honey.
Ali, if the woman wants to GBCB, let her GBCB!!!
I need a good stock of people to laugh at. Or bully, if you will.
As for smoking..birth weight isn't the only bad effect. In the What to Expect book it equates smoking cigs to putting baby in a smoke filled room without ventilation. The quality of oxygen baby receives from a smoking mother is compromised. Nicotine also crosses the placenta and can cause withdrawal in a newborn.
Personally like it or not people have choices. I really try not to judge but with everything they do know it is hard not to wonder about someone who knowingly does these things. Remember the baby has no choice. I hope this doesn't peeve anyone.